https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 16 Apr 2026 01:39:36 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-896009 Tue, 02 Apr 2013 13:02:35 +0000 annaj 896009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ She is gorgeous! I think the look book was a great idea! I might have to do the same for my daughter!! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-895964 Tue, 02 Apr 2013 11:21:05 +0000 anne 895964@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ We've bobbed before too!! In fact we were looking at her preprimary pictures when she was 5 and she was bobbed then. And 6 months ago she had a longer shoulder length cut. She isn't keen on another one but I sure am!<br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-895954 Tue, 02 Apr 2013 10:13:03 +0000 jayne 895954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh we did the BOB!&nbsp; I gave her a choice at about age 5, learn to tolerate the hair brushing, do it herself, or cut it off and avoid the agony.&nbsp; SHE choose the short hair and adorable she was! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-895850 Tue, 02 Apr 2013 04:37:26 +0000 anne 895850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks everyone. Rachylou, she likes #3 and #4 the best. Not sure about the coloured stockings with the pink dress - it is hard to get pinks that look good together. Oh and she needs a LOT of help to brush/ do her hair. I keep threatening a bob in fact!<br /><br />The weather has gone warm again, but we kept out a couple of summer outfits for her to wear so they are having a last hurrah.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-895376 Mon, 01 Apr 2013 20:56:25 +0000 Glory 895376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Your DD is adorable and what a love for doing the photo shoot. Her closet looks so wonderfully organized and tidy. I love all of the ensembles that she has tried.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-895351 Mon, 01 Apr 2013 20:32:08 +0000 rachylou 895351@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Back from crazy Easter weekend... Thank you for bumping the thread, Anne!<br /><br />Your daughter is so pretty and cute! Only seven? So even cuter! Hehe ;&gt; Yes, at seven, I'd definitely say kids still need help picking outfits out in a basic way. I'm sure at that age I still didn't understand there being any need to brush my hair, lol.<br /><br />Anyways, I love the lookbook. So much fun! The outfits are great. #3 and 4 have <i>a lot</i> of flair. A couple of white / black tees or shirts is a great idea for tying things together. I wonder how the stripey leggings would look with the pink dress... I think the pink dress could also work well with colored stockings. Well done! Which is DD's fave?<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894968 Mon, 01 Apr 2013 12:12:19 +0000 anne 894968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks Amiable<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894798 Mon, 01 Apr 2013 02:24:48 +0000 amiable 894798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Looks really lovely!&nbsp; Well done!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894750 Mon, 01 Apr 2013 01:09:42 +0000 anne 894750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Gingko - yes I certainly will have to check those drawers. She has a tendency to just drop them, dirty or not, into her PJ's drawer, for example!<br /><br />One thing I forgot to mention above, that was my MIL's idea, was to rearrange her drawers so she has a "going out" drawer (share with underwear and hose) and a "home" drawer. She already had a "school uniform" drawer.<br /><br />Jayne your daughter sounds like my older daugher. She has a clear style and I think I could buy for her and leave it up to her to put together. When a bag of handed down clothes arrives, she can easily pick out just what suits her and leave the rest. Mind you she loves going shopping too, and last year I gave her clothing money for a birthday present, so she could choose herself, and what she bought was different to what I would have bought for her.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894577 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 20:48:59 +0000 jayne 894577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Good for you! &nbsp;Great to get that started and have a plan, and a limited one so you should be able to keep full control.<br /><br />Way back you asked if I bought my daughters clohtes, and yes I did. &nbsp;Hand me downs rarely worked for her, so I see you do have a special problem there. &nbsp;I used to know my daughters taste pretty well and could buy to it and she wore most. &nbsp;But now she changes with the season and I cannot keep up. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894482 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 17:51:56 +0000 Ginkgo 894482@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anne, yes, I did notice the denim skirt! &nbsp;So that will be useful for home but not school, right? &nbsp;Do you think you will still need to spot check her wardrobe a couple of times a week for sorting out her dirty clothes so she doesn't put them on again? &nbsp;Ha, I just remembered when I was about 12 and my mother telling me it was time to start using deodorant.