https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:53:31 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived/page/2#post-595506 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 21:41:07 +0000 biscuitsmom 595506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm...never going to get away from 'fat' and 'middle aged' Im 51. But I would love to have people think 'well-groomed' 'stylish'-not trendy (nothing wrong with that, its just 'not me') 'fun' and 'quietly friendly'- I smile a lot, but am not very talkative.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived/page/2#post-594716 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 21:23:17 +0000 texstyle 594716@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fresh, confident, happy, a little stylish, and ready to do whatever is at hand. That last one is actually the bigger challenge for me because living in the country means you never know what's coming - you might be at a business meeting one minute and wind up going over to meet their new horse or something the next. In the city I felt that I knew what to expect. Then again you're not exactly being judged for your fashion out here unless you are wearing heels and then people may definitely smirk. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived/page/2#post-593602 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 19:20:47 +0000 harmonica 593602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>...and fun and surprising. I guess the hardest one is the combo sophisticated + laidback. I'm not sure I'm spot on with that </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived/page/2#post-593251 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:28:10 +0000 harmonica 593251@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>this was harder than i thought, but my first thoughts were sophisticated and laidback. then intelligent, smart, smaller tummy and taller </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-592572 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 17:29:13 +0000 jayne 592572@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, reading some answers made me think more about the why on mine</p> <p>Not fat is pretty clear for everyone</p> <p>But the fun one is because no matter how I dress, it doesn't take long for me to be understood as competent in my job. But I don't have to meet and convince new people, like a lawyer does, often. And so I would rather be a bit fun in my clothes so my competence doesn't put people off. </p> <p>Another thought comes now...when I was young I had a cute sweet face which made me avoid wearing pink....didn't want to be sweet and girly. But now that I am older, pink is one of my favorites! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-592548 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:56:24 +0000 Meredith1953 592548@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmmm. "Vibrant, playful, youthful, friendly, confident." I could tack on more I guess! What a hard exercise! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-592436 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 14:59:20 +0000 Emily 592436@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jayne, that was my first thought too: "Not Fat!" haha. </p> <p>But I think my goals are the same as MaryKs: Smart, Youthful, Competent, Succesful. Emphasis on Smart as in stylish and current, because I think that is where I miss most often. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-592352 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 13:44:27 +0000 Transcona Shannon 592352@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is so interesting and harder than I thought. </p> <p>Suz - we are definitely on the same pathway with our style journey (each with individual tweaks of course).</p> <p>How do I want to be perceived?<br /> - Interesting<br /> - Stylish<br /> - Unique<br /> - Approachable<br /> - Competent<br /> - Fun </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-592349 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 13:36:47 +0000 Traci 592349@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't had the chance to read the other lists, but I think mine is something like<br /> Approachable<br /> Interesting<br /> Competent<br /> Attractive/ visually pleasing<br /> Easy going </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-592344 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 13:32:54 +0000 Anonymous 592344@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>youthful<br /> energetic<br /> professional<br /> smart<br /> slim (as in not larger than I really am)<br /> taller </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591970 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 00:11:08 +0000 Jewell 591970@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was so planning to steal this assignment and post it to the discussion board, too! I gave it some thought and when I walk into a room I want to be perceived as...<br /> confident, polished (both in the elegant sense and the savvy sense), and classy. And I never want to be perceived as someone who is trying too hard. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591916 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 23:28:29 +0000 krishnidoux 591916@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nowadays, in most situations:<br /> Approachable<br /> Nurturing<br /> Reliable<br /> Competent<br /> Fun<br /> Calm</p> <p>(I don't know that I'm all these things, but I'd like people to believe I am!)</p> <p>Funny how a decade earlier, in my thirties, it was the opposite. I desperately strived to look older, serious, sexy, dynamic.</p> <p>About a year ago I realized how in most of my wardrobe choices, these satellite ideals were eclipsed by one elephantine, Jupiter size concern: Not To Look Fat.</p> <p>Now what is strange (and sad, when I think of it) is that I happen to be by nature a rather thin person - waifish even in my bad days, and who could sometimes benefit from a bit of bulk!