https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:40:54 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-801504 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 02:41:56 +0000 Suz 801504@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am very late to this thread. But I wanted to say that yes, it has been deeply disturbing to me, as well. And my daughter is old enough now that there is no keeping her from the news, so we have been talking about it a bit as a family. And feeling so very sad for those families, and those teachers. </p> <p>Hugs to you. It is natural to want to hold your baby close at such a time. </p> <p>And hugs to you, too, Mani -- I have been thinking of that rape constantly, too, and feeling so bewildered about the world we live in. </p> <p>And to you, Janet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-801333 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 19:27:09 +0000 Anonymous 801333@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, the only thing I can say is that I *never* get over stuff like this. I have a series of events that I cannot let go of. I suspect this would be one of them, BUT, if you change the way you do things, and let this fear alter your everyday life, then this bastard truly wins. We cannot let him take our sense of safety away from us.</p> <p>NO WAY!</p> <p>I hope you are feeling better. This is a national tragedy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-799447 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 07:32:06 +0000 catgirl 799447@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Krista, I only have a minute but I want to thank you for your words and for the job you do. Most of my friends are teachers and I've always told my son how thankful he should be for his own teachers - given what's been happening, I can't even begin to imagine how this affected you. I can't appreciate enough what you and other educators do in this difficult world. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-799342 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 03:06:00 +0000 Krista 799342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's been an extremely stressful and sad time, Una. It's perfectly normal to want to keep your son at home with you for a bit. I hope that if the feeling hits you again that you won't hesitate! We need to be doing whatever we can to take care of ourselves and our families through this time. </p> <p>I have been relatively quiet on the forum regarding this situation. I am not a parent, but I am a high school vice-principal. While I felt shock and sadness over the weekend, I was overcome with a sense of helplessness on Monday when I was supervising the halls at lunch. In a shooter situation, how could I possibly attempt to save 1000 students at one time when student safety is supposed to be my number one priority every single day? And to know with some certainty that in a shooter situation that I couldn't necessarily save everyone? The reality is too much to bear.</p> <p>I continue to be so humbled by the stories of the brave and heroic actions of the teachers and administrators who did everything they could to save those children last Friday. I can't imagine the horror and fear they were feeling, trying to make sure the children went home to their parents that day. There are no words, really.</p> <p>So yes, keep your boy home with you, when you feel the need. Family first! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-799245 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 00:31:04 +0000 Anonymous 799245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-799203 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:30:15 +0000 Echo 799203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>After other tragedies, I found myself able to find some sort of lame "reasons" the perpetrators did what they did. Of course, it never justified the violence, but no matter how thin, it was still a "reason." However, the thing that is so awful with CT is that there simply is no "reason." None. Nothing can justify harming children, and so we cannot make even one iota of sense of it, and that forces our minds to turn it over again and again, looking for a reason that cannot be found. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-799115 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 20:53:49 +0000 Aziraphale 799115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I completely understand what you are saying. I am without the right words...horrified doesn't cover it. </p> <p>But you have to let it go. With modern technology and medical advances, we are far too prone to feel that we have control over a universe that, in truth, offers no guarantees. When horror motivates you to do something constructive, to help others, to make the world a better place, that's good. Hold onto that. But try to let go of the horror itself. You cannot stop it, and it will happen again. And it makes you die a little inside if you keep reliving it, or imagining what it would be like if it happened to your son. It did not. We are lucky. We can expect no more. </p> <p>The world is not, in fact, getting worse; it most ways, it's getting better. </p> <p>I hope this doesn't come off as cold or bossy. I'm trying to offer a suggestion that might help! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798957 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:44:13 +0000 catgirl 798957@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you, Janet - consider the emerald clutch my hug. </p> <p>Mani, I am so sorry about that. Horrible things happen every day and we can become so inured, or alternatively so overwhelmed. My family in India has developed all kinds of justifications, no doubt necessary for psychic survival, with regard to the kids playing in garbage piles across the street from their complex. I am sorry for the rest of the world having to see the United States in such an ignoble manner, although it reveals the reality that contrary to what some here think, we are often no better and far worse than many other places.