https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 30 Apr 2026 04:47:52 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye/page/2#post-1028857 Sat, 14 Sep 2013 00:17:14 +0000 Mo 1028857@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, salmon . . . &nbsp; gives me 'fish face' as my BF calls it. &nbsp;HA! &nbsp;(this really is me eating salmon at a friend's wedding some years ago) &nbsp;<br />And I feel the same way about harem pants, for the record. &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> <p>That said, I continue to re try foods I haven't liked in the past, and will give fashion the same ol' college try.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye/page/2#post-1028751 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 21:29:46 +0000 Aziraphale 1028751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No no, I'm not saying anyone <i>has</i> to like anything. &nbsp;Like I said, I still don't "get" harem pants. &nbsp;I have a bona fide poison eye for them. &nbsp;But I've tried! &nbsp;I try not to dismiss them as "just plain ugly" because you know...never say never. &nbsp;I hate having to eat crow later. &nbsp;:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye/page/2#post-1028568 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 17:01:13 +0000 catgirl 1028568@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha! You can't live where I do and not eat salmon. That's how I feel about the color, though! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye/page/2#post-1028567 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:59:58 +0000 Anonymous 1028567@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's kinda like my hatred for salmon. It's supposed to be good for you, so I made a sincere effort to like it. I've eaten it in every conceivable manner of preparation and with every imaginable seasoning. I still hate it, so I take a teaspoon of fish oil once a day instead and eat shrimp and milder-tasting fish once in a while. Do I criticize those who like salmon? No, but that doesn't make me like it, and I don't feel I have to like it to be healthy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028550 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:39:15 +0000 ironkurtin 1028550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All I know is, I do not like giant flares.&nbsp; It does't matter who wears them or how many times Vogue shows them, I just do not like them.&nbsp; Since this affects no one, and it's not like I throw blood on people wearing them, I am perfectly comfortable in loathing them the rest of my life and see no reason why I should work hard to wear or like them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028537 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:31:20 +0000 catgirl 1028537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is my concern, Aziraphale! There are plenty of items I am fine with disliking or that just don't work for me. Thats the essence of personal style, right? But now and then something seems useful or worth expanding my POV for, if I can just get around some weird bias or issue... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028529 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:24:47 +0000 Aziraphale 1028529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to disagree a bit with IK and Ruth. &nbsp;It's true that you don't HAVE to like everything (and it's an exercise in futility, anyway, because no one is going to like <i>everything</i>), but it's certainly valuable to at least <i>try</i> to see what others see. &nbsp;Otherwise you're being unnecessarily narrow-minded. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028524 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:14:01 +0000 Irene 1028524@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some things I might not particularly love and end up loving (not very usually). But if I HATE the look of something, then I just do, trendy or not. I have worn things in the past that I wouldn't wear now (the 2000s were quite bad) but I don't think I've ever worn something I disliked in the beginning. Even skinny jeans, which had lots of detractors, I liked them from the start (I thought I didn't look good in them though). Pointy toes, never liked them and I don't think I'll ever will. Cowboy boots, the same thing. Over-the-knee boots. Kitten heels. <br />Loafers (and this one I've tried) Yes, I only wear tall riding boots and lace-up booties. With rounded toes. Preferably black, since most browns I dislike, too.&nbsp; Makes sense given how many shoe styles I profoundly dislike lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028494 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 15:41:02 +0000 Anonymous 1028494@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with ironkurtin on this. No need to like everything. While I've learned to appreciate certain styles on others that I personally can't wear, there are some things I will never like. That's just the way it is. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028037 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 01:06:53 +0000 annagybe 1028037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I find if a blogger I really admire wears it and styles it in a cool way then I'm on board. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1028010 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 00:17:57 +0000 ironkurtin 1028010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure why you need to bother.