https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 08:47:57 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272732 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 14:16:58 +0000 Laura 272732@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, it's not piling on, it's just that when you are 20something trying to write about being middle aged - well let's just say it's easy to write something that will offend your middle aged audience, because stuff you say all the time and don't think about it because it's totally innocent from your point of view, will sound "off" to people who are actually middle aged, or will sound like a stereotype. </p> <p>I knew she was young from her writing. It was a pretty logical guess, given what websites are paying writers these days. But that's another story </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272708 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 12:17:21 +0000 Mellllls 272708@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i agree, i think it's fine for her to write the article if she was assigned to it, but she needs to back it up with some sort of research; she hasn't experienced this age yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272611 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 04:11:59 +0000 MsMary 272611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>She could have, you know, TALKED to some actual middle-aged women for starters instead of pulling those ridiculous conclusions out of, uh, thin air. (And yes, she did talk to one author of a book about over-50 beauty, but we don't know that woman's age either, for that matter.)</p> <p>And she could definitely have not written in a voice that strongly implies that she is a member of the age group about which she writes. (E.g. "The rest of us need to invest in [Spanx, etc.].")</p> <p>If a slender person wrote about diet tips, or a rich person wrote about poverty, and they demonstrated such colossal ignorance and stereotyping, I'd have the same reaction. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272597 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 04:02:36 +0000 Maya 272597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, she did write it because she was likely given it as an assignment. What was she supposed to do? Say no? </p> <p>It's like saying a slender person can't write about diet tips or a rich person can't write about poverty, etc. </p> <p>I uniformly hate advice and articles like this, but I think piling on to the author because of her age is misplaced. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272588 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 03:49:40 +0000 Late Bloomer 272588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Now I understand now why the article seemed so strange. How sad that someone in her 20s views growing older as such a negative thing. And I know shes not alone in that. It's what TV etc. teaches. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272585 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 03:45:29 +0000 MsMary 272585@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>But, uh, she WROTE it! LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272568 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 03:07:45 +0000 Maya 272568@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Um, let's not take our rage out at the wrong person here. This girl is just doing her job. I doubt this article was her idea... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272515 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 01:53:43 +0000 Gaylene 272515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I found the blog through Kristine's link which led to our Ashley's "professional" site <a href="http://ashleymacha.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">http://ashleymacha.wordpress.com/</a> which gave this background along with links to her blog and other publications:</p> <p>"Ashley Macha is a 20-something journalist and photographer with double bachelor’s degrees in Journalism and Nutrition Communication from Arizona State University.<br /> Her most recent work has included a fellowship through Time Inc. at Health magazine in Birmingham, Alabama where she worked as an editorial fellow." </p> <p>The Health online site is listed as the source of the Yahoo article... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272492 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 01:04:28 +0000 Mellllls 272492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>her blog doesn't seem like the blog of someone who writes for yahoo. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272467 Fri, 31 Dec 2010 00:20:59 +0000 susan 272467@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh goodness! I just had a chance to read the article-how foolish the author sounds. I just turned 55 and wouldn't go back to 20 for anything. I heard when I turned 50 that a woman "becomes" herself during this decade and I know it has been true for me. The author gave some good advice, but nothing I haven't read many times before, and her condescending attitude is laughable. Someone else mentioned getting rid of your baby weight ASAP, and I agree with that. Joining Diet Center ( I don't even think those are around anymore!) was some of the best money I ever spent. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272380 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 22:24:59 +0000 Jonesy 272380@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's actually pretty insulting. It's like a man giving a woman condescending advice about childbirth :).</p> <p>Re. different things getting better in middle age: recent research suggests that in general, women actually gain in self-confidence, a sense of personal power, feelings of well-being and happiness with life, and adaptive coping strategies (e.g., humor) in middle age, compared to their younger selves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272285 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 19:14:15 +0000 Velma 272285@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gah! Clearly written by someone who can't even begin to fathom that middle age is BETTER for many people than their 20s. And, come on: all of us are "aging," from the day we are born. </p> <p>I'm with the camp that guesses the author's age as mid-20s. Give her 15 years, and then I'd like to know what she thinks . . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272282 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 19:03:09 +0000 rute 272282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh.. Tricia! I understood now!! I agree!! It's possible! It's possible to look better! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272280 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 19:00:40 +0000 Queen Mum 272280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I found her e-mail address on her blog and just e-mailed to ask her if she was the same Ashley who wrote the article... I'll let you know if I hear back from her.<br /> But I don't know too many 50 year old Ashley's...... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272275 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 18:52:49 +0000 Queen Mum 272275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>you've got to be kidding me! a 20 something wrote that article? How on earth does she have any clue what sex is like in "old age"? