https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 02:13:37 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753820 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 21:38:11 +0000 Isabel 753820@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, maybe regarding the weave. But he also put it on HIGH. They could also have had different finishes that just didn't hold up as well 20 years ago. It is amazing what one can wash and dry nowadays ! You are a brave woman. I can't ever bring myself to throw my cashmere in the dryer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753720 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 16:50:17 +0000 MNsara 753720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah yes, meaning to 'help'. . . and after xx number of years, you'd think they've noticed we do things differently, but no . . .</p> <p>In fact, at our house, my DH and sons only own things that can survive ANY type of washing and drying. They now do their own laundry and look out for each other - asking for extra clothes that need washing to fill up a load. Pretty cute!! I don't even put anything down the laundry chute unless I know it can survive one of their loads.</p> <p>They've also learned to set a wet load of mine on top of the dryer for me to sort and dry/partially dry/lay flat/ hang/ etc.</p> <p>You're SO not alone in this well-meaning-guy issue </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753716 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 16:37:27 +0000 Mona 753716@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>THis is such a funny thread. Janet, I am glad the results were not disastrous for your closthes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753714 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 16:23:39 +0000 siniestra 753714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>lol poor of ur your hub lol sometimes we can act as crazies b when is about clothes but don't stress over on something material is fixable and u can buy it new again my hub isn't allowed to even wash his clothes lol i get so mad when he do it cuz he place everything (socks,underwear, and even bath towels ) in one load i get so frustrated but at the end he just want to help lol but lol nooooooooooo my dad one time killed my dark blue converse and my guess top by placing whites and colors and put clorox on the clothes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753688 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 15:25:40 +0000 Anonymous 753688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The boy knows better than touching my precious clothes... lol...<br /> Gosh, he is so petrified about damaging my stuff, he even hesitates to put his coat next to one of mine, in the coat closet. He actually snagged one of my coats pretty badly with his coat's zipper pull. We even had a tutorial on how to properly hang a coat: 1- Create space by "parting the waters" 2- Use correct hanger. Dude, a dry cleaner hanger should NEVER make an appearance in my closet, 3 - Flatten coat out and "bring back the waters together". Yep, I need to go down to that kind of level.<br /> So glad you had minimal damage there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753614 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 12:40:02 +0000 Mander 753614@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm pretty fortunate in this respect. The only thing I have had to instruct him on is the difference between knits and wovens. We don't have a dryer, so we don't have to worry about that particular problem, and he is rather environmentally conscious so just about everything gets washed on cold except kitchen towels.</p> <p>I hope his tooth is fixable! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753222 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 19:34:34 +0000 rholmes27 753222@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been married 33 years &amp; my husband does all household chores with me ...except he is not allowed to touch the laundry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh/page/2#post-753160 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 18:01:59 +0000 Janet 753160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, thanks for all the good thoughts and funny stories! The shirts are OK. One is a little snug now, but it's stretchy and something I mainly see as an underlayer anyway. The other was labeled "dry flat only" so I feared the worst, but it seems OK.</p> <p>The bra is a little funky but still usable. Probably time for another one anyway. The tights are toast, I think, but they were only $4. All in all, not disastrous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-753095 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 15:24:02 +0000 ironkurtin 753095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabel, I put my cashmere in the drier all the time and it doesn't shrink. Maybe it was the weave? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752930 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 06:42:13 +0000 Ingunn 752930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no! A familiar accident for sure. I hope the ruined garments are fairly easy to replace. He meant to do good, and that is always a forgiving factor. I'm also the one who does the laundry in my family, but recently my husband took up cycling and bought himself a lot of expensive gear, so now he does all the sportswear and wool washing in the family - very convenient:)</p> <p>I hope his tooth is on the mend by now! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752921 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 06:21:54 +0000 Scarlet 752921@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>After a couple of "incidents" it is clear in our house that there is no laundry until I have personally sorted it. Actually I bought a bunch of laundry bags that I have labeled which I can presort into, and this means we can both get it done when we have time. There is a second sorting step though before using the dryer which must be done by me. However after a few years hubby can do this himself but asks about anything he deems suspicious or just hangs all of my stuff to air dry. I on the other hand am not allowed to load the dishwasher because I don't effectively "maximize" the use of space. </p> <p>Janet, of course you were upset. Look at how we all hem and haw over what we should buy and how we should spend our money. You even tried to calm yourself down and be civil about it, so you aren't doing anything wrong. Nothing you described sounds like being a control freak. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752875 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 03:34:31 +0000 Deborah 752875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no Janet! We have an agreement in my house that DH does his laundry, I do mine and Master 9's and who ever gets to the towels, sheets etc first does it. Works a treat! I hope your garments are all ok. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752869 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 03:29:30 +0000 Transcona Shannon 752869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>DH and I realized about 25 years ago that if we had any hope in going "the long haul", he couldn't do the laundry. I am however teaching DS how to read labels and separate into different loads, how to fold, etc. I hope to make him a good husband for some lucky lady!