https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 17:45:51 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1664041 Fri, 20 May 2016 01:02:08 +0000 Ledonna N. 1664041@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Delurked hahaha love it. I think it is a shock when someone does that. We don't know what to say. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1664016 Thu, 19 May 2016 23:49:20 +0000 Anonymous 1664016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Goldenpig - I first had my cat, but noticed there were quite a few of them. Hence cheese. Maybe that's why I needed this post ha ha. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1664011 Thu, 19 May 2016 23:36:37 +0000 Peri 1664011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you should wear it and every time you do you should congratulate yourself for not only looking great, but for having the self control not to deck that rude idiot! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663977 Thu, 19 May 2016 21:43:53 +0000 goldenpig 1663977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love your attitude Delurked! And the cat pic.&nbsp;<br />Oh and I thought your avatar was an Easter Island statue, until I clicked on it and saw it was cheese. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663973 Thu, 19 May 2016 21:21:49 +0000 Anonymous 1663973@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To be honest, I have steered away from most tunics because I try them on and think to myself - this makes me look pregnant. Reject. And I would have been ok with my friends or family saying - I don't think that flatters you. Maybe something else instead. But for someone who doesn't even know my name, even though she is a nice old lady, it just made me upset. </p> <p>However, I'm trying to branch out of the same old thing, and that plus a bit of weight gain, makes me like the possibility of tunics. Plus, I like them with boots and leggings in winter. And I like the look on other people, so I figure, why not on me too? I do think, if I have my YLF terms correct, I can dip my toe into this style to look JFE. This style won't take over my wardrobe, but I've decided not to get rid of it. </p> <p>And this picture is how I should have reacted! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663970 Thu, 19 May 2016 21:11:14 +0000 Aziraphale 1663970@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good grief. I can't believe people (a) comment on a pregnancy when they don't know for sure, and (b) think it's OK to touch someone's belly. Aaaaargh.</p> <p>First: you don't look pregnant.</p> <p>Second: You don't have to throw out all your tunics.</p> <p>Third: About that top in particular. This is where it gets iffy. I think it looks great, and let me reiterate <i>it does not make you look pregnant</i> -- but I confess that if this happened to me, I would be very unlikely to wear the top ever again. This is because of my personal feelings about pregnancy are not overwhelmingly positive. Pregnancy made me feel gross -- like my body was out of control -- and I didn't particularly like how I looked pregnant, either. (Some women look cute; I looked like a sweaty, shiny, bloated tick, albeit with thick lustrous hair). So if I wore a top that made people think I was pregnant, I would never be able to get that image out of my head.</p> <p>Having said that, you are probably more sane than I am, so I think the better advice would be to just ignore the silly woman and keep the top. </p> <p>P.S. No one ever touched my belly during either of my pregnancies, despite the fact that it was very clear that I was, in fact, pregnant. I've always been a bit sad about that, because I was so looking forward to giving someone a public dressing-down for daring to touch me. :-)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663965 Thu, 19 May 2016 21:02:32 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1663965@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The touching thing is so unacceptable -- whether pregnant or not!&nbsp;</p> <p>I like the way you look in this, but I have to say, any time I have ever worn some kind of loose tunic item, my husband says that it looks like maternity clothes (when pregnant I admittedly was living in a black belly basics tunic and leggings), and it has put me off the look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663963 Thu, 19 May 2016 20:58:04 +0000 crazyone 1663963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>you look wonderful, and I don't understand why people think it all right not only to comment on but also to TOUCH potentially pregnant women's bodies. I wouldn't find the touching acceptable even if I were pregnant. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663960 Thu, 19 May 2016 20:46:36 +0000 unfrumped 1663960@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unbelievable! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663957 Thu, 19 May 2016 20:37:18 +0000 Anonymous 1663957@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't read through the comments but will do so afterwords.<br /> For this particular outfit, you clearly MUST just ignore the lady because you look 1,000 fab and super stylish. It would be a crying shame to not wear this fabulous cobalt blue shirt. It looks great.