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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 10 Apr 2026 22:04:13 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php ElleH on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-968246 Mon, 01 Jul 2013 15:14:17 +0000 ElleH 968246@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Love the first one & you should get it. I agree with Angie, 2 would be better longer but still not as good as one. I don't look good in that style either. Irene on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967566 Sun, 30 Jun 2013 11:36:07 +0000 Irene 967566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hah, that's exactly what happens to me. Dresses like #1 flatter me to no end -and so happens to you- but tent-like dresses... oh my. This is what I was talking about a couple weeks ago in:  <a rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....body-shape</a> I think the second dress would look good on a dark-skin Natalie Portman. Petite, very slim and less curvy. DonnaF on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967469 Sun, 30 Jun 2013 04:17:59 +0000 DonnaF 967469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have a feeling #1 in a petite length would get me, and #2 would get my DD who is about my height and weight but a very different body type. Jaime on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967387 Sun, 30 Jun 2013 01:59:03 +0000 Jaime 967387@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is brilliant! I need to do this with my whole closet. And I am glad #1 came home, because it gets you perfectly! Karie on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967385 Sun, 30 Jun 2013 01:58:00 +0000 Karie 967385@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Night and day, day and night! The first dress is fab, the second is, well...much less than fab.  I love Suz's challenge idea! Raisin on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967275 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 21:53:07 +0000 Raisin 967275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ #2 is probably not a great cut for you but it only looks so poor because its in comparison to #1 which looks HOT! harmonica on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967242 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 20:26:52 +0000 harmonica 967242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks Janet! Love the juxtapositioning and #1 is stellar! So instructive catgirl on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967135 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 17:33:54 +0000 catgirl 967135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You're so gorgeous!  I have the same experiences.  Yesterday at BR I tried on one that worked, one that didn't.  And probably could have found 10 more that didn't... I hope you got that first dress! ClaraT on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967112 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 16:53:10 +0000 ClaraT 967112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ (Late to the post but...) The way the dress (#1) looks on you is *exactly* what I wanted it to look like on me. I will just second the positive comments of the others: you look fab! kkards on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967101 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 16:23:26 +0000 kkards 967101@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ dress #1 SO gets you! and i'm glad you got it.  and thanks for sharing the one that didn't. i agree, we should have a challenge with the ones that don't get us. Janet on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt/page/2#post-967093 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 16:05:23 +0000 Janet 967093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you, Angie! :-) #1 came home with me and is going to make a trip to the tailor. My summer date night capsule is complete. I'm glad this little demo was helpful! I love the idea of doing this kind of thing regularly, even with garments where the difference is not so obvious on first glance. I have returned a few items lately that were *thisclose* to working but just...off, in a way that defied simple alterations. Not every garment in the stores -- and indeed, not even every garment that catches my fancy -- needs to work on my body in order for me to have a full and interesting wardrobe. I don't know why, but I have to keep reminding myself of this. Why do I fight the feeling that I must have All The Clothes? :-) ETA: I think some of this obsessive wanting everything to work on me comes from a strong perfectionist streak. It's completely unrealistic, but I should be able to make everything work. Isn't that silly? Angie on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-967086 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 15:46:20 +0000 Angie 967086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You are a sport, Janet! Thank you :) #1 is KILLER (FWIW, #2 would look better if it was longer - but still not as good as #1). Mary Beth (formerly LBD) on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-967044 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 14:17:18 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 967044@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ And part two of my reply, which needed its own post... WOWZA!!!  You are a knockout in that first dress!!! Mary Beth (formerly LBD) on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-967043 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 14:16:32 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 967043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I LOVE this idea!  