White lacy confections are not at all my style and it never made sense to me to spend a lot on a dress that I would only wear once then not know what to do with. Our wedding was casual, and I chose long colorful sleeveless sheath dress for $69 at Coldwater Creek.
Nine years later I still wear it as a summer dress. My 'veil' was a small piece of white tule I wore in my hair that I folded up and store with the cards we received.
I've only been a bridesmaid once, in a homemade red velvet dress that has since been repurposed as the velvet lining for a french horn case.