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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Do I "settle" too easily? https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:09:44 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php krishnidoux on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947615 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 21:32:20 +0000 krishnidoux 947615@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You have to recognize when to PPP and when to pull the trigger. That is not easy, but with experience, it gets better. PPP is very helpful not to make mistakes. Pulling the trigger is needed when there are more constraints (time, availability...). unfrumped on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947596 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 20:50:11 +0000 unfrumped 947596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I love AJ's "customization" of PPP--or maybe "Personalization" to add another P. And that there is no Perfect in PPP. What was most helpful to me was to use the PPP as a guide to avoiding repeated errors that were barriers to getting where I wanted to be with my wardrobe. I was imPatient enough that I rushed into some things I didn't really need and then might not have the chance to get something I did. I was imPractical at times in accumulating things for my imaginary life. I wasn't Picky enough when my little inner voice told me the shoes really rubbed a little, the size wasn't right, etc so then I would later be unhappy with the item. All those things are true and good reasons for PPP but not the same as making a reasonable choice. Now, one thing I use as a guide, if I want to "fill a hole", or even if I just happen upon something, is whether once I got said item, will I say, that's that for this (season, year) or will I still be looking the next day or week. That's a red flag to me that I shouldn't go for immediate gratification, as it'll be too short-lived. Because one area of wardrobe disenchantment I wanted to improve upon was not spending a lot  of time wishing I had something else almost just like what I just bought. Goals, or lists, and planning, yes... but overall having a greater sense of satisfaction and enjoyment-use with whatever it is I bring home. So PPP also helped me reallze not everything that seemed like a hole, was a hole, and that leaving some of these things open made room for even more fun or something unexpected to show up. I wanted some "summer" oxfords for work , but because I wear conservative items and darker colors on bottom and not, say, jeans or white jeans, I didn't want super-playful ones. So it was kind of an imaginary shoe that would look lighter but still classic. Plus it has to be super-comfortable. I've tried over a dozen and still haven't hit it, but really, it's because nothing was really close enough that I could see wearing regularly. There wasn't one yet that really "made" my outfits work and also fit well. So it's  not just that I'm a picky saint, it's practical. But it's also been a good learning experience--fashion research--because I've learned a lot about what shapes, colors, contrasts look best and I'm more focused on what would work, if I find it, or what other type might work for fall or winter, if that shows up. So I decided it was not really a  "hole" that had to be filled--leaving it open leaves me the pleasure of perhaps something I haven't yet come across or imagined. The parallel with your sandal hunt may be that, if you can immediately see yourself in a number of happy-fab outfits with that sandal, and you don't feel like you have to have another one right away  to replace these (not saying you can't buy another sandal if you find one--just using the most stringent guidepost which is the pleasure of    no longer feeling  pressure to find the same thing,  so we can be on Team enjoy more and shop less), it seems like a good choice.  T-Rex on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947576 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 20:10:09 +0000 T-Rex 947576@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Personally, it is tied to my personality type. Are you familiar with Meyers Briggs? I am an INFP, with a *very* high score on the "P" part. I can see how that could manifest as a reluctance to commit to a purchase. And I think that's how it manfests for me when it comes to electonics or appliances. I will research a purchase to death before I finally pull the trigger. But when it comes to fashion or cosmetics, it manifests as a tendency to purchase variations of a single item. So I tend to end up with more of something than I really need or will ever use.   Transcona Shannon on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947563 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 19:51:02 +0000 Transcona Shannon 947563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The great thoughts continue! And in reading these, another idea came to my mind. Are certain personality types less likely to practice PPP? The reason I ask this is because of Diana's comment above regarding being not much of a list shopper. I am an emotional shopper and although I do make lists, that list is always in flex. Is it difficult to be a PPP shopper if you shop with your heart? I also find myself nodding along with Diana's comment about being flexible rather than calling it settling. Is there a fine line between those two? Rita (modgrl) - I adore and appreciate how you just pop right in with your very clear and personal thoughts on a topic :) Quick cognition - gotta remember that. And you're right - I need to stop second guessing myself. That's where old self esteem issues pop into my head. Thanks! I have really, really enjoyed this discussion ladies and I truly appreciate each and every comment. Thank you for participating modgrl on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947445 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:55:30 +0000 modgrl 947445@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Did you ever read Malcolm Gladwell's Blink? It is not so much about intuition  but quick cognition. I don't have a lot of time or patience to shop. People talk about "patience" and "perfect" and I can't relate at all!  