https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 13:47:17 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-265174 Sun, 12 Dec 2010 20:38:06 +0000 Isabel 265174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Renatat, what a brilliant idea to google it ! Though I am not sure that I agree with the fact that "hoochy mama" across the seat of you pants is "trendy". That was funny. So then do different "genres" define it differently ? It was interesting how the urban dictionary tied it to music, too.</p> <p>Mo - just your pick of fish and embellishments show how much more exciting you are than me ( at least I didn't pick farm raised trout with lemon juice ) !!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264934 Sun, 12 Dec 2010 01:45:37 +0000 Misia 264934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I google the word trendy, and I like these two lines:</p> <p>Not trendy - Oh, my god I love this shirt! I don't usually shop here, but hey' it Rocks :)</p> <p>Trendy - Hey, its a shirt that I have seen people wearing. Eh, so it's not really my style,but I'll be cool!<br /> hmmm..... there is more:<br /> <a href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=trendy" rel="nofollow">http://www.urbandictionary.com.....erm=trendy</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264933 Sun, 12 Dec 2010 01:45:02 +0000 Mo 264933@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL @ Isabel the spice wearing flounder!!! I think I'd be a tilapia - maybe macadamia nut crusted . . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264910 Sun, 12 Dec 2010 00:43:40 +0000 Isabel 264910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm. After reading this and the other thread, I realized that I define "trendy" a bit differently, I think. A few years ago, minimalism was really in. I considered that trendy. It looked very stark to me and I didn't really like it on me. But Caroline Bessette Kennedy was a whiz at it. I find the Mad Men look very trendy now also. I guess to me it really is about how ubiquitous it is...maybe this is a wrong way of looking at it.</p> <p>All I know is that Emeril Lagasse gave me a lightbulb moment for dressing the other day:</p> <p>I am just a plain flounder, dressing in some necessary, practical but not exciting stuff...then BAM, BAM, - accessories, color. And no, I won't wear parsley on my head. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264543 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 05:52:48 +0000 Vani 264543@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, I feel I must clarify that I wasn't offended by your question or any of the other thoughts voiced on this thread. I always find conversations you spawn rather stimulating and enjoyable as they really draw out everybody's perceptions and thought processes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264532 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 05:00:22 +0000 Maya 264532@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry some of you are finding this question offensive or un-fun. I don't really know why though. I think it's important to have your thoughts challenged--that's how I grow and develop my own style, personally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264520 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 04:48:16 +0000 Anonymous 264520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This conversation is taking the fun out of the very thing that brought us all together in the first place.<br /> Live and let live. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264485 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 03:47:31 +0000 Vani 264485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, for what it's worth, like Taylor I'm always just looking to tweak an outfit with all trendy or some trendy or all classic elements to represent "me". </p> <p>Personally, there are a lot of trends I would like to embrace but my body type does not always accommodate what my mind desires. Sometimes even if it does, my wallet doesn't! So, say, if I did get a pair of skinny cargoes, it would be a disaster ad I'd end up looking like I'm "trying too hard". And of course then there is the age factor. I guess it is more hesitation and mental block towards embracing short lived, non-tried and tested, established trends and less frowning upon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264455 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 02:49:35 +0000 taylor 264455@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always referred to " the twist " to mean my own individual stamp or piece that made the classic look my own... my twist:)<br /> I don't mind being classic, or trendy as long as it is unmistakably taylor:) Hope that makes more sense. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264427 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 02:06:23 +0000 Angie 264427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, I really resonated with your last comment. It was as if you were in my head!</p> <p>Here's a different viewpoint all together. It's *grossly* generalized so take it that way :). People like to be considered trendy, but don't like the word (for a myriad of complicated reasons). In the same breath, they do not want to be labeled classic because it's thought of as boring. Think back to countless comments of readers aspiring to a look that's "classic but with a twist". The twist makes them feel special, but heaven forbid trendy. People like to think that they are deep, when in actual fact there is nothing wrong with being a simple person who is not deep. In fact these are my favourite types of people. Style is a celebration of individuality and self expression - too classic and you are boring, too trendy and you are trying too hard. Well, ironically, everyone is trying to hard if this is how we think about it! Keep the judgments aside, wear flattering clothing and have fun with your wardrobe - that's worth the effort.</p> <p>Almost a birthday girl, Kari! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination/page/2#post-264421 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 01:45:06 +0000 Maya 264421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't forgotten Traci, nor am I "getting bent." I don't believe I ever asked anyone to change how they dress or what to think. I asked some questions to challenge some of the comments I read in the blog because they seemed to be at odds with the sentiments I have read based on classic styling.</p> <p>Kari is absolutely right. Trendiness and age have nothing to do with each other. Vera Wang is trendy and she is older than my mother. She looks great. Angie is 40 and looks fantastic. Same with Cathy (cciele). Anna is, I believe, in her mid-30's. Lots of very fab trendy gals over 35 sporting trendy looks and looking good doing it.</p> <p>Kari, Michelle, and Marianna are all closer to my age, and yet all of them are quite a bit more classic. Always elegant and modern, but not trendy (though Kari is perhaps a bit more trendy than the M's). I also disagree handily that there is an age majority on YLF. We have a wide range of ages from those in their early 20's through those in their 60's and all seem to have a pretty healthy representation here. Whenever I post I am speaking with this audience in mind.