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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Do you hoard or share YLF? https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 14:13:38 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Eirlys on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1189469 Sun, 09 Mar 2014 13:03:43 +0000 Eirlys 1189469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am a hoarder for the same reason as Toronto girl. Here I can say what I "feel", I believe, and I know that people here will be honest when I ask for their opinion. If friends and family were involved I would be far more reticent. It has taken me YEARS to have the faintest idea of fashion/style but I still like to have a seal of approval and here I know I can get a "Yea" or a "Nay". One800mom on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188760 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 17:17:25 +0000 One800mom 1188760@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have not shared YLF yet, but I will if I know someone who seems open or interested. I have learned so much from all the collective wisdom here! SarahTheWhite on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188747 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 17:00:47 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1188747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ How funny that I missed this thread! It is so interesting how we all feel about it. This really is a personal place for us. My husband is the one who knows the most about it and he likes that I have a place to share a common interest. He also takes most of my photos. I feel a little embarrassed about asking him so much and sort of feel the need to defend it, but he doesn't mind (unless he is in a hurry). And of course, when I posted last night's what WE wore, he very quickly and easily struck a pose. I have told a couple of people, like my boss, about the forum in general terms and they seem happy for me, but I also know they wouldn't really be into it for themselves. As far as most close friends and family, I really do have the feeling that I don't want my worlds to collide. I just realized that it isn't because I show or say anything here that I wouldn't want them to see or know, but it is because I selfishly really don't want to share all of you with them. This is just MY place. I did encourage just one friend to join because I want this for her as much as I want it for me. We share a love for fashion, and have completely different preferences so we have sort of "sharpened" one another. She is also very limited in her ability to connect personally with the outside world due to health issues. So I am still working on getting her in here! karymk on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188726 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 16:34:03 +0000 karymk 1188726@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My friends laugh at me when I mention my "style forum".  They aren't mean, they just are into other things. My only IRL fashion friend I met on the blogs; Deja Pseu from Une Femme D'Un Certain Age.  We meet up and talk incessantly about our passion and we have become really good gfs. YLF, my secret world, my fashion friends, keep out. :) I love you guys, and have Angie to thank! Sveta on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188343 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 03:46:03 +0000 Sveta 1188343@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It is so interesting that most of us are YLF hoarders (myself included). My DH knows of course as he even met some YLFers with me and my sons roll their eyes when I take pictures but I keep it secret even from my mom. I guess it involves so much effort to explain why YLF is such an obsession that I don't  even have energy to try. I guess I had enough of that  when I had to explain to a female officer on the US border crossing what is YLF and why I am driving 7 hours to meet women I have never seen IRL so they get me through...never again!!! Mia on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188323 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 03:03:25 +0000 Mia 1188323@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ When I first found YLF I mentioned it to some friends but mainly got blank looks.  My DS is the most in the know as he took the only photo I've posted of myself  (really just my feet).   He has been part of a similar forum for Lego enthusiasts for years and he "gets it".   So I guess I'm on the hoard side.   Anonymous on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188318 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 02:55:00 +0000 Anonymous 1188318@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I hide my involvement, out of an insecurity, I think. I am not that fashionable, I do enjoy all the pictures and advice but ithnk if I told family/friends I was a member, they would wonder why I don't dress hip, cool, whatever the descriptor is. I do work for a big company in a major city, (big bank, national office, 2000+ employees, capital of Ontario ) and sometimes when I see someone ultra fashionable, I wonder if they are a member here, My husband knew of my meet up with the Toronto contingent several years ago, he was out of town and worried. My few WIWs have been hidden from him. adorkable on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1188281 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 01:41:14 +0000 adorkable 1188281@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I love this thread! I'm another hoarder. DP knows about y'all - he takes my pictures and thinks it's cute that I indulge, and apparently he sometimes looks through the forum to see what I'm saying. Ma Adorkable, who hands me down all the beautiful things, is very into fashion but not so into computers. Most of my closer friends aren't particularly into it, although a few are some very quirky fashionistas. I do like being able to have a conversation with folks who I know are interested, and while I show my face I don't use my real name. I'm generally pretty careful not to say anything too, too embarrassing though! Carla on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1187024 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 00:27:00 +0000 Carla 1187024@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hoarder! In the first place, I'm here because I don't have any pals who are really interested in fashion discussions or some of the related and meatier topics we discuss (everything from fast fashion sweat shops to what message we send with our clothes, etc.). DH knows, as do sons x 2, and DS #1 is the better photographer -- he makes me laugh, and those photos always look so much better! DH is most supportive, and suggests I find a way to attend a YLF meet-up in the future! Nothing too controversial about discussing fashion and posting WIW that would get me into any trouble at work, or with the family (or the gov't LOL) so I'll keep doing that! Peri on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1187012 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 00:04:33 +0000 Peri 1187012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Another hoarder. For one, the whole reason I joined was that I had no one to talk fashion with or to help me with my style problems. So I'm not so much keeping it from people, it's just that I don't have anyone who would be that interested. But another significant reason is that I don't want the worlds colliding thing. I am still conflicted about posting photos, although I do sometimes. So I'm worried about my privacy even though that ship has sailed. Odd, I know! April on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1187010 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 00:01:00 +0000 April 1187010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So funny to see everyone's husbands' awareness of YLF.  