</p> <p>Anyway, I have decided to turn some of my own anger into positive action via donating more $ and time to the people and causes I feel will best champion my beliefs. I do not want to be victimized and made to feel helpless to make a difference in the world, no matter how futile the pursuit of change may seem. </p> <p>Love you all and thanks for the support. I feel like I'm in the middle of a big group hug here, and sending it right back to you. Please feel free to continue to post here and I will too, as long as Angie says it's okay. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798721 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:08:15 +0000 ManidipaM 798721@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I'm half a world away with no kids of my own (yet) and in a country where the average day on the street gets you almost callous about children living in daily misery --- you know what I mean, I guess, from sharing somewhat of a cultural background with me. And I don't have TV and I don't get newspapers. What 'news' I see on the Net is obviously news I'm looking for, not passively consuming, and I've stayed the hell away from 'following' this story. </p> <p>I *still* can't let go of the misery and... anger? disappointment? (I don't know what to call it; suffice to say I agree with Shannon)</p> <p>I'm sort of glad you posted this thread, Una --- YLF is, I know, not the obvious place for this sort of musing; but I think many of us, even never having met and never believing we will, still have a certain sense of supportive community here, where we feel safe, are used to being comforted. </p> <p>Truthfully, I have been so miserable and upset today, I kept wanting to start another post. But I never did, for fear of dragging others down and because I felt some people might also think this was inappropriate here. (It's something very distant to most of you, after all, as there are far more US members than otherwise here, naturally.)</p> <p>Because something else happened to make me feel worse for children in my own city --- a gang rape of a young student in Delhi (it's pretty brutal, so those of you already feeling fragile, consider NOT googling it) --- and I keep feeling horrible and guilty about bringing a child into a place so ridiculously unsafe. I feel helpless, and I feel angry. My city, sadly, has awful statistics of crimes against women, just as the country itself has huge issues of child welfare. Why am I living in this city? Why do I want to have a child in this unsafe space --- isn't it my responsibility as a parent to get the heck out of this scary city? </p> <p>The victim in this story is NOT a child, but she's *someone's* child, a student who came here to become a paramedical professional; and now she's in critical care... She's not a child, but I still feel as though, in both scenarios, we've collectively as a community failed the innocent... Maybe that's why the two incidents are sort of twisted together so tightly in my head. I don't really know. I can't tell.</p> <p>I'm sorry if this came out awfully muddled. I know I'm NOT thinking clearly today. And I'm sorry if I have taken this too far off-topic or muddied the waters all the more, or offended anyone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798618 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 03:39:15 +0000 velvetychocolate 798618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending you an extra hug Janet ... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798605 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 03:23:22 +0000 JAileen 798605@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On Friday I had to turn off NPR and turn on some music. I was going to go to a party and knew I would see some gun nuts and was dreading what they might say. I just kept thinking of my son when he was that age - he was just a baby! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798597 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 03:19:19 +0000 Janet 798597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been avoiding news coverage and haven't even turned on the TV ever since it happened. I just feel I really cannot emotionally afford to dwell on it right now. Tomorrow is the anniversary of my father's death, so I'm already feeling a little fragile. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798590 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 03:03:27 +0000 velvetychocolate 798590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel it too....I don't have small children and am 'just' a stepmother to young adults, but at the same time - this has hit me pretty hard. Had some errands to do today...including the dreaded Costco run. </p> <p>Thing was? I drove past a local elementary school to get there, and there were little kids playing outside at recess ... and suddenly I couldn't see too well. I had to pull over and stop the car, I was crying so hard. It took me a good while to regain my composure, wipe my eyes, clean up my makeup (stupid mascara) and carry on to the store ...as if today was just any other day, when it's really not. </p> <p>I agree with Shannon, but fear that I might offend somehow, or say too much, so I won't. </p> <p>In the meantime...prayers and strength to everyone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798585 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 02:54:49 +0000 Mochi 798585@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, it's been heavy on my heart and mind and I'm indulging in more media exposure than I should be. But I have a Facebook friend one town over from Newtown (Redding, CT) and this evening I just temporarily decided to block her. About every two hours she is linking to some story and it's truly unhealthy IMO. I understand why she's doing it; I did the same thing after 9/11. But I don't need to know every horrible detail. </p> <p>That said, my feelings right now are that we failed these children. </p> <p>Whether we can ever make up for that remains to be seen. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798478 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 00:22:30 +0000 Transcona Shannon 798478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm totally with you Una. There's a huge difference between a gun for safety and survival and one that was meant for military personnel. My sister lives on a 400 acre ranch in Alberta and always has a rifle with her when she's out horseback riding. But that's because she has actually had a cougar attack her horse once and when she's checking the fences, is always on the lookout for cougars and grizzly bears. That's a whole other ball of wax.</p> <p>You sound like an amazing mother Una - keep loving your son the way you are. He feels it and it wraps around him </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798433 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 23:47:33 +0000 catgirl 798433@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Caro, those are great suggestions. Someone shared Fred on Facebook with me too but I didn't get a chance to read through before. We have not had the TV on at all (except the moment of silence during the Pats game). We've done lots of extra snuggling and playing, more for me than him, and because it was his birthday. I sent a Hershey's kiss in his lunch today and will do so from now on to remind him that we love him. That made me feel better somehow. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798398 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 23:09:09 +0000 Caro in Oz 798398@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I found this &amp; sent it to a few of my friends with young kids, it may not be relevant to your situation if your son doesn't know but I still think it is great advice for any traumatic situation. I love that you want to protect your son; big hug.</p> <p>Fred Rogers, on talking about tragic events in the news:</p> <p>In times of community or world-wide crisis, it's easy to assume that young children don't know what's going on. But one thing's for sure -- children are very sensitive to how their parents feel. They're keenly aware of the expressions on their parents' faces and the tone of their voices. Children can sense when their parents are really worried, whether they're watching the news or talking about it with others. No matter what children know about a “crisis,” it’s especially scary for children to realize that their parents are scared.</p> <p>Some Scary, Confusing Images:</p> <p>The way that news is presented on television can be quite confusing for a young child. The same video segment may be shown over and over again through the day, as if each showing was a different event. Someone who has died turns up alive and then dies again and again. Children often become very anxious since they don’t understand much about videotape replays, close ups, and camera angles. Any televised danger seems close to home to them because the tragic scenes are taking place on the TV set in their own living room. Children can't tell the difference between what's close and what's far away, what's real and what's pretend, or what's new and what's re-run.</p> <p>The younger the children are, the more likely they are to be interested in scenes of close-up faces, particularly if the people are expressing some strong feelings. When there's tragic news, the images on TV are most often much too graphic and disturbing for young children.</p> <p>“Who will take care of me?”:</p> <p>In times of crisis, children want to know, "Who will take care of me?" They're dependent on adults for their survival and security. They're naturally self-centered. They need to hear very clearly that their parents are doing all they can to take care of them and to keep them safe. They also need to hear that people in the government and other grownups they don’t eveen know are working hard to keep them safe, too.</p> <p>Helping Children Feel More Secure:</p> <p>Play is one of the important ways young children have of dealing with their concerns. Of course, playing about violent news can be scary and sometimes unsafe, so adults need to be nearby to help redirect that kind of play into nurturing themes, such as a hospital for the wounded or a pretend meal for emergency workers.</p> <p>When children are scared and anxious, they might become more dependent, clingy, and afraid to go to bed at night. Whining, aggressive behavior, or toilet "accidents" may be their way of asking for more comfort from the important adults in their lives. Little by little, as the adults around them become more confident, hopeful and secure, our children probably will, too.</p> <p>Turn Off the TV:</p> <p>When there's something tragic in the news, many parents get concerned about what and how to tell their children. It's even harder than usual if we're struggling with our own powerful feelings about what has happened. Adults are sometimes surprised that their own reactions to a televised crisis are so strong, but great loss and devastation in the news often reawaken our own earlier losses and fears – even some we think we might have "forgotten"</p> <p>It's easy to allow ourselves to get drawn into watching televised news of a crisis for hours and hours; however, exposing ourselves to so many tragedies can make us feel hopeless, insecure, and even depressed. We help our children and ourselves if we’re able to limit our own television viewing. Our children need us to spend time with them – away from the frightening images on the screen.</p> <p>Talking and Listening:</p> <p>Even if we wanted to, it would be impossible to give our children all the reasons for such things as war, terrorists, abuse, murders, major fires, hurricanes, and earthquakes. If they ask questions, our best answer may be to ask them, "What do you think happened?" If the answer is "I don't know," then the simplest reply might be something like, "I'm sad about the news, and I'm worried. But I love you, and I'm here to care for you."</p> <p>If we don't let children know it's okay to feel sad and scared, they may think something is wrong with them when they do feel that way. They certainly don't need to hear all the details of what's making us sad or scared, but if we can help them accept their own feelings as natural and normal, their feelings will be much more manageable for them.