https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:56:47 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities/page/2#post-903869 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 06:56:25 +0000 Kirstie Thompson 903869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It makes me sad to hear how badly you feel about your body. I think that the media has a lot to answer for here. We are bombarded with images of airbrushed, photoshopped leggy girls who aren't real.&nbsp; When are the real women going to be accepted? We all have body parts which we dislike, and other people's cruelty makes matters worse.&nbsp; It seems that this is just the right place for women who celebrate being real normal women, not androgynous stick people.&nbsp; My heart goes out to you xxx Sent with love from Kirstie xx https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities/page/2#post-899343 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 03:14:32 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 899343@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome! You are beautiful! Looking forward to more conversations with you, and maybe some photo posts when you're ready! I love your description of your style; your passion for style comes through, and I think you'll have a lot of fun here on the forum as well as the blog. You might also like to check out the blog Already Pretty: <a href="http://www.alreadypretty.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.alreadypretty.com/</a>&nbsp; It's another good one for helping to develop an appreciation for the body we have today and having fun adorning that body. <br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities/page/2#post-899283 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 02:25:51 +0000 Isabel 899283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Wait, where is the woman who posted the original post ? &nbsp;Cuz I am looking for her on Chictopia and I just don't see her. I do see a beautiful young woman, though. &nbsp;: &nbsp;)<br /><br />Welcome ! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-899173 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 01:04:25 +0000 TraceyLiz65 899173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ as others have mentioned this is a forum of support and kindness. &nbsp;It is also a place where real advice is given and when someone says that something isn't working they give detailed specifics of why and solutions. &nbsp;You will get honest gentle guidance towards defining your style and finding looks that support your body type. &nbsp;There is a saying around here that we use called, "having a poison eye" for something which means that it is just something that we don't like ourselves in general&nbsp;so take that into consideration when you read our comments. &nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-899165 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 00:58:24 +0000 Nicole D 899165@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi BEQ. &nbsp;Welcome and I hope you find your style muse here. &nbsp;Anyone who mistakes you for a guy needs to have their&nbsp;vision&nbsp;checked! &nbsp;&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-899147 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 00:38:41 +0000 BroadEarthQueen 899147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ *Blush* Oh thank &nbsp;you. ^///^.<br />No, no&nbsp;Greek. I have French, Polish and (Black foot I think I was told?) Native American. My gram tells me that waay back in our family somewhere we have Japanese, but I'm not really so sure about that. But thank you, I think Greek women are sooo pretty!!!!!!<br />Thank you, Sveta, I never really tried it that way. That's a good way of doing it and I will try. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-898289 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 03:28:35 +0000 Sveta 898289@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is really funny. By your description of yourself I expected to see something horrible but you are a gorgeous young woman, BEQ. It just shows how narrow focused we on what we perceive as our flaws and don't see the whole pictures - just the parts we don't like. <br />The first thing to do is to stop hating your body. This is a dead end, believe me. Big part of the beauty is a confidence and hating your own body is a very opposite feeling.<br />And really it is not that difficult. Don't hate your broad shoulders - love them because they give you presence and really make clothes hang better on you.<br />Don't hate your 'thick muscular thighs' - think of them as shapely.<br />I know it is not easy but you just need to practice every day and it will become much easier!<br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-898266 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 03:12:56 +0000 rachylou 898266@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ To quote Stacy London, *shut up!* You are gorgeous, girl! You have a Renascence face (arcane (for Americans) spelling on purpose ;&gt;). You don't have any Greek in you, do you? <br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-898202 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 02:14:32 +0000 Gaylene 898202@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ OK, if those Chicotpia pictures are of you, you are flat out gorgeous.<br />*picking myself up off the floor*<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-898180 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 01:50:14 +0000 BroadEarthQueen 898180@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh my....Thank you all so much! I did look over at the body type posts, and figured at least ball park where I stand there. It was actually a couple of Angie's postings and a few others that drew me here. The knowledge and outright support of the people, so unlike other fashion sites I joined. There was this one, Chictopia. But no matter how awesome some of the (few) other&nbsp;curvaceous&nbsp;models were (this was while I still had nerve and actually posted them). None of them made the homepage or even got voted to the top 100. It was always the same body type wearing the trend (the transparent pastel-y collared shirt with the breast pockets). I stopped going on after a while but I'll like it. Again keep in mind I haven't updated in about a year. But the link at the bottom is me.