I have really weird hard to find shoe and clothing sizes. So if I find something that fits and I love it and it is in budget, I don't pull my hair out about it - I pull the trigger with no regrets. That's just me. I love your new white shoes. Stop second guessing yourself. Enjoy them!! Diana on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947430 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:36:39 +0000 Diana 947430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Shannon, I think there is a difference between "settling" and being flexible.  Of course there are things that you cannot compromise on (for shoes for me, that would be comfortable and not frumpy) but it's good to be flexible for other things.  Much as I might want or try to be, I am not really a list shopper; I much prefer serendipitous finds.  Yes, I do get obsessed with finding the perfect whatever (i.e. the gold zipper boots, which I never did find) but along the way I usually find something else that's not quite exactly what I was looking for but is perfect in other ways.  And of course you also have to consider necessity, and needs versus wants.  I have a million pairs of boots, I did not actually need gold zipper boots to get through the winter, so I have the luxury of looking for the perfect item (because it is a want, and not a need).  In your case, you needed light sandals, and you needed them before summer starts so you actually have time to wear them.  Gabrielle on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947429 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:34:44 +0000 Gabrielle 947429@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have found that whenever I compromise and settle for an item, it is a mistake.  A mistake that ends up at the Good Will.   Your comment about shopping  the availability range is especially pertinent to me in terms of color and/or styling.  If Item X is my perfect item (example, full length slacks), then compromising on Item Y (cropped pants) because they are the only option available to me is a big mistake.  The cropped pants will never be the "perfect" item and the fact that they are the only offering in  stores won't make them the perfect item.  It is far better for me to wait the season out then to "make due."   In a strange way, you are falling victim to merchandisers that are telling you what is perfect for you.         Mona on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947426 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:29:33 +0000 Mona 947426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Such enlightening discussion! This year was the first time I put PPP in place at the beginning of the year and have found that it is not as easy as I thought it would be. I am still looking for several items for my SS wardrobe.  Shannon, I think you know your style and needs very well and most of your wardrobe reflects that. You probably don't need to be as PPP as somebody like me needs to be. As I am still trying to figure out my style. rae on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947407 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 15:38:59 +0000 rae 947407@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think Denise's point about the last P (Practical!) gets to the crux of the matter. If you aren't practical, you will end up going naked - much like if you wait for The Perfect Mate, you will end up alone. No one, and no item, is going to be 100% perfect in every way. But if it's perfect for you, that is what matters. I guess that means it will vary based on what you need. If you want white jeans to wear in SS13, it is not practical to hold off until FW13 to buy. If you want white jeans you will wear for many years, who cares if you wait a bit longer or buy a stop-gap that is cheap in the mean time? T-Rex on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947396 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 15:26:35 +0000 T-Rex 947396@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm someone who does not practice PPP. It isn't in my nature to be picky (I don't mean that in a bad way), so I doubt I would ever be able to practice PPP across the board. However, I can see the advantages of PPP when it comes to particular wardrobe items or categories. For instance, those people who confess to having "fussy feet" might benefit from PPP when it comes to shoes, even if they aren't that way about anything else. Or someone who spends a lot of time commuting via public transport might use PPP because they need the perfect bag for that commute. Whereas someone like me with a short commute and my own car may not need the perfect bag to organize my entire life for the day. I can dash home if I've forgotten something I need, or I can leave some things in my car if they are too bulky for my bag. I can also see how PPP might come in handy for people for "opposite" reasons. I can see that someone who goes to lots of parties might need the "perfect" lbd that they can put on without much thought, and accessorize in many different ways. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I can see how someone who rarely goes out might need the "perfect" lbd because they won't want to shop at the last minute for something to wear, and they would want something versatile enough to handle any number of different possible events. So if you are interested in PPP, maybe you can think about it in terms of one category or item, first. If doing this works for you, then you can extend it to other parts of your wardrobe. ironkurtin on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947370 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 14:49:27 +0000 ironkurtin 947370@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ If you are happy, then that is all that matters. texstyle on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947364 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 14:22:07 +0000 texstyle 947364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I felt similar about my new summer bag - I mean I worried that maybe I settled. I could have kept searching for exactly the size and shape I wanted. I probably could have found one for a better price too. But in the end, I also did not want to spend more hours searching for an item I felt I needed daily. The bag I bought really reflects my style, is roomy and soft and very "summer" like in style and it ended up going with my wardrobe so well that I feel like it was a great success. I think if an item ends up being a real workhorse and you feel good wearing it, you made a good choice. Shoes are particularly hard to find - comfort, style, color don't always come as a package deal. I think you did great! Transcona Shannon on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily/page/2#post-947339 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 13:44:15 +0000 Transcona Shannon 947339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Denise - that's exactly what I was worried about. If I kept searching and searching for what I saw in my head, summer was gonna be gone. AJ - "customization of PPP" - love that! dstalksalot - I like the idea of DIYing an item to become PPP. Thank you for your comments Lyn D and Kim dizzys on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947331 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 13:33:58 +0000 dizzys 947331@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great topic! Settling for me has been a huge issue. Finding a pseudo Matron of Honor dress in a specific color was annoying the heck out of me. I could not find anything to fit my style. I found something at the Goodwill though in the perfect color and formal enough to fit the bill. For 10 bucks I was willing to make it work. Will I wear again? Probably not. I am however being completely picky and obsessive about the jacket and shoes that will go with it. ( As I do plan to wear again)I don't think the shoes that I want exist so I am considering buying a style I like and then DIYing a metallic finish. Kind of stretching the PPP a bit far. I do know that being on this forum has made me far more particular with my shopping and helping a ton with fit. A huge issue! That is a good thing! Kim on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947302 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 12:57:57 +0000 Kim 947302@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think CocoLion nailed it with the "practical" part of the comment.  You needed light shoes "NOW".  Your wardrobe had a hole that will be filled by that.  You can either not wear anything this summer that requires light footwear or you can be practical and picky (comfort, bunion, goes with the summer clothing and is attractive )  realize that you may not find the "holy grail" of white shoes this summer (or the next, or the next for that matter) and get the a beautiful one from the ones that are available to you. Practical to me would mean buy the shoes and wear the heck out of them this summer with one eye on the horizon for the elusive perfect white shoe, (which by the way, may not even exist...LOL) Settling?  No.  I don't think so.  Practical?  Yes! Lyn D. on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947210 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 07:18:02 +0000 Lyn D. 947210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think that we must stop putting an imaginary 'Perfect' in PPP and realise that there will never be the perfect piece! The fact that we are all here means that we already spend alot of time thinking about our fashion choices, but let us not forget to ENJOY wearing what we have invested so much energy into, and trust our stylish instincts. AJ on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947176 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 05:29:05 +0000 AJ 947176@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ooohhh, I really enjoyed this discussion!  Yes, I think you should allow for customization of your PPP item as you try things on and realize what will or will not work for you.  It seems to me that you did a lot of researching and fittings.  When something sings to you and you find yourself making great use of it, then don't worry that it didn't fit your exact initial vision.  Even if it's not the shoes that you wear the most, does it complete your outfit and make the sum of the parts FAB?  CocoLion on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947164 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 04:42:06 +0000 CocoLion 947164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think you make an excellent point.  I waited so long getting white jeans shipped, returning them -- it all started in March.  I finally found my pair by the end of May.  However the ideal white jean wearing season is now over!  (Spring for me.)  