https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 10 Apr 2026 23:22:58 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1138355 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 07:32:05 +0000 rae 1138355@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such an interesting thread. I can very much commiserate with you, Janet. I was just thinking the other day that <i>man, I sure don't have that "expensive" body type.&nbsp;</i></p> <p>The more things I try on at the store in a higher price point, the fewer things seem to work... not a size thing, they just aren't cut for short rises, big butts, short legs, and stubby necks! Ixnay on the Vince scuba jackets, all the Theory dress slacks, most Vince and Joie jeans, Rag &amp; Bone jeans, and pretty much any skirt I ever try on <i>ever</i> that isn't draped jersey. Even the VC tube skirts pull on my bubble butt and scrunch up around my saddlebags when I walk.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway, like I said, just venting to commiserate. BUT, the good thing is that you have a great eye and have created your own edge in a way that is both unique and authentic. I think you have the ability to translate any edgy look into something that will work for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1138346 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 06:52:44 +0000 Ariadne 1138346@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great thread. &nbsp;I'm taking notes on my notes. &nbsp;Thanks for starting the conversation, Janet--saved me from having to do it myself, because I've been thinking about all, and I do mean ALL, of&nbsp;the same things.</p> <p>Edge that incorporates AND EMBRACES&nbsp;both (my own innate)&nbsp;softness and simplicity. That's what I'm going for. &nbsp;Not Pink, but not Stevie Nicks, either.&nbsp;Easier said than done. I have a Rick Owens-esque&nbsp;Danier leather jacket with softness and drape and waist-highlighting qualities&nbsp;that's one of my touchstones. &nbsp;I wish it were ink blue or smoky deep purple, but it's perfect otherwise. &nbsp;I need more of that kind of thing in my life.</p> <p>You're already a huge inspiration to me, Janet,&nbsp;and I'm sure you'll be even more of one as your style journey progresses. &nbsp;I'm excited for you!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137602 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 16:12:04 +0000 texstyle 1137602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lots of great insight on this thread - and I agree that Janet, you DO have fantastic style already and it is very inspiring and very "you." That said, if you feel a need to shake it up a bit, I think you should go for it. Your glasses are a great place to begin as those are so key for your entire style.&nbsp; And Carla's comparison to Patty Hensen is so dead on right - I searched for her style on Pinterest and immediately saw the similarities. Of course mostly I saw her in black - but in many iterations of black. I did notice a&nbsp;leather&nbsp;emerald green jacket&nbsp;with faded gray jeans was extra fab on her. I also saw several images of much more boho style on her in her "off" time photos and I thought she wore those really well too.</p> <p>I tend to reach for color first, then fabric and style, when choosing something for the day. The favorite colored items always get worn way more often. I wonder if you do the same and if so, what are your favorite 2 colors to wear on top? It could be interesting to limit yourself on purpose for a week or so to those 2 colors on top and try to focus on how you style them with your favorite jeans for example. In other words, pick the jeans or pants that *always* make you feel great and really spend time focusing on the top and the overall outfit style instead of having to think about what flatters the bottom half.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137440 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 10:59:55 +0000 Karie 1137440@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really like what Caro said about taping into our inner self. The best WIW's are the ones where a bit of our personality, that light that shines in our eyes, comes through. The disconnect comes when we let our own self-perceived body issues get in the way.&nbsp;<br />We know our flaws and I think we often over exaggerate them. No one ever looks like the perfect model in the picture (she doesn't even look like herself&nbsp;because the pic's probably been altered).<br />What we are is real women with real bodies. We'll always have dressing challenges because nothing looks good on every figure. <br />My friend's daughter is a designer, Lauren Bagliore, and she specializes in artful draping techniques. Her clothes are way out of my price range, but it's fun to see how she uses draping in her designs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137422 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 07:32:50 +0000 Halo 1137422@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi there, I am very hourglass/pear proportioned (24.5 waist and 37 hips) and I actually find I look better in high waisted skinny jeans/trousers and form fitting dresses and skirts.<br /> Flared skirts and dresses feel too girly (my boyfriend actually commented that an a line dress looked too little girlish on me) and I find fitted clothes not only more slimming but also a lot more in keeping with my style and a lot edgier in terms of what I can wear with them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137267 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 03:06:31 +0000 catgirl 1137267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Caro, you make it sound so much better! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137258 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 03:00:35 +0000 Caro in Oz 1137258@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ag makes an interesting point. I'm cheating but&nbsp;if you change her words "delusional beliefs/ fantasies" to "tapping into my inner self" then I couldn't agree more. It's why I get uncomfortable about prescriptive rules for dressing. I really believe that when we tap into this core (that has nothing to do with how are bodies look) we can dress in a way that truly works for us &amp; still be appropriate (or not as we choose). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137245 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 02:35:43 +0000 catgirl 1137245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Shevia said.&nbsp; Honestly, I think 99% of my edge is in my delusional beliefs and fantasies.