https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 10:59:18 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431978 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 20:28:00 +0000 judy 1431978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for your comments ladies. &nbsp;No, it can't be the whole picture or solve everything...there is so much we don't know, isn't there. &nbsp;&nbsp; I found the reporting of the experiments interesting...and yes a softer approach. &nbsp;Because of his boyfriend and the other experiences he had with addicts, I did feel that perhaps he was not unfamiliar with what the families or others experience, though not specifically addressed in the article. &nbsp;He did say this though :</p> <p>&nbsp;"Loving an addict is really hard. When I looked at the addicts I love, it was always tempting to follow the tough love advice doled out by reality shows like&nbsp;<em>Intervention</em><span>&nbsp;-- tell the addict to shape up, or cut them off. Their message is that an addict who won't stop should be shunned. It's the logic of the drug war, imported into our private lives. But in fact, I learned, that will only deepen their addiction -- and you may lose them altogether. I came home determined to tie the addicts in my life closer to me than ever -- to let them know I love them unconditionally, whether they stop, or whether they can't."<br />&nbsp;<br />Also, in looking at not just substances, but also addictive behavior, I could bring what he is saying home. &nbsp;Do I, or have I engaged in addictive behaviors or compulsions because my rat park is too small, or lonely, or my cage of perception was too narrow to let love in?...and is&nbsp;the shopping, or the eating or the ________ (fill in the blank)&nbsp;easier to bond with, or more dependable for a good feeling than bonding with unpredictable human connection which&nbsp;</span>sometimes lets us down? </p> <p>&nbsp;It's kind of a vicious cycle when we bond with a behavior or a substance because the more we do it, the more isolated we get and then the more we do it. &nbsp;Rather than think we are broken, or in an alcoholics case, that they have a disease they will never recover from...people are beginning to question that old AA model too...I liked where he was coming from: &nbsp;a bit of &nbsp;a more of a&nbsp;wholistic approach, that what fell apart can be rebuilt...and we aren't ever so broken that we can't be forgiven. &nbsp;Rather than be simply idealistic, it may be a way to approach something other than with a "fight or flight" response...a middle way to restore someone...and us...to ourselves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431937 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 19:08:27 +0000 jackiec 1431937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting article. Thanks for sharing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431777 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:19:47 +0000 Mander 1431777@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very interesting. Obviously it's not the whole answer but a "softer" approach by society in general could be helpful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431659 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 04:30:43 +0000 Debbie 1431659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is thought provoking but I don't think it holds all the answers or addresses the problems that is poses for the family. I agree with Tina sometimes you gave to cut the addict out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431620 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 02:58:13 +0000 abc 1431620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really thought provoking. Thanks for sharing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431565 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 01:04:57 +0000 judy 1431565@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tina, that is a very tough thing when we have to cut off ties with someone because of their addiction. &nbsp;I've seen heartbreaking circumstances because of it. &nbsp;And today, I was wondering why someone who seemingly has everything in terms of love and connection&nbsp;...or a big rat park in the experiments terms...ends up going down that path? &nbsp;Perhaps our minds are our "cages" we really live in, cages of perception. &nbsp;Someone can have love and worth and meaning to others but what if they don't see it or feel it about themselves? &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431546 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 00:30:55 +0000 Tina 1431546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This article does not address the reason that some people have to cut addicts out of their lives, namely because either the addict goes down or the whole family does. To me this article holds truth but is also somewhat idealistic. There are enough loved ones of addicts struggling with how to deal with someone who is tearing their family apart. Some addicts are not without love and support, many of them are exactly the opposite and parents/siblings/friends have done everything in their power to help, almost always at great cost. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431324 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 16:40:09 +0000 MsMary 1431324@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I saw this the other day and it blew me away. Just amazing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431262 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 13:13:09 +0000 Jeanie 1431262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for sharing this. &nbsp;I have read about Rat park and about vietnam vets who had to quit heroin. &nbsp;This article brings it all together and i hope it changes how we treat addiction. &nbsp;I will share this with folks I know who are struggling. &nbsp;Thanks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431213 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 06:37:44 +0000 Caro in Oz 1431213@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for sharing - fascinating. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431071 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 01:48:14 +0000 Janet 1431071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I read this the other day, and it is indeed a thought-provoking read. Thank you for sharing it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/an-article-on-addiction#post-1431046 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 00:40:56 +0000 judy 1431046@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This article came across my twitter feed today. &nbsp;I felt to share it here...hope it's ok...in "off topic" because it is off topic and also because it might help someone. &nbsp;I thought it was a really great look at what has become such a tender, sad topic. &nbsp;Anyone struggling with addiction themselves, or with a family member might benefit, but I got a lot out of it even though those things are not the case with me. &nbsp;I could relate to the human connection aspect of it. &nbsp;I hope you enjoy it:&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.alternet.org/drugs/likely-cause-addiction-has-been-discovered-and-it-not-what-you-think#.VMQMfwFd7xV.facebook"><a href="http://www.alternet.org/drugs/likely-cause-addiction-has-been-discovered-and-it-not-what-you-think#" rel="nofollow">http://www.alternet.org/drugs/.....you-think#</a>.</a> </p> <p>Here's a link with a few less ads and easier to read&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/.....06936.html</a>&nbsp;</p>