https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 17 Apr 2026 13:59:49 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2087665 Wed, 25 Dec 2019 13:14:52 +0000 cindysmith 2087665@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really good review. I wish I could be this, well, introspective and focused, maybe are the words I'm looking for. The best I'm able to do right now is keep my shopping focus on my style moniker, which took me over a year to come up with LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086932 Sat, 21 Dec 2019 20:55:40 +0000 Christina F. 2086932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I meant to reply sooner but my phone ate a long draft!</p> <p>Suz, I’m sorry you’ve been unwell Ad for my foot, it especially is annoying because I am going to restart PT for my other issues and this will probably put my progress back even further. There are some back and hip exercises I can do from the floor, I guess. </p> <p>Anyway, as for shopping, I actually did do it less while my husband was out of work, when it was important to. Then I got a promotion and his new job paid well, and I went a little overboard after holding back. Right now I can’t think what more I’d want but that always changes. :p</p> <p>Rachylou - too much choice is paralyzing, isn’t it? I like options but some non-dressy capsule pieces get worn too infrequently. Good luck if you tackle your crates! </p> <p>Angie - thank you for all your help and encouragement! And oh, the boot will awful. I’m going to work from home as much as I can while it’s on. </p> <p>Nemosmom - thank you and happy Holidays to you as well. May 2020 bring new hobbies for both of us! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086886 Sat, 21 Dec 2019 16:27:14 +0000 nemosmom 2086886@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Ack! What a yuck injury! I am glad to hear it can be repaired and hope you aren't laid up for too long.</div><div><br /></div><div>You've had a great year, outfit-wise. Your looks have been great, and in line with your style (as I see it). I hear you on the wanting fewer choices and wanting to direct your energy toward something else.&nbsp; I, too, need a new hobby outside the shop/try/return cycle!</div><div><br /></div><div>However you decide to approach your shopping in the new year, I am excited to follow your journey! Hugs and Happy Holidays! xx<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086812 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 23:15:47 +0000 Angie 2086812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no,<b> Christina</b>! An op. Sorry to hear that. Rotten luck. That boot is not ideal for your commuter life in NYC. I’m sure you’ll make it work and look fab. Good luck. </p> <p>As for your assessment.....</p> <p>*APPLAUSE*</p> <p>Very decisive, authentic, and accurate. Love that you've prioritized, and are keeping things fun and lighthearted.&nbsp;</p> <p>You hit the nail on the head every time. I love that you are realistic and know yourself. You did a lot of meaningful soul searching - and it shows! THAT IS THE WAY IT’S DONE. And you’ve never looked better. </p> <p>Welcome to Team Wide Legs. You’ve caught the bug too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086807 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 22:42:17 +0000 rachylou 2086807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Zeroing in the phrase, ‘I’d like to have less choices.’ I like the way you put that. It’s a different way to look at things that opens windows on old problems for me... namely crates of old clothes (!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086806 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 22:38:37 +0000 Bonnie 2086806@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It sounds like you had a pretty successful year. I like the format you chose to review 2019. Shopping my closet is one of my 2020 goals, too. &nbsp;So sorry to hear about your foot injury and glad to hear it will be better soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086801 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 22:21:57 +0000 Helena 2086801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christina, good job knowing yourself and doing what works for you. We are here to help, but it should absolutely be on your terms! Looking forward to your updates when it makes sense to do so :)</p> <p>I think your goals sound great! I especially love the one about items being an 8, sometimes a 7 ... vs. trying to find a 10 and then getting annoyed and settling for a 5. Very smart!</p> <p>Looking forward to your jewellery and makeup progression too.</p> <p>You've had a fab 2019 style-wise and here's to more success in 2020! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086797 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 21:36:32 +0000 anchie 2086797@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like a good plan. Prioritizing health and wellbeing is smart, and this may have effects on your wardrobe goals as well.<br /> I had the sam freak injury few years ago, when a big chef knife dropped on my foot and made a deep cut, but fortunately without lasting damage. And I am still barefoot in the kitchen - didn’t learn my lesson. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086793 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 21:11:42 +0000 Christina F. 2086793@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Thanks, Jenni - my tendon will be okay. The podiatrist says the injury is very common. I need to be sure to wear slippers in the kitchen. The surgery part of it will be the worst.