https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 07:30:23 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1630042 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 08:04:12 +0000 rachylou 1630042@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure I'm personally down with tension, in the sense of incorporating two styles in one outfit. Playing them off each other. When I digress, I think I'd rather digress completely.</p> <p>Funny... Tho this is not about actual vacations, I do find that my home style just doesn't exist in some places. My light hearted dark and spooky can really only be, for example, Daphne Du Maurier (sp?) in the tropics... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1630029 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 04:28:10 +0000 catgirl 1630029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shevia, you are right on! I was not talking about my style while on vacation, but about whether these forays into realms outside my usual zone can be considered metaphorical vacations from my base or "home style". I'm not articulating it well but I think I need to ponder it more too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1630009 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 03:51:53 +0000 Jaime 1630009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am intrigued. Not quite awake but I am thinking of vacation as a more metaphorical way to incorporate your quirky pieces as part of your style persona. As in we do things on vacation that we don't do in our everyday life but our choice of vacations still express a part of our core personalities - what we choose to do, where we go, whom we decide to visit and how often. Perhaps I am pushing the style home analogy too far? Getting more coffee... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1630002 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 03:36:43 +0000 unfrumped 1630002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love these thoughts! </p> <p>Potential Clutch Hoarder here. And pashmina and wrap hoarder. </p> <p>Not that I can't use a few, but I'm drawn to them when I find them in different colors or materials and think, I should get that in case I need to wear it for some future occasion and yet am not using them much after all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629924 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 01:00:11 +0000 Brooklyn 1629924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Karie said. I think adding something unexpected or unusual to your style is fun. I get angst if it doesn't work out (guilt about wasted money and excessive clutter) so I try to limit both the number of style experiments I make and the amount I spend on them. But I do think it is a necessary process if you like variety and want your style to evolve. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629907 Wed, 16 Mar 2016 00:33:07 +0000 Karie 1629907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I enjoy a bit of tension/spiciness in a wardrobe and I love juxtaposition in outfits. Throwing a surprise element into an outfit - something a bit funky or trendy or unexpected, in my mind, makes the outfit fun. And whatever our basic style personas may be, it's also fun to take a vacation from that and experiment a little bit. I think that's how you keep your style fresh and alive and open to all possibilities.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629884 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 23:54:11 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1629884@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fwiw those silver jeans didn't work for me, either -- same assessment as yours. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629849 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 22:55:42 +0000 Suz 1629849@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also: consider the light.&nbsp;</p> <p>While my core style doesn't change a whole lot between seasons, I tend to like brighter colours and more florals and even more feminine cuts in summer at times. This is partly to do with what is wearable but also partly due to the quality of light.&nbsp;</p> <p>On your vacations, you may be responding to that. It may be almost a visceral bodily response, and may also be taking you back to familiar brights... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629848 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 22:54:23 +0000 catgirl 1629848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aida, you are right and I think I will do just what you suggest.</p> <p>Shannon, I'm not talking about style while on vacation but about Angie's concept of "coming home" in her style, and items I own that might be considerered as "going on vacation" from my usual closet home base.&nbsp; I'm&nbsp;as confusing as&nbsp;ever!&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629846 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 22:50:35 +0000 Aida 1629846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, my dear, you are an eclectic dresser though these days you seem to be catering less to some of those side personas. I think it's perfectly fine to have some of those satellite arms to play around with. You've got a <i>great</i> handle on your primary style already! And even though you say you don't want to go trendy you do seem to enjoy playing with at least a few each season. So you need to leave some room open to play there, as well. I'd say use your side personas as a way to experiment and push you out of your primary persona. Not to the point where you feel that your wardrobe is chaotic, but enough to keep you feeling fresh.</p> <p>Great idea to separate out a few of your capsules that have a lot of specialty items (e.g. film stuff, hot vacations, etc.). Do that, then look at what's left and see if any remaining oddball wardrobe pieces don't have a style persona home. And then assess whether or not that's OK. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629843 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 22:43:35 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1629843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm.,.tension and vacation style...gotta think on this before I can reply intelligently... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629827 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 22:09:42 +0000 Beth Ann 1629827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Lisap refers to as tension (or spiciness), I experience as a healthy juxtaposition. &nbsp;It's the element of style that adds a bit of creative unpredictability -- and openness to the other and the different. &nbsp;For myself, I wish I had more of this in my dressing, since it is a huge part of my personality, even if it often throws people for a loop. &nbsp;The danger, in wardrobe building, is not having the element of surprise at all, or, conversely, creating a scattershot wardrobe with no focus, but populated with odd curiosities. &nbsp;You'd think I'd fall on one side or the other of that divide. &nbsp;No, I fall into the "safe and cheap" trap -- as ubiquitous as a midwestern pothole in March!</p> <p>I love both bags --- the black one is quite luxe and practical, and the clutch is a bit of fun -- a sign that you don't take yourself or fashion too seriously. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629782 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 20:24:56 +0000 Anonymous 1629782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Having tension in your look - hmmm. Could be a good thing, or not, depending on how you handle tension. &nbsp;This is a bit of an aha moment for me , as it could explain why certain things that I buy don't really fit in and never get worn. I think I'm going to add some spice to the mix, but the truth is, I don't like tension. Anywhere, anyplace and with anyone or anything. It makes me agitated and irritated and full of the need to escape. &nbsp;If you react to tension or spiciness in a different way, (i.e. positively) that could work very well in a wardrobe. Huh. I can't seem to get anything done at work today but i'm full of my own ridiculous profound thoughts.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629766 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 19:41:42 +0000 Carla 1629766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh!&nbsp; Of course you have to have special capsules or take wardrobe vacations to try alter egos.&nbsp; However, not everything has to be a workhorse, and your specilaty items don't have to do double duty - it's just a bonus if they do!</p> <p>Some&nbsp;folks on the forum are working on: dance capsules, performance capsules, fantasy/costume capsules, vintage capsules, and they are every bit as important as sports/gear capsules, work capsules, off duty capsules.&nbsp; </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629758 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 19:11:43 +0000 Sal 1629758@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course while we talk here about style persona and consistency we can do whatever suits us. I think having style holiday looks or mini capsules is a fun way to mix it up.</p> <p>I have four looks if I pare it down:</p> </p> <ul> <li>Modern classic- trying to be elegant- 50 percent</li> <li>Active sporty- mostly dressy gear - 25 percent</li> <li>Flattering dress/bombshell - &nbsp;mostly evening (not only) -&nbsp;15 percent, <p></li> <li>Summer Boho - holidays, BBQ, hot days - 10 percent</li> </ul> </p> <p>There is some crossover with the looks- my bombshell is not extreme nor is the boho, they are on the lite side. But I love them both. And on a day like yesterday gear is a practical and stylish option. </p> <p>Una- like you I have not been enamored much with mainstream mall shops- lots of average pieces. Maybe these quirky accessories are your point of difference? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629754 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 18:57:48 +0000 Barbara Diane 1629754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not sure if what I wrote helps, but it was a good reminder for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629753 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 18:56:15 +0000 Barbara Diane 1629753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me, I love to buy beautiful beads, and somehow actually turning them into jewelry is not a priority. The joy is in the excitement of seeing something beautiful and new, and in the imagining of what I can create with them. The actual making of the item is usually less exciting, and if the piece will not fill a hole there is no urgency for me to make it. At some point I realized that I need to go to less bead shows as a way to limit my purchases, and I also realized that I don't have to own everything I crave that is within my budget.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629752 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 18:53:59 +0000 AviaMariah 1629752@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There's a lot of food for thought in your post but I just wanted to comment that I love "tension" in looks and the tension between your wardrobe style and your "fun" clutches are really fun. &nbsp;Just enough to keep people wondering. &nbsp;:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629748 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 18:34:22 +0000 rachylou 1629748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to spend a lot of time thinking about this. I agree about 'vacation styles.' I like taking a break from my home style, esp. in Spring and to experiment, try on other modes. I also don't know if my home style is always a positive thing for me...it's a little depressive, a little Rebel Without A Cause (Jimmy Dean is also looking to be a philosophical theme for me this week). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629746 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 18:28:04 +0000 Gaylene 1629746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the idea of small, quirky capsules to add spice to a wardrobe. </p> <p>Maybe that 80/20 concept--eat "right" 80% of the time, indulge 20% without guilt--makes sense for wardrobe building, as well? And, to continue the analogy, just because an indulgence can also fit into the "eat right" category (like choosing pricey halibut instead of a less expensive fish), it's fine if things work out that way, but not a requirement. Indulgences are just fine as they are--occasional treats that put the fun into the serious business of life! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629733 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 17:55:18 +0000 catgirl 1629733@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa, I've related to just about everything you've posted recently -&nbsp;attention span of gnat, wearing same uniform daily,&nbsp;all of it.&nbsp; </p> <p>I&nbsp;think you're onto something.&nbsp; I have a small capsule of stuff I take on warm vacations (I'm always wearing the same things in vacation pics!), and a small capsule for film "events" with my sister (the Admit One clutch fits in there).&nbsp; Maybe I need consider my quirky purchases a capsule of their own.&nbsp; Or should they integrate into my regular style for a little contrast and tension?</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629720 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 17:10:22 +0000 Anonymous 1629720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>&nbsp;I think you have something with "style vacation spots". &nbsp;And keep those things in that category .....using criteria you would have for other vacation related things (i.e. you don't need too much of it - and how much of it can one really wear over the course of a year ?) &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;</p> <p>I also think you've answered your own question. No, there is no point to hoarding cute clutches and leather jackets and other fun things like that. You don't need to have everything you see just because it fits into a category you happen to like. &nbsp; &nbsp; My personal problem is with jewellery. Really. I need to stop and enjoy rather than keep on with some breathless quest. &nbsp;</p> <p>Always - am I missing the point ? And sorry if &nbsp;I am - I may get carried away by my own thoughts here. &nbsp;Back to the style vacation concept - it's a good way to put those purchases and secret likes into a category you can work with and keep in perspective. &nbsp;I think I may just use it myself. &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-order-that-worked-wondering-why#post-1629713 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 16:48:00 +0000 catgirl 1629713@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie's post today sparked a lot of thought on my morning commute.&nbsp; A couple of orders arrived while I was gone.&nbsp; The Zara silver jeans were a bust - too small and much too stiff for me.&nbsp; That search continues.</p> <p>I also got a discount code from Joah Brown and ordered a couple of items because the styles really spoke to me.&nbsp; In particular, the Forever bag (which I'd seen at a local boutique with a big markup) is pretty much perfect.&nbsp; It converts - EASILY!&nbsp; - from a backpack to a shoulder/crossbody and can also be carried by a handle.&nbsp; It has lots of pockets, easy access, and a zipper that expands the bag if needed.&nbsp; It's rugged, sturdy, not heavy for the style, and beautifully made.&nbsp; It's like something I would design for myself if I had the skills.</p> <p>In terms of Angie's post, a bag like this feels like "style home" to me.&nbsp; So where does my love for floral Liberty prints, quirky/twee Kate Spade clutches, etc. fit in?&nbsp; Are those my style "vacation spots"?&nbsp; Or can I work them into my "home style" somehow?</p> <p>Case in point: the Kate Spade "Admit One" bag also arrived and it is adorable, surprisingly capacious and well constructed.&nbsp; I am keeping it and consigning a couple of less-used clutches.&nbsp;&nbsp;In&nbsp;Florida I saw and almost caved on the&nbsp;KS ice-cream truck clutch (it has a strap!)&nbsp;- but how many pastel clutches can this UWP&nbsp;own?&nbsp;</p> <p>I feel a longer post coming on, hoping to break down the following:</p> <ul> <li><b></b><i>What feels like my home style</i></li> <li><i>What I love that's outside my home style</i></li> <li><i>What I love but can't wear&nbsp;&nbsp;(cropped denim looks like it's going to be in this category)</i></li> <li><i>What I don't love and can safely exclude from consideration</i></li> </ul> <p><b></b>And I want to think about these categories in terms of other limiting factors - color, fit, fabric, seasonality.&nbsp; LisaP's recent posts have really resonated with me in terms of the quest for the "next new thing" in conflict with what I actually reach for and wear.&nbsp; Is there any point to hoarding adorable clutches I won't use, or leather jackets I can't work into my outfits?</p> <p>Anyone else feel sparked by Angie's post?&nbsp; Would love to hear your thoughts!</p> <p><a href="https://www.shopbop.com/admit-one-clutch-kate-spade/vp/v=1/1524106258.htm" rel="nofollow">https://www.shopbop.com/admit-.....106258.htm</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.joahbrown.com/collections/scarves-beanies-socks/products/forever-backpack-black" rel="nofollow">http://www.joahbrown.com/colle.....pack-black</a></p> <p><a href="http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/4286525?pathAlias=kate-spade-new-york-ice-cream-truck-leather-shoulder-bag" rel="nofollow">http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/42.....shoulder-b</a></p>