&nbsp; It's OK to dislike some things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027984 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 23:16:00 +0000 froggiebecky 1027984@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's possible to get over a poison eye, but it can take some work. I had a poison eye for years for sleeveless things, due to someone close to me&nbsp;telling me that my arms were "too big for sleeveless tops". It took a lot of work--trying things on, carrying around cardis and wraps for those times I was feeling self-conscious, and I still select different types of sleeveless (spaghetti straps just don't look good on me, but wider straps do). Still, I was quite a frustrated shopper in my late teens/early 20's. Finding age-appropriate dresses and tops that had sleeves was incredibly difficult.&nbsp;</p> <p>In the end, my frustration with finding clothes to accommodate someone else's thoughts about what was flattering on me&nbsp;outweighed my&nbsp;&nbsp;self-consciousness. I used to care, but times have changed. :)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027740 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 18:04:44 +0000 AnnieMouse 1027740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think so, but I think it's a matter of finding something that works for you in that style that changes it, as so many have noted so much more eloquently than I above. </p> <p>I'm with Rae and Una on the skinny jeans, thing, for example. When I was younger, they were so, so prevalant - we called them "stretch jeans" then - and I saw pictures of me wearing them and swore I'd never wear them again. They made me viscerally angry! "No! I won't wear them, and you can't make me! I look like a stuffed sausage!" </p> <p>... and now they're a big chunk of my denim wardrobe. So go figure. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027683 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 17:04:25 +0000 catgirl 1027683@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suck great responses. Pinterest has helped me some with certain looks. I am finding myself pickier and discovering more poison eye items recently. Am wondering if that's because trends are moving away from what I love or my own style stagnating (or coalescing, to be positive!).</p> <p>Rae, I am with you on skinnies - all I could think of was bad acid wash zippered ankle looks from college. But now I could not live without them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027320 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 06:48:51 +0000 ManidipaM 1027320@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heh, had to smile at Elisabeth on harem pants, which I have sugar eye for!</p> <p>Una, I agree with Vildy and Sylvie and Rae. It's only likely to work if you can change the associations. I find it impossible to deal with the maryjane shoe in classic proportions---it is THE Indian school shoe and school was BAD! I also objectively think most school uniforms here are unflattering and reflect a colonial hangover out of all proportion to the sheer impracticality of the garments in modern tropical life (collared white polyester shirt that turns sheer in rain with a TIE on top!). BUT I tried on a pair of maryjane pumps where the strap was further forward and not 'across the instep' as described in the school manifesto... and felt freed!</p> <p>A simpler, more basic example: my school colours were maroon and white. I cannot abide maroon for live or money. Gave away beloved and practical and flattering and sentimental garments because 'maroon'. Still find a maroon skirt terrifying. BUT I look good in and love to wear on my top half all kinds of wine reds ... like 'burgundy'! Shoes too (my oxfords are shaded burgundy). I will stop wearing it when anyone says 'maroon', though---at least in their presence. Brings back memories... therapy too expensive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027260 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 03:54:16 +0000 Aziraphale 1027260@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I think you can. &nbsp;I think the eye sometimes adjusts, if the poison item becomes popular enough that you see enough really cool women wearing it and looking awesome. &nbsp;But if you get to the point where TOO many women are wearing it, and the vast majority of them are not looking so awesome, then it has&nbsp;gone too far. &nbsp;Come to think of it, I bet that's what triggers a poison eye in the first place. &nbsp;Maybe you saw WAY TOO MANY pointy flat boots in high school, worn by stylish and unstylish girls alike. &nbsp;And it ruined it for you. &nbsp;?</p> <p>As for whether or not it's worth trying to overcome a poison eye, I'd argue yes. &nbsp;Nothing wrong with trying to open your mind. &nbsp;Broadmindedness is always a good thing. &nbsp;:-) &nbsp;(Not that I always succeed. &nbsp;I <i>still</i> think harem pants are silly, and I've seen lots of cool women wear them!).