</p> <p>I hope your items will be ok Janet. And I hope hubby's tooth will be ok too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752851 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 02:56:19 +0000 Diana 752851@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no! I hope your clothes managed to make it through relatively unscathed. </p> <p>Fiance and I have already decided that when we are married we are keeping our laundry separated. I am anal about how I wash things and have very specific rules for how I wash each particular item or type of item . He washes everything on hot but on the other hand actually irons his shirts religiously (whereas I can count on one hand the number of times I've used my iron in the past year, mostly for hemming or crafting). So if we each do our own, then I can wash things how I want and he can actually have ironed shirts. =P I guess we will have to negotiate things like sheets and towels. </p> <p>I did however manage to convert him to my scentless laundry detergent though, so I am happy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752830 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 02:31:42 +0000 Isabel 752830@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This left a pit in my stomach..it is soooo difficult when someone does something out of kindness and THEY MESS IT UP !!!!! </p> <p>I felt the pit because it has happened to me and brought me to tears. When I used to work, I would go to Bloomingdale's every spring and buy one or two beautiful cashmere sweaters ( back then, cashmere was rarer and more expansive ). I would store them during the late Spring/Summer and then break them out in the fall. One week in mid-fall, I wore the two that I had bought the previous Spring for the first time. My husband saw me wear them and talk about how happy I was with them - so he decided to wash them for me so that I could wear them again ASAP.....</p> <p>Don't laugh. I SOBBED. They came out of the dryer ( yup, the DRYER ) small enough to MAYBE fit the Taco Bell Chihuahua. DH told me to go buy a couple more, no matter what the cost...all I could manage to get out was " THESE WERE SEASONAL COLORS !!!! WHHHHAAAAAA. " </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752828 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 02:26:43 +0000 ironkurtin 752828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think she meant "bug killing."</p> <p>My husband is forbidden to touch the laundry. Ever. Much like I am forbidden certain sacred tools in his workshop. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752823 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 02:22:00 +0000 Carole 752823@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hate to even admit my husband hasn't done a load of clothes in probably 20 years, maybe as long as we have been married, so more like 30! He doesn't know how to work any of the kitchen appliances either, I know, I'm an enabler. I know I'm not a complete failure, both my son and daughter are great cooks and do there own laundry!</p> <p>Does that make you feel any better? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752791 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 01:51:11 +0000 Gaylene 752791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My poor husband is so apologetic after he does something like that, I end up feeling sorrier for him than for me. Clothes come and go, but, even after 39 years of marriage and couple of shrunken sweaters, he is a keeper!</p> <p>ETA: Also interested in the "but killing"; inquiring minds want to know... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752781 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 01:44:13 +0000 catgirl 752781@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jjsloane, I have to ask: what is "but killing"?</p> <p>Or should I ask? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752780 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 01:42:39 +0000 catgirl 752780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>SIGH. *pat pat* on the shoulder</p> <p>I usually ruin my husband's t-shirts by shrinking them, so now we have a legally separated laundry system. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752770 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 01:26:59 +0000 citygirldc 752770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hubby does laundry which is a nice. I do all the kitchen stuff. Sorry to hear about your tops. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752761 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 01:14:56 +0000 Anonymous 752761@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband has ruined many of my clothes so the rule is he isn't allowed to touch my laundry ever. He washes all his together. I take his shirts and work khakis and iron them for him though. I like him to look nice at work. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752746 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:56:09 +0000 Mo 752746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh, I've missed having a dishwasher so long I don't even use the one we have here now. How funny.<br /> The BF tends to do laundry all together, no separating by color or fabric type, but he washes cold and dries low so not too much damage gets done. Pilling on shirts that wash with towels is about the worst of it. And he's actually caught on to not dry premium denim ever :)<br /> Hope your tops survive Janet! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752736 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:51:52 +0000 MsMary 752736@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL, in our house it's DH giving the tutorials, which is a large part of the reason we each do our own laundry now. And apparently the dishwasher is loaded incorrectly the 90% of the time I load it. :-/ </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752725 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:47:37 +0000 Janet 752725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, everybody! Nice to know I'm not the only one, although Jeanne, I'm sorry about your cat's new shirt! My mom did that once -- I was in high school and had saved up for a wool fair isle sweater. Yeah, it would have fit one of the dogs quite nicely after that. </p> <p>I have to laugh when he "helps" sometimes. There are a lot of things he does around here that are truly helpful, but when it comes to certain things, I can be a control freak. We had a little tutorial recently on how to load a dishwasher without putting glasses in the lower rack where they emerge in shards, and how to distribute the utensils among the compartments rather than dump a whole handful in one. And I made a public service announcement to the household last week that the new adopted storage space for shoes -- next to the garage door -- very nearly caused me to face-plant while carrying bags of groceries in from the car. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752715 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:41:45 +0000 MsMary 752715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!</p> <p>And, uh, too bad about that instant karma thing... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752711 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:39:57 +0000 RunnerChick 752711@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I totally understand - I am married to one of those helpful sorts myself </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752709 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:38:59 +0000 Sveta 752709@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a day - both for you and your hubby! I hope at least some of your goodies survived the treatment. Good wishes to your hubby, I have been there - not fun at all!<br /> My mom cannot understand why I am the only person in the house doing laundry...this very reason. I prefer them to vacuum or clean the bathroom!:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752704 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:36:59 +0000 bj1111 752704@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>gah!</p> <p>good hubby....nice hubby....just keep repeating until you believe it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/argggggghh#post-752702 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 00:35:46 +0000 Jjsloane 752702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This happened ONCE with DH. Results were: Top small enough for cat to wear. My reaction was enough to result in DH being relegated to things like trash, cat litter, but killing and making meals. As much as I am overwhelmed by the family laundry he knows this is one area I do not want any more help than toting baskets to the basement. Don't get me started on the lectures about putting non-stick cookware in the dishwasher... </p>