https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 18 Apr 2026 03:46:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1611372 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 14:11:12 +0000 chadya 1611372@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>30 years is a really long time for a hair stylist relationship. IMO this guy is way too comfortable with your business, and too lazy.&nbsp; You are always going to be in his chair and therefore a guaranteed income flow.&nbsp; I also wouldn't say you are thinking of leaving either. </p> <p>I would do this (and I have) just stop in a salon (s)&nbsp; and ask for a consultation with a stylist, state what you have been doing and what you want.&nbsp; Don't' be so quick to not want color, a semi permanent could be a change, and I you don't like it, can wash out.&nbsp; Go on pinterest and look at hairstyle. I also think you should grow it a bit, </p> <p>I left someone after 20 years because I just needed a change</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1603022 Sat, 16 Jan 2016 19:53:55 +0000 Ooh is that silk 1603022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you've gone a lovely colour for your skintone! I really like photo #2 from your original post, I think with a long swoopy fringe it would look rather chic. </p> <p>You could always try playing with a clip in fringe to try it out, I have a couple of these and they are fun and inexpensive (you can snip them with scissors to get the look):</p> <p><a href="http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Funky-Streak-22-Clip-in-Hair-Extensions-Range-colors-lot-/180929290216?var=&amp;hash=item2a2039dfe8:m:mTbGDjoOnjlGNpEi_qjNHFA" rel="nofollow"><a href="http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Funky-Streak-22-Clip-in-Hair-Extensions-Range-colors-lot-/180929290216?var" rel="nofollow">http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Funk.....290216?var</a>...</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1603014 Sat, 16 Jan 2016 19:45:57 +0000 rachylou 1603014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm curious as to what inspiration pics you brought? I think your stylist has you on the No-nonsense Democrat Haircut list. Nothing wrong with that! Lol. And not that you want Maggie hair to change things up. But I can see you in something much bolder... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602898 Sat, 16 Jan 2016 15:29:25 +0000 Thirkellgirl 1602898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I gave Old-Guy one more try. It was very collaborative, but I just didn't feel attractive at the end. I do know that sometimes it takes a few days for a new haircut to settle, and I am building quite a collection of hair-goop ;), but at this point I just want to whack it all off short-short and start again. Viva gave me a great suggestion for a product that I think will work quite well and I ordered it immediately based on her recommendation and how great her flip is. Thank you all so much, you've really counteracted the "you *could look so good if..." unsolicited advice I've been given recently that has caused my confidence to crash and burn. &nbsp;"You are feeling like that classic needs the little tweaks that update it so that it continues to be a modern classic" is EXACTLY right. EXACTLY. I'm going to keep working with this choppier version for a few weeks and go for a new cut, I think. With someone new. I have been stopping women in the street and asking where they get their hair cut and highlighted, and I've gotten repeated recommendations for one place so I think that's where I will try first. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602671 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 22:47:39 +0000 Peri 1602671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Was this still with your original stylist or did you try someone new? I'm wondering why you washed it as soon as you got home...still didn't like it?</p> <p>I don't have short hair, but we watched the transition phases of Angie's cut. I'm sure it has to be done in stages unless you go from long to really short. Of your pictures I think the last two are really flattering...soft but modern. But I do love the choppy, spiky look in short hair too!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602664 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 22:35:25 +0000 Helena 1602664@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well you look great to me!! I am horrible with hair but can so relate to the original dilemma ... There is a salon in Toronto I uses to go to called "fiorio", they do a great cut but have a very specific style they like to do, so much so my friends and I used to joke that we'd been fiorio'd!! Didn't matter what you asked for, you got fiorio'd. Sounds like maybe you were getting sassoon'd!!! The cut was probably excellent but perhaps the stylist just had a bit of tunnel vision based on a long career working in a specific style. HAVE FUN trying out something different and exploring your new hair options! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602652 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 22:18:55 +0000 texstyle 1602652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the new stylist and you did a great job!&nbsp; I love the new bangs. When I used to do them, I added my own highlights by using a very light Garnier hair color at home - I would sometimes only do like 5 very small strategic sections, then rinse, dry and see where I was before discarding the whole bottle. Sometimes I decided to add just a few more. It did take some time (25 mins. for each process - so maybe 2 hours in a day) but I had complete control that way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602631 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 21:49:43 +0000 Alassë 1602631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great analysis, K. Period! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602572 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 20:17:13 +0000 K. Period. 