<br /><br />How much easier for you that she was willing to pass on the clothes she'd outgrown. &nbsp;I bet she enjoyed the extra attention from you and your MIL! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894363 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 13:49:00 +0000 anne 894363@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Bumping, particularly for Rachylou<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894262 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 06:57:05 +0000 anne 894262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Gaylene, #3 is my favourite too<br /><br />Gingko - did you notice we found the denim skirt (and another one I didn't photograph)? Glad we inspired you!<br /><br />I forgot to say that DD displayed none of the hoarding behaviour she showed last year, and gave heaps to her sister and lots to the opshop (and some to the bin) and she readily gave&nbsp; up some of those pesky orphan skirts which was a relief!<br />The emptyish wardrobe is partly a function of packing all the summer clothes up ( more summer dresses than winter)<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894233 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 05:29:40 +0000 Ginkgo 894233@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So glad this worked out! &nbsp;Your daughter is so cute, and very patient to try on&nbsp;the different outfits; &nbsp;it looks like she now has a number of pieces to mix and match well together. &nbsp;I can't really make out the ruffles on the dark cardigan, it just looks black to me, but then I like ruffles on dark or neutral colors especially and am a proud member of Team Ruffles.<br /><br />Her wardrobe looks so organized, I'm inspired to get to work on mine! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd/page/2#post-894216 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 05:02:46 +0000 Gaylene 894216@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, Anne, your daughter is adorable. And I love the her outfits; from the pictures, she seems quite happy with them, too. Success all around!<br /><br />My favorite is #3, but #2 and #4 are right up there. Your daughter is a YLF star!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-894212 Sun, 31 Mar 2013 04:36:21 +0000 anne 894212@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ We did it yesterday!!&nbsp; Decided we need to buy her close fitting black and white tops to make some outfits work, but came up with some with what she had in there.<br /><br />Here are some combinations we thought were okay except that I am not sure about the cardi in pi c 4.What do you think? Too ruffly?<br /><br />Here is her wardrobe when we finished (and the shoe rack - we have found a pair of her sandals since then and her sneakers are drying out, but I'll get her something a bit dressier in the shoe department)<br /><br />Thanks for all the encouragement<br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-891370 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 14:39:14 +0000 anne 891370@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks Rachylou - Ok I'll start again<br /><br />Gingko - i do love denim skirts!! They have had many over the years and I found them so handy that I have bought one new for one of them.&nbsp; I can't remember if DD7 still has one (and I put it away with the winterclothes perhaps) or I purged it for being really shabby.&nbsp; But unfortunately a lot of her tops just don't seem to go well with skirts just based on style (as opposed to if it was a matter of pattern or colour, where a denim skirt would work well)<br /><br />As to "nudging" the giftgivers - not so good here. One (my MIL) is fairly good overall. I like it that she often goes for casual clothes, and whole outfits. And she is coming down for Easter so I am toying with the idea of asking to help with the whole project!<br /><br />The other giftgiver causes me angst. She is in her 50's and is an old family friend who lives near my Mum. She is unemployed&nbsp; (though very educated) with some mental illness problems and struggling financially. BUT she loves buying things from boutiques for my girls, and she buys what appeals to her.&nbsp; I have explicitly asked her in writing to stop buying clothes for DD7 or DD9 but only a month or so another parcel arrived with 2 outfits for them (Leaving DD5 (who wasn't included in my prohibition) feeling very left out). They like about a third of what she gives them and the rest are worn under sufferance (like if we are visiting her) or DD7 doesn't want to wear them because they are so "good" (ie an unworn white linen summer dress) or DD9 just doesn't wear them because she has a very clearly developed sense of style. Anyway I digress!