https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 18 May 2026 20:24:37 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-807001 Wed, 02 Jan 2013 21:12:16 +0000 DonnaF 807001@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shannon, she was so right! </p> <p>I am several sizes smaller than you, but I have my own body issues, namely: I have tried on countless Nordstrom Petite pieces and have repeatedly asked myself, "Now, why can't I look as good as Shannon in this?" Or, "If only I had Shannon's longer, prettier legs with those nice tapered ankles!" Or, "Will I ever have great style like Shannon?"</p> <p>I think I am getting better with body acceptance. I will turn 60 this year, so have gotten beyond expecting myself to have the body I had when I was half this age! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805473 Mon, 31 Dec 2012 01:17:39 +0000 Jaime 805473@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course I agree with everything the young woman said to you Shannon, and am so impressed that she had the thoughtfulness, confidence, and graciousness to say it to you at her young (and often insecure) age. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805361 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 21:14:01 +0000 cciele 805361@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for sharing this story Shannon. What a great affirmation to carry you into the new year and to remind us to be kind to ourselves and others. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805301 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 18:54:02 +0000 goldenpig 805301@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a heartwarming story! Shannon, you ARE fab and don't ever forget it! We are our own worst critics. I have always admired your killer style!</p> <p>Another great reminder about the power of a kind word to a stranger! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805291 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 18:08:04 +0000 Aziraphale 805291@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shannon, this story is the most touching thing I've heard in a long time. Thanks for sharing! And yes, you look, and ARE, fabulous!</p> <p>I don't know if you read that thread I started a few days ago about going to Christmas parties and not paying all that much attention to people's clothing, but it holds true for bodies as well as clothes. <a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-important-are-clothes-really" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....hes-really</a></p> <p>I didn't notice anyone's shape any more than I noticed what they were wearing. I did pick up on who looked stylish, though. Anyway, my point is, I think we judge ourselves much more harshly than other people do when it comes to our bodies. A person's shape is just her shape, and how attractive and stylish she is has little to do with her shape, in my opinion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805287 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 17:55:43 +0000 Isabel 805287@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for sharing this story ! It is wonderful. What fabulous young woman recognizing a fabulous woman and what makes her look fab. And it not the length of the belt. </p> <p>Isn't it amazing how wrong we just are about ourselves sometimes ?</p> <p>What is so wonderful about this exchange is that this woman wasn't even looking at your body. What she admired was your execution in putting yourself together. THAT it is what stood out and made her notice you.</p> <p>Now, the lesson in this is, Shannon, don't show too much emotion in public because you are being watched by your admirers. So be careful ! ; ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805197 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 13:24:09 +0000 Anonymous 805197@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Boo-hoo! Crying here too. I'm so glad the two of you were at the same place at the same time. Big hugs, Shannon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805193 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 13:05:05 +0000 Thistle 805193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That was an amazing woman, so insightful for her youth.</p> <p>I understand the journey to body acceptance, and I totally relate. You are beautiful, and you deserve to take care of yourself.</p> <p>I sometimes feel like companies try to steal our beauty and sell it back to us at a profit. After all, with photoshop, no one looks like the models, not even the models! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805192 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 12:51:52 +0000 Irene 805192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OMG, that wasn't a young woman. That was an angel, right there! I love finding out about beautiful people around the world, especially those that don't show up on TV because they are not considered 'heroes'. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805188 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 12:15:52 +0000 Deborah 805188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angels walk amongst us! And share words of truth:). Shannon thanks for sharing and how special to be able to see yourself throughvtheceyes of another:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805162 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 08:48:10 +0000 ManidipaM 805162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bless that young lady! Not only for noticing and caring and having a great attitude (to match yours!), but for taking the extra step to go ahead and make that known. It's not always easy to go speak up and compliment a stranger --- but boy, can it make your day! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805155 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 08:24:12 +0000 RoseandJoan 805155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a sweet touching thing for her to say. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805133 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 05:13:02 +0000 Jenava 805133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww...and she was RIGHT, too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger/page/2#post-805129 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 04:51:30 +0000 TraceyLiz65 805129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We tend to forget that Marilyn Monroe was not a size 2!