https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 03 Apr 2026 19:55:25 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981961 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 16:05:18 +0000 Anonymous 1981961@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you, Jenni! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981835 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 08:41:02 +0000 Jenni NZ 1981835@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No Caley it's fine to post on a really old thread. As Sterling said the emotion you feel about this is real to you now. It does sometimes happen that new posters post on old threads after doing searches and I find it interesting. Many of the forum members from 7 years ago have dropped away but there are some familiar names on this thread, people who are still around. I saw your other thread with pics- lovely figure. And sorry about your ex, glad you are finding yourself again.<br /> I've been on YLF for almost 2 years now and it has been awesome interacting with people all over the world with a common interest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981779 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 02:43:18 +0000 Anonymous 1981779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh wait am I posting in the wrong places ?<br /> And Sarah, what poster ? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981706 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 21:33:18 +0000 SarahD8 1981706@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also, I think that another poster suggested that Caley look in the archives for further info/old threads on body type! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981686 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 20:39:08 +0000 Anonymous 1981686@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>But the sentiment that Caley expressed is real to this day. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981681 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 20:23:33 +0000 DJP 1981681@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a 7 year old thread! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981679 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 20:19:25 +0000 Anonymous 1981679@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can remember once when my sister and I went to a country store near our home. We were both wearing shorts. We are both hourglasses but my sister was a good 30 pounds heavier than I and her curves far more pronounced. The store owner told my sister to go home and put some clothes on and that she looked inappropriate, but said nothing at all to me. In fact, she didn't seem to even notice that I was wearing shorts. My sister who was 14 at the time, cried and cried about it. She was so angry because the lady had basically called her a slut, simply because her young body was so curvy. In the years that have followed my sister has learned to love her curvy body but she has endured enormous amounts of ridicule over it and over her fashion choices to dress it up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981629 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 18:49:39 +0000 Anonymous 1981629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I understand your emotions completely. &nbsp;I am not an hourglass, but I work in a predominantly male field. &nbsp;I have always been incredibly self conscious about evidencing <i>any sign</i> of femininity. &nbsp;I am so sorry for the crass and thoughtless looks/comments that you have to put up with. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-1981617 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 18:39:14 +0000 Anonymous 1981617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am in the same boat. I have always tried to cover up my curves since I was 14 and I couldn’t figure out why no matter what I would wear I would be stared at ;(<br /> I am not flirtatious with my body but it made me feel like a s—- I am just now at 30 beginning to realize that MAYBE the reason people stare is because of my body shape and NOT because I ask for the attention. I WISH there was a balance between sexy and classy with my figure. Everything I wear that my friends wear without an issue make me look like I’m trying to be sexy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/3#post-401225 Tue, 09 Aug 2011 23:20:48 +0000 JenT 401225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hate to say this, but I think this is the very reason I used to dress on the conservative side. I'm a stay-at-home mom, but let me tell you, other moms can be just as vicious as the corporate world. I am very curvy, and I don't want to come off too sexy. Not because I'm uncomfortable with myself, but I just get sick of the judgement. Now that I'm 40, I've sort of come into my own and don't care nearly as much about what others think. I like what so many of you have to say, and I love how confident many of you are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-400983 Tue, 09 Aug 2011 17:42:20 +0000 Turkey Vulture 400983@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my gosh! I have been lurking on YLF for a long time and I finally had to register just so I could post to this thread!</p> <p>On all the style guides I've ever seen hourglass is supposed to be the "lucky" body type, as in "lucky you, you have an hourglass figure and you can wear anything!" Uh...not true. It's just as difficult to dress this body type correctly -- in a way that looks balanced and flattering. And it's way hard to dress it in a way that doesn't look vulgar or too sexy. I have the most difficult time finding stuff that looks good on me. Whenever I go into a department store I feel so badly for the workers...I will take in dozens of garments to my dressing room and I can just feel them drooling over the huge commission they expect to make off me, but I end up buying maybe one or two things because NOTHING FITS RIGHT. If hourglass is supposed to be the "lucky" body type, then why am I always so unlucky in dressing rooms?! It's enough to make me pull out my hair.