https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 15:43:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1502526 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 13:09:04 +0000 donnat 1502526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like you did great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1502485 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 08:13:49 +0000 Lyn D. 1502485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>She has a beautiful Mum too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1502418 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 01:39:29 +0000 Thistle 1502418@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the encouragement. Yeah, kids are hard. I have no experience with little boys, but man, it starts early with little girls! </p> <p>I am really glad she liked My Little Ponies. I am hoping Bratz and the like isn't even a thing by the time she gets there . . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501796 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 16:14:03 +0000 Aziraphale 1501796@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What are you talking about? You handled that perfectly. :-)</p> <p>It's true what you say about the messages we give our kids, though. You are right to think carefully about it. I have a daughter too, and I try to be mindful of the things I say and do in regard to body shape -- not just to her, but about myself. I look at the women I admire and realize that they almost never even&nbsp;<i>comment</i> on their own bodies, let alone complain about them. So I try to do that, too. A girl should never hear her mother say a negative thing about her own body. My own mother would never have dreamed about saying a negative thing about <i>my</i> physical appearance, but she complained about her own body incessantly -- "my flat hair, my saddlebags, I've gained so much weight" and so on. I definitely internalized that as a young woman.&nbsp;</p> <p>In Western culture, we talk too much about bodies anyway. It gets boring. :-)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501773 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 14:43:50 +0000 MrsK 1501773@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you did great! I struggle with the same thing. My daughter is 3, and her ballet teacher starts every class with a group cheer: "I am strong! I am brave! I am beautiful, on the inside and out!" I love that, and it's inspired me in our daily lives to try to pair any comments about bodies with a comment reinforcing outer beauty but also a positive comment about the function of whatever body part is being discussed. For example, for the tummy you could say "Your tummy is beautiful! And it does such a good job of holding all the food you eat to help you grow big and strong!". Legs help you run so fast; strong arms give such wonderful hugs; your beautiful smile brings happiness to mommy's heart; etc.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501725 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 12:52:39 +0000 Daria 1501725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My almost 3 y.o. is very proud of her tummy! :)<br />However, my two girls are built very differently (the oldest is very skinny) and I can see it might become an issue in the future. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501677 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 10:59:11 +0000 Summer 1501677@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They keep us on our toes don't they, Thistle? &nbsp;You handled this brilliantly - and bless her! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501633 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 05:46:27 +0000 Adelfa 1501633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I tried so hard not to pass on some of the negative body image thoughts that I learned in my home. I know I definitely did not pass on all of them! Recently my poor mother, who has dieted herself down to skin and bone (at 80) kept saying that Princess Charlotte was fat. I marveled that this is how I grew up. Thistle, I believe that one by one we are helping out daughters, our sons, and our society to be more healthy about bodies. Even as we still work to recover from the wrong things we have learned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501620 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 05:02:38 +0000 Deborah 1501620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great response and such lovely encouragement for your little one. &nbsp;It's a tough gig being a mum and having to think about all the correct messages we need to send to our kids. &nbsp;My DS 12 is very body conscious at the moment and often asks me if he is fat!! &nbsp;He is not:) &nbsp;But he is not reed thin either and some nasty kids at school have been teasing him. &nbsp;We are working hard to instill a positive body attitude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501582 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 03:05:13 +0000 abc 1501582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha. And I try to take it with a grain of salt when my 2 and 3 year olds say mommy has a big tummy! Lol kids speak the unfiltered truth. So there you go. </p> <p>Kudos for your self awareness and resolve for next time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501581 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 03:02:40 +0000 Suz 1501581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thistle, you handled it perfectly!! Reflecting on your own reaction was the right thing to do, and she left feeling great about herself (and so she should.) I remember thinking that my round kid belly was like a great drum. Until, yeah, I had that idea squelched out of me... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501573 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 02:49:44 +0000 deb 1501573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you handled it very well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501570 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 02:34:27 +0000 Debbie 1501570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You did great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501533 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 01:17:12 +0000 Eliza 1501533@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So good to see them celebrate themselves. You were spot on, Thistle. All parents have moments of extra joy that kids can't read our minds. Mine are adults and I'm still glad at times. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501488 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 23:04:58 +0000 Echo 1501488@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thistle, you handled it perfectly. It is ADULTS who automatically have negative things running through their heads in regards to tummies, not children, and you did not give her any negative thoughts. I wonder how often body image issues begin when a parent, unable to think outside their own box, answers something like, "Oh, honey, it's not very big and you can't even see it with your shirt down!" instead. At that moment, a child learns that a tummy might not be a good thing. You didn't burden her with any of that, so BRAVO.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501469 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 21:59:00 +0000 unfrumped 1501469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, and not&nbsp;only negativity per se, but also just making something more important in either direction than is needed, as a lot of times we over-think what is going on in the child-brain, when they just had a moment's thought and are just interacting with the world and are on to the next big adventure in a nanosecond. So just saying, yeah, cool ! may be all that is needed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501394 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 18:46:21 +0000 AviaMariah 1501394@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What matters is how you handled it which was perfectly. &nbsp;Long may they stay innocent of our culture's crazy notions of the perfect body. &nbsp;My 2 1/2 DD is a skinny stick yet still has a rounded tummy. &nbsp;I often look at her and wonder who in the world decided a belly wasn't a good thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-moment#post-1501386 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 18:36:03 +0000 Thistle 1501386@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Earlier this week, my beautiful and amazing three year old lifts up her shirt, rounds out her tummy and proudly proclaims what a big round tummy she has. I stopped in my tracks, and of all of the things that were running through my mind, I stopped myself and told her she had a beautiful tummy.</p> <p>She grinned and went back to playing.</p> <p>I am embarrassed by my pause, but in the end, I think I did okay. It just makes me realize how young girls can be when they could first start to hear and internalize body negativity. It's something that ahs been on my mind since, and I hope I can handle it better in the future.</p>