&nbsp; After all, in real life I am a petite middle aged Asian woman in a very conservative profession, AND the doting mother of an active 10 year old boy&nbsp; - hardly warrior princess material!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137235 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 02:19:04 +0000 Jaime 1137235@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have thoroughly enjoyed this thread and wish I had something more to add. Janet your 1000 watt eyes, gorgeous figure and great style instincts are more than enough to let you have whatever style you want. You are doing fantastically already.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137222 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 02:03:24 +0000 Suz 1137222@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hear you, Janet. But it's a question of seeking out those items that meet both figure flattery priorities AND the need for a bit of edge. I understand it's not easy. I'm on a similar mission. My body type is different so I have to make different choices. And so far, I've been a lot less successful than you -- partly due to budget and opportunity, and partly due to still being in a phase of refining my taste (you are further along the path).&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway...the choices that won't work for you (turtlenecks, say...although I actually think you look good in the right turtleneck) might be the ones that work for me. Whereas you could look fantastic in an open collared, draped jacket or one shaped like the Lanai. And I can't do it. So we have to sigh about the ones that don't work, and move on to those that do. Oh...and try to find these items not in black! Now <b>THERE </b>is a real challenge!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137203 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 01:46:41 +0000 karymk 1137203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I hear what you said, but I still think if jackets and shoes are your best way to ad your kind of edge, then stick with it. Why not add a cool necklace to the closet family? You look great in hats, keep it up! Small details add up, so go for exposed zips on boots. Push yourself and see how you feel! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137172 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 01:02:28 +0000 Caro in Oz 1137172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Seconding Mo - I have a tummy &amp; the right draping over it makes it disappear - so I'd say draped dresses would be worth a try&nbsp;:)</p> <p>Also following on from Suz, for me it is the juxtaposition of curvy &amp; menswear style that makes a look&nbsp;so interesting. It's what Armani set out to do - menswear for the female body. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137158 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 00:44:42 +0000 Mo 1137158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, maybe give a few a try. &nbsp;I was bodycon (and empire)&nbsp;all the way and then starting with the 'paper bag' olive dress, things just changed. &nbsp;I have plenty of hip. &nbsp;If the drape is in the right place, it's all good. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137154 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 00:42:34 +0000 Janet 1137154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Funny, Suz, because I find draping very challenging. I just saw a gorgeous draped dress on Pinterest today but the draping fell across the hips, where I have never found draping to be flattering. Plus it was a turtleneck, which is not my best look either. Plus it was sold out. Here's a pic. But you know, never say never and all that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137145 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 00:33:20 +0000 Suz 1137145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And here's something to consider. Some of the aspects of what we normally think of as "edgy" style actually look <b>BETTER</b> on a softer, curvier shape. For example, draping. Most of it is absolutely awful on a slim, boyish shape. It just ends up overwhelming the person. You, however, could wear it brilliantly. Yes, you would have to ensure that it wasn't in the wrong places (for figure flattery, that is). But assuming you found the right items? Fabulous.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge/page/2#post-1137122 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 00:13:27 +0000 CocoLion 1137122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Janet -- you bring up an interesting question. &nbsp;Can softer, rounder more feminine figures look edgy? &nbsp;As someone who is curvy and soft everywhere, except maybe in my jawbone and nose -- I think about this myself. &nbsp;Even when I lose weight, I am curvy front front, side and back. &nbsp;Not many straight lines, no solid shoulder line either. &nbsp;Personally I like to create tension with my body type by wearing androgynous clothing. &nbsp;No one would ever describe my style as androgynous, but I select androgynous pieces and my favorite style icons are men. &nbsp;David Bowie, and yes Keef. &nbsp;I was recently watching Annie Hall and added Diane Keaton pins to my boards. &nbsp;She has a very feminine look but her dressing is so androgynous, it has an edgy effect.</p> <p>I also like Boho elements because they go really well with a feminine figure. &nbsp;I don't do Boho head to toe, but I like a Boho piece here and there, I think it adds interest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1137092 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 23:44:08 +0000 Karie 1137092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wha-huh?? "My body seems to defy edgy&nbsp;<span>silhouettes" - sweetheart, here on YLF, you <i>define</i> edgy silhouettes! It can be an entire outfit or just a detail, that's what you get to decide. And you do it very well. The outfits you've posted that I've seen&nbsp;are very flattering to your figure.&nbsp;Our figures are what they are - I'm a pear too - but body shape doesn't define us, <i>we</i> define ourselves! You've heard of the "My Three Words" thing? Well, I'm a roller coaster junkie and my three words are <i>Enjoy the Ride</i>. I apply it to life, and I apply it to fashion - have fun, and enjoy the ride!</span> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1137086 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 23:38:35 +0000 Mo 1137086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreed, Anna! I'd rather be happy and healthy, if not fitness model material, and live a pretty normal life. &nbsp;(I have a middle school friend who is a fitness model, and she sweats like it's her job, because it is. No thanks)<br />Rock your style! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1137080 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 23:28:33 +0000 annagybe 1137080@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Late, but I think your style is working pretty well right now.&nbsp;<br />We have have body hang ups. I have a pretty squishy stomach, but frankly I've stopped worrying about it as much. For me to get rid of it would require serious dieting and major gym time. I have neither the time nor the inclination.<br />I think you have a great figure. Just try and maybe focus on all the things it can do, rather than what it can't.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1137059 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 22:36:47 +0000 Louise 1137059@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think body shape defines whether you can be edgy or not. I'm a pear too and Angie used to describe me as edgy, I'm probably not now as I'm in my own funk right now. I'm not sure why or how I was edgy hmmm not sure where I'm going with this.... X </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1137033 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 22:00:02 +0000 Lantana 1137033@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wonderful question to ask Janet. I am looking forward to settling back with a cuppa when I can steal a spare moment and devouring every response. I love it when the forum posts these kinds of questions. They make a major contribution to my style lexicon. Penny </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1137030 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 21:53:05 +0000 Deborah 1137030@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, echo g what everyone else has said:). I'm going to repeat Angie's words "Create your own standard of fit and proportion - and do not use another body type as a bench mark of how an outfit should look".... I think this is so important. Janet I am a 5ft 1, hourglass / apple and in most instances I refuse to dress like one lol. I think it just takes playing with proportions etc. I think your style is awesome. And very uniquely you. xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136997 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 21:20:28 +0000 Caro in Oz 1136997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have wonderful instincts &amp; a fabulous style Janet :)</p> <p>Seconding Angie &amp; hearing you on funks IMO a funk or discontent always precedes a slightly new (&amp; dare I say) more refined direction.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136995 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 21:19:45 +0000 lyn67 1136995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, Angie is so right! Mee too thinks, You're already there&nbsp;but if you really want &nbsp;you&nbsp; can always&nbsp; tweak a bit for not getting&nbsp; bored!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136935 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 19:52:15 +0000 Suz 1136935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>LOVE</b> what Angie wrote. She is so right.&nbsp;</p> <p>You're beautiful and unique and you already have amazing style, Janet. Which will only become more amazing in time.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136818 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 17:06:08 +0000 Angie 1136818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I meant every sincere word. You know that.</p> <p>Love how you've bounced back already, Janet. THAT's the spirit. I meant to add that by creating your own standard of fit and proportion wrt edge&nbsp;- you will look better in that outfit than any other model, blogger, or&nbsp;the like. That's because you are Janet - who has that special something that no one can take away from you. Hold your head up high and celebrate your fabness.&nbsp;&nbsp;xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136808 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 16:59:20 +0000 Gracie 1136808@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I could have written the first paragraph in your post, I'm in the exact same place. And I also relate to "I do a bit of waist surrender but am not emotionally comfortable sacrificing a lot of figure flattery for edge."</p> <p>I've always thought your outfits always edge, and you consistently look beautifully put together. And I'm always drooling at your jackets and boots! Hopefully when you go back to your normal healthy routine you'll feel more motivated to play and experiment with other ways to add more or change your edge without adding embellishments. I'm looking forward to learning more from your style - you are an inspiration. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136805 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 16:56:08 +0000 Anonymous 1136805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Angie said. You already are there I think. I'd suggest more basics like jeans, skirt and toppers in leather or coated denim that looks like leather. Leather pants and pencil skirts can take on many looks from classic to Western, to boho and feel like they add edge. It doesn't have to be black. Colored leather may look even more edgy because it can be unexpected.<br /> You will have fun finding what works for you, whatever you choose. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136804 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 16:55:54 +0000 ironkurtin 1136804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a href="http://www.ebay.com/itm/MODERN-Vintage-DANIER-CITY-COAT-Suede-Leather-CASUAL-JACKET-Blue-M-Womens-MED-/141161823237?pt=US_CSA_WC_Outerwear&amp;hash=item20dde67c05" rel="nofollow">http://www.ebay.com/itm/MODERN.....-Womens-ME</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-we-talk-a-little-more-about-edge#post-1136799 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 16:47:18 +0000 Janet 1136799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, your post almost brought tears to my eyes. I'm laughing at myself now. Sometimes we get so caught up in "if onlys" that we overlook the great things about where we already are in life. I think hubs turning 50 and realizing I am not far behind has given me a little shakeup lately. It's easy to fear that we're not where we should be, that we are somehow "behind" and need to catch up. But there is no race, no goalpost. Thanks for reminding me to enjoy where I am and keep riding the ride. </p>