https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 19:23:54 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1138354 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 07:15:32 +0000 Adelfa 1138354@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Neel, I'm sorry!</p> <p>Yes, my New Year is happy. I have moved (December 7) and am near my daughter, near the beach, and have a fun new job. I did not think any of this was possible. I have been where you are. In the most recent dark time, I told myself day after day that I was not, not, NOT going to stay stuck in the bad place. I would put one foot in front of the other and eventually it would be better. And I don't mean to be irreverent at all when I say that God is like ylf--happy to have us back when we're ready </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1137803 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 19:33:37 +0000 lyn* 1137803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@ Rachylou - I'm used to doing everything myself, and as boy says, "I know you -can- do it by yourself, but you don't -have to-." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1137794 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 19:21:55 +0000 rachylou 1137794@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'll just jump straight to the request: I have been feeling quite good this year so far, two weeks in. Equitable. Even well-balanced and fairly energetic.&nbsp; There's no cause for it - to the contrary, there's plenty of reason for the opposite. From my broken filling to my dog swallowing a bit of saran wrap when my friend's dog just died from eating a plastic bag. But it's just not dragging me down and sending me to bed.</p> <p>It's a bit surprising. I am believing more than ever that happiness and sadness aren't determined by what happens to you or around you. Not exactly. I think it's like one of those teeter-totter punching bags kids used to have. You may sock the clown far to one side, but he springs up right again. </p> <p>I've been working, I'll totally admit, to building up better ballast in myself. One of my mantras toward this end has been, "If you haven't got problems, you're probably dead." I've found it completely true so far. It's a win in many ways to have a problem.</p> <p>On a lighter note, I've been making great progress in my efforts to become a gold digger: I got my bf to buy me lunch at work. We work in the same office and he pretty much believes it's my duty to take care of myself and hold my own at work. Haha. He even opened the door for me today! </p> <p>Oh.... I don't mean he held it open, I mean I actually report to the French arm of the company and can't get a card key because the French arm doesn't manage American facilities. So I have to knock on the door, and he usually lets (makes) someone else open it for me! </p> <p>Ahaha! I think it's so funny.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1137691 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 17:51:33 +0000 ManidipaM 1137691@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have a history of difficult New Years. And depression. That New Year is the dead of winter doesn't help. </p> <p>So I learnt to observe the Solstice instead. Which reminds me at the crucial time each year that the darkest day and the colder ones that follow are the pivotal pount in a cycle and the wheel IS turning... up towards the light. I just have to wait for the light to break, for the days to lengthen till they are at least equal to the night. Equilibrium, I choose to believe, is inevitable. Else I would run mad. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1137574 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 15:33:14 +0000 Neel 1137574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you Irene and Ramya for your kind words. It really helps a lot to read all these posts. And trust me I have read them over and over again in the last 2 days. Coupled with that I have decided to take one day at a time. Practice good habits and have made peace with God :D. I think I will give him another chance lol! And let down my ego.</p> <p>I am determined to take lot of positive steps this year. Sometimes you need a kick up your backside to get up and do what you need to do! I think I got that! :). Up and forward from here </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1137526 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 14:36:38 +0000 ramya 1137526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Neel, no you are not a cursed child of God. We all have our ups and downs. Sometimes it just feels like we have downs doesn't it?</p> <p>I am not having a great start to year personally either. But as I say my Husband. We can either be happy or sad about our day. I prefer to be happy :).</p> <p>That's how I face each day. Hugs to you. And it won't be long until we get out of this mess </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136672 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 08:37:20 +0000 Irene 1136672@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My new year is not so good either -neither was last year-. I'm just going through a sad, stupid period in my life, but I plan to change this as soon as I can (VERY SOON, promise). <br />Hang on there, it will get better. And when you need to vent, call someone you love. Or you can always come here </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136636 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 05:15:49 +0000 Neel 1136636@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Let me just say I love you all and I wish I could hug you all. YLF is a place of solace for me and I will be here as long as I possibly could. </p> <p>I am always thankful for everything that happens to me because I emerge stronger through it. I have done it before and I will do it again. It just sucks to struggle like this. As if I am one cursed child of God. But hey, who said life was easy :). A new day .... A new start! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136584 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 04:03:53 +0000 Windchime 1136584@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Neel-- I'm so sorry to read how difficult this year has been for you. I'm just getting to know individuals in this community, but you have been warm and supportive the few times I posted, and you have a wonderful sense of style.<br /> When times get difficult, I think of the phrase "chop wood;carry water." Just keep putting one foot in front of the other; you will get through this. And be kind to yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136546 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 03:18:29 +0000 April 1136546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Neel -- another good mantra, from Winston Churchill, who suffered horribly from depression: "If you're going through hell -- keep going."</p> <p>Good things in the new year? &nbsp;Yes! &nbsp;Wonderful husband (after first marriage ended, so devastating); wonderful son (after years of people asking when I would be giving him a sibling); back on YLF (after more than a year of style backsliding); stable health. &nbsp;There are good things out there, Neel -- for you too. &nbsp;Hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136517 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 02:49:13 +0000 lyn* 1136517@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry to hear about the bad start to your year - when I feel that I am on that slippery slope to depression, I take time off and make sure that I connect back up with all of my resources, including any psychiatrists.