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Should I purge these?

viva

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I am going through my closet, identifying things I need to wear more and finding things whose life with me may be over. Can I get your help with these? I think I may let them all go but would love your thoughts.

1. Donald J Pliner black high pumps. Gorgeous, pretty comfortable, but too high and a skinny heel. I've worn these once in the last two years.

2. Coach berry red cross body. Two years old, near new. I love how this looks but it is not functional for me. Too much of a pain to life the flap and it is very narrow so doesn't hold much. I use my Tory Burch top handle almost exclusively. I don't think I used this bag once in the past year.

3-4. Black Nine West shooties. Everybody loves these when I wear them! But I really really hate the skinny heel. I wear then occasionally.

I have a great local consignment shop where I will bring any that have to go. What do you think?

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Elizabeth P

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They all look like really great pieces, and I esp like the Nine West shooties. I think the fact they don't sit well with YOU means you could/should let them go, and the fact they look so great means you'll probably have great luck with consignment.

Only thing I'd ask is if you have other black heels... it's a bit silly to get rid of your only ones and then discover you need them for a special occasion (because you obviously don't need them regularly, given your wear pattern with these)

Liz

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"too high," "not functional" and "really really hate the heel" -- these sound like good candidates for consignment to me.

Anonymous

Agree. Time to purge.

lisaflex

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those pliner's are beautiful!!! but, that is quite the heel.....if you dont wear them due to heel height, i vote consign!

the coach bag definitely consign but beware, around here, coach bags dont get alot at consignment....i actually ended up donating a few to a hospice shop instead...

jackiec

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Agree with Elizabeth. I do love those shooties but totally hear you about the heel. Personally I'd hang on a little longer but I have the space to "hold & think"...

But I'd consign the purse.

Anonymous

I'm still hanging on to a few pair of stilettos myself thinking I'll magically need to wear them again sometime soon - which never happens. Now you're spurring me onto my shoes and boots for review today.

I'd consign all three.

Aquamarine

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I like them all but if you don't wear them and have replacements/alternatives for your outfits, let them go. Plenty of fish in the sea.

I get picky about my handbags, and no longer want to fuss with difficult openings, etc. Functionality trumps all.

Ankita

(website)

I like the shooties a lot, but I agree with a lot of comments above that say if you have a replacement, let them go... they'll be used a lot more by someone else ☺

Suz

(website)

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Send them to me!!

Just joking.

In all seriousness, I hear what you are saying about the impracticality, but I would keep a pair of killer heels in my closet even if I only wore them once every THREE years. In fact, I do have a pair of pumps (not as nice as these) that I am keeping despite the fact that I don't wear them because:

1. They stay on. (This is a miracle to me).

2. They are classic and not really dated.

3. I have room for them and can tuck them away so they don't mock me from the main closet.

Sometimes this urge to purge is really an urge for super-organization and a feeling of "newness." I don't think it is any less wasteful than keeping stuff we aren't using a lot.

I would get rid of the bag, though. It doesn't look like your current style and if the flap drives you crazy you won't use it.

Astrid

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Lovely pieces, but I vote consign if you don't reach for them. The bag in any case, sounds like you wouldn't miss it. Do you have other shoes you could wear with the outfits you'd wear the heels with? If yes then I'd vote to pass them on too. If you're unsure maybe keep one pair for now?

Colette

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Ditto on what Suz said, but send the shoes to ME!

I would keep #1 for sure, unless you have another pair of classic black pumps that you are keeping.

viva

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I'm leaning toward keeping the DJP pumps because they are so classic and they fit -- and purging the other two. They are definitely my dressiest shoes, and I would reach for them for any really dressy event; I just rarely have such a thing. But you never know. And keeping them is cheaper than having to rush out and find a pair in a pinch.

Thanks everyone!

Angie

(website)

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Time to purge if you don't like them.

unfrumped

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I would keep any one pair of really great pumps that I even might wear to a dressy event, IF they fit and are wearable (not for hiking, but for cocktail party thing. I could never wear those, but I have my own version of "few-hour shoes." They make me feel prepared, and as Suz says, are not so excessive they mock me.
I always have to remind myself to try these things on at least once a year, not just to toss but so I won't be relying on something that has become unwearable. Then I can decide whether to replace as just-in-case, or to fly without a net until something actually comes up.
For such an item that is saved , I think it has to meet Angie's dressy capsule test--" I would wear it today if I had the right event."

Anonymous

It sounds like even thought they're all very nice they just don't fit into your life as well they could fit into someone else's, and whoever that is, they may as well have them sooner than later.

Yes, they're almost new, etc., and they won't get damaged sitting in your closet but they're part of a style era that's happening now.

At least you're putting very nice things back into circulation!

dakotacheryl

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I hate bags with flaps...

Those shooties are so cute...can you get them re-heeled with a chunky heel?

UmmLila (Lisa)

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I have very similar DJP pumps in leopard. I love them, though I don't wear them often. I would keep them. I would get rid of the bag. I like the color but I don't think it's your current style. I don't like bags that are hard work to get into, either. As for the Nine West I say let them go.

Brooklyn

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I had Nine West shooties almost identical to yours - I purged them for the same reason about 6 months ago. Hated the heel. It sounds like it's time for the others to go also.

MsMaven

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Your feet won't get any younger. Right now I'm gathering shoes that I love, that aren't worn out, but they now hurt my arthritic feet. Sad to let them go, but it is time.

Sad to let something beautiful go, but just think--each item may make a several different folks very happy.

Jaime

(website)

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I would purge them all with the most regret for the bag - but too small bags are just teases on your shelf.

rachylou

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They're all good lookers, but I say purge. Don't carry dead weight.

Anonymous

What about checking with a cobbler to see whether the shootie's heels can be shortened? I saved a couple of pair of shoes by doing this. I would keep the first pair of pumps and donate the bag.

Glory

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I would purge all but the pumps. Even if you only wear them once in a while it is nice to have the option.

Janet

(website)

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They're all lovely, but I understand. I think the bag can definitely find a new home -- I'm not a fan of flaps and fussy openings either, and my bags that are too small get used very infrequently, but I keep a couple of them because they work so well with certain outfits.

If you have other black pumps or shoes that fit any occasional need you have for shoes like the Pliners and the Nine Wests, I think that's a sign you can let these go. I don't own any black pumps anymore, and occasionally I wish I did, just for a special occasion (when little walking is required). So if you might need those heels a couple of times a year for a dressy outfit, I'd hang onto a pair (probably the Pliners)-- they're really classic and beautiful.

catgirl

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None of these seem absolutely necessary to me if you don't love them.