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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Buying Under Pressure https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 08:37:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Marlene on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289555 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 19:02:07 +0000 Marlene 1289555@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have mixed feelings about SA "help".  I love having help when it is actually helpful.  I can tell when someone is just sucking up to make a sale.  I rarely buy anything due to guilt or pressure.  And I have no problem telling someone that "it just isn't me",  However, I do like having another opinion when I'm trying stuff on.  I have some sort of body dysmorphia where I think I need to wear everything too big.  I always appreciate when someone offers to bring me the right size.   My strategy with SA when BROWSING when I enter a store...boutique, larger dept store....is, when asked, is to declare "i haven't been in in a while and I want to see what is new this season".  If they ask if I'm looking for anything specific, I will tell them "I don't really need anything but always looking for something fun and new".  At that point I think I'm wishy-washy enough that they give me space but still available if I need any assistance.  I know they are doing their job and how they approach me is based on the company policy.   That being said, if I AM looking for something specific, I do put them to work.  Sizes and options...BRING IT!  And since I AM serious about buying, I will definitely give credit where credit is due.  They want to sell...I want to buy.   Anonymous on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289523 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 18:31:22 +0000 Anonymous 1289523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I would love to take advantage of a 'free' makeup application at the cosmetics counters in department stores but I know they are not really free! The pressure to buy, the guilt at taking up their time - I just can't do it. I like department stores for the anonymity to shop around, just make it so I don't have to find a SA when I want a sale rung up. UmmLila (Lisa) on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289496 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 18:06:47 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1289496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I do most of my shopping online, but focus on places with good returns policies. Nevertheless, because I live in a small city with only two boutiques for women, and because I like there to be boutiques for women, and because one of them has such lovely windows, I make a point of patronizing them both. I don't feel guilty on days I don't buy anything. The one I buy the most from, I know the owner. She's very good at suggesting things I would like. She has also been known to offer me, unasked, better than the usual returns policy. I wouldn't try to bring my noisy, handsome, sheddy PBGV in, even with his peacock print collar. I guess my point here is that it's good to have an in person relationship with a shop where your tastes are known. amiable on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289489 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 18:02:02 +0000 amiable 1289489@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great suggestions here - I have mostly given up shopping retail all together because of this intimidation.  (GoodWill doesn't intimidate me - so I shop there).  I like the lines you all use.  Perhaps I'll venture in to a store sometime soon rachylou on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289472 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 17:51:08 +0000 rachylou 1289472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hugh Laurie is *my husband,* as the little children say! Ok, I made a leap from "small boutique" to "chi chi" right away, and then equated chi chi with high end. I guess that's not necessarily true, but I confess I can't think of any real shop that's small, specialised, oppressive, and yet not la-de-da... except this one I worked at for two weeks when I was a kid. I thought they were ridiculous - steaming the beefy tee's and polishing their boat shoes - and what I said was, "I don't think this is for me." They didn't stay in business that long. Oh, I have to mention I'm too scared to go into Chanel. It's so dark and empty. Who knows what really goes on inside? And the makeup is so strongly perfumed. I'm even scared of the Chanel shop inside Bloomingdale's. Just strikes terror in my heart. It's always nighttime in Chanel. I'm just sayin'... Mia on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289430 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 16:49:04 +0000 Mia 1289430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great thread. I have lots of "lines" that I use to fend off the over eager SA. At least help is better than being ignored. I haven't felt intimidated for a long time (exception being a recent bra fitting!) but it took practice and a certain maturing let's say. I try to give positive feedback whenever possible and say what I liked about the service. Whenever possible at the shops I frequent most I cultivate "my SA". Kudos to our new J Crew where a young male SA learned my name, recognized me when I returned and has given helpful but never pushy service. Amazing to me as a fairly generic looking middle aged gal. I now make sure he is working if I want to "do some damage". Too funny Rachy.... Laura (rhubarbgirl) on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289403 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 16:29:37 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1289403@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Chico's used to have the layout where none of the individual change rooms had a