My husband and son love my involvement too.  DH feels that he has his own YLF persona (as "SO", from before we got married) and will always ask, when he sees me in an outfit he likes, "Did you post that?" and then, "What did Angie say?" During my hiatus from the forum, no one was more disappointed than my son.  He's the one who insisted on taking a picture for me to post the day we got married.   So yes, my men are well aware of YLF and what goes on here.  But not my girlfriends.  Sounds like that's not unusual.   JamC on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1187000 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 23:51:07 +0000 JamC 1187000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I will join the long list of hoarders.  And second so many comments above.  I am quiet, like my privacy, don't like to mix my work and home life, don't know anyone interested in fashion... And Mr. JamC also thinks this is a great place for me to learn and talk about fashion.  He has been encouraging me to participate more for a long time but I just wasn't ready.  Over the last couple of weeks I have commented more, still not ready to start a conversation, ask a specific question, or post pictures!  It seems so out of character for me.  He also listens to my stories about YLF and tells me to ask Angie or others on the forum for advice! I want to add this is my favorite place on the internet.  Everyone is so genuinely nice and interested; I can't wait to meet Fabbers and Angie in person. Glory on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186907 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 22:23:50 +0000 Glory 1186907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Joining Team Hoard as well. I think I am a very private person by nature, and also quite shy so this works for me. And, like the others not many of my peeps are into fashion that I know of. Anonymous on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186900 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 22:15:59 +0000 Anonymous 1186900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I guess I'm on team Hoarder too. I shared with a few friends and family members in the beginning, but no one seemed very interested. Now I enjoy YLF all to myself (unless there are some lurkers who know me IRL). Yep. Online forum participation is my idea of risky behavior. Woo-hoo! Kristin SF on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186888 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 22:01:15 +0000 Kristin SF 1186888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rachy: "I'll make them all sit in the same room together and eat pizza - but they simply hate each other." That made me laugh, lolz! Hoarder over here, simply because - like so many have said - my friends don't share this same interest. Great question!!! rachylou on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186872 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 21:52:16 +0000 rachylou 1186872@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Well, the truth of the matter is I can't put together a proper dinner party either. I'm not an organizer of disparate friends. My best friends, sure, I'll make them all sit in the same room together and eat pizza - but they simply hate each other. It's an interesting thing for me to think about. I'm a community person. I introduce myself. I chat with the neighbors. I'll help clean up the corner park. But I just don't bring people together. I can, I have, but I've never caught the bug. deb on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186865 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 21:46:06 +0000 deb 1186865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have shared the site with others. I feel if they are interested they will participate. So far, nobody has. gryffin on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186845 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 21:34:33 +0000 gryffin 1186845@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Another hoarder here - same reasons as above.  I have absolutely no friends who are interested in fashion....food, healthy living, home improvements, you name it but no fashion.  Also privacy issues.  I write nothing I would not be proud to read out loud publicly but I like my work life separate from my private life.  I also am one who does not use social media - same reasons.   YFL is my private pleasure!! Von on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186789 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 20:36:01 +0000 Von 1186789@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I hoard, but mainly because people think I'm too *internet friendly* as it is.  I have many friends that I made years ago online when I was a new mom -- they are the people I talk to and interact most with on Facebook, and I can't tell you how many looks I get when I say "oh yeah...known her for 8+ years, never met her, but we talk frequently!".  Fashion advice from *internet strangers* is probably going over like a lead balloon. So I don't share, because most people I know aren't fashion lovers. I do have one very fashion savvy friend who would do SO well here.  She's my real life fashion buddy, and I hope I can drag her to the YLF side.  Everyone else, not so much!  LACeleste on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186784 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 20:27:45 +0000 LACeleste 1186784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi, I only share with my family and closest friend.   My peers in West LA have a very homogeneous look/uniform so It is so wonderful to see a variety of styles. Emily on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186780 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 20:21:51 +0000 Emily 1186780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hoard, I guess, but mostly because I doubt my IRL friends would be interested. Elizabeth P on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186778 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 20:20:33 +0000 Elizabeth P 1186778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm often sending blog posts to a few friends that I think might be interested, but I kinda hoard the forum.  Those particular friends aren't the "type" to get involved in online communities anyway.  