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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: danger zones https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 20:52:52 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php shiny on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107819 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 17:20:56 +0000 shiny 1107819@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm also in the skirt camp! My waistline fluctuates way too much, even without weight gain. And this year I had weight loss (reaching, for me, my ideal skirt weight!) and then gained it all back and then some (reaching a weight that works for a couple of skirts I held on to, on purpose). Every now and then I do get in a mood to wear a skirt so I'm not tossing any of them out; I just don't need anymore than I already have.  And then there's the fuss factor of requiring a certain length top. Argh. Skirt tops + skirts take up too much room in valuable closet space.  The other danger zone at the moment is handbags. I have not been swapping all that much, not anything like I used to do. If I could find a replacement for the  black hobo I've been using the most, I will buy that. I also would not mind adding a new clutch, as I do get a lot of use out of my leopard clutch. But that's that. I am good to go for a long time here.  Janet on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107801 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:48:49 +0000 Janet 1107801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Amazing how many of us find skirts so problematic. donnat on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107784 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 16:33:13 +0000 donnat 1107784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Button downs, i am just too busty, they always gape. I keep trying as i love how they look on others. I have to just quit. Prints, yes, they call me too, but once home become orphans. Lower price point items, I am just not picky enough when the stakes arent that high. That means Forever 21, Joe Fresh, and thrifting. I love this thread Mo. Jeanie on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107657 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 08:01:20 +0000 Jeanie 1107657@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think I have a bunch but the ones that stand out are: 1) Prints - These always call to me when I am shopping.  They say "I am new and fun, buy me!".....so I buy them.  I don't know why I keep doing this, I rarely wear prints.   2) Jewely - Definite danger area here.  I love my jewelry collection but I really don't wear much jewelry anymore.  This doesn't stop me from wanting to buy more cool jewelry of course!  3) Dressy clothes - I have far too many dressy clothes.  This is due to career changes and a well thought out fantasy life.  I make a valiant effort to wear all these pretties but I do need to stop buying more. Scarlet on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107650 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 07:34:28 +0000 Scarlet 1107650@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, you should really wear your silk. I just launder mine in a bag on the hand wash program, and it's no big deal. Deborah on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107639 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 07:05:17 +0000 Deborah 1107639@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a great thread Mo and you have really got me thinking. My danger zones would be : Skirts: I rarely wear them, particularly in winter. Jackets: I do wear them, but have too many. Colourful or ornate necklaces: love them but they are not me Bracelets: don't wear them, much prefer a cuff or a solid bangle Almond Toe Flats: I wear flats infrequently. Dee on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107635 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 06:59:12 +0000 Dee 1107635@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ooh, this was an interesting thread. I defintiely make these mistakes too. Mine are: 1) Skirts. I find dresses easy to wear, either causual or dressy, but skirts I find myself fussing with all day. They ride up or otherwise don't stay in place well, and I think I've gotten ride of all of mine except for one summer denim and one jersey floorlength.  2) Button down shirts. If they fit in the waist, they're too never fit me in the bust. I feel like I should own some, but always feel stiff and uncomfortable in them, like I'm on my first every job interview or something. I currently have two left, and both of them are patterned. 3) Bright knits. I'm always attracted to vibrant colors, but that meant that for awhile, I had too many brights and nothing neutral to pair them with. I'm slowly focusing on fixing that. 4) Stiff blazers. Knit ones are ok, but the others feel too formal for my lifestyle, so I rarely wear them even when the occassion might call for it. Anonymous on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107631 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 06:48:44 +0000 Anonymous 1107631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Man, this has been a great read! Thanks Mo. For me it has to be skirts, hands down. I can't put my finger on it, but they are giving me fits lately. Even if they fit perfectly, pencil skirts feel very frumpy on me and not at all sexy secretary. Angie should have included me in her "how to de-bombshell a pencil skirt" post. Give it to Claire. Instant de-bombshell. Okay, so wearing flats with them could have something to