https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 30 Apr 2026 04:18:45 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-869859 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 03:29:16 +0000 Anonymous 869859@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>More hugs, Nancy. Please come and vent as often as needed. Many of us have been there in some way. Please be gentle with yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-869082 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 17:52:48 +0000 MsMary 869082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, jeepers, Nancy! That is so tough for you and Mr. Nancylee! I'm sending all my very best love and support for the two of you!! XXX OOO </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868995 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 16:40:58 +0000 Kristin L 868995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry Nancylee. I'm sending big hugs your way. The vacation will be great for both you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868875 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:38:38 +0000 missvee 868875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh this is such tough news for you. I'm glad you have a vacation break to look forward to. That cycle of hope and disappointment can wear you down so fast. Take care of yourself. Whatever happens with your husband you need to be strong and fit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868590 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 03:50:22 +0000 Debora 868590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's setback and difficulties. You've had a rough year and it's nice that you have a family vacation to look forward to. We will be here to help with packing! Take care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868457 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 01:24:46 +0000 Parsley 868457@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Nancy, I'm so sorry that you've been going through all this. A whole year of stress has to take its toll on you.</p> <p>I'm glad to hear that you're going to get away to New Orleans, and also that you're going to have a massage. You deserve a break and some stress relief!</p> <p>Sending hugs and all my sincere hopes that things will be getting better for you and your husband. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868386 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 00:12:02 +0000 rachylou 868386@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Remember, Nancy, you have permission not to think about it all the time, ok? Easier said than done, I know...</p> <p>I can't tell you how much I love New Orleans! I'm so jealous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868364 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:46:33 +0000 nancylee 868364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You ladies are all so sweet. I'm feeling a little better today. I was doing ok these last couple of months until this latest setback and hospitalization really threw me for a loop. I think it was a perfect storm of the unexpected infection/hospitalization PLUS finding out that the surgeon may not be able to fix his problem the way he'd originally thought PLUS passing the year marker for this ordeal all conspiring to make me feel really sad and frustrated.</p> <p>I am the caregiver, but not in the super-demanding way I was for much of last year. He can care for himself and drive and go to work (most of the time), so I am off the hook for most of the physical aspects of caregiving. But the worry/emotional strain is still present. </p> <p>We are lucky in that this isn't a terminal situation. He still has hope that they can resolve his problems...just perhaps not as ideally as we'd hoped. It's not as bad as it was...or nearly as bad as what some have to deal with...but it's still stressful.</p> <p>As for how I'm coping, your kind words have helped immensely. And I do have great friends/family who are there for me to talk with. Sometimes it's just good to let it out. (You can't really complain to the sick person about how hard it is to care for them!) </p> <p> It's also looking like I'll have a snow day tomorrow and won't have to teach my class (yay!). And I have a massage schedule for Thursday afternoon. </p> <p>Thanks again, everyone. I hope to be in the mood to participate again soon. We actually have a family trip to New Orleans planned for 14-18 March (part of our "get on with normal life" plan for 2013), so maybe I'll need some wardrobe packing help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868127 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 19:36:03 +0000 Suz 868127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancylee - I am SO sorry to hear this. It really IS tougher to be the caregiver sometimes. Big, big hugs. And yes, it would be so good to know that you have some built in breaks. </p> <p>Do you have some regular times off from all of this? Anybody who is carrying part of the load for you? Even having the housework done can be a help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868123 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 19:32:16 +0000 Janet 868123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy, I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree with the others about how hard it is to be the caregiver. If you ever get a break to make a little getaway into DC again, maybe we can get some YLF ladies to have another shopping and lunch afternoon. </p> <p>Big hugs and good healing wishes coming your way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868070 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 18:40:21 +0000 bj1111 868070@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>nancy...caring for others takes a toll on us. what are you doing for yourself? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-868054 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 18:27:23 +0000 Angie 868054@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Nancylee. It is mentally and physically exhausting being the caregiver - that I know all too well like you. And it's exhausting keeping everyone updated about your husbands health. </p> <p>Take it one day at a time, and try to nurture yourself too. Spend time with friends and family who make you feel special. That way you can refuel and attend to hubs. Glad he's feeling positive. YLF sends you LOTS more positive energy. xoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867834 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:55:10 +0000 MNsara 867834@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>{{{hugs}}} for the frustration and toll this takes, Nancylee! I do hope your DH will really get on top of this all, but thank goodnes he's staying positive. I can't imagine trying to boost him out of a funk as well.</p> <p>I also hope that IRL you've got support and ways to regenerate yourself. Sometimes it feels like even more work to arrange friends too, but it's worth it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867797 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:09:19 +0000 Anonymous 867797@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancylee, I'm so sorry. That sounds exhausting. I hope you're able to find some pockets of time for yourself while you're taking wonderful care of him. Sending you warm thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867571 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 04:50:15 +0000 catgirl 867571@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I am so sorry. I am riding out a health crisis with some friends in dire straits, and I strongly suggest you call on your IRL support network to take you for a meal or bring one over, come watch a movie with wine, or do something to keep you afloat. People WANT to help. </p> <p> It is SO hard being a caregiver because you just don't ever feel like you have the right to ask for anything when your loved one is suffering... but you do have that right. Hugs to you and your wonderful DH. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867234 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 23:07:33 +0000 cinnamon fern 867234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy, I'm so sorry to hear this ... being the caregiver sucks. Uncertainty and lack of control are both tough.</p> <p>I hope you have the opportunity to just take a mental break from all the health stuff at times - to spend a few hours or a few days doing something fun that totally occupies your mind. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867156 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 21:58:33 +0000 Inge 867156@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry, Nancylee. I agree with the other ladies: it can be extremely hard to have to "stand by and watch", all so very frustrating. And after such a difficult year, of course you were both hoping to not have to deal with any more complications-(( It just gets to you, and that's completely normal (not that that's much help, I know). Please know that we are here for you, whenever you want to chat or need some distraction.</p> <p>Hang in there, I will be thinking of you both! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867154 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 21:53:26 +0000 Caro in Oz 867154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Shannon sometimes it is much harder to be the carer.<br /> Kind thoughts all the way from Oz:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867141 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 21:46:37 +0000 Transcona Shannon 867141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Nancy - I'm so sorry to hear that your health troubles continue. It has been such a long and difficult road for the two of you. In many ways, it is so much harder to be the loving and caring spouse than it is to be the patient - I would imagine part of the stress is being unable to help him. I don't know what else I can add other than to send my best GET WELL thoughts and positive vibes </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867059 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 20:19:29 +0000 rachylou 867059@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What's your schedule like these days, nancylee? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867037 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 19:54:49 +0000 Mochi 867037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear about it, nancylee. Hugs to you. I'm so glad he's thinking positively because I am sure that is making his situation better than it would otherwise be, but of course it's still so tough. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dhs-health-odyssey-continues-feeling-down#post-867027 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 19:44:09 +0000 nancylee 867027@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>&nbsp;I'm feeling really worn down and discouraged, which is why my YLF presence is so spotty lately. :(</p>