1602572@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So, I am popping in out of nowhere, but I had a sudden flash of insight about hairstylists when I saw your post and read your concerns. &nbsp;First, you are absolutely lovely in all of your photos. &nbsp;Any suggestions about your hair are entirely about how you can bring back that feeling of joy and freshness and fun to your hair, not, absolutely not, about fixing a problem. &nbsp;There is no problem here. &nbsp;Your hair is very nice. That doesn't mean you aren't entitled to switch it up and have a little fun, though. &nbsp;</p> <p>Here's my insight: Think of your cut and your stylists the same way that you think about wardrobe classics. &nbsp;As Angie often reminds us here, classics do not exist in a vacuum. &nbsp;Classics have high longevity, but they need periodic updates so that they look current. &nbsp;Your stylist may be a rut caused either by how he cuts hair (does he continue to take new classes to update his skills?) or about how he thinks about you! It sounds like has a rigid idea of what your hair options are. &nbsp;He is thinking, "A, B or C works for her" and he isn't thinking maybe A with a bit of G thrown in would be fun. &nbsp;He is thinking about all the things that haven't worked for you in the past--things that may work for you now because your perspective has changed. &nbsp;</p> <p>So your old stylist is cutting your hair in an unchanging classic way. &nbsp;You are feeling like that classic needs the little tweaks that update it so that it continues to be a modern classic. &nbsp;A new stylist isn't weighed down with the knowledge of the things you've tried in the past. &nbsp;It might be very worthwhile to try a change! I wouldn't make a huge change right out of the blocks, though. First, I'd have any new stylist cut your hair in its current style, but with any updates that he or she thinks are needed to make sure it is current and flattering. &nbsp;That may do the trick!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602449 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 15:40:35 +0000 Thirkellgirl 1602449@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like my hair best at 6 pm, too! Thanks for the recommendation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602427 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 15:02:47 +0000 viva 1602427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It IS a process! And product is king -- or queen! (I just sent you a message about my current favorite product for flip.) I really like how your hair looks in these pictures. The choppier bang is beautiful and I do love the tones in your hair. I'm definitely happiest with my hair at the end of the day -- not quite freshly washed and not quite next day. Ugh - it's all so crazy! Keep playing with product! Have fun, and realize that it's a never-ending experiment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1602422 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 14:54:29 +0000 Thirkellgirl 1602422@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, this is a process, apparently. I took a bunch of photographs of choppier hair with me, he was great and did what I asked, explaining all the way that product would make the biggest difference in how my hair looked, he helped me play with that, he suggested some highlights to create the look of more dimension... Then I came home and promptly washed it. Then I messed it up and played with it and then washed it again. Old dog, new tricks, apparently. Today I did the same thing, started with it messier and have gotten it smoother and neater as the morning has progressed. For your amusement, here are photographs. I've learned I like my hair smooth but choppier is better than straight, that I like it to look shiny instead of next-day-hair. Like I said, I'm in process. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1601328 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 22:09:34 +0000 Beth Ann 1601328@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad you're feeling more confident! &nbsp;You have great hair to work with. &nbsp;I've struggled with poor cuts, at well, and have found that taking pics with me on my phone helps the stylist understand what I'm looking for. &nbsp;The biggest problem is finding haircuts modeled on "real" women rather than celebrities. &nbsp;I'm forever saying to the stylist, "I know I don't look like Jennifer Anniston!"</p> <p>Your relationship with a stylist should be friendly, but it should always put you and your concerns in the center, and is, at heart, a business decision. &nbsp;No need to feel badly about starting a new relationship with a new professional! &nbsp;Let us know (and see) how it turns out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1601132 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 15:26:28 +0000 Thirkellgirl 1601132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've loved Beth Djalali's style and especially her hair for a long time now! Her last haircut was really great, and I think it makes her look so much younger than the swoop did, although she looked great with that too. I'm still debating about going short-short again and just might. I have a feeling I might be a mother-of-the-bride this year and don't want to make a hair choice I'll regret in wedding photos for decades. Thank you all, I feel much better about my overall look than I did this time twenty-four hours ago. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1601122 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 15:03:30 +0000 texstyle 1601122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginkgo's suggestion to look at Beth Djalali at Style at a Certain Age is a great one - I love her hair (reminds me of Deborah's). It would take some product/styling I'm sure but it is great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1601076 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 11:00:30 +0000 lyn67 1601076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did have the asymmetric angled bob for years but &nbsp;then just wanted a change! I vote much shorter in the back and one side(that was really hard for me to do, but that was the thing that really made the difference!) then you can have choppy longer bangs to side. I do try to get there too but my hair is too thin for a very choppy cut and &nbsp;still working on something close enough to it-as I feel much better with this hair, now:-). </p> <p>Check out also&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://bluehuewonderland.blogspot.hu/">http://bluehuewonderland.blogspot.hu/</a>&nbsp;for a great (hair) style:-)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist/page/2#post-1601029 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 05:00:42 +0000 Ginkgo 1601029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Check out&nbsp;Beth Djalali at Style at a Certain Age -- she got a new haircut in late 2014 and it is much more stylish than before, although the last few months it is not looking quite so asymmetrical.