<br /><br />Isis - school uniforms do simplify matters but I feel honestly bound to report that I was angry at her this morning because she "had no school tops" and I picked 4 up off her floor and had to pick out the least dirty (but still dirty) for her to wear and then she "had to wear sneakers" but had left them out overnight and they were soaked and we can't find her second pair. Helping out sometimes with the washing doesn't seem to have helped her to consider her clothes much. DD9 wears the same polo shirt all week, keeping it tidy and only washing it once, but DD7 needs daily changes.&nbsp; I did chuck a few things in the dryer for DD9&nbsp; - it is a lot of work at times for her.<br /><br />Their helping with the chores has started to pay off with DD9 but the others mostly take more work than it saves, but I hope it will benefit them in the long run. My idea is to rotate the jobs so they all have a go at each one.<br /><br />Rachy - she is seven.&nbsp; And yes the clothes do need sorting out - I guess I have sorted them every year, but I really think I need to work on combinations - previously I was just culling on the basis of fit, worn out/ stains and sheer quantity.&nbsp; I have restricted her quantity in the past.&nbsp; I guess it is like the difference between packing for a trip when you work out combinations and try them on, like some on YLF have done, and just thinking (as lazy me tend to do) " lets just take 4 bottoms, 6 tops, a dress and 3 pairs of shoes and then ending up not wearing half of them because they aren't quite right together.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-890270 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 16:23:16 +0000 rachylou 890270@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ ARgh! I can feel the sting of pain from here :(<br /><br />But definitely interested in hearing more of your thoughts. Wrangling with kid clothing takes study and plotting, lol!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-890168 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 15:03:11 +0000 anne 890168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ NOT AGAIN!!! <br /><br />I just wrote a long detailed response to Gingko, Isis and Rachylou and pressed the wrong button!!!&nbsp; LOST AGAIN!<br /><br />I need to go to bed. Will try again tomorrow :-(<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-889174 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 17:57:27 +0000 rachylou 889174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This IS an interesting topic. It occurs to me, Anne, that I don't know the age of your daughter. The issues will be different at 8, 12, and 16.<br /><br />In any case, your daughter sounds responsive and agreeable. I'm thinking it may not be so much a matter of choosing stuff to go together but an assortment of clothes (maybe a large one?) that could use some plain sorting out. Right now it may be a frustrating exercise to find stuff in the lot. Even if it's all put away, it just may be overwhelming. Gosh, my own wardrobe even after, what, three years of sorting is still too much.<br /><br />In the interim, because that takes time, a classic Angie is to hang a complete outfit on a single hanger so it's ready to go. You could do a couple of those and bypass all the work a lookbook would take.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-889028 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 16:10:34 +0000 Isis 889028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anne,&nbsp; it does sound like your daughter WOULD like more guidance.&nbsp; Also I was mistaken in thinking that she wanted to dress one way, and you wanted to correct her.&nbsp; Not so. <br /><br />Life sounds much simpler with school uniforms!&nbsp; I like your daughter's idea of reducing choice and creating a couple of tested outfits that you both like.&nbsp; Since it is just for church and one other outing a week, you could probably get away with only 3 outfits or so.&nbsp; It sounds like she is looking for that kind of simplicity!<br /><br />I am impressed with how much responsibility you've given your kids with laundry and individual chores!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888934 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 14:53:02 +0000 Ginkgo 888934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anne, I realize some of your daughter's clothes are hand-me-downs so you don't have control over them, but do you think with the gifts that you could gently nudge people into giving more simple and solid-colored items, like tees, so items would mix better. &nbsp;Would DD wear a denim skirt? &nbsp;If she likes that idea, maybe someone could do that as a birthday gift. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888886 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 13:46:04 +0000 anne 888886@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks for much for the input - am getting lots of diverse opionions<br /><br />Gaylene - I forgot to&nbsp; say that I am with you on having kids help with laundry, DD9 does all her own laundry, including her sheets, which is quite a big task (she has to change them about 5 times a week) and irons 3 garments a week.