https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 23 Apr 2026 23:18:49 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808740 Mon, 15 May 2017 21:18:13 +0000 The Cat 1808740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you. I saw Angie's comments and look forward to see what she will suggest.</p> <p>I haven't had time to read all the other comments. However, my first thought was: Why not borrow or hire an outfit?</p> <p>But my second thought was: A black maxi skirt can be styled in numerous ways (also in years to come) and therefore may be worth to buy and own. I actually known this from my own experience. For decades, I have always owned at least one black maxi skirt. I have been to several formal parties, including weddings, and my black maxi skirts have served me well, styled with different tops and toppers.</p> <p>When choosing colours, try to avoid wearing all black, all white or all cream for a wedding. (All black is associated with funerals and mourning. And all white or all cream should be reserved for the bride.) But black &amp; white patterns, as well as a black bottom with a white or cream top (or vice versa), is totally acceptable. So are pastels. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808737 Mon, 15 May 2017 21:12:57 +0000 Angie 1808737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cindy. Start a new thread on the specifics.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808716 Mon, 15 May 2017 19:39:24 +0000 cindysmith 1808716@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cat, Angie does answer the "ask Angie" posts. She weighed in once this weekend and said that we need more information to get me sorted, so I'm waiting to hear her suggestions now that I have the specifics. </p> <p>I'm ok with all of the other suggestions, too. TBH, the ladies here have pretty darned good taste </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808707 Mon, 15 May 2017 19:13:47 +0000 The Cat 1808707@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As I am relatively new here, I wonder: Who is supposed to answer "Ask Angie"-questions? Are you OK with reading answers and comments from many more than Angie, or are such answers and comments not actually wanted? If you wanted comments from many others, wouldn't you have chosen "Start a conversation"? Or have you chosen "Ask Angie" to be sure to get an answer from Angie herself? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808703 Mon, 15 May 2017 18:52:43 +0000 cindysmith 1808703@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Emily, funny you add that outfit that has a pair similar to something I just bought. I just ordered these pants in black (never a light color for a wedding!) in the hopes that they would be Angie approved for the wedding. I'm waiting on yoox to ship them. If they aren't Angie approved, that's OK. They weren't much at all and I'll wear them on casual days when I don't have to do any labor. That top in your find/pic is pretty! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808673 Mon, 15 May 2017 15:59:12 +0000 Emily K 1808673@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cindy, when I first read your post, I thought of an outfit like this. &nbsp;I don't love this EXACT top (because it is low in the back with a HUGE bow and it's cropped, too) but there are so many pretty, long-sleeved, lace tops available right now that would pair with silky wide pants. &nbsp;A stretch knit one would be comfortable and pretty.</p> <p>Your mom and sister seem like good people...and you, too. &nbsp;You are going to be fine! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808666 Mon, 15 May 2017 15:39:08 +0000 cindysmith 1808666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, I'm hoping I can find really wide leg Palazzo pants that work, or a maxi skirt that's really full. Something like that was already on my wish list for the year anyway.</p> <p>Robin, yes. I think separates would definitely be usable in the future more than a dress. I just don't do dresses :-(</p> <p>Rambling Ann, thank you. Sometimes I forget the promises of recovery and get stuck in "OMG WTH I has confuse!" Now to go check that blog post </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808658 Mon, 15 May 2017 15:24:17 +0000 Rambling Ann 1808658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Did you see the black and white stripe outfit that Angie posted this morning on the blog about scarves? I saw that before I read your post and thought "I'd wear that to a wedding."&nbsp;</p> <p>Sober, present and of service, that's the gift you are going to be able to give your sister on this joyous day. I'd make sure the shoes are comfortable so you can run around and help at the last minute, and have room in your handbag for a lot of tissues. What a chance to trust in the fact that you now know how to intuitively handle situations that used to be baffling. You've got this.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808604 Mon, 15 May 2017 12:20:34 +0000 RobinF 1808604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw you are a nice sister! I love the idea of separates because they are more likely to be worn later and can be dressed up or down more easily. But I would go try a bunch of stuff on and see what feels good.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808600 Mon, 15 May 2017 12:08:20 +0000 Ledonna N. 1808600@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just want to give you a big hug Cindy. Your care snd compassion fir your family shine brightly yet also your need to be yourself. I would do huge plazzo pants or that beautiful skirt with pockets. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808590 Mon, 15 May 2017 11:19:50 +0000 cindysmith 1808590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules, apparently, they're not too worried about it. I've tried to get my sister to weigh in and she hasn't. Maybe that means she isn't worried about my ability to be situationally appropriate these days LOL. Also, my mom says my sister keeps saying that this is going to he relaxed, and she &amp; my mom are going to have fun planning it.</p> <p>Greyscale, I've attended service at this church in the past, and it actually is pretty relaxed. I wore jeans and didn't stand out. I think my sister even tried on a strapless dress, but she nixed it because of her need for a supportive bra. So bare arms or shoulders should be ok.