</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027220 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 02:46:15 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1027220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I have experienced a level of increased tolerance for something that I originally had a poison eye for. I may grow to appreciate it on others, while remaining firm that it's not my thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027218 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 02:44:50 +0000 Echo 1027218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I kind of compare it to food preferences. If you don't like peppers, then don't eat them! There are plenty of other green (and red and orange) veggies to choose from, and you not liking them has no effect on others eating them. Why should you have to find a way to eat and like peppers? (For the record, I love peppers &nbsp;: ) &nbsp;) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027216 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 02:39:37 +0000 rae 1027216@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I recovered from my skinny jeans poison eye. I used to think they were only for wannabe punk rockers at Hot Topic. But I have never lost my shoulder pad poison eye. It may be that the former just had bad associations, whereas I just find the latter unflattering. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027204 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 02:24:53 +0000 Jaime 1027204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wonder if they were wearing pointy toe boots in my high school. Probably, I really don't remember! Anyway, I only started liking the idea of pointy toes a few years ago. Before that I was a committed member of team chunky shoe. I actually remember looking at some street style&nbsp;pictures of French women of a certain age&nbsp;wearing pointy toes and not liking them at all. Then, I don't know why or how,&nbsp;in the background my brain started processing this reaction, reconsidering it, and somehow I came out the other side suddenly in love with them (like in a Dr. Seuss book).&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027200 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 02:21:36 +0000 velvetychocolate 1027200@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been able to 'cure' my own poison-eye for certain things by wearing something in a new-ish way. </p> <p>I absolutely hate pastel colours. My Mom used to always try and get me to wear Easter-egg colours and I can almost feel myself going into a bit of a conniption when anyone suggests anything even remotely pastel-ish to me. </p> <p>Somehow, last spring - during a vacation, I ended up with a pale pink button-down shirt. ME. Thing was? I wore it with rolled-up BF jeans, slightly pointy-toe'd loafers, and some fun sunglasses. The expectation is to wear pastel colours in a very classic/conservative way. Only reason I ended up with a pale pink button down shirt is because it worked so well with slightly distressed BF jeans. I didn't look all that conservative or classic - and the pale colour, combined with the crispness of the shirt seemed to work well with jeans that looked like they'd seen better days. The crisp pink button-down shirt was the perfect 'foil' for the "seen better days" jeans look. </p> <p>This is one of the only ways I can think of to cure a poison eye. Find a totally different and new-to-you way of wearing the item. </p> <p>Thing is? I don't recommend trying to purposely cure a poison eye (don't force it), but do try keep an open mind. If you happen to come across a poison-eye item someday and it works beautifully with other items, then don't say "no" just because you've always hated that particular item. Just think, "I'm willing to try it if it works" but don't go buying something that you've always disliked just because it happens to be on-trend. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027101 Thu, 12 Sep 2013 00:10:12 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1027101@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Funny, because I'm midway through trying myself. For some reason, I have a bizarre, irrational hatred for inside zippers on boots that also lace or buckle. I immediately think, "Really!? WHY is that&nbsp;there, ruining the nice sleek leather? Are people really so lazy they can't lace up a boot, and need a zip instead!? If they are going to zip it anyway, why have the laces then!? It's so redundant!&nbsp;WHYYYY!?"&nbsp;And then I realize that I'm behaving like a crazy person, and that boots that zip up the insides are really not sufficient reason to have an angry outburst that frightens the other ladies at the shoe store.&nbsp;</p> <p>So why do people want to get past poison eye? In my case, because I&nbsp;love boots. I wear a pair nearly every day. And not buying boots that don't have a redundant inside zipper severely limits my options. So far, I've stubbornly turned down pair after pair of otherwise gorgeous boots. BUT this last pair of Doc Martens I got does have inside zips. I got them because they were $20, instead of $120, and amazingly chic in every other way. I wore them all day, and didn't burst into flame, so maybe I'll try again. </p> <p>Also, I'm realizing I have degrees of poison eye. I can live with a chunky deliberate zipper much better than one of the "invisible" ones. I guess because it looks like a statement on its own, not a shortcut.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027046 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 23:10:08 +0000 Angie 1027046@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I couldn't agree more with Caro. High five, Caro. It's all in the execution, and how often you see the look well executed. That's the cure.