</p> <p>I am sure a big part of the problem is my bust...I have a very full bust, size 34F. I have to buy all my tops and dresses in a size 12 or 14 to fit my bust and have them tailored down to fit my waist and hips, which are more like an 8 - 10. It's good to wear tailored clothes anyway, but the added expense is frustrating. I don't look huge on top; I look very balanced and "classic" hourglass, but the discrepancy in clothing sizes is obnoxious. </p> <p>It is nearly impossible to find fitted clothing that doesn't look TOO fitted, that my boobs don't hang out of, etc. Darts in cute tops and seams hit really weird on my bust. So frustrating.</p> <p>And like so many others in this thread, I am so annoyed by people commenting on how "sexy" I look when I'm not going for "sexy!" It's great to look sexy if you're going out on a date or going to a casual get-together, but I don't want to give the impression that I'm a sex kitten when I go in for a job interview or when I'm at work or at a funeral or whatever! And it's hard to "un-sexy" an hourglass figure without going full-on grandma-style frumpy.</p> <p>Man, it's frustrating. But I have to say, being a busty hourglass has made shopping fun for me, once I learned to look at it like a game...like a hunt! Shopping is exciting now because I am on the prowl for the PERFECT garment...one I can take to my tailor and have altered to look nice on me with just the right amount of sexy. I definitely can't buy just any cute new top or dress...I have to really get creative ,try it on, visualize what it will look like when it's styled right and altered. </p> <p>It did take me several years to look at shopping this way instead of being totally annoyed by it.</p> <p>Glad I'm not alone! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-400234 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 15:10:31 +0000 mrseccentric 400234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>oy, what an interesting thread! and i agree with the many wise comments in it! i've got the typical sexpot bod - with the addition of wide shoulders, a blessing because they make it easier to downplay my bust in professional type situations.</p> <p>crwilson, i want to talk about an epiphany of my own that i had years ago. as a teenager and into my twenties i dressed very modestly - i had this idea that i didn't want to provoke undue reactions in other people, especially men. but around 30 or so, i started realizing that a) i got reactions no matter HOW i dressed b) why can't i just wear what other people wear, like tank tops when it's 100F? c) it's not my place to be responsible for other people's feelings and thoughts d) if i followed this thinking to it's logical end i would never leave the house except in something like a burkha - which is not good.</p> <p>so i stopped trying to 'cover up' all the time. and the world continued to turn on it's axis i still get those 'show off' type of comments, but it's just how i'm built. i got my figure (and some of my neuroses about it) from my mom, who deliberately gained a lot of weight to avoid unwanted attention about it. as a result, in her retirement she is facing a lot of health issues that limit what she is able to do. that is such a shame.....and it makes me feel so angry about these types of attitudes. </p> <p>neva, you make SUCH an important point - the main reason to be concerned with another person's body is their HEALTH. and no one should have to hide because someone somewhere thinks they don't look good enough or that they look too good. what b.s. (pardon the vulgarity!). and the idea that the correct response to someone feeling a person is too sexy-looking is for the sexy thing to get covered up is dangerous. i make it a point to challenge that idea whenever i can. if a person is having an uncomfortable reaction to another person's body, the problem is in the first person's head and may be remedied by thought and honest contemplation.</p> <p>i also have found that different ehtnicities/cultures do seem to have different beauty and sexy standards. i'm more popular with the mexican farm worker than with the caucasian manager, as a rule. but, as we know, rules are made to be broken we all have bodies, why not honor them and treat them with respect as the amazing gifts they are!!! steph </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-400153 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 10:26:53 +0000 crwilson 400153@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just had an epiphany regarding this issue. I tried on a dress to get a dear friend's opinion because I felt like it drew too much attention to my chest (I'm a busty hourglass). I wore a cami, and there was no cleavage, but it was fitted. Anyway, I asked her if it drew too much attention to that area, and she responded, "Yes, you can see that you have breasts, but I don't think there's anything wrong with your chest." It was a weird moment for me because I've been self-conscious about my chest since I was 9, and it's rarely occurred to me that "there's nothing wrong" with my chest.