I'm sad for your loss. It's so wonderful that you were able to spend the time you did with your grandfather and give him such comfort in his last days. Hang in there with Blinkin. As if you haven't been through enough already. I hope things work out well for her and for you. Lucy is adorbable!

I am so sorry, Kari. Must be especially hard for everyone who knew him to go through this first holiday season without him... Hugs! And wishes for peace and comfort. May it bring those who miss him closer.

Thank you. We are taking it one day at a time, and trying to be patient with each other and with our own grieving process. It's less gut wrenching moving out of his apartment than it was back when we cleared out his and my grandma's former house that they had lived in for 40 or 50 years.

With Blinkin, I'm praying the tumor grows slowly. I don't think we will intervene surgically; I had a rat's tumor removed when I was a kid, and it came right back. Surgery is expensive and painful, and Blinkin and Boo have been healthy, but are old for rats at nearly 2 years. The females are so prone to benign but quick growing mammary cysts. I hope we can keep her comfortable and mobile for a while, and help her cranky sister Boo either accept a friend, or spend a lot of time with her as a single rat.

My sincere condolences, Kari. Thank you for describing this event, and the peace of your grandfather's transition to us. We live in a society that is so afraid to talk about death. This morning my husband is flying home from FL where both of his parents are in very bad shape mentally and physically, but are kept "alive" by medications and various artificial machinations. He described his mother's obvious desire to let go, yet her pacemaker keeps ticking as she sinks deeper into an Alzheimer's oblivion. There is no quality of life left and yet we "societally"/medically find it so hard to accept the natural passage. Your grandfather was very lucky to have you by his side. May you continue to find more joy in reflecting on his long life than grief in his absence. xo