What if we set aside a day of the week for it - maybe as a weekend challenge - but of course, people have all week to think and photograph and post? If it's just an open challenge, lazy procrastinatin' me won't get around to it. krishnidoux on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-967037 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 14:09:52 +0000 krishnidoux 967037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh wow. Day and night! Thanks for this demonstration. chewyspaghetti on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-967033 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 14:01:46 +0000 chewyspaghetti 967033@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ That just shows how much of a difference you can make by the way you dress. What a great dress for you! Lyn D. on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966951 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 07:13:03 +0000 Lyn D. 966951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So interesting Janet! I like Suz' idea of showing our clothing 'out-takes' too, a good lesson for PPP. goldenpig on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966947 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 07:01:35 +0000 goldenpig 966947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So instructive! Thanks for sharing, Janet! I wonder who would actually look good in that dress? It looks too short to wear without leggings, unless you're 4 feet tall! Maybe it would be good for a prepubescent girl! I do have to keep reminding myself that "it's not you, it's the clothes" so this is an awesome illustration! rae on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966939 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 05:22:30 +0000 rae 966939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am too busy staring at your SHOES. O_O MsMary on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966933 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 05:05:29 +0000 MsMary 966933@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Wow!  What a great illustration of the concept of "it's not you, it's the clothes!" Thanks, Janet! velvetychocolate on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966906 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 03:22:28 +0000 velvetychocolate 966906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you so much for posting this Janet! I can't tell you how many times I felt awful about something, and felt like it was *me*, and yet - it's clear that it's all about the styling and fit of a particular item - your post helps so much! Thank you a million times over for posting these examples. It's so easy to feel iffy about our bodies when things don't fit or aren't quite the right style. Sometimes I battle body image issues. Sometimes it's because of a dress, item or outfit and the way it fits or doesn't fit. Sometimes it's a number on the scale. All it really takes to feel better is to find something that fits me and looks nice on me. Voila! I don't feel bad about the number on the scale or the shape of my body. In the meantime, I absolutely *love* the dress in pic #1 on you - you look like a million bucks in it, and I hope you buy it. Suz on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966881 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 02:01:21 +0000 Suz 966881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Janet, that's so right.  I know before YLF, it I happened to try on an item that "didn't get me,"  I would think: "Why doesn't it look like it is supposed to? Will I never figure this out? What is wrong with me?" Cue the violins.  Now I understand that it might be a question of looking in a very different place. Accessories speak volumes. The right ones are a godsend, and can change an outfit from classic, to edgy, to arty.  Anonymous on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966880 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 02:00:50 +0000 Anonymous 966880@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The first dress is brilliant! And the second dress . . . not so much. But, it's always nice to find clothes that get you. One definitely appreciate them wayyyyy more after trying on clothes that don't.  columbine(erin) on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966878 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 01:43:24 +0000 columbine(erin) 966878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks for sharing. Drapey things tend to look terrible on me so I have food for thought here. The first dress is stunning on you, hope you get it. Janet on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966876 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 01:36:05 +0000 Janet 966876@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The second dress really does demonstrate how the combination of any kind of tent like shape on me, combined with a short length, just does my body no favors. These kind of garments completely crush any fleeting illusion I might have in my imagination that I am willowy. I would love to pull off these kind of looks that are not so conventionally flattering, but they're unflattering to the point where I just can't enjoy them on me. I just have to find other ways to add edginess to my look, which I guess is where shoes like these sandals come in to play. I have been wearing them a lot, and a lot of people ask about them. nancylee on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966867 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 00:54:08 +0000 nancylee 966867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ That is a great idea, Suz!  I'm in. Janet on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966866 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 00:53:20 +0000 Janet 966866@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great idea, Suz! Anonymous on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966864 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 00:42:17 +0000 Anonymous 966864@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm in! Suz on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966849 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 00:26:39 +0000 Suz 966849@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Janet, thank you SO much for doing this. It is brilliant.  And it gives me the idea for a new YLF challenge. How about if we did this whenever we could over the year?  And posted it as part of a named challenge: Clothes that get me/ clothes that don't -- comparing and contrasting two dresses, or jackets, or jeans, or skirts, or necklines, or whatever, really -- just to SHOW?  Who is up for this?  I am eager to do this. So instructive for anyone who shares our body type.  Caro in Oz on "A dress that does get me, and one that doesn't" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/a-dress-that-does-get-me-and-one-that-doesnt#post-966842 Sat, 29 Jun 2013 00:14:43 +0000 Caro in Oz 966842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh that first one is perfect on you. Thanks for posting; you are so gorgeous even in a dress that doesn't get you :)