&nbsp;<br /><br />I saw a lot of questions about the clothing I liked. It's a little bit of boho, a little preppy at times. But mostly a mix of&nbsp;diesel&nbsp;punk&nbsp;and boho with a touch of preppy and warrior (The DP and the warrior is mostly in the details) I love vests, studs, militaristic detailing, flowy skirts, big belts, wedges and gladiator style flats. I love jewel toned tops and can't seem to resist the combination of navy and white. I'm obsessed with finding a pair of blood red pants that fit right. Not too bright, but something other than black or brown that isn't my blue skirt. I also like edgy gold jewelry alongside classic pieces.<br /><br />I work at Walmart five-six days a week (hence my mild aversion to my brown pants......&gt;XD) but when I got out with my honey or his parents, as we're living with them because he's inheriting the house and we want to put the money toward the house rather than an apartment. But when I go out with them before/after work or on my days off I try to go all out 'nista where I can within reason. My major goal is to be a teacher, but my reach for the stars dream is to be an author.<br /><br />Oh and I should probably tack in here I am a shoe fanatic.<br /><br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://chictopia.com/Earthchild404">http://chictopia.com/Earthchild404</a><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897563 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 18:22:36 +0000 Marigold 897563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome! You definitely are in the right place here... I haven't seen many online communities as helpful and uplifting as the YLF Ladies. Don't be afraid to browse and ask questions, we are here to help! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897548 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 18:13:54 +0000 Isabel 897548@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh I LOVE what Marley has called you , Beautiful Broad Earth Queen ! &nbsp;Thus you will be called or Beauty for short ! Body acceptance is so hard. It is even harder when kids have been so mean. But remember, just because they are mean does NOT mean that they are&nbsp;<i><b>accurate.&nbsp;</b></i> Keep telling yourself that, please, repeat it over and over and over.&nbsp;<br /><br />You still look one better than me, btw, the way I look right now...I could pass for a&nbsp;<b>pregnant</b> man in drag !! &nbsp;And I am not pregnant.&nbsp;&nbsp;I kid you not sweetie.&nbsp;<br /><br />And just to throw it out there, Heidi Klum and Cindy Crawford were mercilessly called names in high school. &nbsp; &nbsp;: )<br /><br /><br /><i></i> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897534 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 18:03:15 +0000 rachylou 897534@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi Beq! Welcome! This is a super fun place. I think you will have fun here.<br /><br />It's interesting... how sometimes it's easier to see what<i> isn't</i> as opposed to what<i> is</i>. Angie and everyone here at YLF are very practiced, tho, at seeing and celebrating what is with fashion. Yes a lot of fun.<br /><br />So what kind of styles attract you? <br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897290 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 14:30:46 +0000 Adelfa 897290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I just want to say... it is very possible to shed large amounts of body self-hatred. Since I've been hanging out here, I feel better about myself than I ever have, and it's not because I'm at what I've always thought of as my ideal weight. The culture here challenges us to be more positive about our bodies, and after a while the new attitude starts to stick. I am excited for you because I know this can happen for you. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897269 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 14:17:38 +0000 Anonymous 897269@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi BEQ (maybe we ought to call you Beccy ) Welcome! I'm sure that you will soon blossom with the help and understanding from everyone here on YLF.&nbsp;You have taken the first step on a wonderful style journey, enjoy. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897247 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:59:41 +0000 Angie 897247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Another welcome from me! I echo what the ladies have said wholeheartedly. I'm so glad that you dropped by so that we can all appreciate you for who you are. Style is not a size, age or budget. It starts from within and shines as soon as you start believing it too. We look forward to supporting you on your style journey. <br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897240 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:51:27 +0000 Thistle 897240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome!!<br /><br />I am sorry for the pain that you have endured. People can be cruel.&nbsp; But I hope that this is the first step in your journey towards body acceptance, and dare I say, body love?&nbsp; Yes, body love. We have one body, and it does so much for us. This is a journey I am still on myself.<br /><br />Take a look through some of Angie's guidelines for dressing body shapes. it sounds like you might be an inverted triangle. <br /><br />This is a terific and welcoming place, and I look forward to seeing your journey!<br /><br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897236 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:44:55 +0000 missvee 897236@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome! You'll find this fashion community very warm and welcoming and I hope you will feel comfortable participating as you move along your style journey. There are some great ladies here - smart, funny and insightful - so please don't hesitate to ask questions. &nbsp;I'm sorry you have such conflicted thoughts about your body. &nbsp;It's not easy to feel good about yourself when you don't conform to the airbrushed images that society sets in front of us. That's why a forum like this is so wonderful. We are all ages here and all sizes and shapes, with a common interest in looking great.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897228 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:37:39 +0000 Peri 897228@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ BroadEarthQueen...what a wonderful name. Now you just have to believe it! Make sure you call yourself that daily.