</p> <p>"Clothes should first and foremost serve to make you look thinner than you are!" Unfortunately that false precept had been carved into my brain from a tender age, now part of the background. It was due to culture, but also because my beautiful mother had always been chubby naturally and spent her time fighting it. In my case the idea was not so much to look for thinning clothes than to avoid "fattening" ones, a true faux-pas that would inevitably ensure you to be drowned in ridicule for the years to come as soon as you'd step outside. </p> <p>I never really knew what such a fattening outfit would really look like. I vaguely imagined maxi-on-maxi; elastic waist; ruffle over ruffle; a skirt or pants with undefined, free pleats; big bold prints from head to toe. Oversized flat round-toe shoes. </p> <p>In other words, a clown's outfit. </p> <p>I had never given it much thought as I dreaded it so much. So I tried to focus on what could slim you in a garment instead. Long, vertical lines. Crisp material, smart classic cuts. Some heel. Not too many pleats, not too many prints, and, why not, not too many colours either. (Not too much fun either). Darker, classic colours such as: Navy, Forest Green, Plum, Black, Grey. Tucking your tops (I'm a long torso), matching, but not matching your top to your shoes as it gives the eye illusion you are shorter (therefore automatically fatter). Slightly roomier clothes sometimes gave the impression one was smaller inside them. So clothes that were too fitted were risky if not banned. Nude shoes, monochrome outfits, and the list goes on. </p> <p>When I finally became conscious of this, it was a big turning point in my style journey. I have to admit that some bulkier, Maxi outfits make me feel out of my comfort zone, still. But realizing this has made me wear and love new combinations that I would have never thought of otherwise. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591903 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 23:22:26 +0000 Anonymous 591903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo, that is stunningly brilliant! I see which side of the line I'm on, lol! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591856 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 22:54:38 +0000 Mo 591856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I scratched this idea down on a piece of paper some months back. Looking for that continuum that I fit in. </p> <p>You might notice I'm decidedly low tech when it comes to figuring out my fashion dilemma's and lists </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591841 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 22:23:53 +0000 Anonymous 591841@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmmm. I'm coming back to this thread now that I'm awake. It might be easier to analyze what people have *already* said about me or how they react to me now.</p> <p>From new friends I always get, "I thought you were so perfect and serious before I got to know you. I had no idea how funny you were. You're not intimidating at all!"<br /> This has always left me scratching my head. I do have a serious side, but perfect? Intimidating? Puh-lease!</p> <p>People trust me right away. I can talk to a stranger for ten minutes and often they have the urge to tell me their deepest darkest secrets. I have no idea where this comes from. How do they know I'm not going to blab their business all over town? (I don't, of course!) Maybe something in the way I dress says I'm trustworthy? </p> <p>I was at Salvation Army the other day (I'm not a regular there) and I asked to be let in the dressing room, which was locked. The checker couldn't leave her post, and started looking around to see if there was someone else to help me. There wasn't so she spontaneously took off her lanyard, with ALL of the store keys on it and said, "Here, just take these and bring them back when you're through." (!) I guess I don't look like a robber. </p> <p>My kids' friends are usually afraid of me at first, but after they spend some time around me and see what a goofball I am, they always say, "Your mom is so cool!" Too bad *my* kids don't agree, lol! I'm okay with inspiring a little fear with this set. As MK said, I am not to be messed with!</p> <p>So all in all, things could be worse. They could be better too. All of the men could swoon and all of the women could turn green with envy when I walked in a room, but is that *really* what I want? Not really. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591692 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 17:58:54 +0000 Aziraphale 591692@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christieann, we're opposites! Here I am trying to look more serious, and you're going for more approachable. I think it's because I've spent my life trying to get people to take me seriously. I'm very tiny and I laugh all the time, so it's been an uphill battle trying to appear mature and responsible. I'm quite enjoying the fact that I no longer look fourteen. I mean, I'm not rejoicing in the knowledge that the facial lines are only going to get worse, but at least they call me "Ma'am" at the grocery store now. How I look is coming more in line with how I feel. I'm still pretty silly, and I may have the sense of humour of a twelve year old boy, but I am also responsible and capable, and I want that to show! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591671 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 17:40:48 +0000 christieanne 591671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is really hard! </p> <p>I am going to shamelessly borrow a few that have been posted by others that resonate with me. I am totally open to better descriptors. </p> <p>Approachable. I have gotten feedback over the years that I am a serious person (don't smile enough, etc.) and I suppose I have that element of efficiency and the work ethic that gives the unapproachable vibe.I don't smile when I am thinking and "going through my checklist in my head". Men seem to be told this less than women which truly bothers me. In any case, Approachable means wearing brighter color, a conversation starting accessory, something on trend, nothing uptight. </p> <p>Relaxed (thanks Helen). I don't want to wear anything or give off a vibe that what I am wearing is a costume or part of an act. This could tie to my first adjective as well. </p> <p>Modern. In the sense that I want to show that I can combine classic styles and neutrals with fun and sometimes boho elements to create a cohesive point of view. I may be overreaching and will just have to live with having a split personality of preppy/boho! I just think Modern means pulling together the best of what I have available. The anti-frumpy as well. </p> <p>Hmmm. This is hard and I can't wait to see what others are thinking! Thank you Angela and Jayne and Claire for the homework </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591637 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 17:20:08 +0000 HelenInCanada 591637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm...this one gets my brain overjuiced. I echo the "What room? What people?" questions and can picture countless scenarios! :D</p> <p>I'll narrow them down to one. I'd like to be seen as intelligent, relaxed, and well-travelled. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591600 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 16:50:27 +0000 Suz 591600@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did this exercise for myself about six months ago and said I wanted to be perceived as an "artistic professional." Which, as a professional writer, is basically what I am. The thing is, this could mean so many different things to different people. I need to dig deeper to get at what I'm really after. </p> <p>So... deep breath. I think I would like my clothes and overall self-presentation to send the message that I am smart, energetic, sophisticated, and a little bit playful.</p> <p>Am I there yet? Not sure, but this was helpful, similar to Angie's 3 to 5 adjectives exercise, and Shannon's "style rubric." My own style rubric might be identical to hers (structure, retro, urban, classic...those aren't her exact words, I suspect, I am missing something else for the "C"...). Anyway...the urban and the retro take care of the "playful" part. Not sure quite how to work out the rest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591583 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 16:28:06 +0000 Amy 591583@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I walk into a room at work, I want to be perceived as intelligent, competent and classy. One of the problems of working in a support role in an office is people tend to underestimate you.I want the more interesting assignments, not the important but (to me) dull administrative tasks. I want to analyze, not just organize. Dressing a certain way has helped me achieve this time and time again. (Of course, my work product, not my clothes, is what keeps people coming back with those interesting projects.)</p> <p>The secondary impressions I'd like to make are friendly, humorous, imaginative--but grounded. I do want to be liked, but I don't want to be a magnet for office gossip. Friendly...but professional.</p> <p>My style for days off is a lot different and less well thought out. It's basically whatever will work for a MOTG. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591563 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 15:57:15 +0000 Aziraphale 591563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, fun! Let's see...when I walk in a room, I would like people's first thoughts to be that I look collected and self-assured. There's no one way to dress to achieve this end, though, I think. But style certainly helps. </p> <p>As it happens, I am friendly and fun, but people don't need to know that right away. I don't dress in an attempt to look approachable. I would prefer to look a little more serious than I actually am. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591549 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 15:45:29 +0000 MsMary 591549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I want to look:</p> <p>Smart -- as in "stylish" and also as in "brainy"</p> <p>Youthful</p> <p>Fun/approachable</p> <p> but</p> <p>Not to be messed with</p> <p> and also</p> <p>Successful</p> <p>Basically, I want to look like the Queen Bee! LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591541 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 15:34:12 +0000 Elly 591541@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm . . . . </p> <p>I think this is more of a psych exercise for me today. </p> <p>The first few things that popped up were more cerebral than easily executed:</p> <p>competent- even when I'm just at the grocery store, representing myself well, someone you'd want to hire, not someone you should/could play around with</p> <p>creative- good problem solver, has a style point of view, is artistic</p> <p>aware/in the know- inspired by the local landscape and cultures, practical, respectful of the "ultimate" clientele </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591535 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 15:22:27 +0000 Anonymous 591535@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol @ lamireille! I frequent those types of places too so I know what you mean! I have to remember my *real* life and not my *fantasy* life. Too funny about the high-collared faux fur capelet! </p> <p>Jayne, I shamelessly told Angela i wanted to do her homework too. I have a hard time with this first assignment. What room? What people? I always imagine a large meeting room in an office building or a conference for some reason, and these do not exist in my life! Dr. Freud (borrowing from lamireile) why is this? And yes, I sometimes have that dream about showing up naked. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591442 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 13:18:08 +0000 Anonymous 591442@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not offended at all!! It's a great exercise to really streamline your closet and shopping </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591426 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 13:03:09 +0000 Kirti 591426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, for in one of the things I always want to be perceived as is 'colourful' which is my reaction to all the neutral colours I see in France! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591373 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 08:47:58 +0000 harmonica 591373@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Super thread! I'll have to do some some homework before posting </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591369 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 08:33:29 +0000 jayne 591369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>good stuff! good to see I am not the only one with a 'not' in my first impression! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591356 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:39:41 +0000 ManidipaM 591356@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>'Outside the box' is what I thought of first! </p> <p>Followed by 'not chubby or stumpy or frumpy'. </p> <p>Finally, 'ageless' --- as in I don't want people to so much as think of my age, never mind whether I'm 'too young' or 'too old' for whatever. </p> <p>(Everything but the second is going to be tough to define/interpret in stylistic terms, I'm guessing.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/angela-homework-theftdescribe-how-i-want-to-be-perceived#post-591355 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:33:28 +0000 Kiwichik 591355@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry hit the submit button too soon.<br /> .... go by. </p>