GP, I just want to add that there is a learning curve here - I was obsessed with reading everything when I first discovered this site. I am still on here all the time, but I try not to let it consume me during weekends when we are able to spend time as a family hiking or playing. I'd rather be on here during work hours. Thankfully I work for myself.

Frankly, and I know this is a personal topic, I also don't feel guilty about money because we have always kept separate finances. My mother was very strong-minded about women working and having control over their income. My husband and I have been together nearly 20 years and that has worked just fine for us - we split the common bills, save together, and otherwise get to do what we want.

I don't expect anyone to share their finances here but I know that can be a source of stress. It would be really hard for me to feel I had to justify my indulgences to another person, and I know I would be critical of someone else as well, so it has worked out perfectly for us.

GP, you look lovely and I'm glad you are part of this community!

I was actually a little embarrassed about taking pics of myself and posting them here, thinking my husband would probably think it a frivolous use of time, so I didn't share that with my husband for a while. When I finally did one day, he thought it was the coolest thing! We've been together for almost 14 years, and he saw my style evolve once when I started watching What Not to Wear, and now he's seeing it evolve even more with my YLF involvement. He loves that I'm taking care of myself and paying attention to my appearance, even though I'm in a place in my life in which i could easily "let myself go," as I have two vocations in which I could spend every day in sweats if I wanted to. He even thought it was cool that I went up to NYC this weekend to spend some time with Angie and the YLFers!

It sound like your husband is supportive over the long term but was just having a day when he felt a little grumpy and neglected. I hope all's better now.

You have got tons of great advice here, i can sympathized with your plight, My husband thought i was crazy to take pix and post them on the interent too, but i bet he will come around. It is just a change and somtimes hubbys need a ittle extra time to adjust to that i think. I know what you mean about feeling dressed up compared to everyone around but please dont let that slow you down. I am all about the MOTG outfits and there are days where I feel the same way. I took my kiddos to youth group sign up night the other day and i wore blue white girly top white shorts and tan fossils flats. I felt like i was super dressed up only because There was a lot of flipflops and sweatshorts and t's in the group. But your kids will be proud of the stylish mommy before you know it! They pick up on it i think. I am blessed my kids are little bigger and they are my occassional photographers and still find it silly that mom does that! lol So hang in there chickie!!