https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 19 Apr 2026 18:51:20 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2130624 Tue, 30 Jun 2020 14:03:11 +0000 cindysmith 2130624@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Because I am an essential worker, I dare not go home and risk my mom's health with whatever cooties I have picked up at work. It doesn't help that I live in a state that thinks it is a hoax or "just the flu" and therefore people aren't wearing masks and aren't social distancing. I can't hug friends at 12 step meetings, I can't start dating now that I'm single again... so I'm sending (((hugs))) to all of you who need a hug </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2130519 Tue, 30 Jun 2020 00:11:14 +0000 Sal 2130519@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for your input Staysfit!&nbsp; Your Mum sounds like a real trooper.</p> <p>I agree that some teens I know found it a challenge (especially those in new relationships).&nbsp; Some seem really happy in the gaming&nbsp; and online world (not always good) and found it okay.</p> <p>I really feel for the older people here.&nbsp; I am pretty angry right now with a few vocal personalities saying that if you have a good immune system you will be okay....&nbsp; Not denying that healthy diet and lifestyle helps but it is just not that simple. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2130212 Sun, 28 Jun 2020 11:00:34 +0000 Staysfit 2130212@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree wholeheartedly with what you say! &nbsp;My parents live in a different state than my brother and I. &nbsp;This has been particularly difficult for my mother ~81, who lives alone but who is full of life and typically on the go all the time. &nbsp;She has post polio syndrome, bad arthritis in her hands, does not drive anymore, and had full time help (for transportation, shopping, lifting heavy items, cleaning and cooking), but her helper has not been to her house since this started other than to drop off groceries on the front porch. My mom has managed everything else on her own. &nbsp;She is incredibly tough, resourceful and resilient. She also has managed to stay connected to family using social media. &nbsp;DD26 is temporarily living about 45 mins away and has been to visit, but remained socially distant by sitting outside on my mother’s&nbsp;back deck while mom stayed inside her house with a screen door between them. &nbsp; &nbsp;My father, at 84, has the company of my stepmother, but misses his dear friends with whom he has met for lunch every Thursday for over thirty years. &nbsp;He misses his weekly penny poker game, and he misses his daily routine of getting out of the house to go to a local pool so he can swim. He has been picking up groceries curbside, and he drives to the post office instead of putting mail into the post box at the bottom of his driveway, so he has an excuse to get out of the house. &nbsp;He had double knee replacements two years ago, and has been more prone to falls, nevertheless, he goes out to walk everyday. My dad’s neighbor put a bench out on his lawn, near the road, so my dad can stop and rest if needed while on his walk. &nbsp;I like knowing there are nice people like that in the world! &nbsp;<div><div><br /></div></div><div>Since I work with children, I would say my experience has been that tweens and teenagers have had the most difficult time with social distancing. &nbsp;Young children require time and attention, but have been less prone to creating stress or difficulty for their parents.</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129965 Sat, 27 Jun 2020 04:02:51 +0000 Sal 2129965@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for sharing your thoughts all. I really feel for people who have ended up in an isolated position, and those with young children. There have been some wonderful community schemes set up but the simple pleasures of being with loved ones are hard to replace. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129953 Sat, 27 Jun 2020 01:59:12 +0000 Anonymous 2129953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As a high risk person and also DH who just found out he is having cardiac “episodes” when his pacemaker/defribulator was checked last week; I really appreciate everyone who wears a mask, social distances, and disinfects. We are mostly staying home but it is getting harder. I miss getting together and even being able to smile at strangers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129844 Fri, 26 Jun 2020 17:44:58 +0000 nemosmom 2129844@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>It's been difficult being away from family. My dad lives alone where he was taking care of my grandad who passed in October. He has no friends there, and the closest family is 4hr away by air.&nbsp; My kids are still young, so they don't quite understand why they can't go to the playground or have friends over like we used to. The fact that camp was canceled has been very difficult for them to accept.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>As an extreme introvert, I've been ok not going out and about. I can happily entertain myself for weeks at a time, even when not working. It has been challenging having DH and my kids home all. of. the. time. I miss having my quiet "thinking" time...<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129482 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 23:58:18 +0000 Barbara Diane 2129482@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>An older (distant) relative died from Covid and the family only got to a FaceTime with her while she was sick. So sad. </p> <p>I’m a bit spooked by the information about how damaged even some “recovered’ young patients are.</p> <p>OTOH an elderly friend is having a very light case. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129451 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 21:09:28 +0000 Angie 2129451@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Sal,</b> you're right. I really feel for people living alone who don't have pets, which are many of our old parents. And they are high-risk for COVID-19 too.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Jane</b>, you are right. People can't see you smile in a mask. Speech is muffled too.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129378 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 14:49:45 +0000 DeAnna 2129378@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We began the process of selling our home just before the lock down. We have had to wait on home repairs that should have taken a couple weeks stretched into six weeks. They lifted restrictions and we listed the house not expecting the massive volume of people who wanted to see it. On the third day of listing we had multiple offers and had to keep letting people look at the house. 