https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 07:12:26 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1097940 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 00:11:51 +0000 AviaMariah 1097940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So many times solicitors use our desire to be polite to their advantage. &nbsp;Since I feel that it is very rude to intrude upon my precious, personal time at home with my family, I do not feel bad about being rude to get rid of them. &nbsp;Many times when I have answered the door I let my overly friendly, annoying lab right out and they are so busy trying to get her to stop jumping on them/licking them that they are much less likely to want to stick around. &nbsp;But to answer your questions, it's your house. &nbsp;If you don't want to answer the door that's your prerogative. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1091225 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 01:58:19 +0000 Karie 1091225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The only one I answer the door for is the UPS person. I don't answer the door for anyone else, and I don't hide either. Sometimes if I'm in a really bratty mood,&nbsp;I will wave to them through the big picture window and then walk away.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1090067 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 10:04:31 +0000 RunswithDolphins 1090067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love it when my daughter's giant German Shepherd is visiting.&nbsp; He's so protective of the perimeters he lunges at the door and barks like a crazy dog when the bell rings.&nbsp; You'd think there was a pack of wild beasts in the house.</p> <p>When he's not here I rely on our intercom to screen out everyone except postal driver, ups, fedex, or anyone else delivering goodies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1090065 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:58:40 +0000 Hil 1090065@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Can I tell you a story from the other side of the door?</p> <p>I grew up in a family that one of those religions that knock on people's door. I left the religion as soon as I was old enough to do so. The one thing I hated more than anything was the preaching. So one day, I was out with my dad and we knocked at a door where it could be clearly heard that a couple were having sex. I was old enough to know what was happening and if the ground could have swallowed me whole, I would have been happier right at that moment. The people sort of shouted from inside that they were busy and my father said he would come back later. And he insisted we did. Fortunately they didn't answer the second time round. It was a defining moment for me and I started refusing to go out not long after that. </p> <p>Spare a thought for the kids who are dragged along with their well meaning but annoying parents! </p> <p>Anyways - I now live in a house with high walls and an intercom that doesn't work and I keep it that way for a reason. I only answer the door if I am expecting someone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1089485 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 21:52:53 +0000 Anonymous 1089485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We received an email from our HOA this past week about a peeping Tom peering through basement windows in the subdivision right next to ours. We had to remind our DDs to keep the doors locked, etc. No place is ever 100% safe. Thank God we have an alarm system. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1087142 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 14:33:33 +0000 Thistle 1087142@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nope, I don't answer the door unless I am expecting someone.</p> <p>It is for safety as well as not being annoyed. Especially now that we have a little one. Yes, we live in a good neighborhood, but who knows? And I didn't always live in a good neighborhood, so some habits just stick.</p> <p>I don't care if they see me. They have no rights to my time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1086998 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 06:50:29 +0000 jennifer 1086998@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wouldn't feel guilty - to put it in classic "Downton Abbey " terms you are not "At Home for callers " . Some organizational books like the" Sidetracked Home Executives" recomend having certain days that are for haveing errands/friends over/out to lunch etc. so that the things that need to get done don't just get thrown to the winds of good intention.(Hilarious book by the way). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1086607 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 22:28:15 +0000 Mander 1086607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For some reason our neighborhood seems to be a magnet for people selling cable TV subscriptions, garden paving slabs, all kinds of home improvement work, and insulation.&nbsp; And, of course, a hundred different charities soliciting donations, it seems.&nbsp; I always get suckered into answering the door but I can usually get them to go away pretty quickly.&nbsp; Once in a while I have a nice chat (usually with the university students who are working for charities), because my accent makes them curious about why I am here, but mostly they are just annoying.</p> <p>The TV people can never understand why I'm not interested in a super fabulous all-you-can-eat reality TV and sports package, though.&nbsp; I must be a freak! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1086113 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:04:08 +0000 Isabel 1086113@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, I didn't realize that there was still so much door to door stuff. &nbsp;I only get the religious people every once in a while. &nbsp;And no, I don't always answer the door. &nbsp;On a couple of occasions, I have had the missionaries in for tea, but I had nothing to do and they were wonderful company. &nbsp; But generally, I don't have the time or the patience.</p> <p>It is one of those things that if you give them a little time, they are trained to keep pulling a little more and more and then it is one hour later.</p> <p>Don't feel bad.&nbsp;<br /><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1085902 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 05:20:20 +0000 MsMary 1085902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not only don't I always answer the door, I'm not letting the cops in without a warrant, either!