https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 18:01:28 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles/page/2#post-1013530 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 20:06:59 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1013530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Gaylene - I totally agree. People are definitely free to dislike any style they want to. I was just stating that I think it's part of the reason that so many of the responses here have been skewed more toward peeves around fit and appropriateness than to specific styles like Joan originally asked. People are having difficulty picking a look they dislike every single variation of. </p> <p>But since my last reply I've been giving it some thought and I realized there are a few actual styles that I have disliked without exception. One being the rap/hip-hop/gangsta look with the do-rag, backwards hat, and super baggy&nbsp;pants around the knees. I just haven't seen a single person pull it off to my liking.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles/page/2#post-1013528 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 20:04:04 +0000 catgirl 1013528@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not a big fan of full-on country western style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles/page/2#post-1013521 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 19:59:02 +0000 Gaylene 1013521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, I think it's perfectly fine to not like a particular style category. To me it's much like saying I don't really like country music or sci fi films. It's nothing more than a personal preference, which says more about me than the category itself. And that preference doesn't mean that there aren't some C&amp;W songs or sci fi films that I've liked. It's just that, given an option, I skew more to opera and character-driven driven dramas. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles/page/2#post-1013518 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 19:51:07 +0000 Joan Joplin 1013518@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Florence, I think that's part of why I like styles on others that I don't like on myself. The broadness of any style descriptor allows people to choose the parts that work for them. This allows for more or less subtlety, tailors it to the person's body type, allows for personal expression and so on. For example, I like boho, but I like very hippie stuff and the more "ladylike" feminine boho stuff I see for sale doesn't work for me at all. But Gaylene's example of grunge was a good one. She doesn't like faded jeans, and thus, most grunge looks aren't going to be her thing. This is a very general question, though, you're right. There are definitely always going to be exceptions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013516 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 19:38:44 +0000 Vildy 1013516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Looking at the goth photos - I could totally do #5 - and thinking about the various full blown retro looks, I think it's often the hair and makeup that drive the styles home.&nbsp; I would have my usual hair and makeup as a counterpoint to all the black textural stuff. But that's how I wear ladylike looks, too. I'm not polished so I wear them in a thrown on, offhand way - these are<i> just</i> my clothes I have in my closet. Or maybe for me part of the draw is exactly working against them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013505 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 19:16:59 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1013505@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Joan J - I feel like part of the problem with saying I don't like a style is something you touched on in your most recent reply. A lot of style descriptors are broad. Like in your example of retro vs pin-up. To an outsider, it might all look similar, where people wearing these things are thinking, "I'm totally wearing classic 50s - nothing like that rockabilly girl over there." </p> <p>Example: I've heard a lot of people say they don't like goth fashion. Images #1-2 are of&nbsp;someone I consider a personal fashion hero; VictorianKitty. Her Sophistique Noir blog is to me proof positive that goth can be elegant and beautiful and grown up. Images #3-5&nbsp;&nbsp;turned up on a google search for "goth." So which of these is someone&nbsp;referring to when they say, "Goth fashion is ugly?" I'd assume #4, which I can't say anything good about either, but my point is that it's tough to dislike a style when there are so many nuances.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013502 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 19:01:10 +0000 Gaylene 1013502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good point, Joan. A pet peeve, like showing bra straps, or wearing gear or scrubs constantly, isn't quite the same as recoiling from a defined style category.</p> <p>For what it's worth, my least favorite style is definitely punk/grunge, but, like you, I've seen some of the forum members embrace this style and look great in it. For me, however, I disliked this look when it first came out in the 90s and, after seeing its various incarnations for the past few decades, I still find it unappealing. My dislike probably means no one on the forum should ever take my comments on an outfit with distressed jeans without a huge grain of salt, because, despite what I write, inside I'm really begging them to take off those ugly jeans. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013499 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 18:47:00 +0000 Joan Joplin 1013499@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cciele, I originally meant style as in "boho" or "rocker." Preferably a little more specific, for example not all retro is pin-up, which was my example. You could wear red lipstick, a skirt, and a nipped-in waist and not be pin-up IMO. But add pin-curls, the complete makeup look, and so on and you veer into pin-up territory. But people seem to need a space to vent about their pet peeves, styles or not, so I say let em! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013252 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 02:43:31 +0000 dizzys 1013252@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>^ don't think I have seen the lolita look in public.... Although, maybe I have and I did not realize that is what I was seeing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013244 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 02:35:23 +0000 Echo 1013244@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"Lolita style" in public. Yes, I realize it is often done in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way or for cosplay purposes, but the whole idea is just a little twisted to me. People are SO hyper-sensitive about an actual little girl wearing anything that might be viewed as intended for adults. Remember the thread about the photo of the little girl wearing her mother's high heels? People go to extremes not to sexualize little girls (for good reason, might I add).&nbsp;</p> <p>However, it is somehow okay to dress a grown woman up to LOOK like a little girl, sexualize her to the extreme and see that as okay? Of course it is different, as a grown woman can make choices for herself and presumably any interaction would be mutually consentual, but the idea that someone wants to sexualize being a little girl disturbs me. And wouldn't that person prancing around in public conceivably excite a pedophile in a similar way as an actual young girl wearing high heels or makeup or some such?</p> <p>Look at it this way. Beating puppies to death - everyone would agree - is a horrid thing to do. To take pleasure from it would be monstrous. But what if someone didn't ACTUALLY hurt any REAL puppies, but instead enjoyed relaxing/having fun by using a very realistic video game to beat puppies to death. Would that suddenly make it okay?&nbsp;</p> <p>Let me make clear that I am mostly okay with whatever makes a person happy behind closed doors. Fetishes are none of my business, and whatever goes on between consenting adults is fine by me. But crossing some of those lines in public - especially when the "real thing" is so extremely tabboo - is disturbing to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013235 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 02:15:50 +0000 DonnaF 1013235@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stiff elastic waist mom jeans with stitching outlining the front pockets.&nbsp; My mom had at least three or four pairs hanging in her closet, new with tags, so maybe even she couldn't bear to wear them or have them hemmed.&nbsp; I snuck them out of her house before I gagged too much.&nbsp; Even 88 year olds shouldn't be allowed to wear such things.&nbsp; I would get her ponte pants, but she doesn't seem to wear black any more.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013215 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 01:14:11 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1013215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with Tracina--I think I dislike certain fashions, and then suddenly I'll see one done in a way that makes me realize I actually don't dislike it. Can't think of an example off-hand, but I hesitate to dismiss entire classes of styles.</p> <p>I was standing in line at the coffee shop yesterday behind a woman wearing a little black pullover knit dress in a chic style. It had a ballet neck in front and a low cowl in back, with a strap across the back neck to hold the shoulders in place. It looked so nice, <i>except</i> she was wearing a plain old worn-out looking bra, with back strap and hooks highlighted back-and-center framed by that otherwise lovely cowl. I kept feeling like I needed to look away, because I was seeing something I shouldn't be seeing at 9 a.m. in the coffee line! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013211 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 01:00:13 +0000 cciele 1013211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I guess it depends on what you mean by style. I guess I see some peeves not so much as a style issue (style, meaning bombshell, urban, country, a particular style of dress) but more of a hygiene/fit/appropriateness issue.</p> <p>That being said, I enjoy all clothing styles from all eras but like to see them worn in the appropriate setting with the appropriate fit </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013210 Sun, 25 Aug 2013 00:45:06 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1013210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Betti -&nbsp;Words on butts are bad enough, but I went to school with a girl when that look was at its trendiest, and she had a pair of pants that made my flesh crawl. She had skin-tight pink stretch pants, and scrawled right across her rear in metallic script&nbsp;were the words, "Daddy's Girl." Ick.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013194 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 23:58:50 +0000 Betti 1013194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Words on butts.<br />Pajamas as clothing.<br />Matchy-matchy old lady outfits. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013188 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 23:36:35 +0000 Anonymous 1013188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sexually suggestive slogans on tops. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013185 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 23:32:10 +0000 Wendi1984 1013185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't care for pajama pants in public, either. Or any kind of pants that are so long they drag on the floor and get ratty-looking. I also don't like bra straps showing (not an accidental glimpse, but an outfit where there's no way the straps were ever hidden and it's being worn like that on purpose). (Does that make me sound like an old fogey?)</p> <p>I also still have a problem with sequins on tank tops. Don't ask me why. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013177 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 23:16:29 +0000 lyn* 1013177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Safari suits - unless your'e on a Safari. And only if you're like Princess Anne. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013170 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 22:59:47 +0000 dlb1960 1013170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmmm. Safari suits. Are they still around? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013114 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 20:58:19 +0000 Day Vies 1013114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really can't stand matched denim outfits, jacket +jeans in the exact same color (turquoise anyone????). It is so unimaginative and juvenile. The guy that I had my second to last first date with wore a matched denim outfit in tan with a coordinating sweater and skull cap. Needless to say there was no second date.&nbsp; Grunge looks come in a close second although that was all the rage as I graduated from high school. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013107 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 20:48:09 +0000 shedev 1013107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Everything on IKs list, pajamas in public, sagging, very undersized clothing on very oversized people. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013064 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 19:25:40 +0000 jlyns 1013064@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Funny how one person's dislike is another's love.&nbsp; I've been watching the Bletchley Circle series on PBS and have been longing for pleated Katharine Hepburn pants.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013044 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 18:47:19 +0000 dizzys 1013044@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>^ I can second the hate for skin tight colored stretch skinny jeans....they never look appropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013040 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 18:43:00 +0000 Vildy 1013040@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really have an aversion to skin tight stretch skinny jeans and particularly in colors. It's not that I think anyone looks bad in them, just that I can't get over the idea of how vulgar they look to me. The way people feel about leggings as pants is how I feel about these. Skin tight pants or catsuits seem better suited to skin diving or other sports where they're practical. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013036 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 18:35:50 +0000 rachylou 1013036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually hate <a href="http://www.spiegel.com/newport-news/shop-by-category/view-all/index.html" rel="nofollow">Newport News</a> styling. I mean, I love the catalog, but somehow the styling drives me nuts. It's like it's always almost there, but just misses the mark. They do something to make sure there's not a trace of character left behind. I hate it in real life, on others and myself. It's kinda... chico-tastic but without the personality. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013034 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 18:33:35 +0000 dizzys 1013034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, I did not realize pinup vintage gives people such a stink eye. I wish I could wear pinup better.....I would love to shoot for Joan Holloway but my personality is more June Cleaver so I go for sweet over bad ass... I love the look on my self as I feel like I dont belong in this era.....the rockabilly stuff is fun, but I don't like wearing scull/bones. </p> <p>Style that are a no go for me...extreme neon. It hurts my eyes and reminds me of the '80's </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1013028 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 18:14:46 +0000 Joan Joplin 1013028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That happens to me too, Tracina. That's why I mentioned that I dislike pin-up stuff on myself but sometimes like it on others. I think part of it is how well something fits your personality, and thus, whether or not it feels like a costume. How it fits your body is another important part - it works if it looks like it was made for you, if the fit is off, it looks like you're playing dress-up. I think I dislike pin-up styles out of stubbornness - "they highlight your waist! They look great on hourglasses! If you have a big bust you 'fill it out' well!" And it also doesn't work with my personality - I'm casual, I'm earthy, etc </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1012968 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 16:29:16 +0000 Anonymous 1012968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There is a lot in the name of fashion and expression that I dislike and yet I am very often amazed that in every example of my dislike I"ll see someone pulling it off and looking amazing.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1012966 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 16:26:49 +0000 Laurinda 1012966@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since it was mentioned... I get weirded out by scrubs on medical folks as street wear -- aren't they supposed to be for clinic/hospital use? It makes me wonder if they are picking up 'street germs' or bringing 'hospital germs' outside. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/deal-breaker-styles#post-1012960 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 16:20:03 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1012960@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh, I'm with Angie on the workout gear as daily clothing look. Especially if it involves the sweatpants with the elastic in the ankle, with tube socks and grubby sneakers. Ack. &nbsp;I feel the same way about pajamas worn outdoors.&nbsp;I think if you're planning to leave the house, the least you can do is put on some real pants.&nbsp;</p> <p>Most of my peeves aren't related to clothing styles, but to fit. The teeny tiny low rise pants and the muffin top that accompanies them, the leggings I can see your business through, the VPL so severe I worry the wearer's&nbsp;rear will soon be cleaved into pieces by the elastic, etc. &nbsp;</p> <p>As styles go, the one other thing I can think of that I really dislike are the&nbsp;pre-made outfits that are often pushed on older women. You know, the sweatshirt with the kitten painted on it, and the matching pants? The dress with the matching vest?&nbsp;Almost anything sold as a set. It just robs the wearer of personality. And that makes me sad. </p>