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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: bumping by thanking https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 05:49:05 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Marley on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986159 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 18:23:44 +0000 Marley 986159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Just for the record - I LOVE getting the badges - and none of you have to thank me by responding back to me when I respond on your threads - just give me a BADGE!  (please!) Also, because the forum is soooo busy these days - I very seldom get back to any more than page 2 when I'm checking out the threads - so, when I come across a thread on the first page that has re-appeared because the poster is thanking people, it does seem to kind of "clutter" up that first page and I wonder why they didn't just give them a badge? But - you know what?  It doesn't really matter to me - I think its all good - and I'm here to have fun and learn - so, lets get on with the fun, OK? And thank you Adelfa for bringing this up.  I'm a firm believer in speaking up and asking, rather than wondering and/or doubting/2nd-guessing myself and coming to my own conclusions - which many times are wrong.  Adelfa on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986152 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 18:05:18 +0000 Adelfa 986152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks, Angie, for your responses! My purpose in starting the thread was to gather input on how I can be a considerate forum member (like MNsara I always feel I have more to learn from the gracious ladies here). I wasn't looking for rules and still less to give offense. I think a lot of the "rules" on this thread are rules people make for *their own behavior* again with the intent of being considerate forum members. Shannon and Diane, please don't take a break because of anything on this thread--you are both wonderful forum members. What I'm seeing here is a lot of the Golden Rule. People are crafting their responses to posts in accordance with what would feel thoughtful to them. Members are doing their best to be kind and considerate! And that's a good thing. I think a good starting point is to assume positive intent because that's what's happening 99.99999% of the time on this forum. Marlene on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986148 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:52:39 +0000 Marlene 986148@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I recently did my first WIW last week and I had a couple questions about responding protocol.  It actually did cross my mind that it would look suspicious thanking everyone publicly so I did it with badges.  There were a couple of questions asked that I responded to (thus "bumping" the thread) but I felt that was part of a conversation so not real "bumping".  I don't want to annoy everyone by doing it "wrong"....but why not have real conversations and responses on the thread? Angie on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986136 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:35:02 +0000 Angie 986136@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sara, thanks for the kind words.......and what are you smoking??? You are SO naturally nice and considerate!!! Banish the thought from your brain that you are not this instant. MNsara on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986127 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:22:11 +0000 MNsara 986127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ haha, bumping THIS thread to add that I am not naturally considerate :-(  (I AM naturally efficient and practical and we need both types, right? ;-)).  Anyway, I have learned SO much by reading and trying to emulate those that are so considerate and gracious (ahem, Angie springs to mind first, see above, but there are many, many of you out there and I'm NOT going to name names other than Angie - lol) I'm not entirely sure what that has to do with bumping threads, but I guess it sprang to mind because I want to see people's replies to each other so I can continue to brainwash myself on how to be nice!  I don't want anyone to feel they can't bump their own thread if they have something they want to say. and now off to read and absorb :-) MNsara on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986009 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:47:13 +0000 MNsara 986009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh my goodness!  I must be in my own little world here, because it would never cross my mind to worry that it's impolite to bump my own thread by coming back later to thank additional responders, answer questions, or provide any sort of conclusion/decision/finale just because my post fell onto the back burners of page 3/4/5/etc. I don't want to feel like I'm walking on eggshells around here, because I probably won't even know that I'm being 'virtually impolite' in someone's eyes. If there ARE online etiquette 'rules', then they should be published in a permanent thread (as I've seen in other forums).  If not, then I'd like to think using normal considerations will be fine -- with all the variations in 'normal' just like we encounter IRL interactions.  