mirror, and you had to come out into the larger area to see yourself. I overheard several ladies complain about that, and the sales associates always commiserated but said it was corporate policy. They must have finally gotten enough negative feedback about it because at least in my area they've added mirrors in all the rooms in all the local stores. Reminds me of the first time I went to Loehmans and there was just the one big room with mirrors all around it. Now I think that setup is kinda endearing, but I sure wouldn't want to put up with it with a high end store. Day Vies on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289366 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 15:33:13 +0000 Day Vies 1289366@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I used to feel this way until I worked in retail as a sales person and as a sales manager. Announcing at the sale person's initial contact that "I'm just browsing" is my favorite way to keep sales people from "investing" their time in me. It also allows me to look around and decide if I even like the merchandise and if they have my size. "I'm just browsing" also lets the sales person know that I'm not committed to buying anything. However when I find myself in that situation where I've been working with a sales person for awhile and I'm on the fence about an item I ask "Can I put this on hold while I look at other stores?" My other favorite especially if I think they're being really pushy is "this just isn't exactly what I'm looking for." I also leave it at that -- and don't try to explain myself. Remember you don't have toexplain your reasoning because if what ever it is you're buying isn't satisfying on every level you have a right to leave it there (this also goes with my if you don't absolutely love it leave it at the store philosophy). There is no point in bringing home "meh"-type items you aren't going to enjoy wearing. Lisa on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289353 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 15:23:45 +0000 Lisa 1289353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a great question. If you asked me this a few years ago I would have said I always purchased because of pressure.  I would feel bad that the SA spent their time and I did not walk away with something.  But the more I've shopped, the more I've realized that those purchases have not always worked well for me.  And I do not want to purchase any items that will sit unworn anymore so now I ignore the 'desire to purchase' just because I got extra help during my shopping.  A simple 'sorry nothing worked today' is my line lately. On another note, the more 'compliments' that a SA gives me, the less the chance is that I will purchase ANYTHING from them.  Everything that I try on is not a 10, and the more I hear how 'wonderful' it looks on me, the less I believe what they say is true.  I've walked away from items more than once because the overflattery has just gotten me miffed.  christieanne on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289264 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 13:55:21 +0000 christieanne 1289264@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I understand the feeling and have bought a few things I most likely didn't "need" after spending some time with sales associate - I am thinking cosmetics counters.  Since I have worked as commission sales associate myself (oh so many years ago!) I have seen the tricks and methods that many SA's rely on. If I see those coming, I go the other way or get very firm with the "just looking" and go elsewhere. There is no need to be heavy handed or inattentive with help. I figured out early that by using a low pressure selling technique (offer features, suggestions and options, let customer look and decide) I would earn long term loyalty and make more sales over course of the business relationship. It worked for me.  Many stores are not commission based but do rate their teams on productivity per hour or week. No customer should be made to feel pressured and expect to be a customer for long.  Janet on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289245 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 13:39:56 +0000 Janet 1289245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ MsKatieKat, I hate it when dressing rooms don't have mirrors, too! Sometimes you just don't want to have to trot out into the public space to get a glimpse, you know? Because sometimes all it takes is one quick second of looking to know that something is not going to work, and you'd rather not broadcast that to the sales staff. Maybe because I'm older now, I don't get many of the look-down-the-nose experiences in higher-end shops. (Oh, with the exception of the boutique in Santa Fe that I wanted to check out 10 minutes before closing time, when a SA all but locked the door in my face. Like, yeah, a woman carrying a camera worth a few thousand dollars can't afford your Marni, even if she is wearing worn jeans and dusty boots.) I do now get the glaze-eyed I-don't-see-you treatment from SAs who are probably barely out of their teens in some shops that skew younger though. Yuck. Ageism is alive and well. At least it makes it really easy to leave without even trying anything. chadya on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289173 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 11:31:51 +0000 chadya 1289173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think with age comes the wisdom or balls to resist the pushiness of sales people.  I really don't think anyone has talked me into buying something I knew wasn't right that or that  I bought because I didn't want to disappoint the salesperson.   They are just doing their job. Deborah on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289131 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 08:55:00 +0000 Deborah 1289131@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Once upon a time, I would allow myself to be pressured into purchasing but not these days.   