do with it  Even though my volunteering stint is over and I have no apparent need to wear this shape of skirt, I keep gravitating to it. I guess the no-fuss, straight silhouette and frugality of fabric appeal to me. I packed away my denim, black and khaki colored ones for next summer and wondered if I would wear them again. Then I found this one at the Rack, a Hugo Boss pencil in this gorgeous greige melange (matched my hair) super light weight tropical wool, with a breathable lining. I got so excited; it was only $10! I justified it, purposing to one in and two out since it would negate my need for my khaki one (always a bit too light) and my black one (always a bit too dark). I got home, and it went with my other clothes really well, so I donated the other two skirts. After I played with it a while, I started to imagine where I might wear it. Hmmm, let's say, I'm driving hubs to the airport and plan on shopping downtown after....so I'll put on my new pencil skirt! Nope. Okay. I'm meeting the girls for coffee so I'll wear my super office-y pencil skirt. Yeah....no. All right, I'm going to run errands and grocery shop so I'll wear my designer, corporate looking.....ummmm.....yeah, you get the picture. I returned it and now I'm down to the one denim one. But for some reason (the denim, no doubt) that one never looks occupationally confused.  So then I bought a black cotton full skirt at Goodwill the other day, thinking I just need casual, and not office-y but that was just wrong on me. Hubs choked on his coffee when I sashayed into the room in it. The girly vibe just does not fly on me anymore. Not sure there is any skirt that is really going to sing to me next summer. Now dresses, that's something I'd like to explore.  Mellllls on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107338 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 22:17:39 +0000 Mellllls 1107338@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Purses. I don't change mine as often as I should. Anonymous on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107335 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 22:16:39 +0000 Anonymous 1107335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great thread! I think I have a bunch of danger zones. I'm probably forgetting a few, but here are some: Heeled pumps for work: For some reason, I don't wear these as often as I think I will. I'll gladly wear other types of heeled shoes, as well as flats or wedges with the same basic shape as a pump, but my pumps usually feel a little frumpier or fussier than other options. It probably doesn't help that I look for pumps that will be comfortable all day, which may push them towards frump to begin with. And, even worse, I keep looking in my closet and seeing a bunch of pumps I don't wear much, which means I rarely feel like I can justify buying heels I really love for dressier occasions. Not that I need that many for my life, but I could probably use more than I have. Non-neutral camisoles and layering tops: I have a bunch but, most of the time, I'd really rather grab a layering top in the most obvious neutral and concentrate on some other part of my outfit than worry about what the perfect color is for something that just peeks out a little at my neckline. Practical-seeming blazers/jackets: I actually posted a K/T thread with some of these a few days ago! I don't wear blazers much but, every so often, I'll decide I should and buy one that checks all the boxes - versatile color and style, fits well, and is a good deal for the quality. Then … it sits. I think I have been getting better about avoiding this lately though. At least on the buying-new-ones end of things. Anything casual that needs a belt to look good: I'm way too comfort-oriented to deal with the feeling of a belt around my waist if I'm not at work or going somewhere where I want to look especially nice. And I really relate to Jules with regard to the dangers of shopping at the ultra-low end. In particular, this sounds familiar: "My epiphany was that I need to shop higher end more often not because I necessarily appreciate higher quality but because I am so much more careful with my selections when I am spending real money." With me, it's even worse when I'm shopping somewhere cheap that also involves a lot of filtering to find something I like for myself (e.g, at Forever 21, sometimes at consignment stores). When I've gone through a lot of effort to yield one thing that works, it's really hard to tell whether that one thing is amazing or just sort of serviceable. Lyn D. on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107297 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 21:32:40 +0000 Lyn D. 1107297@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Necklaces- I too buy but don't wear. Dresses and skirts- I am a pant person through and through! Multiple low-end items. Thanks Mo- good timing for 2014 budget planning. Mary Beth (formerly LBD) on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1107088 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 17:15:52 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1107088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hah!   What a great thread! High Heels.   I have more gorgeous heels right now than I have days in the week to wear them.   And the reality is, I only wear heels maybe 2-3 times a week.  I may replace my beloved black Guess pointy-toe pumps soon, because they've been resoled once and are looking kind of battered again.   I have my eye on a pair of Theory pumps I've been stalking on eBay Black Skirts.   I love them!   But I just did a count, and I have eleven black skirts.   