32 showings with full cleaning between showings, we were exhausted. Now all the appraisers and inspectors and workers it has to be deep cleaned in between. We have to be out Monday. Our new home is not finished yet, but we will have a full day delay so it can be cleaned. I am so tired, packing, cleaning repeat. I just want to be in the new home and keep everyone out, my hands are slightly raw from bleach, but we are all healthy so its worth it. Selling and buying a home in covid 19 is not for the weak. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129368 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 13:20:07 +0000 Kyle 2129368@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As someone at high risk for infection, I have to be extremely cautious. Have not hugged my son for months. It’s what I’m looking forward to most when things get better.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129332 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 06:27:30 +0000 Jane 2129332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am nodding with you. It is heart breaking that we are not able to physically reach out for one another and provide the simplest of human gestures that convey warmth care and love. </p> <p>My dear mum has really struggled with the isolation. She lives in a sweet cottage with a pretty garden and every Saturday and Sunday I’ve been and spent the afternoon with her over the fence. It's been okay but barely enough to keep her sane - there is only so much chatter that we can manage. Thankfully we are learning Italian and that has helped to lend extra depth and purpose to our conversations. </p> <p>I also find the mask blank out so much of our faces, that it becomes quite strange smiling and acknowledging people in the street.</p> <p>Virtual hugs are not sufficient! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129326 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 03:53:59 +0000 Zaeobi 2129326@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One of the bloggers I follow mentioned that she &amp; her sister leave a chair out at the road edge of their front gardens. If one is walking past, they'll call each other up (to let them know they're there) &amp; then sit on the chair to have a conversation with each other from that distance, just to check in &amp; say hi. I think it's a nice idea, because it's more convenient than having to set up a specific time to meet &amp; chat (&amp; then trying to figure out the socially distanced logistics, of course). </p> <p>But I agree, it is hard. Especially since my family are back in the UK with multiple health problems - my father hurt his foot near the beginning of the year, so he can't even go for long walks anymore But as someone who managed 5 years of a long distance relationship, all I can say is that it does get easier once you figure out other ways to communicate. I remember we used to watch films 'together' by downloading the same one (this was before Netflix streaming) &amp; then pressing 'play' together. We would text to discuss what was going on on-screen, though I know some people prefer to simultaneously video call instead. It's not the same, I know, but at least it's something! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129325 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 03:49:40 +0000 Carla 2129325@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My extroverted Leo mother has been going nuts in her apartment in a city 4 hours away, and has done a few risky things (in my opinion). &nbsp;She has been repeatedly asking to visit me and the family, and was going to take a train and ‘surprise’ me. &nbsp;I promised to come and get her, once things opened enough to allow expansion of circles. &nbsp;Well, the province is opening up. &nbsp;Circles are expanding, and DS#1 who was furloughed from his job, has been called back.</p> <p><div>This coming weekend DH and I will do a ‘curb side pick-up’ and bring my mother to our home. &nbsp;She took a Covid test last week so that she could visit her husband (not my father) who is in a care home that has been very careful and kept the virus out of it’s facility. &nbsp;No results yet, but I suspect it will be negative. &nbsp;Next week will be an interesting (and stressful) week for me. &nbsp;The quiet time and isolation of the past four months has suited my temperament. &nbsp;The coming week will be noisy and busy. &nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129304 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 01:35:17 +0000 pil 2129304@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had friends over for breakfast the other day. We sat outside and I spaced card tables at socially responsible distances. This is part of a group I regularly meet on Friday mornings so we have all missed seeing each other. The weather was beautiful - and we had mimosas ;)</p> <p><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129284 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 00:41:23 +0000 JAileen 2129284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We had another wine get together on our back lawn with a few neighbors last Friday evening. &nbsp;We were going to gather on our deck, but it wasn’t shady enough. &nbsp;The back lawn was lovely, though. &nbsp;We were social distancing in accordance with the CDC, and everyone enjoyed themself. &nbsp;<div><br /></div><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129266 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 23:53:34 +0000 Anonymous 2129266@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We've been visiting with our neighbors quite a lot- just outside with social distancing, so that's been nice. At least it's been good weather.<br /> A friend in town (the skirt recipient) I've been seeing each week, always w a mask. I figure we would've got sick by now if we were going to.<br /> We're also expecting 2 friends over, outside, this weekend for hiking, biking, and archery.<br /> But we haven't seen my mom in 4 months, she's in a hotspot 2+ hours away. It's sad I can't enjoy the nice weather with friends as I normally would. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-lament-on-one-of-the-cruellest-aspects-of-covid#post-2129259 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 23:29:17 +0000 Sal 2129259@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>During the lockdown here, and seeing the situation across the world I am struck by the cruelness of the pandemic.</p> <p>In other crises, or natural disasters, people pull together, hug, laugh and share meals.&nbsp; In the Blitz people crowded in the underground together, after the earthquakes here, people invited strangers into their home or shelters were set up to help people.&nbsp; In tough times I have faced, we would invite friends and neighbours over for meals or at the least, a cup of tea or coffee.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>These simple things were hard or impossible at various stages of the pandemic.&nbsp; And moving forward are still challenging.</p> <p>I do lament for those who can't see or hug their friends or family right now. </p>