https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 22:52:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2221412 Fri, 03 Sep 2021 19:41:46 +0000 JAileen 2221412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If I need to deal with people, I don’t need to wear special clothes. &nbsp;I think I have perfected the look on my face. &nbsp;It is not a resting bitch face. &nbsp;It is calm and determined. &nbsp;That’s all. &nbsp;I also like to use a calm but firm tone of voice and repeat what I need them to do. &nbsp;It usually works. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2221364 Fri, 03 Sep 2021 15:41:09 +0000 Zaeobi 2221364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have no idea what's happening in this thread anymore lol but I just taught my first classes of the year. Decided to wear my bottle green pantsuit* so that no one would confuse me for a student lol. </p> <p>*the one that someone here said looked 'dandy' as an interview outfit - lol if that reads as 'don't mess with me!' then so be it </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220941 Thu, 02 Sep 2021 09:15:40 +0000 Anonymous 2220941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sam is that you??? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220923 Thu, 02 Sep 2021 07:42:37 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2220923@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I picture the Head Cleaver Society as people walking around with their heads split open and axes stuck in the middle. Not gory, because they’ve been that way for years, so it’s all healed up, of course. They just have that funny shape, and axes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220871 Thu, 02 Sep 2021 00:56:50 +0000 Cee 2220871@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>...and puddies ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220870 Thu, 02 Sep 2021 00:50:47 +0000 Cee 2220870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They have a doggy department too ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220796 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 18:59:31 +0000 Anonymous 2220796@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Probably high turnover tho... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220765 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 15:15:03 +0000 Cee 2220765@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Viking complaints department is a very boring job. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220755 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 14:42:17 +0000 Anonymous 2220755@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did feel pretty bad arse when I bought the axe DH knew I wanted to be the one to carry it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220739 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 13:55:14 +0000 Cee 2220739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Head Cleaver Society say AYE !! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220725 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 13:02:58 +0000 Anonymous 2220725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well I have a chainmaile headdress for Faire and my wood chopping axe- does that count? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220675 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 04:05:51 +0000 Cee 2220675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's not what the doctor called it... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220673 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 04:03:29 +0000 rachylou 2220673@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, Cee! I have missed your brilliance! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220670 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 03:28:49 +0000 Cee 2220670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can't go wrong with a Viking helmet, chainmail and a battle axe accessory !&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220334 Mon, 30 Aug 2021 19:02:57 +0000 Anonymous 2220334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For some reason I call women ladies, even when they're not so nice! I wouldn't do same with the word gentleman! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2220279 Mon, 30 Aug 2021 15:11:32 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2220279@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The smile as a “don’t mess with me” indeed! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2219914 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 17:33:03 +0000 Star (Lise) 2219914@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>FS&nbsp;</b>Someone in that thread commented that Gentleman and Lady is used for an unknown person in the UK.&nbsp; A polite form I guess.&nbsp; In South Africa old English traditions still prevail and it drove me absolutely crazy when a perfectly experienced journalist would report that a Gentleman raped a Lady.&nbsp; Hello, a Gentleman is a rapist or a murderer!!!&nbsp; Anyway totally off-thread, sorry&nbsp;<b>ST</b>. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2219894 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 17:03:47 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2219894@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Star, lol! I certainly wouldn’t call anyone “bitch” without first making sure they were ok with it, even more carefully since hearing Coach’s reaction. Calling all women “lady” also seems inadvisable to me—but is only one of a series of ways clothing &amp; the clothing industry judge us, as discussed in numerous other threads. Recall too how long it took for the reply that yes, that phrase was intended for all women, to come up—that’s how deeply embedded assumptions and judgements are. </p> <p>Being arch and ladylike could be a way of asserting oneself, sort of like Cruella deVille. Others might choose the opposite of ladylike, and go for stompy boots, square-cut jeans, and oversized sweaters or leather jackets &amp; a buzz cut to assert themselves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2219892 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 16:33:10 +0000 Star (Lise) 2219892@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since I was a teen I find stompy boots and a black leather jacket to be my 'don't mess with me attire', however I don't ever need this armor any more.<br />Just an observation, and not in any way facetious, I do find it interesting that some find the term Ladieswear for clothing offensive (as discussed in another thread recently), and calling someone a Bitch not.&nbsp; I personally find Bitch awful for any gender. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/3#post-2219891 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 16:27:52 +0000 cat2 2219891@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>RBF for the win. The rest is context dependent: what works for the street doesn’t work for a yet another meeting to straighten something out at our completely dysfunctional big bank. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219888 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 16:18:10 +0000 Roberta 2219888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A big watch so I can pointedly look at it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219870 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 15:19:28 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2219870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My son and I both call each other bitch, among other things—but his basketball coach, from Oakland, considers it &amp; the other “b word” to be incredible insults &amp; pitched an incredible fit when I called him that in jest once.</p> <p>Choochooo</p> <p>Back on the mainline here, I do sometimes wonder if all my pink &amp; berry shades are too granny-esque. But I usually combine them with boots or legs (in shorts or short skirts) or a leather jacket, so they have a little edge. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219868 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 15:17:00 +0000 Vildy 2219868@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My son regularly calls me Dude and, yes, alas, occasionally Bitch. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219855 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 14:43:10 +0000 Synne 2219855@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>B*tch is an insult to me! Dude also, for that matter.. lol. But yes, all aboard the derail train Sorry SunTiger.. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219852 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 14:39:44 +0000 chewyspaghetti 2219852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>b*tch is the new "dude"...or maybe just the rest of the english speaking world finally found their version of it (do people outside California use it for everthing/one?)<br /> I dunno... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219848 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 14:32:20 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2219848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Lisa. </p> <p>I’m not sure how I should’ve responded. My concern was/is that I didn’t want Vildly to think there was any passive-aggressive or other negative intention in my explanation that “bitch” is used (at least in some places) for men and women alike. The insinuation surprised me, knocked me a bit off-balance. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219841 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 13:53:37 +0000 Anonymous 2219841@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Touché , and point taken . I should never have commented . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219818 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 11:58:27 +0000 Synne 2219818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To be fair, "it was only a joke" is textbook gaslighting. Interesting that this thread was meant as a how-to on how to avoid drama. (And I shun drama at all costs!!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219793 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 10:20:03 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2219793@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>“ complete with fluffy jacket”. Haha, yes, that’s you. </p> <p>I got to feel what being underestimated is like when I put on a bunch of weight. Happened slowly, but eventually I realized I was frequently dismissed as an inconsequential middle-aged lady. Losing the weight made the stereotypes about body types even more awfully clear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-not-mess-with-me-dressing/page/2#post-2219791 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 09:24:13 +0000 Anonymous 2219791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have the power of underestimation on my side too Someday I'd love to finish my black belt too- but I haven't been able to remember the katas! </p>