</p> <p>I agree with Gaylene about going to a younger stylist but making sure they don't give you an "older lady" hairstyle, maybe a salon in an upscale area that caters to fashionable 40 year olds will work well.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1601012 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 04:27:08 +0000 Gigi 1601012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is tough to break up with a stylist you've had so long, but we have to do what's best for ourselves. I'm glad that you have the confidence to consider a new stylist!&nbsp;</p> <p>I liked what Gaylene wrote. I paid a lot of attention to my hair in high school and college, but then I got into a real rut. A couple of years ago (at age 40), I started trying again, and boy, was it hard. Even when I worked on my hair when I was younger, it never looked that great. My hair is very fine and limp, and it has a little wave, but it doesn't hold the wave very well. So I found a good stylist and also started experimenting with different ways of styling my hair: washing with conditioner, washing with regular shampoo, using heat tools, not using heat tools, straightening, etc. It is taking a lot of time--and a lot of money--but I am determined to find out what my hair likes! So my advice to you is to just keep trying, no matter how discouraged you may get. Try a different stylist, try different ways of styling, etc. I hope that both of us will get to where we want to be with our hair! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1601011 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 04:22:22 +0000 Janet 1601011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Contrary to the idea some have posted of growing your bangs out, I wonder if your hair might have the same tendency mine does -- to get a bit "heavy" in front, as if it all grows forward. I wonder if a more angled, choppy bang style, as texstyle suggests, may break up that line a bit more and have the more updated look you seem to crave. Just a thought. </p> <p>I think it's a great idea to collect styles that appeal to you to get ideas and start shopping around for a new stylist. Some fresh energy will probably help you find the right solution. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1601006 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 03:31:03 +0000 Jaime 1601006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I relate closely to what you wrote, although your pictures do not match your self description of tired and grey looking. You have a very pretty face and just need a stylist that gets you. I left my stylist when she resisted giving me a short hair cut - she is very nice and a good haircutter but conservative and didn't want to make a radical change. My current stylist is very supportive of all of my whims, including cutting all my hair off when I decided to stop coloring it, and my current cut is more popular than any I have ever had. Although you look lovely right now, you seem ready for a transformation. No need to use color to get it if you don't want to. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1601000 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 03:07:37 +0000 Anonymous 1601000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really like the idea of longer bangs to your cheek bone or a jaw! Seems like there are a lot of styling options with this cut too. Maybe try a phased in approach: new haircut and THEN think about dying it.<br />&nbsp;#4 - you look great in blue! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600983 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 02:30:35 +0000 Aquamarine 1600983@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In my opinion, stylists can get lazy if you've been with them a long time. They don't have to be on their game as much as they do with a new client. If you like him or think he is talented, be firm when you tell him you want something different or you don't like the roundness of your cut, or whatever. Tell him you are willing to change your look in steps, not all at once. There are websites where you can scan in a photo of your face and "try on" different hair styles. I've never done it, but I am intrigued.</p> <p>And I echo the suggestions to try some different products on your hair. Sometimes that's the only thing between me and frumpy hair. Experiment and perhaps your daughter can suggest some to try. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600955 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 01:28:39 +0000 Gaylene 1600955@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thirty years is a long stretch with the same stylist. It's possible your stylist thinks he knows you so well, he isn't convinced that you'd be happy with a drastically different look. Or, as happened with my stylist of 20 years, he might have fallen into the rut of executing the same cuts over and over to his clients. </p> <p>If your cut isn't making you feel attractive when you catch a glimpse of yourself in a mirror, it might be time to shake things up a bit. When I hit my early sixties, I left my long-time stylist and took my "classic" bob into a salon filled with youngsters. I told the young stylist she could do whatever she wanted to my hair as long as (1) she didn't color it and (2) didn't give me an "old lady" cut. </p> <p>I can't say that first cut and stylist were a resounding success, but it was the kickstart I needed. Over the next two years, I played with different lengths, cuts, products (gels, straighteners, thickeners, pastes--you name it, this formerly wash and wear senior tried it) and, yes, stylists. Most of the cuts were OK and a few were eye-openers (some great and some not-so-good), until I finally settled on my current style--a fringeless, inverted, side-parted, wavy bob that is very short in the back and long on the top and sides. With product, I can make my hair look dramatic or sedate--sleek, spikey, or curly.