Eleven.   Actually, I shouldn't buy any more pencil-shape skirts in general, I have plenty at the moment. Black Dresses.   Anything I buy now would just keep me from wearing what I already have, and I love what I have. Novelty/Statement jackets.   I have a weakness for these, but I don't really reach for them like I should.  I tend to fall back on my trusty Danier leather moto. Crisp Button-up shirts.   These are always on my danger list, although I have been very good this past year about not acquiring more.   I currently own two, they've each been worn once.   Boo.   I keep looking at them and thinking, 'another time'. Jules on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1106428 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 21:12:20 +0000 Jules 1106428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I had a mini-epiphany this morning trying to get dressed, thanks in part to this thread... My danger zone is low-end/fast fashion stores, where I do 90% of my shopping. The danger is that I buy stuff that isn't quite good enough. I talk myself into ho-hum items because they are cheap and I figure the risk is low. Then I regret regret regret! So allow me to categorize for my own benefit: DANGER WILL ROBINSON DO NOT ENTER: Reitman's. It's just not for me anymore. I have absolutely no favourites from there. The latest jeans I bought  aren't even long enough (what is with that??? At 5'6 and size 12 I usually have to hem!). EXERCISE CAUTION: Joe Fresh. Lots of favourites from there including some that have stood the test of time -  but lots of failures as well. Tendancy to duplicate because IT'S JUST SO CHEAP when I only really liked the first colour I picked up. NOT BAD: Cleo. A little more expensive than the above anyway, but with good sales and promotions. I like their knits, which seem quite good quality for the price and don't pill or fade quickly. Basics are OK. Have to be careful with prints and embellished stuff because it's not really me. My epiphany was that I need to shop higher end more often not because I necessarily appreciate higher quality but because I am so much more careful with my selections when I am spending real money. And now that I have more confidence in my style and what works with my existing stuff, I am less likely to make expensive mistakes, which was one of my fears. peacechick on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1106279 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 17:53:18 +0000 peacechick 1106279@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ For me: Heels-- especially slingbacks. I need to remember I can't wear those. And nothing that gives me blisters. Skirts: I love the look of skirts but I never wear them, especially as my waistline fluctuates all the time. And pencil skirts are hard to run around in, really. Button up Shirts: I almost never wear button up shirts anymore. Even if they don't gape, the collar rides back or something else nags me. I don't feel crisp or fabulous. Blazers: I love the look of blazers but they are a bit too dressy a look for me. I look overdressed when out with DH. Also, most of them make my neck look short. Delicate fabrics: when I am no longer a desperate MOTG maybe I will invest in these, but I am finding myself too tired to handwash silks and cashmere right now. lyn* on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1106238 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 17:05:17 +0000 lyn* 1106238@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Things from Anthropologie that are really ugly. I get this "OMG IT IS FROM ANTHROPOLOGIE" kick and really want things that are really ugly or don't work for me or my body type. Must. Stay. Away. From. Labels. Anonymous on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones/page/2#post-1106175 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 15:31:16 +0000 Anonymous 1106175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>This is fun! I've been doing well weeding out these items from my closet, but I do have to remind myself not to buy any more:</div><div> </div><div>Blazers: My movement feels restricted so I just won't wear them. I prefer cardigans. Maybe one day I will find a very soft knit blazer that will work for me. I do have one very pretty deep purple velvet blazer that a friend sent to me as a hand-me-down. Since it was free and happened to fit perfectly I've kept it and worn it as a light jacket in the fall.</div><div> </div><div>Skirts: I love dresses but have realized that skirts stress me out. Matching the right top to the skirt shape, pattern, waist, and hemline is just too much effort. I basically stick to two pants silhouettes, skinny and slight flare, and I'm more comfortable mixing my tops with pants. I have a handful of skirts, and they see limited wear. There's a few for date nights/barhopping, some long flowing vintage skirts that are easy in warm weather, and two fancy long winter skirts. I grew out of all my pencil skirts for work, but I wouldn't mind having one in a fun color for summer. My favorite was a bright orchid purple from The Limited. I definitely don't need more than 10 skirts though.</div><div> </div><div>High Heels: I am just not motivated to wear them anymore. A comfortable 1"-3.5" is tolerable for parties, dressy work outfits, etc. I gave all my especially high heels to my younger cousins since they still think it's fun to try them (and are shorter than I am). I just don't see the point of towering over my boyfriend when he is only a few inches taller - and I'm more comfortable in low shoes!