</p> <p>I have been on the receiving end of unkind comments - directly to me or accidentally overheard - and I definitely think people tend to judge hourglasses as trying to look "sexy" even in modest clothing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-400065 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 02:09:13 +0000 Steph 400065@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm an hourglass, and a busty one at that, but I have to say I am never worried about looking too sexy. I wear garments that accent the waist, and often wear tops that are quite fitted, but it is what it is. Women who aren't as endowed as I am in the bust wear the same tops of the same snugness, so I just refuse to worry that some people will look at me differently because I'm busty. Even when I wear a baggy top I'm clearly busty, so it's not like I can hide it (and I don't believe I should). I used to stress about my bust size and I am so much happier now that I don't. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-400055 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 01:49:47 +0000 nicoleb 400055@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>chewyspaghetti - i'm only on episode 8 or so but from what i can tell that's kind of just how all the men seem to act in this show? @_@ I have a hard time with it sometimes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-400028 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 00:52:10 +0000 chewyspaghetti 400028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nicole- later on in the show, she gets told that she looks like she is "walking around the office waiting to be raped"- despite the fact that she never shows cleavage, her upper arms, or wears a skirt shorter than the top of her knee. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-399982 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 22:06:53 +0000 nicoleb 399982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to anyone who needs it! People can be cruel and mean and you kind of just need to learn how to shrug it off. I don't think there's anything wrong with being sexy (as long as it's classy sexy not street walker obviously) This post makes me think of the show "Mad Men" cause i've been watching it recently and there's a character who is an hourglass figure, seems to so far dress conservatively but still has major sex appeal. Rock it ladies! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-399981 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 22:05:04 +0000 Vildy 399981@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a whole culture has developed where people are encouraged to comment<br /> on others' looks. The websites where people ask to be rated, the Fug Girls, who wore it better. All of this stuff once unthinkable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-399978 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 21:41:40 +0000 rae 399978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been sitting on the sidelines, reading with interest. I've never EVER heard anyone accuse a woman of liking to "show off" her body... so strange to me, especially since I grew up around some catty girls in elementary and high school. More the norm was, "you SHOULD show off your X"... even if the advice wasn't really warranted. o_0</p> <p>Maybe it is a weird Orange County thing where wearing form-fitting and revealing clothes is considered the norm?</p> <p>In any case, I'm sickened to hear that so many of you have had negative remarks about this! It's amazing what a combination of jealousy and poor upbringing can do - who raised these people to be so rude?? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-399902 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 19:41:33 +0000 Lynne 399902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Neva, you bring up a really sad point - that your actual health and well being was not the primary focus. My bff struggled with bulimea for a long time when we were studying. At her lowest time ever, she was showered with compliments, for being so slim...granted, nobody knew what she was going through, but it reminded me how focussed we can be on the ideal of body size. Its good to helicopter back and take in a broader view sometimes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-399891 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 19:25:43 +0000 neva 399891@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is going to sound very straight-forward, but there is no other way to say this....a person's fundamental body shape is determined by genetics not diet! I am naturally an hourglass by genetic design. when I was younger (puberty until mid-twenties) i was a slim hourglass body measurements being 34DD-20-30. During this time is when I felt my most self conscious. I personally felt that I did not have the curves to fill out body hugging wear. I also received the majority of my outside critiques. Everything from "needing to put on a few pounds" to "you'e built like a white girl", this being an insult due to the emphasis in African american male culture focused on ample backsides. Keep in mind also that these comments were coming from other African Americans. Present day, I am still an hourglass measurements being 38DD-30-43. Now in the African american community I have the "coveted" figure (ample backside and hips with slim waist). The few disparaging comments I have received have been sort of off hand "it must be nice to not worry about weight" or "j.lo better watch out" with these comments coming om non African Americans. Luckily for me I am petty self confident lol. But it is perplexing to me that 1) an individual finds it okay to say such things &amp; 2) not once during any of these interactions was my actual health (mental, physical or emotional) a concern. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397771 Thu, 04 Aug 2011 18:18:38 +0000 Shauntelle 397771@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not an hour-glass... I'm a pear with the typical "black girl booty" and I experience this often. I do think it can be a cultural thing... I've generally been the only or one of maybe two or three black people in an office... and even at my slimmest (around 110 lbs), if I wear a pencil skirt that other white women in my office might also wear, it will look like I'm being "sexy." Right now, I'm around 135 lbs and my bottom half feels out of control to me... which means I'm very self conscious in practically anything that doesn't have an A line...</p> <p>For me, and I hate to think of this as a ethnicity thing but it feels that way, it's not so much that women say catty things to me exactly, but that guys seem to get a certain impression... like because I'm a black woman with a luscious bottom, I'm ASKING for attention that I'm NOT asking for... ironically, it's only when I'm heavier that I get much extra attention from most black men because they tend to see my normal weight as very skinny...</p> <p>Anyway, I've gotten to the point that if I feel good in it, I refuse to pay any attention to catty or extreme comments. I say thank you with a smile and it confuses them! lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397747 Thu, 04 Aug 2011 17:51:59 +0000 Scarlet 397747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't worry about looking slutty, but I worry about drawing too much attention to my figure either at work or around family (sigh). I use Rute's solution, which she brilliantly demonstrates. I am actually trying to get over this hang-up though because I think it is self-imposed and a bit silly. I liked Anya's comment a lot. I actually didn't consciously realize I cloak my figure day-to-day until CocoLion pointed something out to me on one of my WIWs. And by the way, Denise, you look positively lovely in that outfit. I think you should enjoy your figure and not trouble yourself with catty comments. I know, easier said that done, but still. I don't worry about any of these things though when I am going out with my DH. I enjoy wearing a fitted dress to go out, no issues. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397048 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:23:21 +0000 Anonymous 397048@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For all of us with hips, here's Lucille Clifton reading her poem "Homage to My Hips":</p> <p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMChVe6IKsw" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMChVe6IKsw</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397040 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:17:44 +0000 bran888 397040@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>hehe I like that response Shakira has done wonders for my self esteem since she is also petite and has hips </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397035 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:15:30 +0000 Anonymous 397035@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Okay, bran888, sounds like you realize it's her issue, not yours--look how far hippiness has taken JLo and Kim Kardashian! </p> <p>I am from the South, so I've been known to respond to an inappropriate comment with a beaming "Bless your heart, you're so precious!" which leaves the commenter speechless, typically. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397033 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:15:21 +0000 Elly 397033@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the show of solidarity Di! </p> <p>Neva brings up a good point about whether the ethnicity of a man or woman effects their perceptions of body type and shape. I tend to attract a lot of "positive" attention from black men, hispanic men, and native american men when I am out. On the other hand, I am rarely approached or given a complement or asked for a dance by white men or asian men. I have had both make rude comments about how I am not "thin" enough for them, even when I weighed 130 pounds-- probably because at that weight I am still at least a DD and a size six pants. </p> <p>While it feels good to have men appreciate my body, I often receive negativity from other women, as though they resent me for looking "white" and attracting the men I do or having the curves I do. I find even my friends can get tense over this. For that reason, I often don't go out dressed the way they do (looking to attract attention). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397029 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:10:58 +0000 bran888 397029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>haha Alicat, she's actually a very close friend. She often tells me that I look great, but she truly didn't like the dress and me showing off my "hippiness". I feel that many women feel that way, that large hips are not a positive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397026 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:06:52 +0000 rute 397026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I felt the same way! It's difficult to dress an hourglass, I see people comment "oh.. hourglass.. how lucky" but the fit is difficult for us because everything we put on seems too sexy.<br /> One of my best dicovers here at YLF is to hide my waist.. yes, at first I tought that was crazy, I would look enormous, but the true is that dresses like the ones on the photos bellow minimizes all my curves and I feel even slimmer! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/are-other-hourglasses-sensitive/page/2#post-397024 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:05:19 +0000 Anonymous 397024@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>bran888, I am demoting your "friend" to "frenemy" status. </p>