https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 07:50:32 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975487 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 14:09:47 +0000 Sara L. 975487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't do many K/R posts because I can usually tell right away whether something fits or not.&nbsp; Sometimes I just can't tell though and want another opinion that's more informed than DH.&nbsp; I also like to get second opinions on a silhouette or new styles that I'm not very familiar with yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975456 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:53:02 +0000 kellygirl 975456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I generally trust my instincts except when trying something new. I have a hard time adjusting my eye to new trends on me. That's why I love the K/R--it helps me see what more fashion forward people think! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975448 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:47:17 +0000 Thistle 975448@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really don't trust mine . . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975440 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:37:27 +0000 ManidipaM 975440@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Queueing behind Rachy.</p> <p>Also, while I usually have a good idea wht I want, I think I lack objectivity about how well I'm achieving it. Maybe it is more unflattering than I think. Maybe there is something off that I don't notice in person. This is worsened by not having a full-length mirror.</p> <p>A LOT of the time I just don't know if something is current or oh-so-over.</p> <p>Also fear that most of the time wht I think looks just great the world finds frumpy or too out-there. Wait, did Rachy just cover tht under nuts or not.</p> <p>(OKay, excuse bonkers spellings. This qwerty pad requires more practice!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975434 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:24:58 +0000 donnat 975434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have not yet posted a photo. It is because I am still trying to get it right. I am confident with my own style, but ylf gives me a guage. I am in my 50's, and never thought I could wear some of the things I do, distressed jeans, and converse, I thought I was too old until I seen some of the ladies here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975413 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:55:34 +0000 froggiebecky 975413@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this speaks to why I joined the forum (Hi, I'm new here!). I haven't gotten around to posting outfit pictures yet, but I'm looking forward to it--I want the feedback. &nbsp;Like others have said, I think I have a pretty good sense of flattery and proportion. My problem is that I have trouble letting go and&nbsp;having some fun with my clothes. I'm a sewer (my dream is to one day have a completely hand-made wardrobe), so I'm hyper-critical of the construction quality and fit. I also think I suffered one too many teenage dressing room traumas. I was overweight as a teen, and remember many purchases that were made because I needed something, anything, and the garment fit. I had "dressing too old for your age" down to an art form.</p> <p>All that being said, I do have a picture of my stylish self in my head, and I know that my clothes now don't reflect the mental picture. And I'm single, 31, with a modest disposable income&nbsp;and regular access to shopping in two stylish cities (Sydney and London)--I have no excuses. I need the feedback so I can get out of my own way and stop letting the image of the perfect garment&nbsp;in my head become the enemy of the fabulous garment on the rack.&nbsp; </p> <p></p> <p>(Edited for poor grammar)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975377 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:09:44 +0000 Karie 975377@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like to post K/R's, as I think it's always helpful to have a second set (hopefully more!) of eyes look at an item of clothing. I used to purchase things because they were on sale and fit nicely, now I am trying to refine my style and be choosy. With my most recent K/R:<br />&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kut-catherine-vs-loft-modern-crop-kr">KUT Catherine Vs. Loft Modern Crop: K/R ??</a>&nbsp;<br />I knew I liked the KUT's better, but wasn't so sure about the fit after I looked at&nbsp;the picture. My judgement is also clouded by the fact that&nbsp;BF jeans are my new style favorite, and by the fact that these are a very close replica of my favorite&nbsp;white jeans that they are replacing. As for the banded tops, my best friend Wendy thought they looked great, but I wasn't so sure about the boxy fit - it's not something I'm used to wearing.</p> <p>I also enjoy the back-and-forth discussions and honest opinions, regardless if someone shares the same style with me or not.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975376 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:08:01 +0000 Jules 975376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Um, that's kinda the point (speaking only for myself of course). I'm here because whatever style instinct I have is not good. I'm also not very visual, and I need to have both words and pictures to figure out why something works/doesn't work. This is one of the real strengths of Angie/ylf (again, for me) vs. a typical magazine or blog - WORDS to explain the pictures. Anyway I'm getting off track from your question. But people here are at different phases of their fashion "journey" and have different goals. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975346 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:46:53 +0000 rute 975346@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have good instincts, but sometimes our judgement is affected.&nbsp;<br />For me, that happens a lot when I leave home with something that doesn't make me happy and when I'm in the dressing room, EVERYTHING seems a lot better. That's when I use YLF app to ask for a neutral and honest opinion! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-975345 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:39:25 +0000 Mander 975345@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I generally don't trust my style instincts and I often question my taste, partly because it seems to be so difficult for me to find clothes that I like.&nbsp; Is that because my sense of taste is so badly off-kilter that current fashion looks wrong to me?&nbsp; But on the other hand, sometimes I try trendy stuff on and it is so extremely unflattering, and not in a cool and deliberate way, that I have to wonder what the designer was thinking.</p> <p>My sense of what is flattering is also badly clouded by a long-standing view of myself as being irredeemably ugly, so that I am often inclined to just wear whatever seems to fit and cover my body in a socially acceptable way without really trying to be stylish.&nbsp; This is a very conflicted position for me, though, because if I really believed that I was so hopeless then obviously I wouldn't be here on YLF, right? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-970390 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 03:08:04 +0000 catgirl 970390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm actually very certain of my style generally, but not as certain of my judgment, if that makes sense. Often an obsession with a look makes me los sight of PPP. Fit and flattery are often where I lose track because when I love something my judgment is clouded. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-970350 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 01:54:02 +0000 marit 970350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I trust my own style and I'm quite decisive about what I like but fashion is social to me and I enjoy talking about it, sharing, and getting new ideas from others. Photos are a part of that but I haven't shared any since 1) I don't love the idea of pictures of me being publicly available on the internet, and 2) I don't think my style would be quite approved of around here =) I commit "grown-up fashion" faux pas all over the place! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-970344 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 01:48:06 +0000 TraceyLiz65 970344@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do trust my own instincts, but also greatly appreciate the feedback of others. Most of the time it confirms what I already saw myself and I tend not to reveal own thoughts when I don't like something so as not to influence &nbsp;and get honest feedback When that happens I&nbsp;&nbsp;celebrate my own instincts since&nbsp;they are confirmed.. I also appreciate when someone else's perspective is insightful and something that never crossed my mind.&nbsp;&nbsp; If happiness factor is high I can't contain myself and to indicate that.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-970340 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 01:40:28 +0000 Isis 970340@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do a lot of K/R's.&nbsp; I love the feedback, and I love reading other K/R's.&nbsp; I've learned a lot from my own and others, particularly about how things should fit.</p> <p>I thrifted most of my clothes for so long that settled for sorta-fits too often.</p> <p>Also, I'm still uncertain about my style, but getting more certain with time.</p> <p>Great question, Anna! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-970322 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 01:20:02 +0000 Jaime 970322@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting question Anna. I don't post a lot of K/Rs because once I actually get around to taking a picture that usually pretty much seals it for me. I do like to get feedback on my outfits because I realize they are not everyone's taste and I am curious which ones work for more people. There are a few things I am not sure I should continue to keep, and ideally I would post more K/Rs, but in my case the R is usually rethrift so the urgency and investment just&nbsp;aren't there. That said I working on a big purge and may find myself posting some things I am torn about. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts/page/2#post-970310 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 00:53:52 +0000 Aziraphale 970310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Goodness, no, I'm generally very sure, in my mind,&nbsp;about what looks good on me and what doesn't. &nbsp;Now, whether the clothes <i>actually</i> look good is up for debate. &nbsp;And since I've posted maybe two or three images EVER on this site, I can't even ask you guys what you think. &nbsp;lol</p> <p>Honestly, though, that's probably part of the reason I don't really post pics. &nbsp;I'm normally not looking for feedback. &nbsp;I know what I like and I'm pretty confident about my choices. &nbsp;I participate because&nbsp;I'm looking for ideas, sometimes, or advice about a product or idea. &nbsp;And I'd be dishonest if I neglected&nbsp;to mention that&nbsp;the bored housewife part of me likes the pleasant distraction and&nbsp;intelligent conversation you get on YLF....