Thanks, everyone. I can't wear pointed toes or lace-ups, and don't think all MJs are ugly--though most are, and a lot depends on how you style them.
Griffin, I was sold on the Gentle Souls after reading a review from someone who said she could wear them with her orthotics. I figure they must have a generous width for that. I have always wanted to wear ballet flats but have never seen a pair that I thought could possibly work. These look promising.
Thanks to everyone for the recs and advice. I'm getting into more comfy shoes this year in the hopes of preventing future grief, and am adjusting my style accordingly. It's a process.