</p> <p>If you're confident about the clothes you're wearing, then an insulting comment is sort of meaningless and not worth your time to consider. I find there are many elements of my style where I feel confident and don't care what other people think.</p> <p>But then there are other areas where I'm still testing out the waters, and when people make a snide comment or backhanded insult (which is almost always unintentional) it affects me a lot and I DO sometimes end up not wearing the item. I will put it on hiatus for a while and come back to it once I'm feeling more confident. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663830 Thu, 19 May 2016 15:52:05 +0000 Vix 1663830@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Delurked --</p> <p>Keep the top and ditch the lady!</p> <p>Love Maneera's story/response. You may have to memorize and use the lines &nbsp;-- I find types like your Questioner will return with, "now you're SURE you're not [x]?"&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663825 Thu, 19 May 2016 15:46:33 +0000 Angie 1663825@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>YOU LOOK GREAT.</p> <p>I wish people would mind their own business. It's SOOOO inappropriate to ask (and touch no less) if someone is pregnant. All I can do right now is roll my eyes, shake my head, and send over a virtual hug.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663824 Thu, 19 May 2016 15:39:56 +0000 Anonymous 1663824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all. It hit a little harder because weight right now is feeling like a sensitive topic.</p> <p>Goldenpig, BrieN, Maneera, Momo, summer and others who've been asked the same question. Unfortunately it shows way too many people are asking women this. Ack. I would prefer it if it was more of an anomaly.</p> <p>And Maneera, I love your dogs picture, and I literally laughed at the concept that several people thought your German Shepard could birth your beagle. Crazy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663757 Thu, 19 May 2016 14:03:49 +0000 Anonymous 1663757@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see this same scenario so often in advice columns, and I always think, why on earth do people think it's okay to say and do that?&nbsp; I suppose they mean well, but come on, people, THINK.&nbsp; I hope the woman you encountered went home with her tail between her legs and hid under the covers in embarrassment, because (1) you don't look pregnant at all, and (2) we all should look so fabulous! And P.S. keep the top, it's lovely.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663750 Thu, 19 May 2016 13:54:30 +0000 Suz 1663750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ACK!! That is just horrible. She put her hands on you??? Some people are beyond belief.&nbsp;</p> <p>Of course you know you don't look pregnant and I hope you'll keep the top. It's a great outfit on you! (Love the shoes and pendant).&nbsp;</p> <p>I am still laughing at <b>Maneera's </b>response. That was absolutely brilliant. I wish I'd had that kind of wit when someone said the same thing to me once on an elevator.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment/page/2#post-1663748 Thu, 19 May 2016 13:53:21 +0000 Thirkellgirl 1663748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look wonderful and you do NOT look pregnant at ALL. Church ladies seem to do this more than the general population, for some reason. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663745 Thu, 19 May 2016 13:49:48 +0000 texstyle 1663745@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You don't look pregnant - the top is really beautiful and the color is great. You simply look like you are wearing a tunic, which as others have said some people immediately relate to maternity wear in their minds - esp. on a younger woman. It's just silly ignorance and nothing to take seriously.<br />Don't let it get to you or ruin your enjoyment of your lovely clothing. I used to let comments like that bother me sometimes and still do if DH doesn't like something I wear (or I think he doesn't), but if it's just some random person or acquaintance, I just don't really value their input much unless they are someone I truly have a close relationship with (like a really good friend). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663719 Thu, 19 May 2016 12:54:50 +0000 BrieN 1663719@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can't believe she touched you. That's beyond the pale - definitely an indication that she's not all there.&nbsp;</p> <p>I had a "friendly acquaintance" ask if I were pregnant while I was at the pool. Running around after my toddler.&nbsp;In my bathing suit.. &nbsp;I actually wondered if there was an element of bullying with that one, it was so egregious.&nbsp;</p> <p>On the other hand, it turns out she was trying to get pregnant at the time (and ended up with twins with IVF) so maybe she just had pregnancy on her radar. At least that's what I tell myself. It still stings a little to think about. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663714 Thu, 19 May 2016 12:43:57 +0000 RobinF 1663714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha, love your stories Maneera! My first thought was like your friend, at least you look young enough... I know how you feel, one comment or bad picture can totally turn me off an outfit. Maybe by the time the weather starts getting cold again you'll feel different about it. I think it looks fine and love the color. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663712 Thu, 19 May 2016 12:35:33 +0000 lyn67 1663712@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I dunno, can it?:-)) But you don't look preggie to me, so I just say, ignore!:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663701 Thu, 19 May 2016 12:19:50 +0000 Janet 1663701@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh good lord, when will people learn it's never ok to ask a woman if she's pregnant unless a baby is actively emerging from her body? That's just rude. And no worries, you look perfectly lovely in that top. Beautiful color, and I like the silver shoes too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663682 Thu, 19 May 2016 11:48:26 +0000 Anonymous 1663682@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That top is lovely, and a beautiful colour for you. You most emphatically *do not* look pregnant. Sometimes I think people read in what they want to see, it has little to do with how we look. Asking is bad enough, but walking up and touching is unacceptable. I'm surprised that, in this era, people still think it's okay to do that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663679 Thu, 19 May 2016 11:45:18 +0000 Helen11 1663679@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Delurked, I hope you've had a good laugh at others stories, and to know you're not alone in people asking rude questions.<br /> Zibbets phrased it nicely in saying this woman had lost a bit of her filter. I was going to say I would assume she was a tiny bit demented. Oops! </p> <p>You look terrific. The tunic is a great colour, and the shoes are fantastic! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663668 Thu, 19 May 2016 11:01:55 +0000 Summer 1663668@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no!&nbsp; I know a few others on the forum have had the same thing happen.&nbsp; You look absolutely lovely in your tunic, so please don't throw it out because of someone's thoughtless question.&nbsp; Just put it down to a lack of tact.</p> <p>The same thing happened to me during the 70s, when smock tops were all the rage.&nbsp; When I started wearing them, my MIL was convinced she needed to start knitting again! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663666 Thu, 19 May 2016 10:30:42 +0000 Momo 1663666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh! I sorry that happened to you. I posted a couple of months ago that it happened to me two times in a couple of weeks !<br /> I went with the at least they think I am young enough,..</p> <p>And no. You don't look pregnant and don't throw out the clothes unless you don't like it yourself! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663652 Thu, 19 May 2016 09:46:21 +0000 Anonymous 1663652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look fabulous in your outfit. &nbsp;I <u>can't even imagine</u> why someone would think "pregnant" unless it had to do with the absence of a cinched waist. &nbsp;I assume this was an older woman?&nbsp;</p> <p>Ignore her. &nbsp;She was just plain silly (and rude). &nbsp;</p> <p>Those shoes slay. &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663651 Thu, 19 May 2016 09:41:33 +0000 goldenpig 1663651@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Delurked, you look great and definitely don't look pregnant. I TOTALLY feel your pain though. I had the same exact thing happen to me when I was wearing a very similar cobalt blue tunic and a loose shirt dress. Several patients asked me if I was pregnant and when I was due. No, it's just a food baby, damn it!<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://goldenpig.lookfab.com/post/some-wiws-from-the-past-six-weeks">http://goldenpig.lookfab.com/p.....-six-weeks</a><br />Do I still have these two items in my closet? Yes. Though I keep debating on whether to put that blue tunic on the donate pile (I admit I do look kind of squishy in that one), I think I'm going to give it another chance.<br />Are people thoughtless and should they keep their mouth shut? Yes.&nbsp;<br />Don't ask a woman if she's pregnant unless there's a baby dangling between her legs!<br />Maneera, great stories! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663628 Thu, 19 May 2016 07:47:46 +0000 rachylou 1663628@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You know, I think that is pretty close to counting as sexual harassment, if not totally. She molested you. Put hands on you. She made comments about your body. And well ... I just want to um kinda point out that harassment is not about the victim or the victim's clothes or anything like that... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663626 Thu, 19 May 2016 07:22:50 +0000 Jane 1663626@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cute dogs!</p> <p>What a horrid experience. You absolutely do not look pregnant and please don't get rid of the top. It's a great colour and fit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/can-any-clothing-survive-the-death-knell-you-look-pregnant-comment#post-1663625 Thu, 19 May 2016 07:18:29 +0000 Sally 1663625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You don't look pregnant at all and lots of people wear tunic tops. I've had people say that to me but it's when I'm slim. . I am a cynical person and I sometimes wonder if people say things to be mean...they know you're not pregnant and they know it will upset you so they say it to put you off guard... </p>