https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 03:29:12 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1551116 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 23:10:34 +0000 DonnaF 1551116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad you are postponing trip.&nbsp; Is Dad tech savvy enough to take pics of various rooms, drawers, and closets and then email them to you so that you can talk him through the list and brainstorm with him via phone or email? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1547827 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 01:36:09 +0000 Aziraphale 1547827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear this. Back problems are awful. The physio should help, though. Glad you were able to reschedule with your dad, too.</p> <p>It has to go uphill from here, right? Best of luck, and virtual hugs.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1547797 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 00:23:38 +0000 unfrumped 1547797@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Best with PT and other treatments. It does sound like you need the time and the flexibility (!) to follow a good back therapy program, and it's hard enough to do that with juggling work, or negotiating leave and work. I'm glad you could postpone travel and family issues because usually you have even less control over how that goes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1546570 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 12:29:09 +0000 viva 1546570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so glad you postponed your trip. Parental guilt is a terrible burden - I'm glad you got through it.</p> <p>Good luck with PT. I hope you get some relief. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1545017 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 01:55:31 +0000 Eliza 1545017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry for your back troubles; it stinks when your days are hi-jacked by pain. Hoping that you turn the corner for greater comfort quickly. </p> <p>Good decision to postpone visiting your father. Self-care needs to be where it all starts sometimes. Hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544786 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 20:14:34 +0000 Anonymous 1544786@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you're doing the right thing.&nbsp; Let us know how the PT goes.&nbsp; I have a feeling you'll soon be feeling much better.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544617 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 13:45:42 +0000 Sara L. 1544617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good news about the postponed trip.&nbsp; I hope the PT appt goes well and you have some relief soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544471 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 03:16:46 +0000 annagybe 1544471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for your advice.<br />Was able to postpone trip to see Dad till mid September. Besides the air quality over there right now is very bad due to the fires.<br />Going to call physical therapist tomorrow to set up an appointment.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544416 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 01:39:28 +0000 Style Fan 1544416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna I am so sorry.&nbsp; Long drives are not great for back pain.&nbsp; I know.&nbsp; I did this for a couple of years.&nbsp; So glad when I stopped.&nbsp; <br />Follow the other Fabbers advice.&nbsp; Take care of yourself first.&nbsp; I am looking into osteopathy myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544403 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 01:10:10 +0000 Lucy 1544403@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Anna! That is a blow.&nbsp;<br />I agree with what everyone has said, that you can't drive for five hours. As the owner of a dodgy back (caused by another surgery!) I know time in the car is almost the worst thing, and doubly bad as you won't be there long, and will be coming back again quickly, so it is two long drives in a short period.&nbsp;<br />Blame your doctor. Who could complain about doctor's orders?&nbsp;<br />*Hugs*&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544399 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 01:03:43 +0000 abc 1544399@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with everyone else that told you dad must wait. Be firm. Use the doctor excuse if it helps you be firm. And don't feel guilty. You're setting yourself up for more pain and emotional baggage if you go. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544300 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 21:02:10 +0000 catgirl 1544300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, you do an amazing amount of stuff for him and he will have to cope while you recover. Don't feel guilty! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544189 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 16:03:37 +0000 MsMary 1544189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, no! What a mess!</p> <p>I agree: Dad can wait. Repeat after me: "Sorry, Dad. My back is out and I can't travel at the moment." And don't let him guilt you!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544114 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 14:10:39 +0000 Neelie 1544114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You may want to try an Osteopath instead of Physio. &nbsp;The one I see is actually trained as a physiotherapist too, but now practices Osteopathy exclusively (but can bill as a Physiotherapist for insurance purposes), &nbsp;I have had way more success for back problems with Osteopathy. &nbsp;</p> <p>Don't recommend the long drive. &nbsp;If you must, you need to get up every hour and walk around for 15 minutes so you don't seize up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544075 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 13:27:04 +0000 kerry 1544075@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, that sucks. Backs are the worst for affecting everything you do. Is there anyone local that could help your dad out with his insurance list?</p> <p>Here's hoping for a speedy recovery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544041 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 12:05:11 +0000 Inge 1544041@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry, Anna, it really has been one thing after another for you lately, and that must feel awfully overwhelming.</p> <p>As Angie mentioned, I have been dealing with the same kind of back problems for several years now, and I know that when the pain is pretty acute, it really isn't a good idea to drive for that long. Then again, sitting in an airplane seat isn't the best idea either (I don't know how long the flight out to your Dad would be, of course). Nor is schlepping around with bags or suitcases...</p> <p>I hope PT can bring you some relief soon. I did a specialized back exercise programme at the hospital two years ago, which really helped. The thing is that you need to be vigilant about continuing doing the exercises at home (my specialist told me: "this is for the rest of your life"), but of course, sometimes you just don't get around to it. Pilates, swimming and walking are all recommended too (never overdo it while you are in an acute phase though, listen to your body!).