https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-239 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 08 May 2026 10:08:14 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-239#post-115455 Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:33:35 +0000 Carole 115455@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Maya and Michelle. When first meeting someone, I would be sensitive if comments were made about my body, positive or not. Maybe your eyes, or smile, but anything else feels sexist or too aggressive and would cause me to pause or question intent. That being said, her response was out of line, but who knows what her history is or why she would react in such a way. Your intentions were honorable, but misunderstood. I believe all things happen to teach us something, and it seems this will serve you in some way in the future. I admire the fact that you didn't just dismiss this and are trying to figure out what went wrong. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-239#post-115451 Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:20:15 +0000 Maya 115451@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, a post male member!</p> <p>Well Kevin, it seems like you had good intentions but Michelle &amp; your friend are both right. It's best to leave bodies out of the conversation entirely, especially so early on. I would have probably reacted negatively too, though for a different reason. It would just make me uncomfortable and suspicious if some guy I just met was talking about my body. I suppose it depends on context and on the woman in question (I'm sure there are plenty who aren't as prudish as I am), but you can't really predict it. </p> <p>Hope your face (and ego) have since recovered! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-239#post-115448 Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:08:59 +0000 Michelle 115448@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kevin, one of the few male posters on the forum! Welcome!<br /> That sounds like an awfully unpleasant and embarrassing experience... But I must admit one of the adjectives you used in your complement would likely rub most women the wrong way. To say someone has a "full" figure often carries connotations of being plus-sized, which is not necessarily a bad thing but really doesn't sit well with some people. I know I personally would never be offended if someone described me as an hourglass (in fact that's my body classification on this forum), but if someone said my figure was full, I might feel somewhat hurt. Not face-slapping hurt, in my case, but that's just me. Body image can be a terribly sensitive issue for a lot of women, and it's always advisable to tread carefully when you're just getting to know someone. Perhaps if you'd just said she had a beautiful figure and left out the descriptors, things would have turned out differently. Or perhaps it would have been wisest to refrain from all body observations so early in the game. </p> <p>I hope this helps. Better luck next time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ask-angie-239#post-115441 Fri, 08 Jan 2010 01:43:30 +0000 kevinmitchell 115441@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My name is Kevin and I thought you might have some good insight on this, so here goes. </p> <p>I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a party a few weeks ago. It was a public event at an art gallery. She was a high school teacher in her early thirties. We had been talking for a good half hour and really seemed to be hitting it off. We had even made tentative plans to meet for coffee sometime. </p> <p>Then, things suddenly went downhill. I commented that she had a “nice, full, hourglass figure”. I thought she would take it as a compliment but instead she became deeply offended. She snapped, “Oh really….well perhaps I should do some plus size modeling!” I went into damage control mode and tried to clarify my comments but I think I only exacerbated things when I used the term “healthy”. With a look of complete disgust, WHAP!, she slapped my face and departed. </p> <p>I will never forget those agonizing moments in the immediate aftermath, as I was standing there alone rubbing my cheek, drawing some judgemental stares from onlookers. Needless to say, it was not my proudest moment, LOL. </p> <p>She had the classic figure of a 50’s pinup - large bust, narrow waist, shapely hips/legs. I guess she had interpreted “hourglass” as meaning big/overweight/full figured. I just thought it meant shapely and well proportioned. </p> <p>When I told a female friend about this she shook her head and said it was never a good idea to comment on a woman’s figure, even if I thought it was complimentary. What do you think about this? </p> <p>Kevin </p>