It's already reaching 100 here and at those temps, it's completely shorts or cool dresses. It wasn't waiting for prices to drop either -- it was all about too much PPP that I was no longer being the last P, practical. Deborah on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947163 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 04:28:03 +0000 Deborah 947163@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a brilliant discussion! I have definitely become more particular since joining YLF and will often delay purchases (even inexpensive ones) to be as sure as I can be that: a. I really want the item. b. it does fit my style persona c. I am physically comfortable in the item d. I am not replicating unnecessarily something that I already have (ie. how many black and white jackets do I really need? Go on please tell me I need another as I have just seen a gorgous one while at lunch lol) I think PPP is perhaps relative.  If your wardrobe is in good shape and you don't have any actual needs, then you can afford to exercise PPP in it's purest form and wait for the magical perfect white jacket, for example.  If you 'need' a pair of black tailored pants for work then maybe you don't have the time to spend months seeking the 'perfect' pair. I also agree that sometimes we stumble upon our perfect item:)  And sometimes an item is our perfect one until a 'more perfect' one turns up.  My black slim leg tailored pants from Target are a case in point.  I would love a better quality pair but for now these fit and look great. In the instance of your sandals, from your post they fit a. b. c. and d. of my requirements so I would say you did exercise PPP:) Transcona Shannon on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947136 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 03:31:41 +0000 Transcona Shannon 947136@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rae, Runcarla and DonnaF - cross posted with y'all! Rae - is it possible that some items are more worthy of PPP than others? Runcarla - I did just do a big shoe cull based on shoes that were no longer comfortable and I vowed to not wear any more shoes/boots/sandals that hurt in any way. These fit that bill perfectly. DonnaF - fabulous point! Maybe we sometimes build up an item so much in our minds that it then becomes impossible to meet those expectations. Transcona Shannon on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947134 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 03:27:32 +0000 Transcona Shannon 947134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you all SO MUCH for such thorough and thought provoking responses - this has been an incredibly interesting and valuable read. I found the particular points in the discussion very valid and spot on: <ol> <li>Unexpected items can become your "perfect" item.</li> <li>What is available in our shopping range, whether that be brick and mortar stores or internet availability, can skew what our perfect item is. Item X might be my perfect item but if only item Y is available to me, then that needs to become my perfect item.</li> <li>Settling for an item may be necessary to counterbalance several other items in your wardrobe not being worn.</li> <li>I will also not compromise on comfort, fit or non flattering just to fill a wardrobe hole (much the same as Suz's comments).</li> <li>Time sensitivity can make PPP difficult to adhere to.</li> <li>You still have to be happy with the item you settled for.</li> </ol> Rest assured, I do love my bone shoe-sandals and have no regrets in purchasing them. Will I buy white sandals if the perfect ones come along even though I now have these? Probably - although maybe with more wearing, I will realize the bone shoe-sandals are even more perfect than I had hoped and won't bother with white sandals. No one caused me to have second thoughts - not at all. I just found some comments to be very thought provoking and got me thinking is all. BTW - wanna know what hubby thought of the new shoe-sandals? "Like something a sexy elf would wear" - lol! I'll take that. DonnaF on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947132 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 03:23:11 +0000 DonnaF 947132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sometimes an item we *think* will be perfect in fact turns out not to be the item we reach for frequently.  Maybe those white sandals in your mind would not have made you feel comfortable psychologically/stylistically.  You didn't give me the impression that you felt like you were *settling* when you bought your newest footwear.  To me, a non-PPP item is one that is uncomfortable and/or doesn't fit and won't or can't be altered to make it fit and one feels like one is settling.  Style details are harder to assess because maybe in the end they will work out better than the vision. Carla on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947129 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 03:19:43 +0000 Carla 947129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Found it! PPP = patient, picky, practical If you tried on 20+ pairs of shoes, and you found something that rated 20/10 for comfort, I would say it meets PPP. However, it might be a surendipitous find, and a great shoe to add to a shoe collection. (Didn't you just do a big shoe cull? ) Maybe you need these shoes *period*. I was looking for shoes to bookend my red hair, and NOT white shoes when I found the white Riecker's that I have been wearing to death. Surendipitous find. rae on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947127 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 03:09:12 +0000 rae 947127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ That means no, I don't think you settle. Unless you secretly don't use all those fab items you show us. rae