https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 11:23:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-956036 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 20:05:48 +0000 rachylou 956036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mm, we might all be in trouble here if paying attention to and liking high-end designer things is to be condemned.</p> <p>But I must confess: When I think about, oh say, what the Ferragamo Vara now costs and what I used to pay... and ask myself that question from your thread, Anna, "Is this worth it?"... It would eat me up inside to lie and say "yes," this even tho at any time now I might go put the money down for another pair. I do kinda feel I'm starting to be ripped off and there may come a time to say no. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-955225 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 23:13:46 +0000 Archer 955225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's important to look at what was actually meant. Sometimes if we are feeling a need to defend ourselves on something, suddenly everything seems to be critical. You have posted your doubts about your wardrobe in the last week and I suspect that you have seen what were just honest answers to your question, as judgemental of you, when I don't think they were.</p> <p>Come on everyone, we request and receive feedback on our clothes- that is part of the point. I think this might be a case of misunderstanding and timing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-955211 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 22:31:51 +0000 DonnaF 955211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey, Anna, I wish I were as diplomatic at you!&nbsp; And pertinent to what Rae said, somehow my mom thinks that her spending priorities are the ONLY right ones!!!&nbsp; It doesn't matter that her friends or whomever aren't asking to borrow money from her or anything like that.&nbsp; Sheesh.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-955079 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:10:09 +0000 Sara L. 955079@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Excellent point!&nbsp; For this reason, I try to just comment on&nbsp;clothing articles and not costs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-955056 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 18:37:15 +0000 Trishalee 955056@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lovely point, stated in a kind way. &nbsp;Since coming here I have learned between style and price tag there is a huge chasm. &nbsp;Personally I am finding that I envy a person's eye before their budget. &nbsp;The magic is in eye and not the label. &nbsp; I am learning so much from everyone here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-955045 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 18:23:01 +0000 Isabel 955045@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Absolutely, thanks Anna !!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-954968 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 16:33:49 +0000 Kristin L 954968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree 100%. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-954900 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 14:57:13 +0000 shedev 954900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well said Anna. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder/page/2#post-954830 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:48:24 +0000 Nadya 954830@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hear hear! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954821 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:39:45 +0000 ironkurtin 954821@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, AG. As you know, I get sort of tired of the $ judgments too. Love has no price. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954798 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:19:17 +0000 Echo 954798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well spoken, Anna. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954794 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:17:48 +0000 Liz A. 954794@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree 100%, although I admit to some coveting of certain items :)</p> <p>I did want to say that in the context of the thread, I didn't find the comment in question offensive, since it was asked whether those pieces were worth it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954776 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 12:53:50 +0000 Janet 954776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Amen. I like that this group represents such a wide variety of styles and sources of fashion, from thrift shop to high end. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954713 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 11:16:03 +0000 Raisin 954713@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good point Anna and I agree!</p> <p>I just read the other thread and I don't think anyone meant to hurt your feelings specifically or call you out on spending whatever amount for an item. I can imagine that some people may have phrased their comments as such, due to your title asking "is this worth it?" That sort of implies is it worth the price? I know that's how I read it and I specifically didn't reply because I can't be the judge of the worth of an item to you, based on its price. I feel like I can offer advice based on your style, which I have some knowledge of, but not based on your finances. But maybe you didn't even mean the question that way, but wasn't sure, so I didn't answer. </p> <p>But like you said we all have different budgets and we work with our own. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954701 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 10:52:13 +0000 jurocha 954701@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a newbie here and I haven't read any threads with hurtful comments or anything related to prices of garments that could be considered hurtful. Nonetheless, I would like to add my own thoughts on the subject.</p> <p>I believe many members and Angie herself made it clear that YLF is a diverse forum - in all aspects: from age and nationality to tastes and budgets - and its members value tolerance and respect these differences. Because others have already said that so well, I don't feel the need to go any further.</p> <p>As Adelfa,&nbsp;I've been on both sides and I've been better off and worse off when it comes to income. (Change is the only constant in life, don't you all agree?) And as Irene, I believe no one has the right to tell someone else what they should (or should not) do with their own money: you earned it, it's your business (and your business only)&nbsp;what you do with it. That said, what I would like to do is to share my own strategy when I recommend&nbsp;an item for someone in the forum.&nbsp;</p> <p>I try to pick mid-range priced items indendent of the budget of the person to whom I am recommending a piece. Why? Well, because as a newbie, I don't know much about many users and because I feel that recommendations should be affordable for most of the members who access a thread. I guess if we keep this mid-range in mind we improve our chances of not offending anyone: not offering too cheap items for those who like and can afford designer clothing neither offering too high priced garments for&nbsp;those who can't afford&nbsp;&nbsp;or are satisfied with fast fashion.