</div><div><br /></div><div>CG - I hope to enjoy the heck out of what I have!</div><div><br /></div><div>slim cat - yes, let's all be kinder to ourselves in 2020!!!<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Sal - no worries, you were looking out for me and that's how I took it. BELIEVE ME, this has been on my mind anyway as the year ends. That thread&nbsp; helped push my thinking on it, but also made me realize that setting very solid number-based goals or making public promises won't help me. I need to find lifestyle tweaks that I can integrate slowly, so I can shop less over time... it won't be overnight. This is what's worked for me with other habit changes, more than promises to make changes overnight.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>All the shopping does get exhausting, especially since I've looked for lots of pants and they're hard to fit. Lots of returns. I wouldn't mind a break once the holidays are done. January will be very busy on the work front, then I'll have my surgery, so I may be distracted for a while. I need to channel my energy into outfit creation with what I have--I have enough that I can go a season without exact outfit repeats at work if I want to.<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086788 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 21:04:54 +0000 Suz 2086788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Christina</b>, I'm so sorry about your foot injury. <b>NOT</b> what you needed! You've basically just figured out the foot/ shoe thing and now another time around?!?! &nbsp;It does sound as if you'll recover and thank goodness for that, but <b>Ugh</b>. (I am going through something similar in a minor way this fall with weird respiratory sicknesses, despite having had a flu shot -- I no sooner get rid of one than another crops up. Typically, I hardly ever get sick -- this year is a big exception. And it is cramping my style <b>big time</b>!!! In more ways than one!!)&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway...whatever you do or don't do to get through that is totally a-ok in my books. And prioritizing health/ fitness over other goals is absolutely the way to go.&nbsp;</p> <p>Looking over 2019's goals I think it was only natural you'd shop more -- even if you hadn't become intrigued by the switch in silhouettes, you had a lot of other goals that necessitating making purchases. Sometimes it's hard to see where goals compete at the time. And in some cases, the other goals were more important. Without comfortable footwear, you'd be lost in NYC.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086787 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 21:03:57 +0000 Sal 2086787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christina - I like your goals both health and wardrobe related. I too am enjoying the new silhouettes and playing with them. And also want to accessorise more and don’t quite get there!</p> <p>You have a great sense of style. We are all on our own path re shopping....with different situations in many aspects of life. I apologise if my comment in another thread was poorly worded. Feedback Is a balance between being supportive, helpful and honest and ideally is all those things. </p> <p>I hope the foot heals well. You have had a bad run with your feet and deserve a break. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086762 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 20:41:18 +0000 slim cat 2086762@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good review - honest and inspiring. Like your new goals.&nbsp;<br />Ditto on "not beating myself up" - we do it enough all our lives. I'll probably borrow it too for 2020 . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086760 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 20:35:36 +0000 Cardiff girl 2086760@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that you are very sensible to prioritize health and fitness goals and not to put yourself under any pressure re wardrobe goals.You seem to be enjoying your wardrobe so it must be right for you,comparison with other people's numbers etc..is futile as we all lead different lives with different demands on our clothing.l hope that you continue to get pleasure from your clothing choices in 2020. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086757 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 20:31:42 +0000 Jenni NZ 2086757@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great review. I am still thinking on mine. Good on you for not being pushed around on resolutions you will rebel against! And sorry to hear about your tendon </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2019-review-2020-goals-long#post-2086753 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 20:26:17 +0000 Christina F. 2086753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p> <div>Hi all, I decided to do this as one post because I think they go hand in hand, for me. Here are<a rel="nofollow" href="https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/goals-for-2019-stylehttp://"> my 2019 goals</a>, which I want to review briefly:</div><div><br /></div><div><b>1. Update home/lounge capsule</b> - DONE. No need to expand on that, except that Gap was my go-to here.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>2. Shop less.</b> Hahahahaahaha. I will expand on this below.