Shabbychick - I am really touched by your concerns and your questions - and I feel sad that Christians feel as though they have to hold back part of themselves in order to be accepted by other Christians. Your statement that you were afraid of reflecting too much of your personality into your dress because so many are watching - seems just tragic to me. You yourself say that you are a confident and out-going woman and you love big, bold, vinatagy jewelry, etc. I would encourage you to express who you are not only through your actions and your mannerisms, but also through your dress - or you are never going to be the woman that God intended for you to be.