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272273 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 18:33:00 +0000 MsMary 272273@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good lord! I cannot imagine who thought it was a good idea to have a twentysomething write this article! (Probably a thirtysomething editor!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272240 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 17:33:25 +0000 Gaylene 272240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I checked out Kristine's link and found the author's blog-- <a href="http://shweeey.wordpress.com/about/" rel="nofollow">http://shweeey.wordpress.com/about/</a> </p> <p>Maybe that's how 40+ looks to a twenty something? I wonder how she'll view her "advice" twenty or thirty years from now? Thanks, Kristine, checking out the author; it puts a different spin on the article for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272125 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 13:50:25 +0000 Laura 272125@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wonder how old the writer of this article is - I would hazard a guess that she is not north of 35.</p> <p>Love what Taylor said! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272119 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 13:41:07 +0000 Tricia 272119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No, rute, that was my point! I felt like the writer was saying that it wasn't possible to look as good, or better, or feel as good or better in your 40s-50s than in your 20s. You and so many other women here are proof that that isn't true! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272088 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 10:42:23 +0000 Mellllls 272088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ah, i was just thinking about the whole point is to enjoy fully the life that you have now because it is so fleeting. the end of my 20's are approaching, and like maya, there were certainly struggles but there were also amazing, amazing things that happened that i know i will not relive in my life. so savoring those moments are so incredibly important and worth it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272078 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 09:05:14 +0000 Lynne 272078@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, said, Taylor!</p> <p>Kristine - very clever :)</p> <p>I have been rereading a favourite book (Victoria Moran, Living a Charmed Life) about embracing the chapter of your life that you're in right now. Right now my chapter includes extra weight and a sick husbanc, but it also includes time at home, wonderful friends, beaut kids, YLF :), and knowing that appearance is a part of the much bigger package that makes us who we are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272066 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 08:06:19 +0000 rute 272066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tricia! Really?? I'm 42 and in better shape than ever! When I hit 50 I won't be fat of full of pains or wrinkles! The secret is to learn how to take care of yourself and that what the author is trying to do! We can eat well, exercise and have a better quality of life while aging! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women/page/2#post-272036 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 04:42:09 +0000 Late Bloomer 272036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"I think way too many women go to the other extreme and think they have to give up everything they used to do just because they are older."</p> <p>This is exactly what bothered me about the writer's attitude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-272035 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 04:41:39 +0000 Late Bloomer 272035@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"I think way too many women go to the other extreme and think they have to give up everything they used to do just because they are older."</p> <p>This is exactly what bothered me about the writer's attitude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-272027 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:59:08 +0000 Maya 272027@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well said, Taylor! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-272026 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:57:56 +0000 taylor 272026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Each age and decade has it's problems and challenges...just do the best we can...accept and change what is worth changing, learn to love the rest.</p> <p>Would I love the fullness of my 20 something face (and other parts that were once fuller)? of course!!would I want to be 20 something again...No Way!! As Maya stated the 20's have many challenges of their own...so does learning to walk for 1 yr. olds:) who wants to do that again</p> <p>From birth to very old age life has it's challenges, absolutely no other solution but to try and love who you become inside as well as out . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-272010 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:20:46 +0000 Maya 272010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There are aspects of being old that are a drag. But there are also aspects of being young that are a drag. I assure you I don't enjoy struggling financially, paying half my salary for a dilapidated, shoebox of an apartment, having no authority in any aspect of my life, constantly being passed over in my professional life for people with more experience, never feeling quite stable or secure...I could go on but most of you are older than me and are already familiar with what I'm talking about...</p> <p>Neither do I look forward to getting older, nor do I dread it. But would I want to be younger again? So far, absolutely not. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-272007 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:14:44 +0000 MNsara 272007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As another 50+er, I DO agree that the (little, so far) aches and pains of age are a drag, but aging is definitely NOT a drag -- unless you insist on living in your past!</p> <p>Her version of 'being fraught with tension' is what drove me to find YLF - and YLF is hardly a 'drag'!</p> <p>I didn't look at the link above, but it sure sounds like this author is decades away from middle-age and realizing all the comfort (in our own skin) and confidence it offers! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-271998 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:03:13 +0000 MsMary 271998@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, getting OLD is a drag. I used to work for a wonderful 80-plus woman judge who loved to say "old age isn't for sissies!" But I don't think that's at all what the author of the article had in mind when she said getting old-ER is a drag. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/article-about-style-mistakes-for-aging-women#post-271985 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 02:46:18 +0000 Misia 271985@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This article made lots of sense in the way, thanks Khris!<br /> I love this saying, I must say it's ageless: Do what you can, with what you have, right where you are! </p>