https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 20:41:06 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/4#post-1256204 Tue, 20 May 2014 04:10:01 +0000 JulieJohn 1256204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn* - Aw crap. I was hoping it wasn't this when I saw your recent posts alluding to something. I just did a listing of your posts to check on you, and saw this. I'm so sorry, and I want you to know I care, even though we don't know each other well.</p> <p>Anna and Beth are so right - you are fab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/4#post-1254840 Sun, 18 May 2014 14:14:32 +0000 BethL 1254840@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Lyn. You've gotten so much support and wisdom here; I hope you can take a little bit of consolation from that. I just want to add my own to the mix: You ARE fab. Don't let your breakup color that.</p> <p>Rachy, I'm sorry to hear your news, too. Same goes for you, as well. Hang in there. </p> <p>Sending virtual hugs to both of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1253878 Sat, 17 May 2014 05:37:20 +0000 jackiec 1253878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear this. Big virtual hugs. You will get through this. You ARE a wonderful person through and through. You did not do anything wrong. You are fab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1253716 Sat, 17 May 2014 01:52:36 +0000 Krista 1253716@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to hear this, lyn! I was enjoying your updates and adventures.</p> <p>Onward and through, as you have said, knowing that one day the right man and the right situation will present itself and you will say to yourself "So this is why it didn't work out with the boy...."</p> <p>Take care! :)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1253159 Fri, 16 May 2014 12:53:28 +0000 bella 1253159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear this. Hugs and keep looking fabulous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1253133 Fri, 16 May 2014 11:52:05 +0000 ManidipaM 1253133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn, I had been muttering 'please not that!' the last few days. But you will survive and you will be happy again. In the meantime, around of whatever's your poison and another of rachy's. And big drunken hugs all round too. After which we can go find the baseball bats to mob up, yes?</p> <p>Seriously, though, don't forget the good times when the rawness of this loss is laid to rest. Remember that feeling and know that you will have that and MORE when the right person crosses your path finally. Till then, game face on! And twirl!</p> <p>Much love, Lyn! (Rachy, too, strong as you are) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1252490 Thu, 15 May 2014 17:26:11 +0000 JenA 1252490@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn, <br />I'm so sorry that you are going this.&nbsp;I know you have heard it said&nbsp;many times, but&nbsp;it really is him not you and&nbsp;you will get through it. &nbsp;With every relationship you learn about what you want, your&nbsp;needs and how to give of yourself&nbsp;in a healthy positive way. If you must analyze this break up&nbsp;then do so from that perspective.&nbsp;It breaks my heart to hear you say, "what is wrong with me" because the answer is NOTHING.&nbsp;</p> <p>Looking FAB and getting out there is the best "revenge" I know of. You look beautiful and your recent WIW's show an incredibly, elegant woman who is clearly coming into her own.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Stand tall and be proud of the strong woman that you are.<br />Big Hug,<br />Jen</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1252378 Thu, 15 May 2014 13:41:06 +0000 Sarah A 1252378@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry Lyn* .... Looking fab is a great way to move onward. (Commiserations for Rachy too) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1252289 Thu, 15 May 2014 11:56:05 +0000 Joyce B 1252289@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am back to say that I agree with Goldenpig, I was also worried about the possibility of your being waiting for biopsy results, I was relieved that this was not health related.<br /> Good things will come your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1252277 Thu, 15 May 2014 11:13:34 +0000 goldenpig 1252277@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry Lyn (and Rachy)! Breakups are so hard. The boy is an fool to give you up. Someone else (next time, hopefully a Man and your true Mr. Right!) will be thanking their lucky stars that you're available! It's so not your fault, don't get down on yourself for a nanosecond! Anyone who would break up with someone for their schedule, especially someone so smart and hardworking (and super stylish to boot!), is a total idiot and doesn't deserve you.</p> <p>(I sheepishly have to admit I am relieved that the news was *only* about the boy...when you mentioned a few days ago you were waiting for some bad news I was scared you had some sort of medical condition! I guess I'm just a worrywart--it must be the field I'm in. I'm glad you're healthy!) </p> <p>Lots of hugs Lyn! Rock on--onward and upward!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1252108 Thu, 15 May 2014 02:56:27 +0000 Anonymous 1252108@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh. So sorry to hear that. I'm with those who say it's definitely his loss, though! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251948 Thu, 15 May 2014 00:43:25 +0000 cciele 1251948@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs to you Lyn. Glad to hear that the company you are keeping is boosting your spirits a bit.