And we will all get over it when someone's approach isn't like ours. Angie on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986008 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:45:36 +0000 Angie 986008@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have to set the record straight right away. There is no need to complicate matters here and over think things. First, this has been a week of heightened forum sensitivities, which does happen every so often. It's par for the course. We have to address the concerns, work through them, and get on with it. And we always do! Second, there is NOTHING wrong with bumping your thread and thanking people. I am personally big on thanking people, was brought up that way, and find it civilized. I absolutely encourage the bumping of threads. This means the author of the thread is engaged, answering questions along the way, and respectful of the people who took the time to post a comment on their thread. You have my blessing - regardless of time zone. Don't worry about it! Third, you do not need to thank people on your thread by addressing them personally. It impresses me when people do because it's really polite, shows extra engagement, and takes energy, time and stamina. But a general thank you is absolutely fine too because time is at a forever shortage. And awarding people a badge is another way of acknowledging that you read their comment. So whichever way works best for you is perfectly good forum etiquette in my book. We are here to support each other, find wardrobe solutions, share great ideas, epiphanies and thoughts, and most of all - have fun! Let's get back to these priorities :) Beth Ann on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking/page/2#post-986005 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:41:57 +0000 Beth Ann 986005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, dear!  Shannon:  You are one of the biggest givers on the forum, and your daily posts always have thoughtful comments that aren't just for you, but for everyone who wants to have fun with fashion. Diane:  I'm so grateful to have your sewist's perspective on the forum!  I would so hate to lose that! So many wonderful people on the forum, and so many ways to make use of it! Vix on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985994 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:31:43 +0000 Vix 985994@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Zap, no one is asking for protocols. These topics are just as much an area of sensitivity to the members concerned as who gets praised as a style inspiration is an area of sensitivity to others. Suz on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985990 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:26:26 +0000 Suz 985990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Agreed, Zap! She'd say do whatever makes you engaged, and be nice to one another.  I have to wonder if for some of us, at least, the heat might be making us extra-sensitive. I haven't been conscious of that with respect to the forum but I do know I was awfully "testy" with Mr. Suz for a couple of evenings last week. And it was all the heat.  Also, NAS fever (and Angie being busy) may be taking  a toll. Let's just keep having fun here!  Anonymous on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985988 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:23:16 +0000 Anonymous 985988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am much in agreement with Shannon. One thing is to iron out sensitivities, another is to hash out "protocols" that have not been set by the admins here. I think we all should go back and think "What would Angie say to this?" I can guarantee you she would say do whatever makes you feel engaged. As I said, there is no one 'right' way to behave in this forum, because that freedom is intrinsic to its design ( other than being respectful, of course). Transcona Shannon on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985983 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:10:19 +0000 Transcona Shannon 985983@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I suppose I'm one of the biggest offenders of thanking everyone so it seems like I'm bumping my own threads constantly. That's not what I'm doing though. I feel that if someone has taken the time to comment on my thread I owe them a thank you and of course if someone has asked a question, I most certainly don't want to miss it and want to respond in a timely manner. Sometimes if I can't get back to the thread until much later, I will still respond to the question which looks like another bump. I had no idea that people would misconstrue politely responding to people (which my mother always taught me was simple good manners) as selfish bumping of one's own thread. I also appreciate when others acknowledge my replies, if I have said anything worthy of replying to. I enjoy the back-and-forth that can take place in a thread (such as my VC tube skirt length post yesterday with many back and forths with Angie, Suz and Glory for example). Was I selfishly bumping? Absolutely not. I was engaged in a somewhat real time conversation where others (I believe) were expecting a response. I must say, with all due respect, that if I have to worry about how many times I reply to posters in my thread, not to respond to anyone once my thread has gone off the first page, etc. then I think we have lost some of what this forum is about - lively, engaged, style related discussions, whether that be in a WIW post, K/R post or any other discussion. I'm feeling much like Diane above and am considering taking a break from the forum. It is becoming more difficult to determine how I'm supposed to behave here Krista on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985980 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:06:28 +0000 Krista 985980@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I appreciate the topic, Adelfa, as it was something I was thinking about. But I am generally someone who has angst about this because I was raised to always thank people! Inner angst aside (because it's just angst!), I generally take Parsley's approach. It's all good. I try to acknowledge people by badges at least, or a personal thank you if I can. I expect the same but I don't worry about it. I recognize people are busy and, in all honesty, if something comes up in my life and I'm obsessing about how I didn't respond to my own thread on YLF, that's not cool at all. It's all about balance. I think we all recognize that? Vix on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985978 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 14:05:00 +0000 Vix 985978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi Adelfa -- I'll out myself as the poster who mentioned hearing that bumping by thanking annoyed members/was seen as non-ideal forum etiquette a while back. [ETA: in one or more of the meta/preferences threads, and it was not an isolated comment.] I still don't get it. An "older" (aka 1-7 day old) post comes back to the top: so what? Why these "oh if I post a WIW, then after 24 hours I just badge vs bump" comments?  <ul> <li>How is bumping to thank any more egotistical or attention-seeking than starting a *new* post? Is it that it's pushing a newer post down? If so, that seems to imply newer posts are inherently more interesting -- even if that interpretation is not anyone's intent.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Badging is nice, but it's not public. If you're a member who mostly reads the latest and greatest you may not realize this, but the public thanks tend to go to the posters who are first. So you privately thank someone for contributing to your 2-day old post: great. Those who ARE catching up on the threads will often see effusive thanks to the "regulars," and nothing (because it's not public) said in response to newcomers, off-and-on posters, etc. From THIS reader's perspective, anyway, it's weird. Like being good enough to sleep with but not good enough to date publicly, or something!</li> </ul> On a broader note, as someone who's not on throughout the day or often for more than minutes here and there, I *love* when a thread pops up from the several pages back. [And I find I'm often one bumping to contribute to someone's thread I missed -- a lot of great discussions loitering in pages 3-7...and even farther back.] Parsley on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985962 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 13:43:25 +0000 Parsley 985962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ In my opinion it's all good! Personally, I don't get bent out of shape one way or another. If someone gives a lot of responses on their thread I don't have to keep opening it if I don't want to. I do like to have some kind of acknowledgment if I've responded on a thread, but whether it's written or by clicking "boost" or whatever doesn't matter to me. missvee on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985953 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 13:24:53 +0000 missvee 985953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ As someone who rarely starts a thread I am in total awe of those of you who take the time to post regularly. I think that whatever way you choose to acknowledge the responses you receive is perfectly fine. I hope we don't get too bogged down with perceived protocol :-). Anonymous on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985905 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 11:50:46 +0000 Anonymous 985905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Adelfa, ummm, I am not sure what to think about it. i guess the forum is getting a little intimidating. Suz on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985896 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 11:35:38 +0000 Suz 985896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What Caro and Joy said, and it depends on the type of thread and the kinds of responses.  And also what Ornella said. Can't please everyone, so I do what seems polite and reasonable to me in the specific circumstance.  Anonymous on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985867 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 10:28:18 +0000 Anonymous 985867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ On my thread about making the most of your best feature. I had an awful lot of input and went back to my thread at intervals to thank people in batches. So in other words I left it for a while and waited for comments to build up. I thanked pretty much everyone as it was a subject that needed me to address many points for contributers. Angie chimed in near the end and said how much she admired my stamina and extremely good manners for addressing each and everyone here's a link to the page where she commented : <a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-you-really-making-the-most-of-your-best-feature/page/2" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....ure/page/2</a> Now, on my WIW's I tend to pop back a couple of times and answer in batches and I am in the UK so I often have to do this on the second day of me posting. I also remember reading a comment once, on a thread similar to this, where a similar thing was discussed and the consensus then was that it was better to leave your thread and just click the appreciation buttons once it had gone onto page 2 for the second time. Though this was about 14 months ago and the forum is busier now. To be honest though I am getting rather fed up of all the discussions full of angst lately on the forum and I am getting rather tempted to take a break from it. We all have stress and stuff going of in our real lives and we don't really want it in the place where we come to for a bit of pleasure and fashion discussion. Can we please all just carry on as we were??? Ornella on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985857 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:24:58 +0000 Ornella 985857@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ We really are polishing forum etiquette these days by the look of it. My intentions are always the best for this community which I love and respect. But, one thing that I take from this all is that you can't please everyone.  cciele said it better than I could.  