I always try to strike up a rapport with SA's and will always be honest.  I spent ages in a Metalicus boutique in Melbourne recently because I wanted to try on some specific garments and see how the different fabrics fitted etc.  It was a research visit and told the SA.  She was amazing and didn't mind at all, in fact we had a lovely time:)  My philosophy is it is my hard earned money and I don't want to waste it:)  I am always polite and I more than comfortable to say that I need to go away and consider the garment.  And I am not at all easily intimated.  What I does put me off is really bad service or attitudes from SA's ... that's what will have me walking to the door:) Ornella on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289115 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 08:06:42 +0000 Ornella 1289115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Just chiming in to say I haven't abandoned the thread, but I have a busy day ahead of me and will be back here to read and learn from you and think some more about this subject later in the day. After reading Rachy's and Claire's comments (those are where I continued in the morning of my time zone) I simply have to declare I need a lot more time to take all this in. And caffeine. But, one thing is obvious and I haven't mentioned it in my intro post - I only talked about shopping in small stores, but shopping in high end stores in another animal altogether (we're talking gingham bandanas Rachy ;-) ). The feeling of being intimidated there may need a thread of its own unless a discussion develops here.  Please keep sharing the experiences and thoughts. Neel on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289074 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 04:52:16 +0000 Neel 1289074@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My local zara makes me feel this way! I don't go there anymore ... Plus kids are not welcome because they think the *pesky* kids are going to dirty their precious clothes. SAs glaring down your throat! So what can a mum do? I feel guilty and nervous even thinking of zara! I pop in and try to buy at least something (mostly) so that they don't think I am a waste of their time. Lol. Now that's pressurized shopping. I am improving now though. I have walked out twice from there the last two times with nothing in hand :) And most of my purchases come from the shop (F&F) where the SAs get me. They even entertain DS (and know his name!) while I leisurely buy stuff :). Now that's a place after my own heart! Obviously they get more business from me, because I don't feel any kind of pressure to actually buy. I could walk out empty handed with SAs still smiling at me and waving goodbye to DS. And they would always tell me to come back the next week because they are expecting new stocks and I might like something. I heart that store deb on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289068 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 04:43:37 +0000 deb 1289068@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rachy, I love Hugh Laurie. deb on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289063 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 04:33:41 +0000 deb 1289063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I call it 'boutique guilt'. Gaylene on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289061 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 04:31:20 +0000 Gaylene 1289061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rachylou, you are cracking me up--now I'll never enter one of those shops without mentally wearing my Valkyrie corslet  and chanting my war song: Well, aren't you a dear... NO! Chop Chop indeed!    *still laughing* Beth Ann on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289058 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 04:18:47 +0000 Beth Ann 1289058@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ornella, I often avoid small shops for this reason.  Upscale boutiques are often quite expensive for my budget and are less likely to carry my size.  I've been working on saying no beautifully in recent months.  I include a nice smile and a "thanks so much for help," and sashay out the door.  I do feel like an actress playing a role.  Once I actually, in my head, gave myself stage direction, "Smile. eye contact. exit quickly stage right."  This goes hand in hand with my SING acronym! On a related note, I said a warm "no" when approached to teach in our church's vacation Bible school today.  Of course, I did offer my two children as my as stand-ins.  I hope that can't be considered human sacrifice, cause I'm sure there's Bible verse or two about that!  Hee.  Actually, they love to be "workers" and get confirmation service credits, so it's definitely a win-win. rachylou on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289048 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 04:08:08 +0000 rachylou 1289048@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Claire, I can't be certain, but feel surely Hugh Laurie must deliver at least one chop chop in <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeeves_and_Wooster" rel="nofollow">Jeeves and Wooster</a>. A complete classic. If not, surely Hugh Laurie does so in at least one episode of <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blackadder" rel="nofollow">Blackadder</a>. Hmm... what else has Hugh Laurie been in? Ledonna N. on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure/page/2#post-1289021 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 03:44:58 +0000 Ledonna N. 1289021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think that is why I don't go into some stores even though I can afford to shop at the higher end retailers. I would feel pressured to buy and I don't like pressure it is stressful. I have to keep reminding myself that it is my money and it is hard earned. I'm not buying for the sales person I'm buying for me. Anonymous on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288994 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 03:17:32 +0000 Anonymous 1288994@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ @Rachy, is there some book, movie or TV show you can direct me to that uses terms like "floppy" and "chop-chop"? I feel like I'm missing an important cultural experience here, lol!  