</p> <p>And rachylou, sorry to hear that too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251932 Thu, 15 May 2014 00:31:53 +0000 Anonymous 1251932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear this, take care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251903 Thu, 15 May 2014 00:05:38 +0000 lyn* 1251903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks ladies for all your collective wisdom and love - I am feeling a lot better today; I am keeping busy at work and enjoying the company of those I work with. I think I understand some of my patients' pain more too - I hadn't been in a relationship for a long time so I was starting to be out of touch with that aspect of things.</p> <p>Moving onwards ... and through </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251884 Wed, 14 May 2014 23:48:29 +0000 annagybe 1251884@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also can I say people can really can be really intolerant of working in healthcare. I have nowhere near the hours of a resident but people say I work too much because of call.<br /> Your are fabulous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251875 Wed, 14 May 2014 23:35:37 +0000 Carla 1251875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251850 Wed, 14 May 2014 22:56:18 +0000 Classically Casual 1251850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry. I hope you can arrange things so that your paths don't cross at work. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251849 Wed, 14 May 2014 22:55:53 +0000 Helena 1251849@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I will say "poor&nbsp;you" but really I am thinking "poor him" because from even the little I know of you from the forum, you are clearly smart and super-cute and a total keeper and therefore his loss So sucky how it happened though, and sorry that you have to go through it&nbsp;... take good care </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251807 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:54:01 +0000 Louise 1251807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((Hugs))) there's no way round the fact it hurts. I'm 6 months into my breakup and it still hurts, though of varying degrees day to day. MaryK gave me a pearl of wisdom "the only way out is through" and I cling to this saying when I'm having a sad day. A word of advice James Blunt and old photos will not help, not ever!! Stay strong and spend time with friends and family to help shore you up x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251791 Wed, 14 May 2014 21:29:18 +0000 Angie 1251791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OH NO. I'm sorry, Lyn. Soooooo hard. (((HUGS)))). xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251744 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:29:56 +0000 DonnaF 1251744@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh!&nbsp; So hard when you're blindsided.&nbsp; It is his loss.&nbsp; But maybe this was just the warm up act, and the Real Deal/Mr. or Dr. Right is just around the corner?&nbsp; Hope so.&nbsp; Be good to yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251742 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:26:16 +0000 Astrid 1251742@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sending a hug too, Lyn! I'm sorry, I had hoped I was wrong reading your hints. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251738 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:20:16 +0000 Glory 1251738@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>((Lyn)). Yes you do look fab and you are so fab. Sending a hug! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251732 Wed, 14 May 2014 20:12:50 +0000 Thistle 1251732@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so, so sorry *Lyn!!&nbsp; </p> <p>And remmeber, it's not you, its him.&nbsp; Stupid boy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251715 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:48:54 +0000 Eliza 1251715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry, Lyn. It's tough when a disappointment is raw. You are wise, kind and fab. My mother would say "this will pass". It aggravated me in the moment, though she was right over time. All good thoughts your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251675 Wed, 14 May 2014 19:13:46 +0000 Hil 1251675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That just sucks! So sorry Lyn </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251612 Wed, 14 May 2014 18:05:41 +0000 minimalist 1251612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn*, I'm so sorry you got blindsided. </p> <p>But yes, the right MAN will love and admire everything that's important to you. </p> <p>In the meantime, so glad you have fab FFBOs! And the wise and witty rachy to commiserate with. And support from those of us who've lived through relationship pain and loss then found so much better matches for who we really are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251611 Wed, 14 May 2014 18:04:51 +0000 Nebraskim 1251611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry about this Lyn*. Nothing makes you feel sadder than being blind-sided and ambushed. My friends and I have long thought, however, that there is a worse situation that being without a good man, and that's being with the WRONG man. This man was wrong for you. Better to find that out now, than even further down the road when the stakes are higher and the damage more severe. Mr. (Dr.?) Right is out there and he'll be thrilled when you find each other. FWIW, I didn't find Mr. Right until I was 42. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251598 Wed, 14 May 2014 17:48:44 +0000 Gracie 1251598@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn*, I'm so, so sorry you're hurt, I feel for you. Time will heal you and open you up to better possibilities... meanwhile, yes, keep looking fab. Hugs to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/and-completely-out-of-left-field/page/3#post-1251588 Wed, 14 May 2014 17:27:06 +0000 milehighstyle (Linda) 1251588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Lyn and Rachy - I'm so sorry.&nbsp; Be good to yourselves and know that something better is on the way.&nbsp; It may take a while, but you will be ok.&nbsp; </p>