And anne touches on interesting point with us who live outside US and in different time zones. As a general rule, I like to show the appreciation for someone taking time to comment, however sometimes it is not possible very soon after posting - unplanned things get in the way. Which is why I think the badges are a genius thing and I use at least them, but only if I've read (not just skimmed) over the comment - which can also mean I don't get to do it until a day, two even five days later. But I read all comments on the threads I've started. I don't expect to be addressed directly on those conversations where I leave comments, but since badges are a simple one-click action I think that unless I'm on someone's ignore list it is nice to be shown at least through badges that my input was at least read. Sylvie on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985853 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:03:18 +0000 Sylvie 985853@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm very interested to see what the consensus (if any) is on this thread. I too was under the impression that individual thanks/responses were considered good manners on this forum. Therefore, I only start threads when I know that I'll have time to watch/monitor the conversations.  I'll post a single message with individual thanks/responses after a "reasonable" number of people have commented and the thread looks like it has cooled down.  If there is a second big batch of comments after that, I'll post another long message with individual acknowledgements.  If up to 1-2 people respond after that second message, I thank via badge and don't respond to avoid bumping the thread.  Also, I won't respond/avoid bumping if the thread has been live for more than 24 hours. Complicated, huh? I would probably post more often if forum etiquette only required badges and not individual responses.   It can be hard to allocate that chunk of time to respond thoughtfully, especially because most of the conversational action happens during my work day.  I see the lengthy responses people write and wonder how they manage it - perhaps I'm just the slowest writer ever? anne on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985851 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 08:55:18 +0000 anne 985851@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am a bit conscious of the bumping issue living in Australia. If I post before I go to bed it will be hours until Iget back to it. I even bump my own messages occasionally, and Angie has been fine with that. lyn67 on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985847 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 08:32:30 +0000 lyn67 985847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Yes, I was not bumping too much with thankings if my thread was getting older than 1 or 2 days for this reason as well. But always try to thank via badgets. CocoLion on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985819 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 06:24:27 +0000 CocoLion 985819@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I might bump my own thread once if it's a WIW but otherwise will thank others via badges.  If the thread has a more engaging topic, I might bump more often.  I bumped my thread on the Modesty Project more because I wanted to thank as well as address other comments, and I also simply had more ideas and things to say about this topic in general. Mo on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985814 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 06:15:21 +0000 Mo 985814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I use badges and will sometimes bump with a blanket thank you to all responders.  When specific questions are asked, I respond in kind.   Gaylene on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985792 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 05:10:28 +0000 Gaylene 985792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm with Zap in thinking that trying to set hard and fast rules about responding to comments would really limit the interactive nature of this site. I think that anyone who was abusing this freedom would soon be "handled" by other members (in a nice way, of course!) Personally, I like it when people respond--it makes the forum seem more like a conversation than a soapbox. Beth Ann on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985785 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 04:54:48 +0000 Beth Ann 985785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think it depends on the thread.  If it's a WIW, I'll generally award badges when I see their posts and respond to several at a time.  I'll respond directly when someone asks a question OR when someone clearly puts a significant amount of time into a particularly detailed reply. I bumped my own thread three times today with a simple "Ask Angie" about the Blondo boots.  Not a very interesting thread, I might add, but I was looking for detailed, real-time responses.  I think the most important rule of community is to make deposits as well as withdrawals.  Or, to put it another way, people who are active on other fabber's threads are likely to be more active on their own.  It all levels out in the end. ManidipaM on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985782 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 04:52:10 +0000 ManidipaM 985782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Same thoughts as cciele. Adelfa on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985770 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 04:25:06 +0000 Adelfa 985770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi Zap, I generally agree with you here. That said, I started this thread because a fabber had an issue. Since it touched on something I'd often wondered, I thought I'd throw it open. I hope it's not getting hung up to try to find out if the issue is widespread or not. Thank you for your thoughts! Anonymous on "bumping by thanking" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bumping-by-thanking#post-985765 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 04:13:23 +0000 Anonymous 985765@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have never seen an issue with this. My take is that we all seem to be able to handle our own threads well. I don't think there is a spoken ( or unspoken) protocol. It is not the end of the world if one feels they should bump a thread out of page 3 to thank someone. Let's don't get too hung up in protocols. This is supposed to be an enjoyable activity for everyone, me thinks. There is enough "air time" for everyone.