https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 02 May 2026 17:54:51 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299869 Fri, 18 Feb 2011 08:29:40 +0000 Sally 299869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just read through the thread properly. That is awful what those ladies said to Deb. Some people are so catty...but then again it is their problem and probably stems from their own insecurities and jealousy. I used to work in an environment where I used to feel uncomfortable to walk into the large meetings because we had a couple of real snakes who would look you up and down before making snide comments between themselves. I was not imagining it too because when I told a few other people I hated coming in for that reason, they agreed and said they thought it was awful too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299856 Fri, 18 Feb 2011 07:22:00 +0000 CocoLion 299856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think sometimes people who say stuff like this are awkward and this is their way of getting noticed and starting a conversation with you. It's an opener. I thought in Jonesy's case, that's what it was and reflected a fairly shallow level of cultural knowledge on the student's part.</p> <p>On the other hand, Deb's story of the women in the book group commenting on her shoes... that's player hater territory! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299852 Fri, 18 Feb 2011 06:50:18 +0000 Sally 299852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All this talk reminds me of the time I turned up to my aunt's 80th in a leather jacket, black mini skirt and black boots. I had to listen to my 80 year old uncle rattling on about how I forgot my motorbike and should join the chain gang. The thing was my outfit was not that outrageous ..(about 15 years ago) and they were just dressing boring. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299504 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 21:32:22 +0000 Kira 299504@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been told I smell nice (always when I'm not wearing perfume!) by classmates and strangers several times. It's weird, but I've just gotten used to taking it as a compliment. I've also been told I look like an anime character, which is definitely a compliment since they usually have awesome hair, cute style, and ideal proportions. I have also been screamed at for being in the handicapped section while looking too lovely. I'm still trying to get over that one... but Hogwarts is a great compliment. It means that you have a rocker-gypsy-mod-fairytale thing going on. Cool. ^_^</p> <p>Just remember, if they compliment you, it means they appreciate your effort. If they insult you, it means they don't appreciate your effort because now you've made them jealous. Either way, <strong>you look fab!</strong> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299398 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 18:25:24 +0000 Patty 299398@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think if some people have to make comments they just make 'em---If I have to go somewhere and I try to match/blend, like everyone else in the room, someone will ultimately make a rude comment to me ---some people must seem more approachable that way I guess. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299390 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 18:12:58 +0000 MsMary 299390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVXqocPAz1k" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVXqocPAz1k</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299387 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 18:08:00 +0000 maggiethecat 299387@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd love to be told I look like I belong in Hogwarts Off the top of my head the strangest (and rather unnerving) comment I got on my personal style was being loudly told by a judo mate (a nice guy who usually can be counted on to know better) that I smelled so nice... I'm very much a perfume girl, so good to know, but it was neither the time nor the place... </p> <p>I'm often overdressed for my surroundings, but no one seems to care. My mother on the other hand, is sixty-one, and likes to dress nice as well. She loves makeup, and wears a lot of flared skirts and the occassional straight or maxi, with layered, colorful knits, all of which flatters her (takes about ten years off her age), is comfy, suits her lifestyle. This certainly seems to rub others the wrong way, and has often received poisonous little 'compliments' from acquaintances ('OMG, have you got work done?' 'Oh, you are sooo thin... have you been sick?'), and been told in no uncertain terms that she is 'too dressed up'... excuse me? It's sad how threatening it is to some that a woman in her sixties still takes pride in looking good. And how people just don't have boundaries. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299287 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 15:43:08 +0000 Anonymous 299287@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is such an interesting thread. I knew it was time to change my hair style when a little niece was fingering my hair and announced that I had "witch's hair". It was funny and probably she was going by the grey color, but I've been wearing it shorter since...less witch-like, I hope.<br /> About those old enough to have a filter and don't..I really hate being talked down to and being called "sweetie" and "girl" by waiters and clerks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299255 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 13:56:37 +0000 Bluebell 299255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw thanks Jonesy, Alaskagirl, Jenava, Michelle... it's such an interesting thread and you are right... small mindedness is horrible.<br /> Peoples perceptions have been very interesting as I often get shouted at when I park in disabled bays by other people (especially by much older people) and get told to get out of the spot NOW! as I need a disabled permit. I won't have even switched off my engine... they are judging me by my hair, make up and top! I was a make up artist for years so I do make an effort but many ppl still think style/effort etc doesn't go with a disability (or people wouldn't keep shouting at me). When I hold my disabled permit up they stomp off quite put out. That's why this forum is so lovely. Everyone is geniunely supportive and warm.<br /> Michelle - I really felt for you with the assumptions that people make. People can be so narrow minded and forget that each one of us are women just like them, and having style is something burning within us that makes us make that effort regardless xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299241 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 12:15:48 +0000 Lynne 299241@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Jonesy - I cannot fathom how anyone could associate you with any of the Hogwarts staff - I can only imagine that had we been there to witness the context of the conversation it might seem more understandable? Right now, I am with Angie on this one!</p> <p>Deb - that was too mean and I am fuming on your behalf!