</p> <p>Angry feelings are part of being human, especially when we feel powerless. One of the most important messages we can give our children is, "It's okay to be angry, but it's not okay to hurt ourselves or others." Besides giving children the right to their anger, we can help them find constructive things to do with their feelings. This way, we'll be giving them useful tools that will serve them all their life, and help them to become the worlds' future peacemakers -- the world's future "helpers."</p> <p>Helpful Hints:</p> <p>Do your best to keep the television off, or at least limit how much your child sees of any news event.</p> <p>Try to keep yourself calm. Your presence can help your child feel more secure.</p> <p>Give your child extra comfort and physical affection, like hugs or snuggling up together with a favorite book. Physical comfort goes a long way towards providing inner security. That closeness can nourish you, too.</p> <p>Try to keep regular routines as normal as possible. Children and adults count on their familiar pattern of everyday life.</p> <p>Plan something that you and your child enjoy doing together, like taking a walk, going on a picnic, having some quiet time, or doing something silly. It can help to know there are simple things in life that can help us feel better, in good times and in bad.</p> <p>Even if children don't mention what they've seen or heard in the news, it can help to ask what they think has happened. If parents don't bring up the subject, children can be left with their misinterpretations. You may be really surprised at how much your child has heard from others.</p> <p>Focus attention on the helpers, like the police, firemen, doctors, nurses, paramedics, and volunteers. It's reassuring to know there are many caring people who are doing all they can to help others in this world.</p> <p>Let your child know if you're making a donation, going to a town meeting, writing a letter or e-mail of support, or taking some other action. It can help children to know that adults take many different active roles and that we don't give in to helplessness in times of worldwide crisis.</p> <p>------- </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798343 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 22:10:51 +0000 catgirl 798343@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shannon, I agree with you 100%. I don't know what it is about our culture - Canada has a history of guns and hunting, but not the rabid paranoid minority there is here. I liive in one of the most pro-gun states in the country and believe me, there's a difference between what you need for hunting moose or protecting yourself in the woods or at home, and a full-on AK-47. There is NO reason, legally, morally, or practically, that a civilian needs to own a paramilitary assault weapon made solely for the purpose of wiping out massive amounts of people quickly.</p> <p>I don't want to start raving on about the lobbyists, the 2nd Amendment, etc. But thanks for confirming that something needs to be done, and I suspect WOMEN are ultimately the ones who will demand it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798330 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:51:11 +0000 Transcona Shannon 798330@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is perfectly understandable for you to be feeling the way you're feeling Una. You have a child that is the age of those beautiful children and so you are relating as a parent would relate. </p> <p>It's such a tightrope we walk as parents between making sure our children are aware of the dangers in today's world while trying to protect them and keep them from being afraid. I honestly don't know how to balance that at times.</p> <p>Your comment "I want to make something constructive of the anger and sorrow somehow" has really hit on something for me. I don't want to make any sort of political statement here as even on the Off Topic thread, I'm not sure this is the place, and I certainly by no means want to offend anyone here. But it seems to me that the U.S. needs to get its handgun problem under control. I read a statistic yesterday that there are currently 300 million handguns registered in the U.S. at this time. That number doesn't even include those not registered. That's a frightening statistic. Maybe there's something you can do towards gun control that would put your anger to work? </p> <p>Again, I apologize if I am overstepped my bounds here or offended anyone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798286 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:20:59 +0000 catgirl 798286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, ladies. I actually am normally not a fearful person - quite the opposite - but that this was something that happened to CHILDREN, in a place where they should be safest - it just is unbearable. And of course, I didn't even tell my son what happened other than in the vaguest terms. This weekend was his birthday, and we put up our tree and behaved as normally as possible considering our house is a disaster. It's more just ME and my own mind spinning and raging and worrying for his future... I want to make something constructive of the anger and sorrow somehow.</p> <p>Claudia, I can't even imagine. My aunt and cousin work at the Danbury hospital, and my 5 year old nephew was locked down at school one town away.... they are all upset too, and it's so close. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798261 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:01:03 +0000 Claudia 798261@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me it has been worse every day since it happened. At lunchtime today I drove by a funeral home having calling hours for one of the little boys. It is located in the town next to Newtown, so I wasn't expecting it. So many police there that I thought it was for a member of the police force community. Our area newspaper, The Connecticut Post, has many of the obituaries in it today and it is gut wrenching to read what the families wrote and see their pictures, especially all those children.