</div><div> </div><div>Necklaces: Most of them go unworn. In summer I'm often too hot, and in winter I'm often too cold (so I'm wearing a scarf instead). Earrings and rings are my preferred jewelry.</div><div> </div><div>Something I thought I would not wear, but now I do: 3/4 or elbow-length sleeve tops and dresses in winter. In the past my office has been too cold to wear anything but warm, longsleeved sweaters and dresses. For some reason this year they are really overheating us so my varying sleeve lengths are being worn all the time. </div> Jaime on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105825 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 03:02:41 +0000 Jaime 1105825@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a huge problem for me. I have stopped buying high heels for my fantasy life but it was tough, and am trying to focus on what I actually wear most of the times but have a hard time ignoring interesting coats (coat season just started here like yesterday), and skirts (mostly only worn a few times a month), among other things. DonnaF on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105816 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 02:54:09 +0000 DonnaF 1105816@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sandals; my feet run very cold and it's a rare day when I'm able or want to wear sandals from morning to night.  Scarves; I have hundreds but tend to use only a dozen or so at most.  Colored tights; sale or not, who really needs two pairs of orange ones?  Anything that comes in multiple colors; I tend to want to buy more than one.  The latest is leather fingerless gloves in both silver and gold studded versions. Aida on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105778 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 02:20:43 +0000 Aida 1105778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great thread and great replies! I have been mulling this one over for a while now, but I'm not set on my list yet. Lots of food for thought here though, I guess I'll have to mull a bit further. Offhand, skirts and oversized things are the top culprits. Marley on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105675 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 00:28:10 +0000 Marley 1105675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, great thread Mo!  I hadn't really thought about my wardrobe like this before, but just off the top of my head are the following: 1)  colored tank tops - I no longer wear them solo for tops in the summer time, so only need a few for layering purposes - and only need them in white, nude, and black!  (all of those pretty colors are sooo seductive though!) 2)  BF jeans - unless they are gray or black  - I really want a pair of gray and a pair of black - but, no more blue denim!  (I've already got 3!) 3)  Black booties - I've got waaaay too many and not enough days to wear them.  (I would really like a pair of navy-blue ones though - and would be willing to purge one of my black pairs for the perfect navy-blue ones.) 4)  Like Carter, any washable item that is then going to need to be ironed.  Instead of ironing it, I just let it sit on top of the dryer until we've moved onto another season and it is no longer appropriate to wear!  (Yes, I'm lazy!) 5)  I went on a pullover sweater binge this fall - I hadn't purchased any for several years - and so I went a little crazy with them - and now, I've got too many - I actually very seldom wear them in the winter because its never very cold here and besides, I'm always hot!  So, no more pullover sweaters. 6)  Scarves - good grief, I'm embarrassed at the amount of scarves I own - and almost never wear.  And yet, when I make a stop at a place like Target, or Loehmanns, I am immediately enticed by all of the pretty scarves and before I know it I've bought another one to add to my collection - and I almost never wear them! 7)  Necklaces - especially "statement" necklaces.  I like them, but I don't wear them - and yet . . . what can I say?  Some that I currently own, I haven't worn in years - and I always look at them when out shopping.  No. More. Necklaces. Ok - I think that's it for now!  Thanks Mo! thinkingfish on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105619 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 23:07:36 +0000 thinkingfish 1105619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Structured pieces: blazers, suits, straight/pencil skirts... I am a programmer so if I wear a cardigan and pants I already stand out among logo tees, don't need to push it any further. Any dress/skirt that I cannot ride a bike with. I have two skirts like this, and I wear them about twice a year. The one dress that's tight at the bottom has been recently donated after a whole year of no use. I do wear skirts/dresses with woollen tights in winter a lot, though, they are both more comfortable and more commute-friendly than skinny jeans, contrary to many's belief. I love ponte and knits. Silk. I hate hand washing items. I wear cashmere with a tee underneath to avoid washing them too often. I'm lazy. Anything that needs ironing. Floaty summer dresses/shorts: the weather in San Francisco is warm enough for bare legs maybe a week per year. amiable on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105615 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 22:59:37 +0000 amiable 1105615@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great topic Mo - I need to do this thinking. Off the cuff, I've noticed lately that I have LOTS of jackets, and rarely wear them. I also have a lot more shoes than I wear.  And more jeans than I can reasonably wear. I'm also overly attracted to sweaters, which are so bulky they fill up the drawer quickly.   