https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 12 May 2026 08:11:15 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889190 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 18:13:53 +0000 Beth Ann 889190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It's interesting how clothing, while it seems quite unimportant in times of crisis, can help us feel ready and confident for these moment.&nbsp; <br /><br />I'm sure your DF's energy was buoyed by your presence!&nbsp; What a blessing to have this unexpected time together.<br /><br />And I know exactly how you feel about YLF!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889186 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 18:08:31 +0000 Transcona Shannon 889186@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What a beautiful and thoughtful post Adelfa. &nbsp;I'm so glad your Dad is doing better and how wonderful that you were there for him. Those are the moments in life that really count. Glad to hear that the stress of packing for this situation was eased by the knowledge you've gained through YLF. This place really is quite remarkable, isn't it?<br /><br />I hope your Dad continues to do well. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889177 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 17:58:43 +0000 rachylou 889177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so glad, Adelfa!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889139 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 17:33:15 +0000 AJ 889139@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So glad that your dad is feeling better.<br /><br />Luv the domino effect of how your command of your wardrobe and style allowed you&nbsp;pack quickly and&nbsp;be there for&nbsp;your father and make a new connection with your niece.<br /><br />I agree with your sentiments of the awesomeness of YLF and the forum members.&nbsp; Thank you so much for sharing your recent events.&nbsp; Feeling nice warm fuzzies right now.&nbsp; : ) https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889104 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 17:05:12 +0000 Isis 889104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What a great post.&nbsp; I loved reading about your dad and his cooking and getting better, and your niece's reaction to your clothes.&nbsp; Wonderful that YLF got you to this place!&nbsp; I hope your dad continues in good health!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889042 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 16:18:39 +0000 rae 889042@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, I'm so glad your dad is doing better - and especially glad that you got to enjoy some more happy times together. I love that your clothes contributed to the good times and not the stress. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889031 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 16:14:12 +0000 Tina.b 889031@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so relieved to hear that your Dad is doing better! How special your time together sounded. And I know looking and feeling attractive is such an important part of the equation in the midst of a stressful situation. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889025 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 16:07:44 +0000 Susie 889025@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you for sharing your thoughts; they brought tears to my eyes. This really is an amazing community. Fashion is fun to share but the support and friendship is the real beauty here. <br /><br />I'm glad your Dad is doing better. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889016 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 16:00:27 +0000 Angie 889016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sweet, Aldelfa. We wish you and your family strength. GREAT news about Dad. Thanks for posting this thoughtful and inspiring thread. (((HUGS))). You take care. xo<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-889013 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 15:58:49 +0000 K. Period. 889013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, that was lovely! I'm very glad that your dad is doing so much better. &nbsp;<br /><br />I know exactly what you mean about the wardrobe. &nbsp;It is an amazing relief to know that you have everything taken care of on the clothes front. &nbsp;the right clothes for a situation seem so trivial, but they are a huge part of what makes us feel comfortable and "ourselves." &nbsp;Yeah for a working wardrobe!&nbsp;<br /><br />BTW, had no idea you were a former Spokanite too. &nbsp;So much fun to bump into people on the forum. (I was born and grew up there.) Wave hello to the stubbly wheat fields and gorgeous Ponderosa pines for me. &nbsp;:) &nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888889 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 13:48:32 +0000 pil 888889@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sounds like you were just what the doctor ordered! How terrific that your wardrobe was so stylish and cooperative. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888876 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 13:37:38 +0000 hedgiehog 888876@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, what a heartfelt post! So glad your Dad is doing well. Isn't it nice just to be able to spend time with loved ones making memories? It is fantastic that you were able to throw things into a case and get going? Thanks for reminding us of the importance of&nbsp;YLF and all the fabulous members. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888807 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 11:22:49 +0000 Mona 888807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So happy that your dad is doing better and you were able to spend some time with him. I agree with your thoughts about packing a suitcase in a hurry. What a nice complement from your&nbsp;niece&nbsp;that you are more hip than she is.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888796 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 10:42:14 +0000 Karie 888796@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ That's wonderful that you got to spend quality time with your dad and other members of your family. Your father is lucky to have such a caring daughter.