</p> <p>Sal, my mom said buy black pants (I seriously think she wants me in Palazzo pants the way she kept talking about this flowy pants that are so popular right now LOL), and she reminded me that my sister isn't a fan of many colors in her own home/wardrobe. I think I'm probably safe in pretty much any shade of blue on top without shocking my sister's neutral color sensibilities ;-)</p> <p>Adela &amp; Summer, I love what runcarla wore! She looked so relaxed without looking relaxed, if that makes sense. Also, it was very elegant. And if that's what I wind up with, at least it will be something I love enough to keep around for any future events or just to make me smile when I see it hanging in my closet.</p> <p>Brooklyn, I'm about to cry again! It's not a bad cry. I just think it's so beautiful that your mom walked you down the aisle, and my mom is walking my sister. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808577 Mon, 15 May 2017 10:23:32 +0000 Brooklyn 1808577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I loved your post :)<br /> I think palazzo pants would look fantastic. If you can get a matching top the column of colour thing looks really classy. Also, if you end up going for a long skirt, keep in mind that you could have it shortened after the event, which may make it more wearable for you.<br /> And I have to mention that my mum walked me down the aisle too and it WAS awesome.<br /> It's going to be fabulous, and so are you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808574 Mon, 15 May 2017 10:12:54 +0000 Summer 1808574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another here who is touched by the consideration you are showing to your family.&nbsp; I like the idea of dressy pants or long skirt - a la Carla - with a glamorous top, if that is suitable, and I agree with Jenni not to spend too much if you are veering away from your usual style preferences (easier said than done, I know).&nbsp; You still have plenty of time, so good luck with the search. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808573 Mon, 15 May 2017 09:54:50 +0000 Adela 1808573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really enjoy this thread and can't wait to see what you will wear for your sister's wedding. I think that you're being really considerate and nice, and I'm sure you will find something that you'll feel great and comfortable in. I think that what Runcarla wore for her son's wedding was a wonderful, elegant look, and if you see yourself in something similar, go fot it. If black is not really appropriate, then dark blue might be, and it's very in this season. Good luck and don't forget to enjoy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808550 Mon, 15 May 2017 04:37:00 +0000 Sal 1808550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely occasion and I am sure you will look wonderful. &nbsp;I could see you in either the maxi skirt or palazzo pants option, with an elegant top. &nbsp;These pieces are timeless and can be worn again even if it is five to ten years. &nbsp;A very simple top with a unique pendant could work well.</p> <p>I am not an expert on Southern Church weddings/colour choices in that scenario. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808547 Mon, 15 May 2017 03:50:52 +0000 Greyscale 1808547@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cindy, Vix said exactly what I was thinking, and so did your mother: you've got this. It'll be fun to find a great outfit. Your mother and sister will be thrilled to have you, the current you, not thinking about ghosts of the past.</p> <p>One question - are bare shoulders ok for the church setting? I know nothing about megachurch culture but my sense is that it wouldn't be a problem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808544 Mon, 15 May 2017 03:43:57 +0000 Jules 1808544@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In my experience the pressure to find something you think you can wear again can just make the whole thing more difficult. Also, your desire to do right by your family and make up for your past is really nice - but it sounds like this will be a large event and your family isn't that concerned about the details of your attire. In short.... as long as it's appropriate, it won't matter all too much what you wear. At the same time it's ok to spend some money and effort to feel comfortable If you end up with something you know you won't wear again, consider selling or even just donating it while it's still current, so you can imagine someone else getting use of it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808509 Mon, 15 May 2017 01:03:11 +0000 cindysmith 1808509@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, it's definitely a relief, unfrumped. I'm a bit more comfortable with semi formal than I was with formal, but I'm still hopeful Angie can give me some ideas because I'm kind of lost with top and shoes and accessories LOL</p> <p>I just ordered some plain basic black wide leg silk pants from yoox;, even if Angie vetoes them I'm keeping them for other uses. They were too good a deal to pass up with their sale going right now + free shipping til midnight </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808504 Sun, 14 May 2017 23:57:30 +0000 unfrumped 1808504@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is great input from your mom. Gives some direction but nothing tying you down or scary. What she said makes me think of dressy, pretty( in a happy way, not twee), marking the occasion, rather than a rigid dress code, though semi- formal is right, it means there's no expectation of ball gowns everywhere. Her talking about silky fabrics and flowy sets the tone-- not that you can't do tailored fits rather than flowy if those fit better, I think it's just guiding toward nice special- occasion outfits rather than standard workwear or casual, but there's still a whole great range that lets you find the " you" outfit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808395 Sun, 14 May 2017 03:33:06 +0000 Deborah 1808395@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cindy just want to say how lovely your post is. &nbsp;I was really touched by your love for your sister and your family and how you really want show that love and respect in how your present at the wedding.</p> <p>I am not a lover of dresses for occasions so some lovely dressy pants would be awesome! &nbsp;I have a friend who attended a formal function in a beautiful black pant suits. &nbsp;I was so impressed and she looked so stylish that I have never bothered to stress out looking for formal dresses for events now. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808351 Sat, 13 May 2017 23:40:50 +0000 cindysmith 1808351@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenni, my mom said something similar. She said "there's plenty of time, watch the sales" One of my fave consignment shops in Dallas has their first Saturday sales every month, and retail is always having sales, and I'm near a lot of high-end department stores off price branches and tjmaxx locations with "the runway" and I have some reward points I can cash in to help. I'm trying to be responsible instead of using this as an excuse to buy something completely fabulous and expensive and utterly useless after the event LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please/page/2#post-1808334 Sat, 13 May 2017 21:08:14 +0000 Jenni NZ 1808334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love you for this post Cindy. Your thoughtfulness towards your sister and family is awesome and I hope they will appreciate it! I totally also think that you should keep the money you spend down somewhat because you and DH's house is your dream. So maybe Zara or somewhere like that will be your friend. I agree with whoever said that the pants or maxi skirt come first before the shoes, as more crucial to the look. Sending hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808312 Sat, 13 May 2017 19:15:57 +0000 minimalist 1808312@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cindy, another thought: is it certain that festive all-black isn't ok? I have a conservative old-southern relative who has strict ideas about dress codes and would see black as uncheerful, so I do see that risk. But for many weddings now, it seems the only really offensive guest attire would be all white, with a rhinestone tiara and a train. It wouldn't hurt to ask your sister how she'd feel about you wearing all black, I don't think?</p> <p>From the little I know of you around here, if you were my sister I'd just be glad to have you present, and would only care that you felt comfortable in the setting.<br /> But I'm not a pastor in a megachurch, so I don't have concerns about family appearances reflecting on my testimony or whatever that's called. And maybe I'm jaded since I've already had the big wedding with perfect pictures; coordinated outfits don't make the pictures any happier. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808306 Sat, 13 May 2017 18:55:44 +0000 cindysmith 1808306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>DH probably won't be going but that is probably exactly the question I need to ask instead of "what should I wear, dear sister?" </p> <p>"What should dear husband wear?"</p> <p>Thank you, Ryce </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808300 Sat, 13 May 2017 18:11:42 +0000 Anonymous 1808300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm on my way out the door, but do want to chime in quickly about getting more feedback from your family about the <b>kind&nbsp;</b>of wedding, and specifically reception, that it is. &nbsp;<br />Agree with others here that Southern megachurch culture, even in affluent areas, is often much less formal than others here may be thinking for an evening wedding. &nbsp;And in general, evening weddings in the South are not <b>necessarily </b>formal, as they typically are in other parts of the country.<br />Where is the reception? &nbsp;Is it is in the church reception hall? &nbsp;Will there be alcohol served, dancing? &nbsp;Most of the active ministers I know who have married have opted for large hors 'd'oeuvre-type weddings, no or minimal alcohol and no dancing, in order to accommodate a huge guest list including all the congregation. &nbsp;At those kind of events, attire often tends more toward what people might wear to an important church service than to "evening wear". &nbsp; Will your husband be attending, too? &nbsp;If so, the answer to whether he needs to wear a suit or coat and tie will help you gauge the degree of formality.<br />BBL. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808288 Sat, 13 May 2017 16:54:58 +0000 Vix 1808288@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Cindy --</p> <p>This is coming from a "do as I say, not as I did" re family weddings but...relax, you got this!</p> <p>You grew up there so you have a good idea of the cultural look, you want to "pass" [with ideally some of your style intact] to honor your sister and family, you're ok with spending on a 1-time outfit if you have to...you're in pretty good shape, really.</p> <p>I grew up in a place with similar 100/100 (degree/humidity) weather and frigid A/C or not no way would I do a taffeta or ball gown-y maxi...leave that to the bride if she's determined to take it on. And make sure there are ice packs stashed around the venue(s) for her in case she feels faint!</p> <p>But I think a lightweight silk maxidress, skirt, or pants would be awesome for your needs -- tattoo coverage, appropriateness, weather. I always feel like the South is the one place where silk suits -- esp raw silk -- still thrive. I could actually see you making a silk pantsuit very glamourous.&nbsp;</p> <p>Tis the season for florals and prints but I bet you can find a fairly dark solid if that feels more emotionally in sync. Dark purples, greens, and blues are the next best thing to black, right? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808285 Sat, 13 May 2017 16:28:12 +0000 cindysmith 1808285@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, yes. I have to travel, probably by plane which is it's own nightmare LOL</p> <p>As far as I know, there is just the one event that requires serious thought and help. I'll double check to be sure. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808284 Sat, 13 May 2017 16:14:56 +0000 viva 1808284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just want to add that I loved the tone of your post. I know that you will find a great outfit to wear because your spirit is so in the right place.&nbsp;</p> <p>xxxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808283 Sat, 13 May 2017 16:10:30 +0000 Anonymous 1808283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just breathe, relax, smile, and enjoy this style journey!&nbsp; Thanks for inviting us along. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-evening-wedding-what-to-wear-help-please#post-1808282 Sat, 13 May 2017 16:06:19 +0000 Angie 1808282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And you will, sweet Cindy. Now. You have homework. Speak to sis and report back to us. Then we'll get started.&nbsp;</p> <p>Btw, you'll be travelling to the event, right? And there will only be one event?&nbsp; </p>