I was reading IK's post on feedback and everyone's eloquent and insightful comments...but I keep coming back to the idea of what's wrong with compliments? Negative feedback can be very helpful - thoughtful and specific recommendations can be a powerful tool for positive change. But positive feedback - when specific and targeted can also galvanize change. I don't think we necessarily hone in on, or even recognize, what others find attractive about us and what we might want to accentuate. As humans, we tend to focus on the imperfect and what we feel we want to downplay or camouflage. I personally have learned more about what I want to highlight from compliments - that were specific, detailed and sincere. For example, I would never have known I had "great" legs if people had not told me. Who knew? Compliments on my slim rectangular proportions, good skin, and hair have lead me to focus on these positive areas rather than succumbing to the negative voices in my head. Call me dense, but I would never been aware of these "advantages" without repeated compliments, which then lead me to explore styles, colors, proportions that enhanced and called attention to these areas. I'd be interested in what type of feedback, positive or negative, everyone has found most valuable on their style journeys?