https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 17:48:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-426007 Tue, 20 Sep 2011 01:29:24 +0000 rae 426007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, my dear, you have no idea how gorgeous you are. </p> <p>I once felt the same as you... for me, change took getting out into the world and away from some catty, negative influences and instead surrounding myself with positive people who have no interest in tearing me down to make themselves feel superior. YLF is a wonderful start - there are so many people on this forum that you just can't explain away compliments as "pity" or "accidents" as I was wont to do; instead you start to realize that the internalized feelings of ugliness were not based on reality. </p> <p>I hope you can find a similar support group, whether it be here, Already Pretty, or anywhere. Big hugs to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425990 Tue, 20 Sep 2011 01:11:47 +0000 Kari 425990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my gosh, I wrote a lot. Sorry! Brevity isn't my strong suit, apparently! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425988 Tue, 20 Sep 2011 01:11:16 +0000 Kari 425988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Con, I think you're lovely, and I'm sorry that you don't see or feel your beauty *yet*. That being said - I think you are in high school, right? - I'm close enough to your age that I vividly and sometimes painfully remember how ugly and awkward I was convinced I was. I hope that does not sound patronizing. Sometimes we simply aren't ready to accept ourselves as beautiful, inside or out.<br /> What I mean is that I look at photos of my high school self and am sometimes amazed at how beautiful I was compared to how terribly insecure I felt - I spent much of my time thinking that I was just an ugly, unloveable, horrible person, and I know now that wasn't true at all. I'm willing to bet that someday, you'll have those breakthrough moments, too. Or better yet, maybe you'll go through phases now where you love yourself more and are able to realize that you are a charismatic and attractive person.</p> <p>Today, if you lined me up next to my high school self and asked most people to pick the "prettier" girl, based on looks alone, I'm sure that some people would pick my high school self - she's certainly slimmer, blonde, more demure. But my present-day self is much more confident and less insecure - and frankly, cares less about people thinking I'm weird - than I was in high school, and that makes me *feel* prettier. But that doesn't come overnight, and I still have a lot of work to do on liking myself inside and out. It's taking a lot of practice, and I'm still trying to banish the negative thoughts that run through my mind. It comes and goes. Some days I like my personality or my looks or my "inner Kari" more, and other days I'd still like to switch places with my best friend.</p> <p>Another change - thanks in great part to YLF, I feel like I'm able to dress myself more successfully and purposefully than I did 4 years ago. I have a better sense of the messages that my outfits *and* how I carry myself can convey a message, for better or worse, about who I am. And again, that's taken a heck of a lot of experimentation, practice, and even failures/missteps - and I'm still learning! Actually, I think we all are, really - even the pros. What I love about YouLookFab's community forum is that we are all here to learn from, encourage, inspire, and help each other through our own style journeys.</p> <p>I'd also urge you to review Angie's Individual Style posts - many of which discuss individual style journeys, and I find those especially inspiring reads: <a href="http://youlookfab.com/category/individual-style/" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/category/individual-style/</a><br /> There are a couple great links on "dressing your best" on Academichic that I loved:<br /> <a href="http://www.academichic.com/2009/04/13/fashion-101-proportions-featuring-your-best/" rel="nofollow">http://www.academichic.com/200.....your-best/</a><br /> <a href="http://www.academichic.com/category/dress-your-best/" rel="nofollow">http://www.academichic.com/cat.....your-best/</a><br /> And the body image posts on AlreadyPretty, which I see a few others have linked to, are marvelously uplifting and empowering. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425846 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 21:32:59 +0000 annagybe 425846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Third the recommendation for Already Pretty. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425843 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 21:29:00 +0000 Irene 425843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been told I am ugly for a long time in my life. Years and years of stupid, senseless bullying at school took my self-esteem so low that it felt too far away to get back. But I did. I got it back and life is so much, so much, so much better now that I actually like myself, both in the outside AND inside. Of course I have what I call 'fat days' even though I'm fairly thin, because it doesn't really matter whether you are fat or not, or whether you are ugly or not, because it's something that you FEEL. I don't think there's a single person in the world who likes him/herself 24/7. And if she/he did exist, we'd be talking about a pathological narcissist without the capacity of inner exploration and self-criticism, which is something I personally appreciate in people. Ugliness or beauty is something extremely subjective, and I'm not talking of love alone. This guy in the street, you may drool over his looks while I might feel just indifferent towards him.<br /> I won't tell you whether I find you pretty or not, and I don't think you will/should care about my opinion, anyways. Just try to love yourself on the whole, try to improve what you don't like and can be changed, and try to accept and like what you don't like and can't be changed. It's hard, and I think we all struggle with it, but there's no way around it. It's that or just feel ugly forever and ever, which will do you no good and which won't let you go on happily with your life. Take care and love yourself </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425714 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 18:08:38 +0000 rute 425714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes you are, but you need to discover that for yourself! Fashion can help you, you'll feel better when as you discover what suits you best, but all the work must start from the inside! You need to believe in you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425618 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 16:14:55 +0000 Kappy 425618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course you're beautiful. You have gorgeous eyes, great brows, a perfect nose, fabulous hair and a radiant smile. What more does a girl need? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425506 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 13:48:12 +0000 sunshine 425506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are very pretty Con Con! Everyone feels not so great looking at times believe me. Count your blessings and know that you are a gift and life is a gift. Think positive and you will glow! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425464 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 12:58:12 +0000 Astrid 425464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry you're feeling that way! Everybody feels down sometimes and it's normal to have ups and downs, but in the end you have to get comfortable with yourself all on your own. You never should build your self-confidence on other people's (positive or negative) opinions! </p> <p>I second the recommendation from lyn67 for reading up on body image on already pretty! There are some great posts there that may be helpful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425450 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 12:41:08 +0000 Sowmya 425450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hug! You have a lovely smile...never ever think otherwise! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425424 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 10:34:45 +0000 Erin 425424@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Absolutely! The problem is that it doesn't matter what we tell you. You are the one that needs to believe it for yourself. No one but you can really make that choice.<br /> Does this make sense? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425423 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 10:16:46 +0000 lyn67 425423@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear Con Con!<br /> Yes!!!! I can assure you are beautifull!! But hmm...I think also too young for trully believing it, if posted this question!!! :-((<br /> For boosting and training your self confidence on body image please visit:<br /> <a href="http://www.alreadypretty.com/category/body-image" rel="nofollow">http://www.alreadypretty.com/category/body-image</a><br /> There are lot of posts in that thread, please take the time to read:-))<br /> Have a nice day! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/am-i-pretty#post-425410 Mon, 19 Sep 2011 06:10:39 +0000 Con Con 425410@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel ugly<br /> Am I pretty? </p>