</p> <p>My new year is quite wonderful; the boy is very wonderful and kind and we have a wonderful time together. My work life is okay, and a few glitches have ironed themselves out. One of the older psychiatrists I very much respect at work paid me a great compliment, and I was floating on Cloud 9 all day! And I bought a pretty new blush today, yay! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136415 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 00:08:42 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1136415@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear of your bad start to this year... &nbsp;I always remind myself during times of struggle that all it takes is to keep moving and someday before I know it I always end up at the place where I am exclaiming, "The difference a day makes!" &nbsp;Changes can happen fast!<br />I began searching for gratitude at the worst year of my life and forced myself to find good things even more so when chaos and things out of my control are spinning.. I control what I can control and that helps me tremendously. don't know if this will help others, but after a very deep depression, I vow to never go there again! &nbsp;</p> <p>This year has been the best start to a year probably ever in my life! &nbsp;Unless you count 23 years ago when I got married Jan 15th...My husband's new job and promotion, the company has now hired my 18 year old as well is a life altering career change! &nbsp;My friends who have been struggling have all found jobs, my sister who was unemployed for 6 months was searching nationwide and has found a contract that will keep her here for at least a year! My overweight brothers are facing their weight issues and my husband's best friend who crushed all the bones in his feet has had reconstructive surgery and is in physical therapy and walking!!!!!!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136395 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 23:47:09 +0000 Alassë 1136395@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, Neel. I hope you will regain faith in God and love through the rest of this year through a surprising turn of events.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136358 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 23:08:43 +0000 kkards 1136358@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i'm so sorry you are having such a horrible start to the year….my last 2 years have been as so horrible that i think this year can only be better.<br />i'm with maryk, sometimes you just have keep putting one foot in front of the other. one day at a time.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136353 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 23:01:00 +0000 Suz 1136353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, big hugs, Neel! You are loved here! We all adore your style &nbsp;-- and not just the clothes part of it. You have a big heart, a sense of humour, and genuine grace. I'm so sorry the year has started out rough for you.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am facing a few challenges here as well, but nothing as hard as many -- and I'm trying to remind myself that the winter only lasts so long. I have my beloved family and my kitty here...that's what's most important.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136344 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 22:53:26 +0000 Caro in Oz 1136344@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs to you Neel. I love MK's mantra. One thing&nbsp;that helps me is to think of&nbsp;these times as an opportunity for growth, To ask myself what can I learn from this?&nbsp;Not easy to do&nbsp;but if I can it does help a little. Take care, sweet one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136330 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 22:27:40 +0000 Louise 1136330@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MaryK what a lovely mantra, I know you have to keep plodding through bad times but 'The only way out is through' is just such a short to the point way of putting it I'm writing that in the front of my planner x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136290 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 21:26:49 +0000 MsMary 1136290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs from me, Neel!&nbsp; I agree that you are such a nice addition to our little YLF family!</p> <p>My new year is off to a good start, but last year I was where you are, so I can relate.&nbsp; FWIW, I've lost my religion and my marriage in the past little while and I am starting to come out the other side and it's looking like it's going to be pretty awesome.&nbsp; In the dark days I just kept telling myself "The only way out is through," and for some strange reason that helped a little.</p> <p>PM me any time if you want to commiserate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136279 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 21:03:01 +0000 Anonymous 1136279@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Neel, I'm sorry you feel so down. January is a difficult month. There will be light at the end of the tunnel. </p> <p>Depression can be so tough. Don't push yourself too hard to be vsible on here if you don't feel like it, but know that we are here if you need support. (hugs)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136270 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 20:40:01 +0000 Angie 1136270@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>La Celeste said it really well. (You are a sweetheart, La Celeste).</p> <p>Neel, I echo what La Celeste said. You have a warm, bubbly, kind&nbsp;and very positive persona, and it's a tonic on YLF. <b>Thank yo</b>u. I also miss you when you're gone. I'm sorry that the year has been a mare so far. I hope that it improves for you and your family. We are only 11 days in. Hang in there. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136263 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 20:30:15 +0000 Neel 1136263@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LACeleste that's the sweetest thing anyone has ever told me :). I think I could cry.</p> <p>PS I just realized I wrote too many 'this year's in my original post :D. I think I'll just let it be! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136255 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 20:21:11 +0000 LACeleste 1136255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Neel!</p> <p>I am so sorry your year was off to a rocky start and I am sincerely sorry you are depressed.</p> <p>I know you can write your own destiny.</p> <p>I don't know if it's a consolation (I hope so!)&nbsp;but you are one of those people who are so nice to have on YLF. &nbsp;I enjoy your posts and comments and miss you when you are on break. &nbsp;You are witty, self-deprecating,and &nbsp;funny and are always very kind in your commentary.</p> <p>Please don't take this as pressure to "be on". &nbsp;Just know you are cared about and appreciated.</p> <p>I'll loop back and add specific happy moments when I have a few more minutes.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-happy-new-year-please-share#post-1136235 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 19:53:44 +0000 Neel 1136235@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mine has been terrible. I have hated every moment of this year and can see myself going into depression again. It hasn't killed me yet .... So I hope to write my own destiny this year :). Enough of my dramatic narrative ... Now over to you ... :)</p> <p>I have read so many sad posts this year on our off topic board as well. Please will you tell me this year hasn't started bad for everyone? Can you share your happy moments of this year? Hugs to everyone who is going through tough times. Hope you find solace in something/someone/somewhere /somehow. </p>