<br /><br />DD7, who is the subject of this thread, will have to do this too when she is 9 (currently she cleans the bathroom, and in theory, her own room). Sometimes when she wants extra money she hangs out, brings in and sorts washing for me, so she has some idea of what is involved)<br /><br />Lyn67 and Hil, thanks for sharing your experiences with your daughters<br /><br />Ornella, thanks for the detailed list. I share many of your preferences for a minimal wardrobe etc and like the wisdom in your suggestions of how to do things. Our girls have school uniforms too although they have a few different options, (dresses, shorts, skirts, pants, skorts, short and long sleeve top and a few varieties of tracksuit tops) and it is inevitable that some are the flavour of the month with certain ages. DD5 and DD7 share their clothes to some extent (as I haven't got around to/ am too stingy to buy many extras) and there are some arguments and laundry stress points.<br /><br />Laundry is a big deal with us, with 3 kids and lots of lined washing, so I can't go as minimal as I'd like. I am frequently running out of my own undies!!<br /><br />Oh, and DD loves checklist and reward charts - so that could work really well ! :-)<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888767 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 09:25:13 +0000 Ornella 888767@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, I have just skimmed over what's been written so far.&nbsp;Before I read all comments if I find the time, here are a few of my thoughts:<br /><br /><ol><li>If you are&nbsp;considering&nbsp;to do this, then i<b><i>t is worth a try</i></b>. Anything that puts order in your and DDs life and makes things easier is worth a go.</li><li><b><i>Involve her</i></b>, by all means, let her make 'decisions'. She'll not feel pressured to do as told&nbsp;if she has a say. Kids love the feeling of independence, as I'm sure you know.</li><li>Make a <b>checklist</b> for her of what she needs to pay attention to before leaving the house, put it on some visible place (exit door) and ask her go though it.</li><li>Invent some sort of&nbsp;<b><i>rewards system</i></b> for&nbsp;successfully&nbsp;going&nbsp;through&nbsp;the checklist and for&nbsp;every outfit she picks from the lookbook / every stress free morning&nbsp;or something else you find educational in this exercise.</li><li>Last but not least:&nbsp;<b>Limit the amount of her clothes you use</b> before you even begin. Honestly, that is the key. My son went to school for 1 year in England and the kids wore&nbsp;uniforms&nbsp;there. That literally saved my sanity: a) there was not much deciding because the choice was limited and b) he had little clothes but enough and there wasn't much washing/folding/putting away, even though he is a very active boy and came home muddy 3 days out of 5 :-)&nbsp;I have learnt valuable lesson from those days and since then have very little clothes in rotation for him, to the point that now 4 pairs of&nbsp;his&nbsp;trousers have holes and the patches&nbsp;on the knees and I must go shopping today asap. Little clothes for the kids, only what they need, I can't stress enough how that helped me put order in our lives. I apply the same logic to his clothes as I do to mine - limited color scheme, only the clothes that fit properly (as soon as he grows out of it, I put it to donation pile) and as little as possible.&nbsp;</li></ol> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888764 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:45:47 +0000 Hil 888764@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is such an interesting topic... I also have a 7 year old little girl and sometimes her choices drive me batty - especially when we have gone out and bought her new clothes, with her input and they never get worn because she would rather wear her old stuff. And mostly I just let her choose and *try* to buy things within a capsule, for want of a better description, so that clothes all sort of work together. The other thing with her clothing choices is how she LOVES to wear her older brother's things. She looks quite cute in her tomboy style, and again I just leave her to it unless we are going somewhere where what she is wearing matters. <br /><br />A couple of months ago we were going to a friend's barmitvah and I chose something specific for her to wear and she put on something else, which was entirely mismatched and inappropriate. We argued, I insisted that she changed&nbsp;and eventually she looked at herself in the mirror in her nice clothes&nbsp;and through her tears shouted at me "Why didn't you just tell me this looked nice!" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888761 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:35:57 +0000 lyn67 888761@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I may be in minority here, but I adviced my DD how to dress, up to these days, and she is almost 16:-). If I remember well, at&nbsp;7 she never ever had an interrest on what she was wearring, so I dressed her each day-and this was so important, as we don't have a uniform at school, so her outfits &nbsp;had to be comfy and up to date, for a good acceptance-as our good endoved environment was requiring it. <br />It's&nbsp; only for 3-4 years now, that she is interested in clothes and some fashion-including&nbsp; she is getting more and more stubborn in her choices, and now I will only&nbsp;help her shopping- regarding to price, quality&nbsp;and matching her existng wardrobe.&nbsp;When new clotes are home, we usually try things on and I&nbsp;give her &nbsp;some &nbsp;advices especially, as due to my YLF presence,&nbsp; usually I'm even a bit more fashion forward&nbsp; than she is:-). <br />Sometimes she is listenning, sometimes she is &nbsp;not-but that's not my problem anymore:-)<br />And yes, I figure if she has some good selection of clothes, she cannot go that wrong, no matter what.:-)) https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888757 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 08:16:10 +0000 anne 888757@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Jayne when I said two "good" outfits I meant for church and going out. They would only be worn once or at most twice a week. She wears a school uniform to school.<br /><br />I do wonder if those of you who let your kids choose what they wanted had a better selection of clothes than DD does!&nbsp; I mean, did you (apart from Isis) actually buy them clothes yourselves? Except for shoes and the very occasional other item, I just don't buy her clothes, so I have very little control over what is in there in the first place.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888752 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 06:55:58 +0000 jayne 888752@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ two outfits sounds like a good start. &nbsp;But I think 4 would be better. I cannot wash clothes that fast! &nbsp;<br /><br />I wore what I wanted and that meant one favorite pair of pink slacks like every day. &nbsp;i finally got teased at school about it which triggered me to start caring. I am not sure parents can force a child to take an interest, so finding a uniform between you should be a good first step. &nbsp;Then sit back and wait. &nbsp;If she ever gets an interest, you have all of YLF to help her find her style later.<br /><br />My 14 year has always dressed herself (stubborn as a mule) and I only put my foot down once. &nbsp;Otherwise all her wild choices were allowed. &nbsp;I have suffered in silence and just let her know about my own interest in dressing well, pointing out when something she wore looked particularly good and trying to explain why. &nbsp;Anyway, again, it was the inluence at school that finally made her care more and now she always looks great. &nbsp;I feel I saved myself from some battles by letting time and age and outside influences effect her. &nbsp;Of course, I wouldn't give her a credit card and send her shopping alone at this point! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888730 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 05:59:58 +0000 anne 888730@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Deb - thanks for the encouragement<br /><br />Gaylene - I like your thread idea. I could probably do both<br /><br />Lyn - it is getting cooler here. 13-23 was the forecast today, and the girls didn't want to take off their warm PJ's to get dressed this morning. It may go back up to 30 on the weekend though.<br /><br />Thanks for asking your daughter. DD does wear jeans sometimes&nbsp; - and they are much easier to find things to go with. Skirts are the main challenge ( and toppers, sometimes).<br /><br />If I was purchasing a wardrobe for her from scratch I would try to ensure she could mix and match - I am more trying to assemble if from a disparate collection.<br />And, not in response to anyone, but some additional info<br /><br />When I mentioned it to her, she asked if it would be okay if she could just wear 2 of the outfits - one, for when the other one was in the wash. I didn't answer, but I guess that will be okay if she wears 2 acceptable&nbsp; looks (thought I might be a bit sad about all the lovely dresses she has been given that she doesn't wear). Again, if I was starting from scratch I would probably just buy her 2 "good" outfits per season anyway.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/considering-creating-a-lookbook-for-my-dd#post-888716 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 05:26:56 +0000 Lyn D. 888716@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi Anne, has the weather cooled at all where you are yet?<br />We are having a few warm days (again).<br />I have just checked with my D.D. re her opinion on this one.<br />She liked just having clothes that fitted and were mainly mix and match, but tended to wear jeans and Tees generally.<br />I usually told my girls (and still do) exactly what they should wear for special occasions.&nbsp;<br />If she likes your idea though, it would be a fun thing to create together.<br /><br />