I don't comment on the blog posts because they are so public.  Honestly, I feel a bit vain about it all, I rarely admit that I take my photo daily so I can see how my outfit looks.  Ingunn on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186752 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 19:49:43 +0000 Ingunn 1186752@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have to admit that I keep YLF to myself. I don't try to hide in here - which would be foolish since I post pictures of myself - but I don't talk about you to family and friends. I guess I don't feel like discussing my motifs for sharing on YLF with others. If they find me, I'm happy to confess ;), but in general I don't need to hear their opinions on this, so I just don't talk about it. Sharing pictures with you feel quite personal, in fact. For all I know, someone I know have seen me in here, but none has said anything so far.  Helena on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf/page/2#post-1186738 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 19:26:16 +0000 Helena 1186738@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hoarder - I can share my neuroses more freely that way. Although I did share with my sister, but she already knows about all my neuroses! Suz on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf#post-1186733 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 19:25:01 +0000 Suz 1186733@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Viva, Mr. Suz's response is much like your husband's. At first, he was more than a bit skeptical. ("You're posting pictures of yourself on the internet to strangers?") And he rolled his eyes when I asked him to take the occasional photo.  And then, after a month or two, something clicked, and he "got it." He could see it made me happy to participate. He saw me starting to look so much better. Whenever I bought something that I wasn't sure about, he'd ask me: "What did Angie say? What does the forum think?" He started listening intently when I'd share bits of news about certain forum members' lives. Now he is a complete supporter. And when we went to NYC last summer, he didn't even bat an eye when I said I wanted to spend some time with some YLF friends while there!!  When it comes to others, I am a highly selective sharer. In other words, I share with people who I think might actually be interested in YLF, either because they like fashion themselves, or because they are interested in internet communities. Otherwise, I don't mention it. Since only a couple of my real life friends are interested in fashion, I've really only told those friends.  MsMary on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf#post-1186690 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:57:12 +0000 MsMary 1186690@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Yes, Mr. K knew about YLF.  He called you all my "dress up friends!"  (*waving at Mr. K if he's still stalking me*) viva on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf#post-1186649 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:26:45 +0000 viva 1186649@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think it's very interesting that for many of us (who are married) -- and I include myself here -- DH is the one person who knows most about YLF. I never thought DH (who is not by nature a stylish man, although I do my best with him) would be at all interested in my online fashion life, but it turns out he loves that my involvement in YLF has grown. (Maybe because I have asked him less for feedback about clothing???) I share with him some of what happens here -- interesting and funny posts, for example, your thoughts about an outfit of mine, the sad news of Jen's daughter -- and he is connected to it and understands that YLF has become an important aspect of my daily life. He is happy to take pictures on the rare occasion I ask. After 25 years, so interesting that YLF has helped encourage my husband to appreciate my interest in fashion! And I think he envies the living community that it offers us all. Marley on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf#post-1186610 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:00:15 +0000 Marley 1186610@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I share with a select few people in my life. I am absolutely positive that I would not share with my boss or a coworker!  That just feels a little icky to me!  I have several friends who are interested in fashion, and my 2 sisters who I know would love this place - but none of them have done anything more than lurk up to this point.  My DH knows that I have a group of women that I've met through YLF that I meet up with and or swap clothes with (he sees the packages that arrive in the mail) - but to be honest with you, he thinks that YLF is a support group for SYC (shop your closet!)  - and I've just let him think that! Hahaha!  Oh dear - I know that's not a good thing - but, I also know that otherwise he would be in a panic all of the time about what I was going to buy next and how much money I was going to spend - so, I figure its for his own good, that I haven't set him straight about the whole non-SYC aspect of YLF!  How's that for rationalization?  :-} Sara L. on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf#post-1186607 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 17:59:44 +0000 Sara L. 1186607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I hoard.  The only person who is interested in fashion is my sister.  We trade outfit pics every morning.  She knows I'm a part of the forum and I occasionally send her links to Angie's articles.  She writes a food blog (crumblycookie.net if anyone is interested) and is already active on several cooking forums so doesn't have time for another forum. ETA - DH knows I'm active on the forum.  He doesn't find it weird though.  He's active on a couple jeeping forums so understands the need to connect with like-minded people. Gaylene on "Do you hoard or share YLF?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-hoard-or-share-ylf#post-1186592 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 17:48:29 +0000 Gaylene 1186592@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I've always put divisions in my life to keep my private life separate from my professional one. Like MaryK and the rest, I also try not to put anything online that I wouldn't feel comfortable telling the world at large. I don't post pictures and go so far as to use different e-mail addresses with different names when I am online using different social media. I'd prefer to maintain as much privacy as I can in this digital world so I try not to be too open about my everyday life--although my opinions are another matter entirely! ;) My husband knows about YLF and actively encourages my participation; he gets a kick out of hearing all that goes on here in addition to fashion. I've also shown the site to my sister, but, as she says, it's just not her thing. That's probably why I enjoy my time here so much. Most of my friends and colleagues would probably never think of looking for me on a fashion forum.