</p> <p>Newtown has only one funeral home, so this is something else the families have to deal with: finding places to accommodate such a large need. Unspeakable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798223 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 20:02:41 +0000 Raisin 798223@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una I also wanted to add, I don't think it's a bad thing that you want to keep your son home or close to you at a time like this. It's natural for mom's to be fiercely protective of our kids. It might make you feel better to have a nice day with him, away from all the bad and scary news. My mom used to call these "mental health days" when we were kids, and basically if we needed a day off from school for a mental health reason, well that was fine. For sure your son must have heard of this or will from students and be worried. It could be nice for you both to share a day off, have lunch together and just enjoy some time. I love to do that with my son once in a while too, sometimes for no reason, or if I just feel like holding him close. I do understand what Irene is saying and we can't be paranoid and let that rule our lives. But I also believe in quality shared time, because I know really too well that tomorrow is not a promise. Usually I feel like it's not a promise for me, and it's horrifying to think that it's not a promise for my kids. But you never know what life can deal us in ANY way, so I do what I can to enjoy it now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798200 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:43:50 +0000 Irene 798200@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not a mother so I don't know how it feels to be one. I think this is the type of feelings that you either have experienced or not, so I can't begin to understand how you feel as a mother. But I do know what fear feels like.</p> <p>I think one has to look at this from a bit afar. As common as shootings might be in your country, they are still quite random. And much more infrequent than, say, car accidents or a fire. </p> <p>I honestly think it is wrong to keep your child at home. First of all, for the obvious reason that he will be missing so, SO much that he can't get on his own with his parents. But then also because by telling him that it's best to be safe at home, you will be transferring your fears to him. And you don't want that for your son. </p> <p>Just to give you an example (much more innocent and harmless, mind you), I have heard all my life by my dad that balls were dangerous. You know, 'don't play football, boys can be dangerous when they have a ball, star away from the fields, your glasses will get broken, look what happened to your best friend and how her glasses broke', you get the idea. Still now I have an inherent fear to balls. It's not normal. I don't trust anyone with a spherical object in their hands. I even change street sides or take longer paths when there are kids playing in the middle of my route. I also hate sports and I'm helpless at them because I FEAR that I might get hurt. </p> <p>You don't want your kid to become paranoid just because once in a while there are shootings in one of the biggest countries in the world!! You want him to enjoy life to the fullest, be responsible yet not suffer all the time.</p> <p>So woman up and reassure him that this is something that doesn't normally happen and that most people are good human beings that do good things for other people. That this is an exception. And that you can't guarantee him that he'll be safe forever but that you'll try your best because he's the most important thing in your entire life </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798198 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:43:08 +0000 Raisin 798198@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes a bit. We watched 60 minutes on it last night and it still makes no sense to me, not that there is a good reason ever, but usually you can get a sense of why these people do this and I don't get whey this 20 yr old guy did this? I don't understand the motive yet. Anyway, I had sort of posted on another thread why this bothers me and then I erased it because I didn't want to make everyone feel worse. My DH and I talked about how much things have changed even in Canada because of things like this elsewhere. We are both police officers, and my DH does lock down drills at the high school and basically he has to play the bad guy and make sure all the kids are well hidden because othewise, "gotcha!"....it's very sick. And now I have a 5 yr old in school and I don't want him to have to go through that stuff. I have attended many ugly scenes in my time and suffice it to say that whenever it involves kids it brings up bad memories for me. I actually have the "CSI" job you see on TV, so I spend a lot of time right in the thick of this stuff and it's ugly and inhuman, and my emotions about it come out mostly when I see events like this that are unrelated. </p> <p>Anyway...I tried to keep that non-graphic, I hope I didn't offend anyone, but it has been on my mind and you kind of opened the door there for me Una...so maybe I will erase it later.</p> <p>I just cannot imagine having to plan a funeral for my 5 year old right now.....craziness... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798197 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:42:52 +0000 Gaylene 798197@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that we OUGHT to feel anger and sadness when we see pictures of those six-year-olds and think of their families. As parents, we try so hard to protect our children from harm and yet we realize our limitations because we can't be with them constantly. One of the things that my adult son said to me really struck home; his comment was that we all have a responsibility to look out for children regardless of where they live or whether or not we agree with their parents' views or actions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/anyone-else-dwelling-on-the-ct-shooting#post-798152 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:05:30 +0000 catgirl 798152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>* </p>