on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947126 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 03:07:15 +0000 rae 947126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I asked a similar (if far more exasperated) question back during my trench search. It was something I wanted for upcoming travel and for use this year because my others weren't useable IRL. Some may say I stopped short of PPP because there are probably more flattering coats out there... but I wear that darned thing all.the.time in rain or shine and feel 100% comfy with the look and function. On the other hand, I have never bought an olive army jacket despite the plethora of olive army jackets available in the last two years. For that, I'm willing to wait almost forever. It will always be my style, it will come in and out every few years, and its absence doesn't cause me discomfort or wardrobe holes. If I bought one of those that was good enough, I know I would not wear it a lot. krishnidoux on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947116 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 02:46:01 +0000 krishnidoux 947116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ That is such a very good question... it is similar to a concern I am having about my own purchases. Being in a relatively small city in Canada, I sometimes wonder how much of my own personal style is determined by what is accessible to me here. Isn't it a bit the same? In the end, we must choose, and we choose from what is available. And I totally get you on the fact that summer is short here, and one doesn't want to spend the summer looking for perfect sandals, meanwhile not wearing any. That is what I did last summer, and as a result did not have a happy feet summer, along with numerous outfit woes.  This year I went to my favourite store and picked two pairs from there. They were not quite what I had had in mind but I am really growing into them and they totally fit the bill for me. Of course I did not just take the first ones I saw; I still chose among many.  Thanks for posting this thought provoking question. I don't think you settle quickly, as your style is coherent and obviously well thought through. What you pick is always very "you".  Mo on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947115 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 02:44:33 +0000 Mo 947115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I find the factors of how complete one's wardrobe is and how pressing the need for the item to be in direct ratio to how picky I'll be.  I took quite some time to get my white button front shirt.  I didn't need it for any particular outfit or upcoming event, but wanted it to round out my wardrobe.   I'm still trying not to settle, yet I bought (and almost kept) the cheapy metal plate sandals just last month.  Came to my senses and got much better ones I am thrilled with.  So, it's still a battle, lo these 3 years later. Tanya on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947092 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 02:12:12 +0000 Tanya 947092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Like Lyn, I think that there are many factors at play, including time-sensitivity, need and trendiness.  I personally divide this into three categories: 1. No time sensitivity/constraints at all: when a certain item would work really well with your wardrobe but you are totally fine without it. For example, about 2.5 years I  made a list of 10 dream summer items I wanted that were pretty trend-proof.  Among those were very specific types of sun dresses.  I have searched for them for over a year, and gave up, only to stumble upon  some amazing ones a year later, that I promptly snapped up.  I still have a perfect white denim pencil skirt on that list, that I am not actively searching for.  Bottom line, for these types of items, I can afford to be PPP and only buy something if it is 9.5 or 10. 2. Some seasonal needs, like your sandals.  In that case, it is good to be picky, but one still needs to find something to fulfill the need, so a dream item might not be realistic.  I personally settle for as low as 8 for this types of items, especially if it is a trend of the season. 3. Some super urgent items - like there is an event in couple weeks that nothing in the closet would work for.  Even though I try to avoid these situations, they do happen here and there and in that case it is really about the best one can find in that short time span, and it might be far from a dream item,.. Angie on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947090 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 02:11:10 +0000 Angie 947090@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Who is to say that you didn't follow the PPP principle with your new white sandals! I think you did :) Echo on "Do I "settle" too easily?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-settle-too-easily#post-947086 Mon, 03 Jun 2013 02:08:43 +0000 Echo 947086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ PPP is important to make sure that things that are purchased get loved and used. Most people, myself included, have purchased something that was "good enough" and then wore it once or twice because it wasn't something we loved and reached for. Now, if the items a person purchases really do fill a wardrobe hole and get worn, then they were well worth it, IMO. I think PPP is most important in making sure that things don't become orphans and in making sure we aren't spending foolishly. Therefore, I think your shoe-sandals are a great purchase as long as you reach for them and wear them (and I can't see why you wouldn't because I think they look fantastic, and comfort is a plus!).