https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 01:23:32 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1118164 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 18:07:32 +0000 Lisa 1118164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Amy K., I'm the author of that blog post, and thank you very much for linking here. The year after my divorce I blundered around in a haze. I am so sorry for you all going through breakups, and I hope your friends are taking care of you, because it's important. One of the worst bits, in a divorce at least, is when your community thinks you have "divorce cooties" and stops talking to you.</p> <p>All my best to everyone in the holidays. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1117321 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 16:08:40 +0000 MsMary 1117321@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow!&nbsp; I'm gong to try that!&nbsp; Thanks! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1117137 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 09:31:43 +0000 Louise 1117137@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MaryK I'm glad to hear there's light at the end of the tunnel.<br /> I'm finding lavender essential oil great for helping me sleep. 1 drop on the top corner of my pillow and I'm out like a light even if my mind was previously working overdrive. It could be a placebo effect but I'll still take it over sleeping pills x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1116785 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:19:03 +0000 MsMary 1116785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, I think it really depends on the person.&nbsp; I was married for 14 years, we were together for almost 17.&nbsp; Mr. K and I split physically in April, but I made the decision in early March and that's the date it "happened" in my mind.&nbsp; And I am only in the past few weeks, nine months later, feeling pretty good more often than I am feeling bad.&nbsp; And even so, I am still having a lot of trouble sleeping -- I turn off the lights and have nothing but divorce thougths going through my mind.&nbsp; Also, it's not a straight line, it's a jagged one.&nbsp; You feel better for a while, and then you feel awful for a while, and then you feel better, and then you feel awful, and over time there is more "better" and less "awful."</p> <p>That's my experience, anyway.&nbsp; It sucks but it does suck less as time goes on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1116740 Tue, 17 Dec 2013 23:36:14 +0000 Louise 1116740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>AmyK- what an insightful blog post you're so kind to think of me. I look forward to the day it hurts less. It still all feels rather surreal at the moment as though someone will turn round and say 'April Fool'!<br /> I also wonder how you know you're 'better'? I read online somewhere it takes half as long as you where together! I sincerely hope that's not true, think I might have gone mad in 6 1/2 years! I was chewing on this with a collegue today who split from her bf of 9 months 2 weeks ago she's only 24 not sure if that makes a difference? She's already signed up for internet dating and been on 2 dates! </p> <p>MaryK- my filofax and reminders app on my phone are my best friends at the moment, my once sharp memory is shot to pieces! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1116655 Tue, 17 Dec 2013 21:45:18 +0000 MsMary 1116655@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my gosh, that blog post is genius!&nbsp; I couldn't agree more.&nbsp; I have spent the past nine months going around pretty much constantly telling myself things like "remember to drive very very carefully because you are very distracted at the moment," and "remember to check your calendar because your brain is not firing on all cylinders at the moment."&nbsp; Great advice to "do no more harm." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1116559 Tue, 17 Dec 2013 19:34:15 +0000 minimalist 1116559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise,</p> <p>I just came across this<br /> <a href="http://amidprivilege.com/2013/12/silver-linings-to-heartbreak-saturday-morning-919am/" rel="nofollow">http://amidprivilege.com/2013/.....ing-919am/</a><br /> and thought of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1099220 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 04:30:39 +0000 jen 1099220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When one doors closes another one opens, take care. xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1098484 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 15:29:34 +0000 Isis 1098484@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, &nbsp;breakups are so so painful. &nbsp;</p> <p>My only advice is to give yourself plenty of time.</p> <p>I like the way you are taking care of yourself! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1097807 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 22:04:11 +0000 minimalist 1097807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, thinking of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1097745 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 20:43:05 +0000 Louise 1097745@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks again ladies. Today has been a bad day, I've been really cranky so it's lovely to come home and read your kind words x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1097359 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 15:08:30 +0000 Mochi 1097359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm also really sorry to hear this, particularly at this time of year. Hugs.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1097339 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 14:46:59 +0000 Tanya 1097339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so, so sorry you are going through this.&nbsp; I know personally all too well how difficult this is, I have been through an extremely painful breakup after 6 year long realtionship.&nbsp; Be nice and gentle to yourself, and find a hobby - fashion or anything else to occupy your mind when it goes where it shouldn't.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1096955 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 01:00:09 +0000 Gaylene 1096955@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The aftermath of a breakup is never easy, even if you know it was the right thing to do. Emotions can't just be turned off and on like a tap.</p> <p>You've got lots of comfort and suggestions here, but I did remember the treatment we used in my university dorm when we went through break-ups. The Rx was a pint of Ben and Jerry's Cherry Garcia--to be taken as needed--preferably while wearing PJs and in front of the TV. Our mantra in those days was "<i>Boyfriends come and go, but we'll always have Cherry Garcia.</i>"</p> <p>I dunno--it actually seemed to work. I used it a couple of times when my sons were heartbroken, although they insisted that Chocolate Peanut Butter Swirl was a more manly alternative. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1096945 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 00:44:50 +0000 Laura 1096945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, thinking of you and hoping that each week and then each month gets a little easier. Maybe make a list of things you've always wanted to do? And then go do them, one at a time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1096898 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 23:34:57 +0000 Anonymous 1096898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, that sounds so difficult! I hope you will hang out here and get your "clothes moho" back, as you put it. Hugs from me too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1096392 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 14:40:38 +0000 Susie 1096392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry you are going through a difficult time. It sounds like you are adjusting and focusing on healing. Hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup/page/2#post-1096349 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 12:23:50 +0000 bella 1096349@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am very sorry to hear this Louise. But good for you for taking care of yourself and keeping busy with the fitness classes. When my husband and I had to spend about 6 months apart last year, I bought a gym membership and spent a lot of time in the gym. It did a lot of good for my moral and my physique!:)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1096344 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 11:04:50 +0000 Anonymous 1096344@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. &nbsp;The pain can be unbelievable. &nbsp;</p> <p>To tell the truth, I personally have not always dealt that well with painful breakups. &nbsp;I wish you something better. &nbsp;</p> <p>My advice is that no matter how hard it is to "do something." &nbsp;Anything. &nbsp;Although going the gym is one of the hardest things I can think of suggesting, I found that once I was there I really did feel better. &nbsp;Anything cardio helped me. &nbsp;Shopping helps because it gets you out of the house. &nbsp;I don't usually suggest shopping as a strategy …. but I have found it helps me. &nbsp;</p> <p>Keep us posted on how you are doing. &nbsp;We care.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1096217 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 03:21:28 +0000 rae 1096217@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I won't say I'm sorry, because it sounds like a good thing overall. The emotional fallout has got to be hard, though. Sending major hugs and virtual chocolates.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095788 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:01:20 +0000 Sheila 1095788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just one more vote for taking good care of yourself at this point...sounds like you're doing that. Sorry about the breakup but it happens to all of us and is something to forge through, get to the other side and enjoy a better life. Not easy, though. Be kind to yourself in every way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095768 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 18:22:36 +0000 Anonymous 1095768@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear what a sad time you're going through Louise. It's obviously difficult for you after 13 years together. You will eventually find your way back on to the path of happiness. ((hugs)) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095647 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:51:27 +0000 bj1111 1095647@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>louise!&nbsp; i missed your fab style.&nbsp; i'm sorry you are in this.&nbsp; as you've discovered, it's going to suck for a while.&nbsp; eventually ...at some point in the future...you'll discover you're less miserable then funnily enough you're happy again. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095496 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 13:48:01 +0000 Glory 1095496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear this. I agree distraction is good, especially Zumba of which I am a huge fan. For the tricky knee, try going every second day and perhaps skip the samba. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095430 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 09:17:09 +0000 Louise 1095430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear sweet ladies thank you for the kind words and hugs it means so much</p> <p>Dianthus and Beth Ann I managed 2 Zumba classes last week. I would have done 3 but my knee was playing up a bit! My YLF self isn't totally gone as I had great fun getting colourful sports bras and cute workout clothes.</p> <p>Annagybe thanks for the book recommendation, I'm off to order it.</p> <p>Zapotee he was only my second boyfriend too.</p> <p>I'm taking it a day at a time but I think I've ended up with quite a nice social balance going at the moment, 2/3 Zumba classes a week, 1/2 nights/days out with friends and family and a couple of nights/ weekend days to get in my pjs and sit in bed with a cat or 2 and watch c#@p TV and cry if I need to. I'm not much for public displays of wailing and weeping and thankfully friends and family have been great and not asked for details, I don't think I could give them without snivelling x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095427 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 08:41:44 +0000 Jeanie 1095427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry. &nbsp;Be kind to yourself. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095407 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 06:50:10 +0000 Scarlet 1095407@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry you are going through a painful break-up Louise. I have missed you around here and been hoping that everything is okay. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095363 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 05:04:57 +0000 catgirl 1095363@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you, Louise.&nbsp; I have missed you here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095348 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 04:51:32 +0000 Anonymous 1095348@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry you are going thru this. I have only dated three people my entire life and broke off a long engagement of 14 years, with someone prior to my current relationship. I do know how you feel and it is awful. My best advice is to take it easy on yourself and find things to occupy your mind on. It does get better, I promise. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dealing-with-the-aftermath-of-a-breakup#post-1095335 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 04:32:02 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1095335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, we are here for you! &nbsp;&nbsp; If you ever need to talk, send a message. *hugs* </p>