</p> <p>Osteopathy has helped for me more than once to get the pain back under control, so that might be worth looking into.</p> <p>Strangely enough, or maybe not as strange as we would think, I've also found that when I'm stressed, my back acts up more quickly too. Unfortunately, life is full of stress and unexpected events for many of us, so it's not something you can avoid, but trying to find ways to help us deal with it and keep us sane are important. </p> <p>Feel free to PM me anytime if you want to chat, Anna! In the meantime, please take care of yourself first! Like the other ladies have said: you have to feel better first before you can help your Dad (very tough to do and accept, I know...)</p> <p>Hugs,</p> <p>Inge<br />xxx</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1544004 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 09:45:58 +0000 Summer 1544004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Put yourself first for a while, Anna. &nbsp;You can't be expected to travel with your back like that.<br />Good luck with the treatment/s. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543937 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 04:07:24 +0000 Peri 1543937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry about this. I'm not sure what compressed is, as compared to herniated (mine), but I hear you about L5-S1. Bad news.&nbsp;</p> <p>No 5 hour drive for you, missy. I'm sorry your dad is being needy...he's focused on his own woes and just wants you to come solve them...but you can't make yourself any worse and continue to function. He's going to have to wait. Yes, call out the Dr excuse.</p> <p>I hope you feel better soon. PT is a great thing, as well as acupuncture, rest and the right kind of exercise.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543926 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 03:08:35 +0000 Diana 1543926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, Dad is just going to have to wait! Just tell him the Dr said you aren't allowed to, or that it will make your back worse (which I imagine is probably true anyway). </p> <p>I hope the PT works, and works quickly! Take care of yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543917 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 02:38:27 +0000 Robin 1543917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lower backpain is truly miserable. </p> <p>You absolutely don't need to go to see your Dad (sitting on a plane and schlepping through airports would also exacerbate the problems, I'd think) unless you feel like that's the right thing for you to do.</p> <p>Keeping fingers crossed that PT helps.</p> <p>Not sure where in Seattle you are, but, if you're intrested, I know two lovely, caring, skilled and careful massage therapists.</p> <p>Your reply </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543905 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 01:36:07 +0000 Anonymous 1543905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Even when my back is ok, a long drive is enough to give.ots of pain. You need to tell Dad that it just isn't possible to one see him right now. You MUST take care of yourself. The stress is probably not helping either.<br /> There seems to comes time when one needs to let parents know that you are now an adult and care for them but have to set limits. You have a job and other responsibilities too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543858 Sun, 23 Aug 2015 00:01:53 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 1543858@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, you can't help others if you are in pain. &nbsp;You need to give yourself the time to get better and then help your dad. &nbsp;I hope you get through this quickly and are back on track soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543821 Sat, 22 Aug 2015 22:13:23 +0000 Anonymous 1543821@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's awful. I don't think the long drive is a good idea either. I empathize with this problem because I had a few months of neck pain that painkillers didn't work on either and it was totally demoralizing. The physical therapy did help though, and I'm thinking it will for you too.</p> <p>Maybe the flight is the way to go? Could he contribute to the cost? Even if you stay only a short while maybe it's worth it just to put the topic to rest when you're already stressed? I'm sensing you're alternating between feeling compelled by, and a little trapped by, the responsibility of caring for your dad.</p> <p>You're a nice person Anna.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543818 Sat, 22 Aug 2015 22:06:36 +0000 Angie 1543818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Urrrgggh. Sorry about your back. That's really rotten luck, and very annoying. If PT does not work, osteopathy and acupuncture might do wonders. Really. Speak to Inge about that. She has been battling what you're battling for years.&nbsp;</p> <p>It's frustrating about Dad. (((HUGS))). You can't help Dad out when you're ill. Rest up and feel better soon. Dad can wait a while. Much love to you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543804 Sat, 22 Aug 2015 21:42:45 +0000 Anonymous 1543804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dad will have to wait.&nbsp; Your health comes first.&nbsp; I was having the same problems and the physical therapy helped immensely, so I hope it will do the same for you.&nbsp; Back problems are just the worst! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543790 Sat, 22 Aug 2015 21:05:25 +0000 columbine(erin) 1543790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, Anna, I hope your back gets to feeling better soon. I'd hate for the long drive to exasperate the problem.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543771 Sat, 22 Aug 2015 20:34:09 +0000 rachylou 1543771@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Man. If a person doesn't have problems, they're probably dead. That's a bugger. My mother gets like that... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/another-setback#post-1543769 Sat, 22 Aug 2015 20:17:45 +0000 annagybe 1543769@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some of you may have seen in my latest WIW, my back spasmed up. It's in the same area, lower back where my compressed discs are (L4-L5, L5-S1). My doctor doesn't think it's another compressed disc based on my symptoms. I lost a week of work, and due to being out of sick time, I'm now using precious vacation time. I've been given two kinds of painkillers and a muscle relaxant. The whole shebang makes me very tired and still doesn't quite kill all the pain. I will be doing physical therapy, so that should help.<br />I'm supposed to go home next weekend to see Dad. But I'm not sure if I can handle the long drive (5 hours). Flights are really expensive. I told this to Dad, and he seemed to be pressuring me to visit. His house was broken into in the spring and he wants my help to compile the final list of what's missing. But some of the stuff he's convinced is missing, I think he just can't find or remember where he put it. I more than a bit annoyed about him pressuring me to visit, he's bailed on visiting me on more than one occasion (including two Thanksgivings) due to various issues. <br />I was hoping now that summer is winding down I could get back on track with getting my life under control. But now I'm back at minus square now.</p>