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>3Figure out if I’ll be able to wear all my shoes as my injury heals.</b> Done. I assessed my shoes and winnowed out the ones that don't have much shock absorption, for the most part. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>4. Figure out how to balance dressy and casual at work</b> - Done. I am pretty happy with my balance. Even my more casual outfits have a level of polish they didn't have before.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>5. Look for quality/shop from Boden, etc</b> - Done. I kept buying from Boden and other quality brands, and less lower quality items<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>6.Otherwise, keep doing what I’m doing.</b> </p> <p>NOPE. I experienced a shift in silhouette by going for roomier bottoms; I haven't eschewed skinnies but they are not the go-to anymore. My craving for the new silhouettes went hand in hand at my failure at #2. I am very happy with the direction I took, though I think my moniker is still Fun NYC Eclectic. I looka little trendier now, but "NYC" covers that.</p> </div><div><br /></div><div>For 2020, I do want to shop less and I've come up with some strategies. I am sorry, though-I don't want to share them right now, nor make this any kind of official goal. Public accountability is not motivating to me, particularly. Arbitrary limits don't work. I am going to try some stuff and I'll report how it's working for me after a few months. I am not comfortable making any grand pronouncements about this right now. (BTW, I am fully aware of why I shop so much and what my triggers are, as well as some of the deeper reasons why I do it. I&nbsp; haven't prioritized this area of self-improvement because I've been focused more on my impulse control around snacking, and building exercise habits. I've made progress on those but have a ways to go, and those are still my top priorities. I know that I will resist adopting too many lifestyle changes all at once). I am starting here with a few small changes and expect progress to go in fits and starts.</div><div><br /></div><div>I do have a few goals:</div><div><br /></div><div><b>1. I should strive for each wardrobe item to be at least an 8 out of 10, if possible</b>. This won't be universally successful. Sometimes a wardrobe essential is no higher than a 7. But I have so many nice pieces and my standards for keeping them should be high. This is NOT a shopping goal, though it's applicable there, but more for decreasing the side of my wardrobe over time. I'd like to edit out still-nice pieces so they can be resold by a local charity. I don't want to over-edit, as that will make me shop more, but I have a few categories I'd like fewer choices in (tops, mostly). I've also become pickier about fit, as well as quality and how much I love a piece, so I'd like to continue working on that.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>2. Wear my accessories more, especially jewelry.</b> This is partly a time in the morning issue and partly a storage issue (I will move to a bigger home but not for a year or more.) I keep grabbing the same things over and over because they're easy. I will try to keep a list of things to incorporate each week, which is sort of what I do with clothes, to make sure I don't have lots of orphans.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>3. I'd like to wear makeup mo</b>re, as another tool in my style arsenal, but this is also a time in the morning issue.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>4. Continue to judiciously add non-skinny bottoms</b> - I have almost a full capsule here but would like a couple more choices. I have holiday money that's going to this so it may be done for the winter soon. I am feeling skirts and dresses less right now, so I will keep what I have in those categories and not acquire more right now.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>5. Don't beat myself up</b> - I am a maximalist at heart, though I'd like to shop less (even if I refuse to quantify what that means for me right now). I prefer to have options and to pass on items in good condition. I can't really compare myself to folks who like small-to-moderate, tight wardrobe, although I admire the heck out of them. I work in an office and live in a four-season climate and have lots of varied activities, from hiking to the opera. I see lots of fun trends early on here on the streets.&nbsp; My walking lifestyle is hard on shoes. Etc etc. Beating myself up and comparing myself to others will be counterproductive if I really do want to shop less. ETA Also, as <b>Suz</b> pointed out recently, I work in environmental fundraising, which means that I am already making more of a contribution to climate issues as an individual than other people are able to.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>One note for 2020 - when I hurt my foot last month, I severed a tendon (dropped a knife that cut into it before glancing off my foot). The pain is gone but the tendon needs to be repaired surgically late next month, just so my toe is not always dangling a bit. I'll be wearing a boot for part of the winter, probably. I may end up shopping less because I'll be less mobile for a while. Even when I shop online, I like to return in person because it's easy where I live and work. Or I may shop more online because I'll have cabin fever while I recover (I can work from home). We shall see how it goes... This is one reason I'm not making any kind of public resolutions around shopping, though ;)<br /></div> </p>