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1085625 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 00:32:56 +0000 karymk 1085625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I never answer my door unless I am expecting a fabulous Nordstrom's package from the UPS man.&nbsp;</p> <p>I screen all phone calls, most of which are annoying marketers.&nbsp;</p> <p>It's my world, I control who's in it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1085432 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 21:11:13 +0000 Diana 1085432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rachy's story reminded me of my ex-boyfriend's dad, who once got the religious pamphlet people to mow his lawn for him.&nbsp; Basically, they came to the door, wanted him to read their pamphlet, and he said, "well, I really have to mow my lawn before my wife gets home, so if you mow the lawn I'll read the pamphlet."&nbsp; So he sat on the porch swing with the pamphlet and his drink, while they mowed his lawn. And afterwards, they had a discussion about whatever religious beliefs they were trying to sell him on, in which he basically politely told them they were crazy.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1085337 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 20:09:35 +0000 DonnaF 1085337@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We have a window to peek out, but generally I hide unless I know it's my UPS guy.&nbsp; Next month, however, I WILL go to the door or to the adjacent breakfast nook in order to be seen, cell phone in hand, and will offer or pretend to take a photo of the person.&nbsp; Why?&nbsp; A few years ago during the Christmas season, a guy rang our bell a few times.&nbsp; DH was napping since he works at night, DD was home in bed sick, and I was at work.&nbsp; Figuring nobody was at home, the guy broke down our door.&nbsp; DH heard the door frame cracking and rushed out, chasing the guy out and down the stairs until he jumped into a waiting car.&nbsp; If the would be burglar were smarter, he would have gone around to our other doors which are much lighter and even I or you could break down without much effort since they are *vintage*.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1085275 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 19:41:38 +0000 Anonymous 1085275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I must be a scrooge. Now that my DDs are too old to trick-or-treat, I no longer pass out candy. For one thing, my kids aren't out there trick-or-treating anymore. Also, our HOA has this ridiculous thing about trick-or-treating on a weekend so the kids don't have to trick-or-treat on a school night. The problem with that is we still get a lot of trick-or-treaters on Halloween, which means passing out candy twice. Lastly, there are the double dippers who don't think I'm smart enough to notice they've been to my house more than once. They wear memorable costumes and don't even bother to change before coming around for seconds. So, our family decided to quit giving out candy. We always leave our light off and post a sign on the front door so people know. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door/page/2#post-1085242 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 19:24:32 +0000 Anonymous 1085242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No I don't. We actually have a small sign on our window which says we do not buy from salesmen or answer market research, or buy from hawkers or tradesmen. It was issued by our local police and is endorsed by them. We also belong to a neighbourhood watch group and get regular e-mails on any break-ins etc that may have happened locally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1085240 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 19:22:31 +0000 Glory 1085240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I sure do not. I work from home and am on the phone LOTS. So my dog loves company and loves that darn doorbell, any sort of knocking. Her response...barking! It was a huge problem for me on the job.<br />Eventually I resorted to putting up a sign. I tried to cover all the bases in my note: requests, solicitations for money, selling items etc. It has helped a ton.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1085215 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 19:07:21 +0000 Beth Ann 1085215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On Halloween I do, because I think it's rude to not buy candy and hide!&nbsp; The rest of the time, I think safety and my privacy is first.&nbsp; I dislike children being sent out to raise money and sell,&nbsp; btw, and have never let my kids ring doorbells.&nbsp; As a Pastor's wife I was hit up by everyone --- all the time.&nbsp; </p> <p>I believe in evangelism, and think that giving people an opportunity to talk about big questions is valuable, but I think people need to feel invited to choose to do so, when they're interested and ready to talk, buy, whatever.&nbsp; In all of DH's years of ministry, we never went door to door.&nbsp; It's not particularly safe for the person on the doorstep, either, and there are many ways to connect and invite.&nbsp; On Halloween, some church members set out a table in the church yard with candy, along with coffee and cider for adults.&nbsp; It's a way of letting them know who we are, and to give them something in the process.</p> <p>Feel free to not answer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1085194 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 18:52:40 +0000 rachylou 1085194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No fricking way. Get off my porch! Hehe.</p> <p>But I do like to answer the door to the proselytizers who ask, "Do you wonder why we die?" Because I like to see the look on their faces when I tell them "No."</p> <p>That's hecka funny. Not in the script. Hehe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1085164 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 18:26:45 +0000 RoseandJoan 1085164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In the UK there is a sign which you can put up on your door <a href="http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/phones/no-more-junk" rel="nofollow">http://www.moneysavingexpert.c.....-more-junk</a><br />I think it makes a point.</p> <p>My four year old is very good at fielding errant telephone calls, she says 'hello, who's calling..I don't know you...goodbye'. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1085057 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 17:10:44 +0000 Kim 1085057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They can see me and I simply walk away.&nbsp; I have a big sign saying 'NO SOLICITING OF ANY KIND UNLESS YOU ARE UNDER 12 YEARS OLD" (don't wanna scare away the Girl Scouts, kids with candy etc.) but they knock and try to sell me (religion, water heaters, paving, etc.)&nbsp; I'm done answering the door for people who won't respect my wishes on my own property.</p> <p>If you can't read do you really think I want to buy your (religion, water heater, paving, etc.)??&nbsp; LOL</p> <p>I do make sure they see me though.&nbsp; They can think I'm rude but it's my house, my rules. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084937 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:47:02 +0000 Laurinda 1084937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nope. I screen my phone calls too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084881 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:05:46 +0000 Emily 1084881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They don't ring that often so I pretty much&nbsp;always answer. &nbsp;About half the time, if it is a solicitor,&nbsp;they ask if my parents are home. &nbsp;At first I was offended. &nbsp;Then I wised up and started very politely answering&nbsp;"No, my parents are not here". &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084869 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:01:16 +0000 texstyle 1084869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I learned living in larger cities, never to answer the door unless I know who it is and invited the visit. I don't care if the person sees me or not - I will just shake my head no at the window and walk away. I don't mind being "rude" if that's what some people think, my life is too valuable to risk to some stranger. Actually in the last city we lived in, I printed a small note and taped it so they could see it on the front door that said "No Soliciting, Do Not Knock, We Will Not Answer." It had gotten that bad where I didn't want people knocking every day&nbsp;either. Good thing we didn't have a doorbell.</p> <p>Personally, I think in today's age of e-mail and social media, there is little need for a teen to go door to door selling anything, and in fact, it's also potentially dangerous to them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084817 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:32:58 +0000 Janet 1084817@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nope. I am not proud to admit it, but I've actually hidden in my office or bedroom rather than answer the door when it's someone I don't know or was not expecting (our house has a lot of windows, so it's easy to see in). I let the dogs bark. We live in a neighborhood that is not frequently targeted for soliciting, and our house is down a long driveway, so that seems to deter most salespeople, but we still get callers that I'd just as soon avoid. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084756 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 13:27:24 +0000 Anonymous 1084756@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No, I don't always answer my door. We once had a "visit" from someone claiming to be conducting a survey for President Obama. After telling her that we don't participate in surveys and don't accept solicitations, I asked her not to come back. Well, she came back. When she did, I reminded her not to come back. She came back a few days later. At that time, I told her if she didn't get off my property, I was going to call the police. Meanwhile, I warned all my DDs not to answer the door. Guess what? She came back again! And when she did, my DD called the police. And I live in a relatively safe area. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084744 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 13:15:10 +0000 Aquamarine 1084744@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There have been break-ins in surrounding towns. The modus operandi is that the burglar knocks on the front door and if no one answers, his accomplice goes to the back of the house and breaks in. Several times homeowners and even children home alone were in the position of confronting a would-be crook. No one has gotten hurt, but area police have advised people to at least make known someone was home but too busy to answer the door. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084660 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 10:00:21 +0000 Deborah 1084660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Depends on the time of day:). If someone rings the bell at night and we are not expecting anyone, if I'm home alone I will ignore it, other times I might speak to the person thru the door to ascertain if I know them. I never feel compelled to open the door:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084626 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 07:29:56 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1084626@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel obligated to open the door because it might be our landlord or a neighbor with some urgent issue. We don't have a peephole, and the sidelight is frosted. Most of the time it's salespeople or proselytizers, unfortunately. We've got a "no soliciting" sign but its pretty much ignored. I've gotten good at saying 'no thank you' quickly and closing the door, much like I used to do with telephone salespeople. I'm not rude but neither am I interested in getting into a conversation with them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084615 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 07:03:52 +0000 MsMaven 1084615@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>After our burglary we had a new doorbell installed. &nbsp;It has a camera and a microphone. &nbsp;The camera takes a photo when someone rings the bell--so I can answer without opening the door. &nbsp;(Not when people only knock unless I push a button.) &nbsp;This has cut way down on the number of solicitors who come our way.</p> <p>Lately we have been getting endless solar salespeople. &nbsp;I feel no obligation to answer the door for anyone unless I want to. &nbsp;Unless someone calls ahead, these visitors usually waste my time and interrupt my work. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-always-answer-the-door#post-1084526 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 04:13:29 +0000 lyn* 1084526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nope, I let them knock all the want. My door, my choice. </p>