I just remembered. I resist being pressured so much, that twice, I have gone out of my way and inconvenienced myself to purchase a particular item elsewhere, just because I found the SA to be so overwhelmingly obnoxious. One was a perfume, and the SA showing it to me actually raised her voice and loudly scolded me for rubbing my wrists together after she gave me a spritz (I was young, and didn't know any better). I walked to the opposite end of the mall and bought it from a competing department store. Yeah, yelling at me and making me feel stupid is not going to close the sale.  The second was just last year when I was trying on sunglasses at a big box store. The manager was helping me and she was loud, overbearing and pushy. She kept telling me about all these discounts and percentages off, yet when she wrote up my ticket, some were not included. I felt like she knew she had me, I had been there for over an hour and a half, she had already run my prescription and when I asked about all the great discounts she had promised, she just shrugged and said they didn't all apply or couldn't be used together! I felt myself getting hot under the collar so I just said, "You know what? Let's just kill the whole sale. I need some time to reconsider the purchase at this price. You led me to believe it was going to be much cheaper." So I gathered my information and left. It was awkward just for a moment but I was so relieved when I walked out. I ended up ordering the same sunglasses online, and I had Costco make the lenses for them. I normally don't "use" stores to try on something and then look for a cheaper price online, but in this case, I felt entirely justified.  rachylou on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288975 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 02:53:27 +0000 rachylou 1288975@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh Claire! The sad tragedy is the only part where I was kidding was the kerchief. See pic below - I usually call it quits with a gingham collar. Aubergine - it's hard for people to switch gears. Rather than relax for a different kind of client, they stay all hyped. One more Rachylou story: I was once in Gucci with my dad when I was a teen (yes, that's the only store in the world after Nordies). There was this poor woman in there too who didn't understand the setup, why the hovering saleslady. Big dustup. She freaked out, thought she was being stalked. Anonymous on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288958 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 02:25:44 +0000 Anonymous 1288958@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm with Claire in that somewhere where they leave you alone to browse in peace is my ideal shopping experience. I like to wander around and feel kind of anonymous, and I'm just uncomfortable if I feel like I'm being watched while I look at stuff. Even if it's more in my own head than anything else. And I hate having to come up with chatter while I'm browsing. Having to agree that that color is really pretty and it's so popular this year or whatever. I even feel a little weird in the Nordstrom near me because some of the salespeople recognize me by now. I do like small shops, but I kind of have to be in the right mood to go in. And, now that I think about it, I'm more likely to get jewelry or accessories from them than clothes partly because it's easier to look at stuff like that without having a very "involved" transaction where I'll either feel pressured to buy or guilty that I wasted their time without getting something. In general, I've gotten better about not buying something just because I feel pressured, but I think sometimes I do the opposite. I'll recognize that I'm feeling like that, then just decide not to buy it so I don't have to deal with separating the guilt from whether I actually want it. And, Rachy, I think you've explained perfectly why I sometimes feel weird in very high-end stores! Not that I go into them that often. But I'm on the extremely floppy end of the continuum (have never chop-chopped in my life), so they probably don't know what to do with me. Jaime on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288948 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 02:16:32 +0000 Jaime 1288948@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I used to be so intimidated that even walking into a small boutique required major mental steeling. Now I have come to understand that the salespeople there are not just after their commission, sometimes they are simply bored and want to flex their creative muscles and help you. If you are polite and appreciative of their help/expertise they usually are totally understanding if you don't buy. Nonetheless, I do sometimes let their comments sway me or get nervous and feel pressured and have made major mistakes - particularly at cosmetics counters actually. MsLuna on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288943 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 02:09:53 +0000 MsLuna 1288943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I've gotten a lot better at handling pushy salespeople, but it wasn't easy in the past, especially when you're a people-pleaser by nature. In time, I got better and since I went back to school for counselling, my boundaries have strengthened. I do have a peeve regarding this "pushiness". Ever go to a store that did not have mirrors inside your dressing room and you're forced to walk out and use the outside mirrors? It drives me crazy. Then, sales