</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970307 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 00:43:35 +0000 lyn* 970307@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I worry &nbsp;my spidey sense isn't fully atuned yet - I think I still rely pretty heavily on feedback! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970300 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 00:34:43 +0000 Caro in Oz 970300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I trust my instincts but like to get feedback too. Different eyes see things &amp; that's always&nbsp;interesting. I like to hang out too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970283 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 00:17:27 +0000 Janet 970283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mostly I trust my instincts, but I have been trying to break out of old ruts since joining YLF so I have tried a lot of things I never would have tried before. I never really took pictures of myself in outfits before I came here, so I'm still getting a handle on how things look on me. I don't always trust my eye because usually I feel like I'm still 25 and 120 lbs. and should still *look* 25, but then find a disconnect when I look in the mirror and see a very average middle-aged woman. I want to be more adventurous but have a hard time finding the balance of what I can get away with. Somehow things that look fantastic on fashion bloggers look ridculous on me. </p> <p>So yeah, sometimes I put things out here to test the waters and see if I'm way off base or not. Usually when I'm feeling a bit more iffy in general. Sometimes I just fall in love with something different and go for it and you all never even see it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970233 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 22:58:16 +0000 Anonymous 970233@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't shop very often and I don't have a lot of money to spend. I get sized out a lot in stores. I have been told I dress matronly sometimes, but if I dress too trendy/youthful I literally look like I'm 12 years old. </p> <p>I doubt my instincts sometimes because I get so excited about something that fits finally and looks kinda, sorta like my style. I then come to my senses and return the item. And then I regret it because GAH what if I can't find something that fits again and so on. </p> <p>But I do think when I don't have the 'omg nothing fits! No wait one thing does!' freak out, I can clearly pick something. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970205 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 22:09:26 +0000 Marley 970205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I trust my instincts most of the time.&nbsp; When I waver, it usually has to do with a new silhouette and I'm not sure of the size that I should get.&nbsp; I also like to get feedback regarding if I should or should not get something based on what I already have in my wardrobe.&nbsp; For example, I may really want to buy something that I've fallen in love with, but I need to be reminded that I already have a similar item in my closet (that I also love)j which fills that wardrobe hole.&nbsp; That being said, I haven't posted any pics for a long, long time!&nbsp; No available camera :-(&nbsp; so, I usually have to rely on my instincts - or, count on Vicki or Rae to give me feedback (when the two or three of us are together!)&nbsp; I love the way YLFers share their pics on the forum regarding K/R - it makes me feel like I'm in the dressing room with them - its just fun! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970201 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 22:03:27 +0000 goldenpig 970201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto Sharon and IK! I am getting better and learning more about what looks good on me and fits with my style, but I still have a lot to learn from all of you! Plus it's fun to shop with the gals!&nbsp;</p> <p>I tend to post a lot of K/Rs. Sometimes I want feedback and am unsure of an item. I usually have a feeling one way or the other which way I am leaning, but like the confirmation and sometimes you guys spot things I didn't see or sway my opinion. I have kept things that you loved that I was unsure of (such as the fish top), but have also&nbsp;sometimes returned something&nbsp;that Angie said looked killer, because I wasn't feeling fab in it. </p> <p>Sometimes K/Rs also can serve as a "first look". Like if I'm excited to get something I might&nbsp;post a quick K/R before I have time to style it.&nbsp;I also tend to post K/R's on YLF favorite items&nbsp;so that others can see how it fits on multiple people (for example&nbsp;the Brooks Brothers trench K/R's have been very informative and I love seeing it on so many others). I learn a lot from the comments on&nbsp;other people's K/Rs. And of course, sometimes I get suckered into buying stuff that looks great on others (though it doesn't always work out for me). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970196 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:54:11 +0000 Debbie 970196@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My answer may or may not make sense. Most days I trust my own instincts. If my life is hectic &nbsp;or I am feeling down. Not so much. Then it helps to get another opinion. Also when posting I get valuable advice that I may not of thought of. Like try this jacket or that pair of shoes. Add a necklace ect...<br />To me it is a valuable learning experience. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970184 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:36:31 +0000 Mo 970184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's an interesting question, and I relate to a lot of the answers so far. &nbsp;By and large, I know what I like. &nbsp;But . . . sometimes I am not sure. &nbsp;The recent maxi dress saga, my own trench I'm not sure I should keep or purge. &nbsp;When things are outside my comfort zone, I become less sure. &nbsp;Or, if I have been obsessing I tend to lose perspective and need the collective view to bring me back to reality. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970181 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:30:31 +0000 rachylou 970181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh I had another thought: I still have to post a pic of the ankle boots I got with a skirt. This is a case of "can I get away with this?" They're comfy but wide at the ankle - i.e., they are of the flowerpot variety which makes me feel a bit icky. But then again, they were designed to be that way. I don't know what to think.</p> <p>My inner Kate Middleton says: Maybe not.<br />My nutty self says: Who cares? The boots are fun.<br />My inner fashion victim says: Everyone else is doing it!<br />My scoffing self says: If everybody jumped off the Brooklyn Bridge yada yada yada... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970175 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:14:25 +0000 Krista 970175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I rarely do K/R's because I'm extremely picky about what I wear and I have my own "rules" about things so when I find stuff that matches all of my criteria, I know it and keep what I have without asking anyone; but that doesn't mean I wouldn't or do not value the opinions of the forum. I actually get quite overwhelmed with a lot of input so it's easier for me personally to work it through on my own. It's also one of the reasons I prefer to shop by myself.</p> <p> I really enjoy people's K/R's though because I learn from everyone's feedback and enjoy the discussions that take place. Even though I am usually confident about works for me, I still have lots to learn about current style and trends so I always appreciate the discussion! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970172 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:08:51 +0000 Suz 970172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Shannon said. For some items that are indisputably good and fit my style persona, I have no question whatsoever. And I usually won't post a K/R thread on those, unless it is a question similar to some of your "is this worth it" questions --- you know....wondering if the expense sort of balances the aesthetic value in some way. As in , I love this, but am I crazy to spend this much money on it given my budget, or is it reasonable under the circumstances. That kind of thing.&nbsp;</p> <p>There are other items that I feel less sure about, and I definitely love getting input on those. It might be fit, or colour or who knows what. Also, as Diana said,&nbsp;&nbsp;I like to take the photos and see the photos, because they tell me something different than the mirror.&nbsp;</p> <p>And then the forum opinions also help.&nbsp;</p> <p></p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970162 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:01:38 +0000 Ana 970162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with IK! I also find that I need a trusted second opinion when I'm trying something trendy that I've never really tried on before. But at this point, I have a pretty good idea what&nbsp;most "classic" pieces and details&nbsp;will work for me and what won't.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970161 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 20:54:25 +0000 Diana 970161@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm like Rae, I mostly trust my instincts but I can get too emotionally attached (or fixated on some tiny bad thing that nobody else notices) so it's nice to get other viewpoints sometimes.&nbsp; I definitely don't do K/R on the majority of my purchases.&nbsp; </p> <p>I also sometimes take photos of something because I find it informative on occasion to see things in photos rather than in the mirror.&nbsp; They (mirror and camera) seem to distort in different ways.&nbsp; Anyway, once I have the photos it's pretty easy to just post them to see what you all think.&nbsp; Besides, like IK says, it's fun to hang out virtually with you guys (especially since I rarely shop IRL with friends). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-some-of-you-not-trust-your-style-instincts#post-970159 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 20:44:16 +0000 amiable 970159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm still developing instincts, and trust you all to help me develop them. &nbsp;What I have now is pretty abysmal, but is hundreds of times more than I had when I joined several months ago. </p>