</p> <p>Hair grows back, so I figure it's not a bad way to shake off those growing older doldrums. You are a very pretty woman in your current cut, but, if that cut doesn't make you feel good about yourself, then it's time to do something. Maybe you'll go back to your tried-and-true cut after a fling with something new, but, even if you do, you'll see yourself in a different light. Plus, it was fun viewing myself through the eyes of young stylists who wanted to make an older woman look current and stylish--even to the point where I seriously started thinking of putting a purple streak in my greying locks! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600944 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 00:31:16 +0000 Anonymous 1600944@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you grow them all the way out you might think the result is flatter on the top and harsher than you'd like. Moving them off your forehead could be more about blending them into the sides so that you'll still have some volume on the top and shape on the sides?&nbsp;<br />I've had good results when I go to a good salon, describe in detail what I don't like and listen very carefully to their suggestions.<br />I don't use stylist terms so instead of saying "it's too layered", I might say "it's too messy", because I might be wrong about the cause of the problem and I don't want to limit their solution.<br />And I especially like the middle range stylists rather than the juniors or the super best ones. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600936 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 23:47:48 +0000 donnat 1600936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you should grow it out a bit, you need a bit if length. Jaw length would look great on you. An aysemmetric cut would also add some edge. I think your daughter has a good eye. You have been given some really good advice here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600927 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 23:05:37 +0000 catgirl 1600927@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a cut like Old Chic's would be&nbsp;easy to achieve and get rid of the "swoop" if that bothers you.&nbsp; As for the color, only do it if it's fun!&nbsp; It's taken me a year to grow out my grey, and the only thing I may do is put in a streak of color.&nbsp; It's like getting married - this is it, for the rest of my life! </p> <p>My stylist was incredibly supportive of my decision to stop coloring, despite her financial interest in it.&nbsp; I am grateful to her for that.</p> <p>And you look great.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600907 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 22:22:20 +0000 texstyle 1600907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One thought about bangs - to me, if your hair is a bit thin in front, you may need actually more of the hair to be cut to the shorter length for the bangs to appear thick enough for your liking. Also, I've noticed both Angie and Janet's fringe being cut in a "choppy" angled sort of way that could be fun for you to try (IF you like the idea of keeping bangs). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600905 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 22:18:32 +0000 shaz 1600905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe start by growing out the fringe I'm trying that myself at the moment after a life time of having a fringe the In between stage is not so much fun but the right stylist could help advise you while it all grows out and shape it as you go along to get to your eventual hair style good luck </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600888 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 21:44:28 +0000 Anonymous 1600888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also, as to your gray, if you want to keep it, then keep it! You may want to consider a technique they use to clean up the gray which takes out some of the yellowness and creates a gray that suits your skintone. I think it called glazing and it is not really costly and does not have to be done nearly as often as coloring your hair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/breaking-up-with-hair-stylist#post-1600885 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 21:41:31 +0000 Anonymous 1600885@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have broken up with many stylists until I found the one! I was fed up taking other people's recommendations so one day I just decided to visit some salons in my area. The owners/managers were always quite nice, because of course, it means more business for them. The one thing I paid very close attention to were the age of the clients. The more varied the ages (young and old) were very important to me because it meant that the salon kept up with all the current trends. Nothing makes you look older than sporting a hairstyle from over 10 years ago in my opinion.</p> <p>Once you find the salon, interview the stylists you are interested in. Ask them what they would do and why. They will not tell you to do anything you do not want to do, but will in fact make the best recommendations based on your hair type, face shape, and lifestyle. I never ever bring in photos, because you will never look like the person in the photo. </p> <p>There are times when I just tell my stylist to do "whatever" as long as I keep my sideswept bangs, just to change things up and to stay current. I will honestly tell you that I constantly get complimented on my hair now, even from complete strangers.</p> <p>Hope you find the stylist of your dreams soon! </p>