https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 04 Apr 2026 13:30:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295631 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 17:59:23 +0000 Heather 295631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>Perhaps speak with the rest of your family and get a feel for what they collectively deem appropriate? </p> <p>I certainly have been to services that would frown upon anything but a solemn neutral. On the other hand, I have been to other services that were considered a celebration of life and color was encouraged by the family.</p> <p>All the best to you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295629 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 17:58:38 +0000 Anonymous 295629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry about your grandmother. I also hope you can borrow a more subdued coat for the event. I doubt you'd be comfortable in bright orange. Even a red would be better.<br /> If you go the pashima route, black seems too Halloween with orange, so I'd suggest a brown instead. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295622 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 17:48:38 +0000 Isabel 295622@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am very sorry about your loss.</p> <p>I agree with Deb, that if you feel uncomfortable with your coat, get a black, large scarf and wear it over your shoulders.</p> <p>Though I don't think it is expected that people buy new outwear for a funeral. You wear what you have to keep yourself warm.</p> <p>Hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295497 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 08:15:19 +0000 Katiepea 295497@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Firstly, I just want to say that I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandmother. My thoughts are with you and your family. Onto your question.....</p> <p>I'm going to take a different approach here. You are considered close family and I think in some ways this actually gives you more options for what you may choose to wear, than if you were a distant acquaintance or relative (where I would suggest immediately that you wear a dark coat). </p> <p>As yourself - Was your Grandmother a lady who loved colour? Or was she more conservative with her tastes? </p> <p>If she loved colour and brightness, I am going to go against the tide here and say that I think wearing a bright coloured coat could be a lovely tribute to her. It may be meaningful for you and for your memory of her. </p> <p>If she was a conservative lady in personality and style, in that case, I would then tend to suggest you wear a darker coat.</p> <p>Take care, and know that whatever you decide will be the right decision for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295466 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 05:45:02 +0000 taylor 295466@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry about your Grandma:(</p> <p>I agree with the ladies, I would err on the side of subtleness here. Of course no one would think the less of you for wearing a bright orange jacket to you beloved grandmothers funeral, but it doesn't sound like you would be comfortable with that decision. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295431 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 04:28:12 +0000 Michelle 295431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm casting another vote in favour of borrowing a more neutrally-toned coat. Funerial black isn't necessary, but orange strikes me as just a tad bold for a graveside gathering.<br /> My condolences for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295393 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 03:14:06 +0000 Deb 295393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss ... </p> <p>Do you have - could you buy - a black pashmina shawl or scarf, and drape it over the coat, to subdue the color?</p> <p>Bottom line - seriously, I do not think anyone would take the color of your coat as a sign of disrespect. In a perfect world, we'd all have a selection of outerwear for all occasions ... but it is what it is. What is important is that you are there, and that you loved her. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295341 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 01:22:50 +0000 Refugee 295341@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would vote to borrow a more subdued coat if you can. Most people welcome the opportunity to be supportive during a time like this and would be happy to help you out if they are able. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295330 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 01:00:15 +0000 mehendi 295330@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also, I am not too sure about Jewish culture either. My grandma wasn't really observant, and all I ever observed was Passover. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295326 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 00:57:10 +0000 mehendi 295326@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i hadn't thought of borrowing one. That seems like a good idea. Money is tight for me right now and even though a neutral dressy coat is a staple, I just had to replace my glasses which kind of depleted my shopping funds. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295324 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 00:56:08 +0000 Stephanie 295324@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss.</p> <p>I assume you would only wear the coat for the outside part of the service. I just wore a purple coat to my grandfather's funeral (because it is my warmest, and it was -5 degrees the day we buried him). I was not the only person wearing a colored coat at his grave. I worried about it in advance but was not uncomfortable during the burial. (About my clothes, I mean.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295323 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 00:54:24 +0000 lyn* 295323@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am unsure about the Jewish culture, but I know that from my culture, I would definitely be shunned off all the Christmas card lists from now until the end of earth if I wore a bright orange jacket to my grandmother's funeral.</p> <p>I would probably err on the side of caution and try to find a grey/brown/dark green/black jacket. Could you borrow one? There are many on clearance now; would you wear it again? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/bright-coat-ok-for-a-funeral#post-295322 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 00:51:36 +0000 mehendi 295322@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sadly, I am going to have to attend a funeral in the coming weeks for my grandmother. The outfit I have decided to wear is I think appropriate: An olive silk blouse, black tulip skirt, and taupe pumps. However the only dressy winter coat I have is a bright orange. Would this be alright to wear, or should I go shopping for a grey/black one instead?</p> <p>PS- I will be at the graveside service, so I will be wearing my coat for much of the ceremony, but I don't think it will be a super formal event; just a rabbi doing some readings at the grave and then a gathering afterwards. </p>