Yep - I'd call those my most obvious danger zones - sweaters, shoes, jeans and jackets. Thistle on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105601 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 22:41:18 +0000 Thistle 1105601@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Blazers/Jackets - I lvoe them in theory but I rarely wear them. I love how they dress up an outfit, the structure they give, but they just aren't comfortable. And when I do wear them, they end up hung up once I am at my desk. Skirt - I have more than enough. They look good on me, but I don;t reach for them in the bitter cold as much as I wish I did! Mo on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105584 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 22:11:06 +0000 Mo 1105584@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ah, yes, there are plenty of things I stopped buying (hi five to Tracina and all office wear).  It's more the things I find I still buy but don't actually wear. Caro in Oz on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105582 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 22:02:14 +0000 Caro in Oz 1105582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Heels, cardigans, skirts & most man-made fibres are the obvious ones for me & I've pretty much stopped buying them.  I want a small versatile wardrobe. So the big one for me is finding my balance between classic items & more avant garde ones. Making sure they all play together is my big goal, because mixing them up hasn't always worked. This is a work in progress. Great post :) Anonymous on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105581 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 22:00:20 +0000 Anonymous 1105581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great topic Mo. Fancy strappy sandals. Blazers Trousers Any shoe that is too office like or lady like. Actually anything made for corporate office ladies. I love the look but it will never suit (haha- get it?) me. rachylou on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105545 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 21:35:28 +0000 rachylou 1105545@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I should never buy another woven, button shirt ever again... E on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105524 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 21:21:24 +0000 E 1105524@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh great topic! I'm pretty good at wearing most of my closet but definitely have a few of these areas. Mine are: Scarves. I love them in theory, but in practice I have a lot of tops with decorative yokes/necklines, and I don't like to cover them up. Blazers. In my mind they're not as comfy as cardigans so I only wear them when I'm going out, but I spend most of my life at home. I need to start wearing them at home to see if they're truly uncomfortable or if it's just a brain block thing. Long sleeve heavy-ish cotton button down shirts. I'm good with my silk button downs, but I don't seem to reach for my cotton ones. I'm trying to figure out why, but until I do no more are allowed into the closet! I only do woven summer dresses, not jersey, because of the cling factor. And if I owned a collection of heels that would be a danger zone too, but I know myself well enough that almost all of my shoes are flats! :) I wear lots of silk blouses and just wash them and hang them to dry, I even stain treat them if I get something on them. Some change texture after the first wash, some don't, but I love silk too much not to wear it & don't really believe in dry cleaning. Oh and I like both silk textures so it's not a huge deal to me! Mo on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105520 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 21:18:13 +0000 Mo 1105520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm nodding along with a lot of you.  For me, it helps to think it backwards once in a while.  I mean, obviously at some point I (we?) thought these items would be a good thing to get, otherwise we would not have bought them, right?  But for various reasons that crop up, we discover they aren't right for us.  Argh with life making me learn all these lessons and stuff ha ha ha. unfrumped on "danger zones" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/danger-zones#post-1105515 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 21:12:21 +0000 unfrumped 1105515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, this is a great thread and great way to improve decisions. I hear you on jersey--it is so unforgiving. Flat woven fabrics can work better. For me, button-front shirts! For whatever reason I have the poison eye for these on me but I like how they look on others and in theory, so I buy more. I can use a very select few for a couple of specific outfits--only work with certain pants or skirts. Also prefer covered placket or half-placket. Go figure. I'm a bee for certain colors but am learning to limit in order to have more re-mixable and workable wardrobe. Am giving up red in favor of burgundies and plums. Yet, I still like dark reds and just bought a merino sweater in a flattering red. Then when trying it out, I can see it would nudge me me toward a different color scheme from what I've got, and so I'm taking it back. It's not that I can't ever wear that, but that that particular item would not really move things forward and so I didn't need to put the $$ there. (Also the fit was off, so there's that, but still it was interesting to see how the color didn't "fit" either.)