https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 18 Apr 2026 22:28:55 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go/page/2#post-1836619 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 19:42:02 +0000 Jenni NZ 1836619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Laura you may wait until I let you know they have actually been dropped off at the hospice! I like to gather a few items together first as the parking isn't very good there </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go/page/2#post-1836559 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 16:41:22 +0000 Laura G 1836559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes! The 90s *were* just the other day! My daughter will be 21 in October and I'm still wearing shoes I had when I married her dad. In the case of the Cole-Haans I mentioned, I guess since you're getting rid of your square toes I'll have to put my money where my mouth is and get rid of mine... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go/page/2#post-1836555 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 16:27:57 +0000 Anonymous 1836555@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Fashiontern</b> -- I have not had time to read every single response on this thread. &nbsp;My apologies if I inadvertently step on anyone's toes. &nbsp;</p> <p>From what I have read, I do understand&nbsp;<b>Jenni</b>'s question because I myself have posed the same question to myself. &nbsp;In my case, I buy black slacks (lots and lots of black slacks). &nbsp;In time my collection can become overwhelming if I do not do some careful editing along the way. &nbsp;I am wondering if <b>Jenni</b> is not just carefully assessing her shoe collection and making some decisions based on <u>changing</u> feet/<u>changing</u> styles/space issues/need to refresh and rebuild. &nbsp;</p> <p>It is painful to be sure. &nbsp;A lot of us look at the money we spent and the number of times we wore the article. &nbsp;I know I can feel terrible shame as I place that old pair of black pants into the donate pile and then buy a new pair of very similar black pants!!!!!!! &nbsp;I am working hard at changing old behaviors, but it does take some time. &nbsp;</p> <p>Does this help you understand? &nbsp;Can you phrase your question differently? &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go/page/2#post-1836466 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 13:07:02 +0000 delurked 1836466@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fashiontern - I can't speak for Jenni, but I will speculate. Sometimes excess belongings, even if an item has been useful or may be useful in the future, feels like mental clutter, and too much of it is unsettling. Order in ones surroundings (variable from person to person) can bring peace of mind and relaxation. </p> <p>If someone chooses to get rid of old belongings and brings in new belongings in their place, it is often because they are expecting the new belongings to suit their needs better and move them toward their updated goals. Of course one can argue if there is space that the potential item should be kept, or that the churn of bringing in something new when something old will suffice is wasteful. Jenni, as well as others, may have competing fashion, comfort, consumption, and financial goals. On top of that, how we view ourselves and how we want to present ourselves adds an emotional element that cannot be discounted. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836450 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 12:07:38 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1836450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I still don't get it, even if you aren't getting a replacement pair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836412 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 08:25:49 +0000 Jenni NZ 1836412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Perfectly said Anne. The wardrobe is too big. It is overflowing my house. A lot of things in it are not being worn a great deal, these shoes for instance. I can't get enough wears out of all the things I already own, to feel like a responsible consumer, unless I go on like a one or two year long shopping fast. And despite wishing to be responsible, I don't really want to fast for that long! I would be distressed to not get to buy at least some nice new things ( which I hope will be somewhat ethical). To create space, I need to cull. But I am resistant to culling perfectly good things in good condition, "in case I need them", or because in the past I have loved them and I am still emotionally attached to them. So I am doing it slowly, and asking advice mostly on stuff that "could" go.<br /> Now I will tell you how ancient some of these things are! The lace-up boots were bought when I was pregnant with my boy, who turns 21 on Saturday. Yep, they're 1996. And the ones that many of you think are dated are 2008.<br /> To Fashiontern's question, I don't think, with 49 pairs of shoes, that I really need anything to take the place of the two of them. I have higher shoes I could wear with that smart winter dress, and I could wear my flatter knee-high boots if I need lower shoes.<br /> What I think I'll do in the meanwhile, is ditch the 2008 ones to charity as I also feel the square toe looks dated. And on the odd occasion I would have worn those ( like for the one dinner I did wear them to this winter) I will wear the lace-up ones instead and just take a bit longer while dressing up for dinner to have to do up the laces. I think that will make me happy...and I will be down one more pair of shoes cluttering up the place. I thank you all for helping me to decide. And to J'Aileen re my boys- the answer is both. I am really short, 5 foot 2. And they are really tall, 6 foot 3 or 4. I don't quite know how none of my short genes got into David! My girls are a more average height, on the short side but not as short as me. The older girl actually borrowed those 1996 boots last year. She told me "I wore some old boots of yours from the 90s". Weren't the 90s just the other day? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836409 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 07:38:40 +0000 anne 1836409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fashiontern, I'm only guessing on Jenni's part, but I think this question is more about reducing the size of a wardrobe that Jenni thinks is too big rather than increasing wears. She is, however also trying to increase wears as another goal. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836381 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 04:33:38 +0000 rachylou 1836381@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto Shevia... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836372 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 03:40:28 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1836372@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Forgive me if I'm being thick here, but I don't quite understand. You want to shrink your wardrobe by passing some things along earlier than you might otherwise? Your reason for wanting a smaller wardrobe with more wears for each item is to lower your consumption? That's an admirable goal that I should take on as well. I can see that if you basically bought the wrong sweater/jumper, you don't want to force yourself to wear it. But if these shoes are already there, being worn infrequently, but adding to the total number of items in your wardrobe, so what? How does giving them away get you closer to the goal of lowering consumption, especially if you get something more current to take the place of the two of them? I've seen a couple posts with this line of argument, and I feel like I'm missing something. </p> <p>Fwiw, the lace-ups have sort of a retro/vintage feel for me, so I like them better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836318 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 00:37:38 +0000 unfrumped 1836318@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Do you need to have new ines in order to wear current outfits? If so, I wound tops the square ones and keep the laceups as a placeholder since the look sleek on the foot. . If the sky won't fall in, toss both and get new ones.<br /> I only add this caution because if I'm really got a huge wardrobe hold for an essential, I might jump on something not fab to replace quick. But sometimes I can take some items " out of rotation " with no ill effect until I find the right footwear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836317 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 00:36:58 +0000 JAileen 1836317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You and "your boys" - what a wonderful picture! Are you little or are they big, or both? </p> <p>As to the shoes - you don't seem to like them, but you do need them from time to time. I like the toes on the laced ones better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836291 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 22:49:35 +0000 Anonymous 1836291@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If it's not too extravagant I think they should both go. The laced ones are still cute but that fussy look is cutest on very very young people who have lots of time to spend on that sort of thing. They're not fresh and modern enough looking to flatter you.</p> <p>The square toe asymmetrically pieced ones I just don't like, but even if I did I would have to admit they look a little out of fashion and just not bold enough for you.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836273 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 21:15:59 +0000 Angie 1836273@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Definitely prefer the look of the laces. I also like your hair longer - still short - but longer layers.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836262 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 20:17:04 +0000 Jenni NZ 1836262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks all again. Jane and Staysfit have hit the nail on the head really, I am trying to reduce my number of items! Pare things down, as Staysfit says. And live with having less to wear, as Jane says. As for whether I reach for them...not much. They are a bit bland as Bijou says, compared with my other shoes like my gold stud Steve Madden boots which I wear every week. I am coming to a decision... have to go to work now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836252 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 19:49:00 +0000 The Cat 1836252@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like both pairs. The zip-ups do remind me of a pair I bought in 2004 and wore for several years. However, I don't think they look dated.<br /> Actually, I would love to have a pair of lace-ups exactly like yours, knowing that they would add a fun, retro-chic vibe to lots of outfits. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836204 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 16:24:35 +0000 always trying 1836204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the lace ups. Have similar ones, and I will still be wearing mine, so I say keep. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836175 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 15:29:42 +0000 Liz A. 1836175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shevia expressed my thoughts exactly. &nbsp;<i></i>I would get rid of the square toes, because the look is not current.<i></i> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836122 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 12:48:57 +0000 Bijou 1836122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The family photo is lovely, your husband and son are so tall! If you have not worn these much in the last year, it indicates that you have other alternatives that work better for your style. I really like how you usually wear statement shoes (a signature look for you??) and so these seem a bit bland when compared to your other shoes.