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954669 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 09:44:07 +0000 Inge 954669@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*nodding* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954668 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 09:42:46 +0000 harmonica 954668@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for this post Anna. Well said and what Deborah said </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954666 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 09:17:52 +0000 MovingFashionForward 954666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh gosh, I am SO SORRY! I fear it may have been my comment that sparked this. Most awfully sorry! I truly did not mean to offend you! Just call me tight -- everyone else does!</p> <p>Sarah </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954654 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 08:42:36 +0000 Hil 954654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think maybe something I said may have prompted this and if that was the case, I absolutely and sincerely apologise. My comment was certainly not meant&nbsp;in the slightest bit as judgement or criticism&nbsp;and was purely an off the cuff response. Again - so sorry! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954642 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 08:12:37 +0000 Irene 954642@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi, I don't know where this is coming from but I can sort of guess.</p> <p>It is true that we all live in very different budgets, lead different sorts of lifestyle and have different priorities. However, that's kind of hard to guess from just a post! </p> <p>I don't think I've ever told you (or anyone else) anything price-related because I am the first one that understands that you do what you want with your own hard-earned money. However, most of the beautiful garments you and many other members post are far, far, far out of my budget. I believe this happens for two reasons:</p> <p>- I am young. I don't work atm, but even when I did, my salary was very, very, very humble<br />- The prices and garments you guys post are American and in USD. I bet your&nbsp; basic salary is much higher than the one you can find in Spain (a Spanish ok salary -you can find a lot of people living with less than that and working 40hr/week- is circa 1300 USD). That means that when you guys post a $400 dress I am astonished because that is really more than 1/4 of an average salary here. An ok apartment near the surroundings of my city can be around $900/month. So, you can imagine how much that sounds like for me.</p> <p>All this said, I repeat: it's your money, you know your financial situation better than anyone else, period. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954635 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:40:02 +0000 Lyn D. 954635@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh right, I see!<br />I think perhaps no malice was intended? A question was asked and answered in perhaps a pretty straightforward and off the cuff way.<br />A timely reminder though of our glorious differences, that can teach us alot about others and ourselves too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954633 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:29:29 +0000 Lyn D. 954633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree Anna, but now I am curious... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954632 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:27:37 +0000 minime 954632@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Long time lurker here,but this post made me want to post and agree with everything Anna has so diplomatically written.I don't believe that anyone has the right to pass judgement on any body else for how they spend their money,not just in regard to clothes etc,but every thing.I would never do it,and I don't believe others should either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954629 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 05:45:50 +0000 Diana 954629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well said, Anna. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954616 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 05:12:51 +0000 rae 954616@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Amen, Anna. This is not a finance forum, so in my mind judgements on budget choices are not really relevant or called for (unless someone, you know, calls for them explicitly in a post). We all have different incomes, expenses, and loves in life, and <i>we all spend</i> on our different loves - whether they be clothes, food, kids, cats, cars, real estate,&nbsp;or whatever.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954611 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 04:50:52 +0000 always trying 954611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am new here, so don't know what has been going on as far as prior comments, but for me it is all about how something looks on you, how it fits, suits your lifestyle, appropriate for the occasion etc. than cost.&nbsp; Lotsa cute stuff out there at all price ranges.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954610 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 04:47:56 +0000 jennifer 954610@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also some Designers also do budget lines/crossover lines /special lines for a single run at a store (e.g. Issac Mizrahi,Missoni,.for Target..Norma Kamali for Walmart .I'm sure there are others I just don't recall at the moment) So sneering at a budget store is sort of shortsighted.<br /> I've bought a pair of brown Thom McCann loafers at Walmart and then later went to the mall shopping around and I saw the EXACT SAME SHOE.Only difference was the logo on the bottom of the sole . </p> <p>Oh ..And the price point.(about 3-4 times the budget option!) BTW the loafers were in rotation for about 6 years ,butter soft leather too.Boy do I wish I could find a new pair ..or two or...?</p> <p>I figure that IF I can find a quality piece that is easy on the budget then $$ can go further and maybe splurge on a big ticket item(s) that cannot be found as easily .<br /> However I do understand that there are some people who are cash wealthy and time poor and so find it better for their life to shop at full retail in a few fell swoops per year.(They are probably also the same people who donate new /nearly new stuff to thrift stores as they don't have the time to return mistakes .Definitely Appreciated!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954582 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 03:35:29 +0000 Debbie 954582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreed Anna. We all have budgets and we should respect that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954578 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 03:32:03 +0000 Marley 954578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm thinking that I must have missed something - but, whatever comments prompted this - I completely agree with you Anna! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-gentle-reminder#post-954566 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 03:20:28 +0000 Laura B. 954566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was just going to comment on the other thread about this. You are one classy lady though and did it much better than I could have.</p> <p>My favorite part of YLF is the diversity in styles and of course all the love too &lt;3 </p>