<br /><br />What weird proportions? You sound very well balanced to me. Right in proportion. I'm a size 4 or 6 and also a D cup...I think those are weird proportions!! And who doesn't struggle with soft triceps? That's just a female thing. We've all got something to compare to a model and not like. Repeat after me...those girls are the most unusual body type.&nbsp;<br /><br />Have fun here! You will get some great advice. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897203 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:24:08 +0000 Anonymous 897203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome, BroadEarthQueen! &nbsp;You aren't a dress size, you aren't a number on the scale, you aren't what mean kids called you in school. &nbsp;You are special and important and we're glad you're here! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897188 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:16:21 +0000 Transcona Shannon 897188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ BroadEarthQueen - huge HUGS to you! You have taken an incredible step to finding your confidence and style by coming here and bravely posting about your feelings. YLF is an incredibly welcoming environment full of people from all walks of life and all shapes and sizes. There is no judgement here - only acceptance and heaps of help from both Angie and the YLF membership as a whole.<br /><br />I would pop on over to Angie's posts regarding how to dress different body types and start there. Also you might want to read posts and check out WIW (What I Wore) threads from others with similar body types and styles you like. These are always great inspiration. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897174 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 13:05:02 +0000 Suz 897174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome!! So pleased that you have decided to open up and share with us. It's very brave of you. Body insecurities really hurt us and make it harder to have fun with fashion, but this is a place where you can learn and grow &nbsp;-- and learn to feel great about yourself!!&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897117 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 11:20:04 +0000 Mona 897117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ A warm welcome and a big hug! You have had tough time with body issues but writing about them on this forum shows me that you are one courageous woman and know exactly where the problem lies. When I was new to YLF, I always thought my fashion sense will never live upto this forum's standards but now after a couple of years, I feel confident in myself. I hope YLF will help you achieve the same. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897104 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 10:45:46 +0000 krishnidoux 897104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome to you! I am so sorry about how you feel, and about what you have been through. What courage to have opened up about your insecurities. I think you will get a lot of positive outcome from starting a style journey here.&nbsp;&nbsp;This is a very supportive forum, with some warmhearted, well intentioned&nbsp;members who want to help, not judge. Because it's true, we all have insecurities as well.&nbsp;You took an important step. When you feel good in your clothes, it is easier to see where we are at in terms of progress with the body. I hope to hear from you again soon! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897094 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 10:24:36 +0000 Jaime 897094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I just read how <a rel="nofollow" href="http://http://jezebel.com/5993248/audrey-hepburn-thought-her-nose-was-too-big-her-breasts-were-too-small-and-she-was-too-skinny">Audrey Hepburn had body issues&nbsp;too</a>! <br /><br />Really every woman I have met had body issues at least some of the time, so do not feel alone. Which does not mean you do not look fab! I think you will find a lot of great advice and support here. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897085 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 09:03:15 +0000 Mander 897085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have big issues with my size, too, so you are not alone!&nbsp; Everyone here is very nice and supportive, though, so don't feel put off joining in.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897078 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 08:42:39 +0000 carolbee 897078@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome. &nbsp;If you've lurking for a while you will have seen that this is a vey nurturing forum. &nbsp;As the others have said&nbsp;when you are feeling ready tell us a bit more about the styles you like and&nbsp;your lifestyle so that the experts here can give you some guidance. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897071 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 07:46:45 +0000 Deborah 897071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome BroadEarthQueen! &nbsp;You are in the right place:) &nbsp;We celebrate what we are, rather than what we are not. &nbsp;It's frequently mentioned here that style is not a number nor is it exclusive to a particular body type. We are here for you and don't forget this journey can be loads of fun:) https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897068 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 07:00:43 +0000 Ingunn 897068@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a place where <i>every body</i> is appreciated, and you are most welcome. I think you will find support and confidence to be who you are, and wear what you like by participating in the forum. I'm sorry to hear about your struggles with your body and body image. Don't let that hold you back, as this place is all about acceptance and gentle guidance, not reject. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/big-bodylittle-world-giant-insecurities#post-897066 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 06:43:22 +0000 Caro in Oz 897066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome, you truly have come to the right place. <br />What sort of clothing do you like -&nbsp;not what you think you should wear? I'm sure we can help you find things you love that fit.<br /><br />