</p> <p>So I don't think your age/trend comparison really works. Unless you think all of us look like we are "trying too hard," which is an opinion you're certainly entitled to. But an opinion I do not share at all. </p> <p>But for what it's worth, as I said, I am not asking anyone to change how they dress or what works for them. I know style is about personality and lifestyle (and so many other things). But that's not what this is about. I am not a classic dresser but I appreciate classic looks, including head to toe classic. So I am simply curious as to why the inverse is so frowned upon--by both classic and trendy dressers alike. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264412 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 01:31:00 +0000 Kari 264412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, closer to one decade than to two, for sure. I'll be 27 next week! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264409 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 01:25:29 +0000 Angie 264409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh honey Kari, a decade and then some. I'm 40 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264340 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 20:54:14 +0000 Kari 264340@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Traci, I don't think it's entirely about age, either. Maya and I are nearly the same age, and she is much further down the "trendy" spectrum in terms of her style preferences than I am. Head to toe trendy would feel ridiculous on me because it just isn't my style, whereas I can wear a full-on modern classic outfit (Pearls, classic cardigan, pencil skirt, colorful pumps) and feel very polished. It could be that I'm wrong, and that I *look* ridiculous &amp; like I'm trying too hard, but most of the time I don't think so based on comments I've received. :)<br /> Anna and Angie are both a decade older than I am (I think), and are much more edgy and trendy than I'll ever be - and this works perfectly with their style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264173 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 14:09:56 +0000 Traci 264173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a couple of things are at play here. </p> <p>Classic is a style all its own. Classic pieces all tend to go together, just like rocker pieces all go together. Trendy is a much bigger class of items and they don't necessarily all go together into one cohesive style. I think this is part of the reason for a different perception of the head to toe classic vs head to toe trendy look.</p> <p>I think there are also many different levels of trends. There are 10 year trends and 2 month trends. The shorter lived trends tend to be flashier and more bold. Head to toe flash can look like trying to hard. To me, things like shaggy furry vests and sequins are shorter lived trends. You see them all over the place right now and next year they will look like last year's piece. Skinny jeans are trendy, but they're on the slow curve right now. </p> <p>I also think you have to remember who you're talking to. Maya, you're on the low end of the age range here. Younger girls tend towards more trends and as we get older we tend towards more classics and investment pieces. Of course you're going to have a slightly different take on trends vs classics from the majority of the group here. In fact, you could take an outfit that would look completely appropriate on a 24 year old, throw it on a 46 year old and she'll look like she's "trying too hard."</p> <p>We're all talking about our personal styles here, and what works for me and my life doesn't work for you and yours and vice versa. It's just the nature of the game. Nothing to get bent about. If I wore head to to trendy in my life right now, I'd look like I'm trying too hard. Likewise, if you wore head to toe classic (pearls, classic cardigans, pencil skirts) with no edge whatsover, you'd look like you were trying too hard. It's all just about wearing what fits your lifestyle and personality. It's not science, it's art. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264048 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 03:35:56 +0000 MsMary 264048@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Annagybe, context is everything, isn't it? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264045 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 03:26:35 +0000 Mamapicklejuice 264045@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Who said that trends are always about challenging aesthetic norms? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264038 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 03:11:54 +0000 Maya 264038@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Traci, what WOULD you consider trendy then? All trendy items are classics with trendy details. I mean, there is virtually nothing that's really completely new.</p> <p>There is nothing inherently classic about boots, pants, and a shirt. It's all in the details, or lack thereof. Those gorgeous pleated paper bag waist pants on today's blog post are not even remotely classic.</p> <p>Cloud, I was going to say what Angie said. A trendy item must be modern, but a modern item needn't be trendy.</p> <p>I think whether it is harder or easier to be trendy depends entirely on the person. I would find it much harder to be classic head to toe, although I do not dress trendy head to toe either. </p> <p>I also don't agree that trends are always about challenging aesthetic norms. I find the trends I follow to be genuinely flattering. If I don't, I don't wear them. I also don't agree that trendy pieces are overwhelming. Trends can be quite subtle. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264034 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 03:05:45 +0000 jen321 264034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hummm harem pants, with dolman shirt, with OTK boots, and belt around the waist= (in my opinion to much trend). lol Other than that I'm ok with trendy from head to toe, classic from head to toe, or mixing it up! Whatever makes anyone happy! That being said I didn't have time to read all the posts, I'll have to read them sometime! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-264030 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 02:59:31 +0000 Angie 264030@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cloud, what you're describing is the difference between dated classic and modern classic. Modern Classic is not Trendy. I hope that makes sense.</p> <p>Kim, you are completely right! Even my trendiest of outfits are underpinned by the classics. Seeeee! That's why I'm on that bench. I am as much about the classics as I am about trends.</p> <p>Nice thought process, Kari. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263932 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 01:26:34 +0000 Kari 263932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to copy and paste some of my response to Angie's post, because I was mulling over some of the same things and reflecting how my perspective on "trendiness" has changed.