&nbsp;</p> <p>Plus, it really helps upfront when you don't have a narrow style filter. </p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027037 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 22:55:31 +0000 Sara L. 1027037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sometimes I'll start out hating something and if I see it enough times, I think I get acclimated, because I do occasionally change my mind. &nbsp;Pattern mixing is a good example - I used to think it all looked like someone got dressed in the dark, but I actually like a lot of it now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027034 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 22:51:35 +0000 Caro in Oz 1027034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Seeing someone wearing them &amp; looking great is the best cure for me. They still may not be something I'd wear but if they can look good on someone I'm happy.&nbsp;I think getting older helps too. What is laughed at or given the poison eye of one generation is worn &amp; loved by another </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027016 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 22:30:04 +0000 Vildy 1027016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My conviction is that it's about the meaning we assign(ed) to the style. I suppose, then, there is a way to associate the items with folks/lifestyles/concepts you like - assuming there are any that are now associated with the style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027014 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 22:27:35 +0000 deb 1027014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The only way I know to treat the condition is to no longer be able to wear heels. Something major has to happen medically and all of a sudden any flat footwear looks great because it is different. I never&nbsp;appreciated how a heel on a shoe can change the way a shoe looks. A basic black pump can look totally different&nbsp;with a 1 inch, 2 inch and three inch heel. &nbsp;Take that option away, all you have left is a flat. Then you need to change the toe to get some options. Or it could be the stroke skewed my thought process. (or both)&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1027013 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 22:23:24 +0000 unfrumped 1027013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes and no--I think no treatment for truly poison eye. Some wiggle room for the raised eyebrow or slightly jaundiced eye. Also need to "try it" (not buy it) sometimes to be sure.<br /><span><br />&nbsp;I find certain footwear foot-flattering across a lot of years, regardless of how the styles change.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span> </p> <p>I find certain vamps and toes and heels and volume and lots of other aspects of footwear either foot-flattering , or not, for me and it strongly drives what I will buy or not. Fortunately these aspects are often available as sub-styles within a shoe type, so there are a lot of choices out there, but it means I’ll gravitate toward a certain look for my particular foot almost more than the style update itself, and&nbsp;&nbsp; I’m not finding it, I may be stymied in updating in some areas.</p> <p>&nbsp;I assume it’s based on my sense of foot volume, length, proportion with leg, but it’s so &nbsp;intrinsic for me that &nbsp;&nbsp;it may override&nbsp; whatever “look” might seem fine to other observers. I’ll only go for certain vamp proportions in a slipper flat, and find a lot of &nbsp;loafers look wrong; ballet flats have to not be typical snub-nosed but have a higher vamp and more oval toe; oxfords have to narrow in or widen&nbsp; out at just the right place. These looks may or may not be as much on trend as another variation that I don’t like as well on my feet. Add all that to comfort issues and it’s a tall order!</p> <p>I’m guessing this approach is not that unusual and applies to&nbsp;&nbsp; all types of wardrobe items, else we’d all dress alike. But as Angie has noted, some people focus more on cutting-edge style or trying new styles and others more on traditional figure-flattery goals.</p> <p><span>My “good” lesson from wardrobe updating and YLF is to not always be sure I can tell how the shoes will look until I try them on. That is probably for 2 reasons—an actual adaptation of my “poison eye” after styles have shifted for awhile, or just&nbsp; the way certain materials, trims, and color combos create the needed effect in ways I might not have imagined. That is a lot easier and more fun to do in B&amp;M stores than experimenting by mail, though.&nbsp; </span></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1026998 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 21:54:41 +0000 Diana 1026998@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I've probably been desensitized to some over the years, but they're not the really severe ones.&nbsp; I don't really see a reason to try, honestly.&nbsp; There's tons of styles out there, no reason to wear the ones you don't like.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-you-treat-a-poison-eye#post-1026997 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 21:53:21 +0000 texstyle 1026997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not sure there's a cure but maybe a treatment. Try them on and take a photo then post it here. Ha! </p> <p>If that doesn't work maybe there's an alternative treatment.</p>