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836104 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 11:51:20 +0000 Anonymous 1836104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's alright to wear something dated if it is only worn occasionally. I would keep the Lower heeled pair since they're easier.<br /> I would guess that the lower heeled pair are older, because of the toe shape, but they look to be in great condition.<br /> Hilarious photo of you and your husband and son! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836093 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 11:11:26 +0000 Staysfit 1836093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you are looking to pare things down and you are doubting these, put them aside for a while and see if you miss them, if not, out they go! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836091 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 11:04:36 +0000 Ledonna N. 1836091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love them both not dated at all very stylish. Already great advise given. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836066 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 09:41:50 +0000 Jane 1836066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the family photo! I think I would find a replacement and then move on from both. As delurk says. But I am moving towards having less to wear rather than more, so I think this is influencing my decision. </p> <p>Well done with the jumpers.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836063 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 09:37:48 +0000 Anonymous 1836063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Delurked </b>spoke for me. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836061 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 09:30:31 +0000 Sisi 1836061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All what <b>Shevia</b> said! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836034 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 06:59:51 +0000 Jenni NZ 1836034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have reached for the zip ones very occasionally, mainly because they are a lower heel than other shoes that may go well with my smart black/grey winter dress I mentioned above ( other grey or black shoes have higher heels). I found an old pic from 3 years ago of wearing the dress with the shoes below. It was my boy's school ball ( like a prom) - see how short I am next to my husband and son?&nbsp;<br />I could wear the other black ones, the lace-ups, in that situation as also a low heel- I think on that occasion we were going to a "pre-ball" out in the countryside and I didn't know what the state of the parking and driveway would be like, and also thought I may have to take the shoes off when I got inside the hosts' home, so I did what was easy. I guess that's what I usually do, do what's easy. <br />In this mystery post at some point I will tell you which pair is older- have a guess? Cheers Jenni&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836017 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 05:21:22 +0000 Anonymous 1836017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If the lace ups are annoying to do up, they are the ones rapt hat should go, all else being equal. I think the zip ones do look a bit more modern, but the lace ups look classic. Which will you want to reach for most? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836015 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 05:15:01 +0000 Sal 1836015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have just got rid (well actually still waiting to take to the Op Shop) a pair similar to the second ones. &nbsp;They were useful but mine were 7 years old and I am just over them. &nbsp;</p> <p>I like the lace ups.</p> <p>If you have only worn one pair once this winter they do not sound essential in your daily closet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836014 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 05:08:46 +0000 Laura G 1836014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The lace-up pair could still work, I think. The square toe on the others does look dated to me, which I guess means I should get rid of my square-toe Cole-Haan sandals. They've seen a lot of wear over the last (mumble) decades and they still look nearly new. Amazing quality. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836010 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 04:47:25 +0000 Gigi 1836010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have strong feelings about either pair, although I do like the lace-up ones better. Like Kathie, I feel that the square toe on the one pair and the pleats on the other look a little dated--though it's not something that is a deal breaker. If you don't really love either pair, I would probably hold on only to the one that you will wear (the zips, it sounds like) and then look for a more updated alternative before donating the second pair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/2-similar-black-shooties-should-they-go#post-1836008 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 04:46:04 +0000 Deborah 1836008@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Both look really nice. &nbsp;How often do you wear them? &nbsp;Will you have a wardrobe hole if you move them on? &nbsp;They are different enough to keep both. &nbsp;The lace ups look modern to me (despite reading recently that the wedge heel is over lol I still like mine). &nbsp;If either looks dated I would suggest it's the zip pair but really I think they look fine. &nbsp;I realize I am absolutely no help here... sorry! </p>