</p> <p>"I think that sometimes we confuse “trendiness” with embracing every fad that comes around, or trying too hard to be cutting-edge. I’m starting to learn that there is a big difference between the two, and that being trendy also means being selective about which trends to try and which to bypass."</p> <p>I am not trendy - I'm a slow adopter, and rather than getting bored of old trends, I grow to love them more and more. (Case in point: some of you are bored of skinny jeans, whereas I've just figured out how to make them a basic staple in my wardrobe. I guess I'm consistently trailing along at the back of the bandwagon, and prone to wearing myself into a rut.)<br /> But that doesn't mean that I think trendiness is a negative thing, or that I don't appreciate someone who can be head-to-toe trendy in a very fab way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263924 Fri, 10 Dec 2010 01:16:39 +0000 annagybe 263924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm bemused that I'm such a paradigm of trendiness. Compared to some of the blogs I read I feel pretty staid. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263853 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 23:29:18 +0000 Traci 263853@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the outfit Maya described would actually be classic, with some trendy finshes. Boots, pants and a button down, you can't get much more classic than that. Some ruching and hardware give it a trendy finish, but it's still a fairly classic look at the base of it.</p> <p>Also, I think we see much criticism of fully classic looks. That's what the whole "edge" thing is about, adding something to classic to make it stand out and be more interesting. We see it here all the time. Someone posts a completely classic outfit and the chorus tells them to add a trendy moto jacket to give it some "edge". </p> <p>To me, the trying too hard look can come from either an overly trendy look, or an overly classic look, or an overly sexy look, or an overly hard look, etc. It's just when the person is so overwhelmed by the clothes that their personality is lost in the look. It's as if they are trying so hard to look a certain way, that is really not representative of who they are, so it just comes off very awkward and unattractive. Someone could copy someone else's outfit head to toe and look like they were trying to hard, while the original looked effortless and cool. It's about personal style, not a mathematical formula and when people try to make it about a simple formula, they tend to look like they're trying too hard, no matter what type of style they're trying to pull off. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263839 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 22:44:26 +0000 Queen Mum 263839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MPJ-- I think you are exactly right. Trendy items can have alot going on, and putting together a whole outfit can often (in my humble opinion) be overkill. I don't need my trends entering the room before I do.. LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263836 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 22:19:29 +0000 Mamapicklejuice 263836@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As is so often the case, it may just boil down to semantics...head to toe trendy done badly = ridiculous...head to toe classic done badly = dated/frumpy.</p> <p>I agree with the pps who believe it is far more difficult to dress head to toe trendy than head to toe classic. Trendy items often challenge our aesthetic norms with plays on silhouette or proportion, color or print...I think you really need to know what you're doing to not look foolish. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263814 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 21:32:05 +0000 Lisa 263814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a head to toe trendy look is very challenging to pull off well, which is why most shy away from doing so. It is far easier to change one element in an outfit than an entire outfit. Also, trendy often has the association of "not lasting long" while classic has the opposite to "be an enduring look." In reality neither is true, both need change to be updated but the stigmas still exist. Personally I like both looks, but heck, I like any look when it is head to toe spot on. An entire "look" pulled together regardless of the "style" is what I like best at the moment. And except for YLF, that's not something I see often. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263784 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 20:34:29 +0000 Queen Mum 263784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie- thanks for linking to your fabulous harem pants outfit... and of course you don't look ridiculous, you look fabulous... but I would call your pearls, shoes, and possibly even your bag classic. Am I mistaken?<br /> I"m not saying one can't pull off a completely trendy outfit, but even the trendiest of gals, I would guess, still has a few stand by classics at her disposal.<br /> Am I trying to look at this too "black and white?" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263777 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 20:18:34 +0000 taylor 263777@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Funny, I always thought I was classic..with a twist I called it, the twist being on current or trendy piece until Angie called me otherwise...trendy...well I was just shocked honestly. I always thought trendy was reserved for the young..I am not young, so my first thought was OMG...I must look ridiculous! </p> <p> I still see most of my clothing items as classics, but pulled together in a trendy way.... I guess it is just how you pull your pieces together.<br /> I love it all , not necessarily on me . classic, trendy boho,hippy.biker...shake it all together and it spells fashion...it just depends on who is doing the shaking:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263740 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 19:23:31 +0000 cciele 263740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't read the blog post yet either. But I agree that's there's nothing wrong with h2t trendy (go check out the blog <a href="http://www.manrepeller.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.manrepeller.com</a>, heh). Like anything, there's a stylish way to do it and a nonstylish way to do it. That applies to "modern classic" dressing too, I think. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/challenging-trendy-discrimination#post-263735 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 19:07:03 +0000 RoseandJoan 263735@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(Sorry to use you as an example again Anna).</p> <p>Anna's style is very fashion forward but it also has a very strong direction. Anna does not take every trend and throw it together she has the eye and knows how to combine these items for a solid look. Just like classic, trendy is a look that can be horribly right or horribly wrong. </p>