staff swoop at you then start making suggestions. That's also when certain sale staff get pushy. Sometimes I just want to shop in peace! Laura (rhubarbgirl) on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288930 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 01:56:33 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1288930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Claire summed up my feelings perfectly: "I am really much more comfortable when left to my own devices." That's why when we were talking about boutiques the other week, I said that they weren't my favorite. Sometimes the salespeople are pushy, and sometimes it's just that having to interact with them in general drains me and I'm feeling particularly introverted that day. Gigi, I also suspect that certain sales people have learned how to manipulate shoppers' feelings of discomfort or guilt in order to get a sale. There are certain stores, like the AT Outlet at a nearby outlet mall, where I tend to try on a crazy large number of items and end buying maybe one or two of them. It's not a full-service hands-on place, thank goodness, but often I am toting an armful of items by the time I've made a circle of the whole store, and often someone offers to start a room for me. I always say yes but feel somewhat guilty because they are quite helpful and maybe expecting a big sale but aren't going to get it. Same thing with Nordstrom, when I want to try a ton of stuff on but don't end up buying anything. When I was younger I used to slink away after nothing worked, but now I try to walk past the assistant who helped me and at least say thank you. Susie on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288905 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 01:40:05 +0000 Susie 1288905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ In small shops I do like to be left alone. I'm usually not looking for anything specific there; I need to wonder around, touch things, and just see what speaks to me. That's not something that they can 'help' me with. On the other hand, I don't like to be completely ignored either. I've left stores and never gone back if they don't bother to acknowledge me at all. I do prefer the anonymity of a department store where I don't feel like I am putting someone out by trying on a bunch of stuff that I might not buy. But some of my best loved items have come from boutiques so I continue to shop them. I feel like there are more unique, more special things to be had there than in the chain stores. One of my favorite places to shop is Anthropologie. There's lots to see and I like the mix of home stuff and fashion. There's help if you need it but I've never felt pressured there. Anonymous on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288877 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 01:13:27 +0000 Anonymous 1288877@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rachy, you are killing me. And I only *get* about half of your jokes!  Ornella, right you are. I'm actually really good at saying no. I had a friend tell me once that I was really good at setting boundaries, lol. I think that was a compliment, but since I'm an introvert, it's necessary to my survival either way. When I go into a fancy department store like Nordstrom, I have the feeling that I have no business even darkening their door. Their prices are WAY out of my league. I don't go there often, but if I do I'm looking for something really specific and if it's perfect, I just might fork out the cash. But it has to be an absolute 11. I'm quite up front with the SA's about my budget and I even encourage them to answer a ringing phone or help someone else instead of hovering over me, since I'm not likely to buy. I usually go in to look at something I've seen online like an Equipment or Vince shirt. I had a similar experience with Talbots earlier this spring. I went in to look at a denim dress I had seen on line. and since I had called first, they had been nice enough to set it aside for me. The SA was very courteous, got the dress for me, waited outside the fitting room and declared it "super cute" but I wasn't convinced. It was much shorter on me than on the model, and the button front left a slit at the bottom that made it shorter still. It was also a little too wide in the torso and arms for my taste. Sure, it was close, but for me to pay $139 for a denim dress, it'd better be absolutely perfect. Some women might drop that amount of cash for something "meh", but I just can't afford to. Sometimes I tell the SA that I work with a Ten-Item Wardrobe, so each of my items has to be just right. That usually shocks them into silence! The more expensive a purchase is, the more I need to walk around and think about it. I was at Last Chance (no returns) on Tuesday, and bought two pairs of really nice shoes, a cashmere scarf and some jeggings. I was in the store for almost four hours shopping for and playing with the items, taking pictures and mentally going through all the ways they could be worn before pulling the trigger. Thank God they leave you alone in that store. I am really much more comfortable when left to my own devices.  crutcher on "Buying Under Pressure" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/buying-under-pressure#post-1288863 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 00:57:03 +0000 crutcher 1288863@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I ended up with two expensive and uncomfortable bras because i just didn't say "no thank you"...Perhaps I was not as assertive as I should have been because I was out of town..no NOrdies in my town and I felt that the bra fitter knew what she was doing...In other words, I gave her my power...Not a good thing to do...I will definitely be more my own woman when I go for a bra fitting again...H ang it that I am not local and would have to drive a couple of hours to a Nordies...and I can keep looking for something better...Now, I feel better..smile..