</p> <p>Julie - I am GREEN with envy that you're going to be there! Please do post pics!!!</p> <p>I love getting compliments from students, but they're more non-verbal...if that makes sense? And I would never be familiar with my professors unless I knew them VERY well.....I babysat and houseminded/pet-sat for one of my professors but I would never have been as forward with him as this student was with you. I guess Australia is also more conservative than the US? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299173 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 05:02:27 +0000 Jenava 299173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Small-mindedness is just so deadly. Ugh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299172 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 05:00:08 +0000 Deb 299172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for this, Jenava! I have to agree with you about motives ... it is really sort of mean-spirited to pass judgment in a negative way. I try always to say something nice to everyone - I mean, isn't it so nice to be complimented, and why *not* find something positive and mention it? If there's nothing to nice to say, then say nothing ... but I still find that there is something worth noting in most everyone, and that it makes them feel good to hear it.</p> <p>Having said that, I have noted that many women (perhaps men, too, but *that* I haven't noted and cannot address) still have a mentality that worked for them in high school, and which they've carried over into adulthood. If you do not conform to the group (meaning any standards not their own), you're pecked at, like hens who will peck to death another hen. </p> <p>Fortunately, as adults we are better able to note the behavior for what it is, and overlook the meanness. However, it really doesn't excuse those who still employ the "put down" as a way of attempting to establish their own superiority.</p> <p>Well ... off my soap box, here. :o) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299159 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 04:40:39 +0000 Jenava 299159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Deb and bluebell's ancedotes really get me going. Maybe I'm reading too much in, Deb, but it sounds like these people (ganging up, no less!) are trying their best to defend a standard of frumpy-ness and do not like any usurpers challenging their ideas about style and comfort. It's like people who think that those who dress stylishly cannot possibly have deep thoughts or be taken seriously. *shudder*</p> <p>Bluebell, for the same reasons mentioned by others, it's just ridiculous that having fun with style is off limits someone who does not use their facilities in the same way as everyone else. This is upsetting because I know these types of assumptions spill into all other areas, not just style. )-: Grrr.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you/page/2#post-299127 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 03:29:58 +0000 Kyle 299127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a young hairdresser who regularly said I always reminded her of a "retired model." I think she meant it as a compliment, but I tended to just hear retired/old. What are you gonna do? People can be insensitive. Interpretations can vary greatly. And manners are in short supply. Witch? Ridiculous and farfetched. Makes me mad just thinking about it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-299112 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 03:00:41 +0000 Lisa 299112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been told I look "so dressed up" on a daily basis in my casual work environment. This cracks me up because I wear jeans very close to everyday which I do not consider dressy for work at all! It must be because I wear layers and have a love of blazers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-299103 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 02:48:52 +0000 Angie 299103@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Julie, may I join you for tea?</p> <p>This is a fascinating thread. Oh, how we are shaped by our surroundings. </p> <p>Jonesy, you are a sport for sure! Kids in their 20's aren't kids anymore. I'm going to be stubborn here (I hope that's okay!) Despite the cultural differences - "kids" need to develop a filter, and that starts in school. </p> <p>I had an experience with a very young sales assistant at Nordies a few weeks ago and I ended up calling his superior because he thought he was being "cute" - I thought he was being really rude. Again, no filter. I sound like such an old sour puss </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-299066 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 01:10:25 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 299066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Julie, that is SO COOL! I'm a complete and utter Black Adder fan as well as enjoying HP quite a bit. I did not know they were shot in the same castle! I'll have to go dig out my season 1 DVD and have a watch. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298998 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 21:48:18 +0000 Jonesy 298998@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, I absolutely agree: comments that are rooted in prejudice or negative stereotypes about groups of people (related to, for example, ablement, sexual orientation, race/ethnicity) can certainly be distinguished from kooky, well-meaning ones, and judged more harshly, IMO. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298986 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 21:14:01 +0000 Michelle 298986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fascinating thread, Jonesy!!<br /> I grew up in the more laid-back academic setting that Angie never experienced. I was on first-name basis with most profs, and when I ran into one of them a few weeks ago, I was greeted with a bear hug (which was warmly returned). Viewing Jonesy's encounter through that lens, I would be inclined to take it as a complement. A first-name basis is one thing, but discussions of personal style imply a whole other level of familiarity and comfort. The fact that she felt comfortable saying something like that suggests to me that she likes you a lot, assumed you'd take her remark the right way and appreciates your individuality.<br /> Now, call it a double-standard, but something like Bluebell's experience raises my blood pressure. As a blind person, I encounter similar attitudes. People are sometimes astonished that I wear clothes that are clean and don't clash, so actual style is totally unexpected. Such thinking is based on such repulsive assumptions about disability that I try not to think about it if possible. Tacitly I've internalized their thinking, though, since I've made it my mission to dress to my standards rather than theirs. More power to your approach, Bluebell, rock those heels! :)<br /> Julie: SO JEALOUS!!!! Love Harry Potter too. Have a great time! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298975 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 21:01:33 +0000 catgirl 298975@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And Bluebell, I love your revised approach to heels - I say go for it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298974 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 21:00:32 +0000 catgirl 298974@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know when I wear my Indian clothes I get a lot of assumptions, the biggest being that I don't speak English. And a friend of ours told me that because of my Indian outfits, he had expected me to be very meek and soft-spoken - HA! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298971 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 20:53:44 +0000 annagybe 298971@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I got told I look like a witch once. It was many years back during my goth phase. I took it as a compliment of the highest order. That said you don't look like what I looked like that back then. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298969 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 20:45:17 +0000 Jonesy 298969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such fascinating comments! I love reading these. Some of this really does boil down to subjective interpretations of perceived difference or even incongruities (such as the anecdote you mention, Bluebell, about someone's faulty perception that a physical disability somehow cannot coexist with stylishness, or your comment, Julie, about how for some people, stylishness has to = money). Of course, someone can *think* one thing, but choose not to blurt it out! I really like the idea of expanding people's horizons a bit, as you state, Jenava!</p> <p>One thing I really appreciate about YLF is the support for trying new things and being adventurous, while developing your own personal style that is true and genuine. Then we can all step into the "real world" which may not quite get what we are doing, and know that we "make sense" despite the sometimes wacky or downright rude feedback we receive.</p> <p>Okay, I am absolutely jealous that you will be lunching at the castle, Julie! I am a devoted HP fan! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298963 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 20:27:49 +0000 RoseandJoan 298963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure it's in the same vain but when I return to my home town people comment that I look posh (associated with the upper classes) or have money, as I have been brought up with very working class principles and shop on an extremely tight budget I'm always a little confused by the comment but never offended. </p> <p>Jonesy, Hogwarts would be a great place to teach, I'm glad you have enough confidence in your own style to brush the comment aside.</p> <p>OT but I'm taking the kids to the castle used as the set for Hogwarts to have lunch in the treehouse and I'm far too excited. The castle was also used to film the first series of Blackadder<br /> <a href="http://www.alnwickcastle.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.alnwickcastle.com/</a><br /> <a href="http://www.alnwickgarden.com/eat/eat-in-the-treehouse" rel="nofollow">http://www.alnwickgarden.com/e.....-treehouse</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298953 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 20:03:08 +0000 Bluebell 298953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Deb actually I get that... I still wear heels even though my body is knackered and sometimes people actually comment and say "you shouldn't be wearing those with bad legs, you should be making life easier for yourself!". When I started to use crutches and a chair 90% of the time I had to sell on all my really high heels and I was gutted. However now I realise I was an idiot as in my chair I can wear 20 inch heels if I want as I'll just be sitting lol! So I am now on the look out for some seriously sexy high heels for wheelchair outings ;o) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298951 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 19:57:07 +0000 Deb 298951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Last summer I wore new platform sandals (*love*) with skinnies to a Book Club meeting. Several of the women went out of their way to come over - as a group, mind you - and comment about them in a negative way, as in "Oh, I would never wear something like that!" and "Can you *walk* in those things?" and "I will never wear shoes that aren't comfortable!" </p> <p>I simply responded that neither would I ever wear shoes that were uncomfortable or that I couldn't walk in - and the sandals were easy to walk in and comfy as hell. Then I dashed my wine into their faces and hobbled away.</p> <p>(*kidding*) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298927 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 19:03:48 +0000 Bluebell 298927@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm way too sensitive and think you took it with awesome humour and good spirit and I have learnt from that lol! I'm sure you looked very beautiful and not at all witchy... though I bet being a bit witchy would be pretty darn cool *ponders*....;o) You could cast spells on your class and everything!</p> <p>Haha re: the bear comment... I am now re-evaluating my own comments as I told my husband he resembled a bear because he has a lot of body hair *giggles and wonders if my filter needs to go in for repair*... </p> <p>I don't get comments in that way however I do get strangers ask me what I've done (I use crutches and a chair). When I tell them it's permanent they gasp and say "but you can't be disabled!!? You are far too stylish!". I've never been sure whether to take that as a compliment or just be plain shocked! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298924 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 19:00:56 +0000 Patty 298924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Witches are cool and hot at the same time these days! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298912 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 18:45:17 +0000 Jenava 298912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would agree that sometimes people who have a narrow field of experience often make odd associations when confronted by something they are not familiar with. when I get comments in this vein I feel pleased to have helped expand the person's horizons. LOL... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-i-look-witchy-to-you#post-298909 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 18:39:12 +0000 Ljubica 298909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sensitive to inappropriate comments, even when I know for sure that they don't mean anything.<br /> When they come from kids, I take them more lightly, because children make that sort of remarks during classes when they are bored and distracted, just to amuse themselves. </p> <p>But when it comes from grown-ups, I'm much less forgiving. I never comment on people's looks unless I can make an honest compliment, and I expect the same from other people, unless they are my close friends and family.</p> <p>And, very honestly, you are beautiful, your style is very attractive, and there's nothing even remotely witchy in your appearance. </p>