https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 23:40:07 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341900 Sat, 30 Apr 2011 02:53:20 +0000 Maya 341900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, I was thinking about this some more. I think Elisabeth came close. I was very aware of the fact that few other women were wearing dresses, let alone bare legs, so I think I was just really conspicuous that day. Perhaps if it were the height of summer and more women were sporting bare legs and skirts or dresses, I would have blended in more instead of sticking out for having so much bare skin on display compared to everyone else.</p> <p>I think it bothered me more that I was aware that the skirt was creeping up and it actually wasn't my outfit that was grabbing attention--it was ME. My coworkers comment all the time on what I am wearing and I'm ok with that...but I guess being aware of being bare-legged and skirt-creepy made me feel that it wasn't the clothes but my body and it made me feel a little creeped out. Hmm. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341681 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 20:25:48 +0000 Aziraphale 341681@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a lot of us like to look stylish, but we don't care for unwanted sexual attention. That's the problem when you suddenly become aware that your short skirt is creeping up; you wonder if you're attracting THOSE sorts of glances. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341667 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 20:13:38 +0000 Di 341667@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel that way, too! I like looking nice, but I don't like feeling... conspicuous, maybe, is the best way to put it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341663 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 20:11:20 +0000 kellygirl 341663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, I have attention phobia as well. I think that's one reason I'm drawn to such casual looks. </p> <p>@Diana: Your post made me laugh. I was one of those brides than dreaded the wedding. I would have been happy to elope : ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341655 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 20:02:46 +0000 Scarlet 341655@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What if you think of it as a power? You are drawing people to you. It must be good for something. In any case I love that outfit.</p> <p>ETA: I dreaded my own wedding for exactly the same reason, and so did my sister. Not everyone craves the spotlight. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341268 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 10:43:31 +0000 krishnidoux 341268@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is not easy to accept change, even when it is positive. The same way, it is not easy to accept compliments and attention from others. It actually takes some work! </p> <p>For instance you may prepare in advance by thinking, if I genuinely complimented someone, what response would I like to get - or not? </p> <p>"Thank you."<br /> "Thanks, nice of you to say."<br /> "Thank you, you know it makes me feel good that you say this."<br /> "Thank you, I make (/today I made) an effort to look good and I'm happy you noticed it."<br /> "I know, thanks."<br /> "Gee, I was starting to wonder when someone would notice!"<br /> "Finally!"<br /> "Really? You mean it? I mean, aren't you saying this just out of kindness?"<br /> "OK what are you about to ask me?"<br /> "I hope you're joking?"<br /> "(...)"<br /> (Shudders, looks down and turns away) </p> <p>This is not bad attention your getting. You are young and you have great legs: it is not out of line to go hose/leggings -free, especially if the weather justifies it. </p> <p>But it you continue to feel uncomfortable, or self-conscious then don't force yourself to go bare legs! The most important thing is that you feel like a million bucks, and that in itself will give you all the confidence you need.</p> <p>Cheers! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341255 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 07:31:19 +0000 Lavinia 341255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes! Though I like to look put-together and enjoy dressing up I do not like attention particularly from strangers. I don't mind my BF or someone close to me saying something nice about my appearance but I get intimidated if I catch glances from strangers (especially men). I think that with me it has to do with confidence though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341249 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 06:03:41 +0000 rosee 341249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Don't know if it's age-related, but I used to be more like that until I reached my late 30s. Now, I'm more unaffected by any attention that I get, though I still prefer to be the observer than the observed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341225 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 04:05:40 +0000 Diana 341225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This happens to me all the time too. I hate being the center of attention, and had to actually train myself to respond to compliments gracefully. </p> <p>I am also distinctly less uncomfortable with female attention than male attention...a woman telling me I look nice feels flattering, whereas a man telling me the same thing makes me want to run away. Unfortunately it's not always possible to get one without the other.</p> <p>I have also been thinking a lot about weddings lately, and you know how many women cant wait to have their wedding? I kind if dread the entire concept - because it's like an entire day of being the center of attention... Shudder. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341223 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 03:57:27 +0000 MNsara 341223@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is a cute dress and you look great in it, so I'm not at all surprised people would notice </p> <p>But I agree that it's hard to receive compliments (in words or looks) with ease. . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341208 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 03:10:50 +0000 taylor 341208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya...this is so me!!<br /> I do my very best to look my best.. I will strut confidently thinking ~no one~ is actually looking....until someone compliments me and I am always so thrown I melt into the wall or start to stand behind my husband like a small child and become incredibly shy...I have no answer for you as to why we are like this...Even my husband laughs when I get a compliment with him...he says " You say thank you and then just shrink away flustered and embarrassed" I dunno:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/attention-phobia#post-341203 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 03:02:57 +0000 Maya 341203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A couple of days ago, I went with a coworker/friend over lunch to run an errand. I was wearing dress and it was a really warm day, so it was my first day of the year sporting bare legs. Not a lot of other women were doing the same, I noticed. Anyway, the dress wasn't really short...however it had a tendency to creep up a bit while I walked (see picture).</p> <p>On the way there, he (coworker friend) looked at me and said "look at you, girl, you're turning heads. All these people must think I'm a lucky guy!"</p> <p>Suddenly I got REALLY uncomfortable. Not because of him or what he said...but because of the fact that people were all *looking* at me. I was pretty oblivious to it until he pointed it out, and once I became aware of it it really freaked me out.</p> <p>It makes no sense to me because in theory I do want people to appreciate it when I put in the effort--yet when they do apparently it makes me uncomfortable. I'm pretty reserved and don't really enjoy being the center of attention so I guess it's just not my thing--yet I guess I do dress in an attention-getting way. Does anyone else struggle with this? </p>