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-805119 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 04:22:59 +0000 Anonymous 805119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sometimes strangers show us what we can't see ourselves. Thank you for sharing your uplifting story and the reminder to see the best in ourselves as well as others </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-805040 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 01:56:55 +0000 annagybe 805040@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awesome story! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804983 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 23:52:41 +0000 catgirl 804983@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great story, Shannon, and she is absolutely right about you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804951 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 22:46:44 +0000 Angie 804951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And this is why sincere positive reinforcement is so important. Bless the kind-hearted lady who spoke the truth to a very stylish and deserving Shannon. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804949 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 22:42:18 +0000 Laurinda 804949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow. Such a great story! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804937 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 22:21:32 +0000 Anonymous 804937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a touching post! Thank you for sharing this story. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804910 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 21:36:46 +0000 Adelfa 804910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am crying too. I gained a bunch of weight when menopause and trauma hit at the same time. So hard. This young lady reminds me of my daughters who took great exception to my ever saying anything bad about myself. </p> <p>There's a super stylish younger woman at work who said to me, "you are always saying you couldn't wear the things I wear for some reason or other." </p> <p>I said, "That's pitiful!" and resolved in my embarrassment never to say anything like that again.</p> <p>So hard. So good we have people to remind us to be kind to ourselves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804908 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 21:30:36 +0000 morethanbeige 804908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a lesson for us all! I'm my toughest critic! Beautiful story. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804904 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 21:22:29 +0000 Caro in Oz 804904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely young woman. She is so right we become what we think imo.<br /> Shannon I think you are beautiful - inside &amp; out:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804899 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 21:14:23 +0000 christieanne 804899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That stranger is so right! And kudos to her for expressing outloud her thoughts. We should always remember to pass this along to the strangers we meet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804875 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 19:56:14 +0000 Mo 804875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How wonderful for her to share this with you. Too often I think these things but don't voice them. Bless her. And she's absolutely right. So glad she brightened your outlook! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804856 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 18:39:20 +0000 Claudia 804856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am really touched by this story.</p> <p>Shannon wrote: "We really are the hardest on ourselves aren't we and never see in the mirror what others see."</p> <p>It is also important to remember that not all imperfections/hurts/flaws/insecurities/scars are outward and able to be seen on the surface, easily visible in a mirror. Some are carried on the inside, even on the most outwardly beautiful and perfectly ideal looking person.</p> <p>This is such a lovely story that Shannon shared, let's try to be kind to ourselves and others. Everyone can use, and needs, a kind comment and a hug now and then. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804851 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 18:31:38 +0000 Ginkgo 804851@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You not only always look marvelous and stylish but your generous spirit always shines through and she responded in kind to that.</p> <p>And this ties in with Elisabeth's thread the other day about whether clothes matter...yep, they do! I love the phrase "she saw someone who cared enough about themselves to dress well". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804845 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 18:16:54 +0000 TraceyLiz65 804845@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do this type of thing every time I am in stores. I mostly do it for women but my husband was trying on jeans when this guy kept coming out trying on jackets ..I said " not that you asked but that tobacco colored one you had on before was awesome and had a great retro vibe." He asked me about the fit and about getting both and thanked me profusely saying he doesn't trust the mirror or himself. I assured him he had great instincts. He thanked me agin before he went to pay. I love doing this! I am so glad that young woman took the effort to help you see yourself the way others do. We all need that sometimes.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804840 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 18:07:39 +0000 Transcona Shannon 804840@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Atlantia - just to clarify, this wasn't a sales associate but another customer shopping. Just a random person passing through my day.</p> <p>We really are the hardest on ourselves aren't we and never see in the mirror what others see. It is so easy to get stuck on one small negative point and forget all the positives. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/body-acceptance-through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger#post-804832 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 17:57:35 +0000 RunnerChick 804832@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a wonderful story - thanks for sharing! The best thing about it is that the young woman was right! </p>