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888792 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 10:39:42 +0000 Ornella 888792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, towards the end of your post I could hardly read it, the letters became blurry. I still&nbsp;have a lump in my throat. Every time when I read someone's expression of&nbsp;happiness&nbsp;and gratitude that YLF exists, I feel overpowering mix of the same&nbsp;emotions and yet again feel&nbsp;so privileged&nbsp;to have found this place and so many wonderful, eloquent, wise and beautiful women who feel free to be here what they are and give themselves to this community unreservedly.<br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and the very special&nbsp;breakfast with us. I am sure your father has as sweet memories of the precious days he had spent&nbsp;with you as you do. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888788 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 10:31:41 +0000 Raisin 888788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Glad you felt good about what you were wearing, and even happier to hear your dad seems to be doing well! &nbsp;Great that you got to see him and spend some time together. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888778 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 10:08:58 +0000 goldenpig 888778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa , I'm so glad your father is Ok and that you were able to spend some time with him. And glad that you were able to dress for the occasion and look hip too! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888775 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 10:02:00 +0000 Anonymous 888775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am glad your Dad is ok and you got to spend some quality time together! Looking great was just icing on the cake too! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888770 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 09:34:43 +0000 Anonymous 888770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you for sharing your thoughts Adelfa and I agree wholeheartedly about YLF.<br /> I'm so glad that you had a lovely time with your father. Every bit of time we spend with our families is precious isn't it? https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888762 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:36:23 +0000 anne 888762@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, I am glad the crisis is over with your Dad and that you got to spend some valuable time with him. And what a relief you could easily pull together a wardrobe for the trip!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888760 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:33:03 +0000 lyn67 888760@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is such a relief, to be able to spend some quality time with our beloved ones. Happy to hear your DF is feeling good and you had&nbsp; some joy together, and also &nbsp;time to speak about the important stuff, too. There are so many things I would like to speak/ask/tell to my&nbsp;dear&nbsp;late Father, but unfortunatelly there is &nbsp;no more opportunity for that...:-( https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888759 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:26:26 +0000 harmonica 888759@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you for sharing you thoughts of life, wardrobe and dressing. I'm so glad your dad is ok for now and that you were able to spend these days with him. I'm sure he treasure your talks and drives. The small things do matter. Also love how you frame the impact of a wardrobe that capture your needs. That way you were able to direct your attention to what really is important. <br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888754 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 07:20:42 +0000 Hil 888754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Love this! Glad that your dad is OK! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888753 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 06:56:14 +0000 Deborah 888753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, what lovely sentiments. &nbsp;I am so glad to here your dad is ok and you spent some real quality time together. And I can imagine that having a cohesive workable wardrobe took some of the stress away from being away from home at short notice. &nbsp;YLF is an amazing community and it's lovely to have you here as a part of it. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888751 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 06:53:01 +0000 Sheila 888751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, I love what you're saying! You are blessed to have had those special days with&nbsp;your Dad...and to carry all this confidence inside you during a visit that&nbsp;might have turned out differently. Yes, this is quite an amazing community and thank you for reminding us all of how special it is.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/crisis-clothing-and-confidence#post-888748 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 06:43:49 +0000 Adelfa 888748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So two doctors indicated in the middle of last week that my 80-year-old dad was close to death. So I took an unplanned trip to Spokane, spending a 4-day weekend there. Let me say immediately that Dad suddenly got a lot better the day I got there, and we had a great time going out to eat, taking scenic drives, and talking about important things. He even cooked me breakfast (pictured).&nbsp;<br /><br />But as I'm sure many of you have found over and over, it's such a comfort to have enough command of one's wardrobe to be able to pack in a hurry for a few days in another climate. In a carry-on!&nbsp;I even dreamed up an appropriate outfit in which to go to my brother's quite sartorially conservative&nbsp;church. While retaining enough style that my 16-year-old niece said, "I have a hip aunt." (For a moment I thought she was talking about my sister.) "I think you're hipper than I am," she continued.<br /><br />Every day of my trip&nbsp;I put on my clothes and I knew they were appropriate and attractive. I hadn't forgotten anything. I was warm enough (it snowed!). I felt confident that my dad, who always likes me to look nice, would enjoy how I looked. (Funny, for years I rebelled against this and tried to be what I thought of as "natural.")<br /><br />I wasn't on the forum at all, but I thought of you all every day. I felt your support and I felt so happy at how we help each other respond constructively to the societal mandates every woman experiences. I'm home and Dad's okay for now. Thanks to Angie and to&nbsp;each one of you who read my posts and whose posts I read and who make up this community.