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Joyce B

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I bet this will take care of it. We just need to enroll the moms!

"Whistling at your mom":
https://youtu.be/7FI2LY4dk-s

7 years ago

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rachylou

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That is hilarious. Totally the best lesson ever.

7 years ago

Alexandra

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Ha! That was awesome.

7 years ago

Lyn D.

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Great idea!

7 years ago

Gigi

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Wow. I know that we complain of harassment in the US, but we forget that other countries have it much, much worse.

7 years ago

JAileen

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Joyce, thank you for sharing. That was awesome!

7 years ago

Joyce B

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I am glad you all enjoyed it. As it turns out, the video was performed by actors but it still brings home a good point.
Gigi, you are very right. There are many places where harassment starts the moment you step out of your home. It is very hard, especially for younger women and for girls while growing up.

7 years ago

Ledonna N.

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Love this and c wish it was real.

7 years ago

Janet

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It's mind-boggling to me that at 50+ years old, I still get remarks while walking down the street. When I was young, I thought it was a compliment, but I came to realize that it's not so innocent. I still remember the first time someone pulled up in a car next to me while I was walking home from a store -- I was 14, and the older guys were clearly trying to get me to go with them. Most men don't realize that women have been deflecting, defusing, and defying this behavior our entire lives, and the toll taken by constantly being on guard against all of those micro-aggressions, much less the larger ones like actual physical assault. And now here in the states we now have a president-elect who has actually admitted he's grabbed women without their consent. What on earth is wrong with this picture?

7 years ago

Joyce B

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I agree, Janet, harassment is unacceptable regardless of age and status.
How scary must that have been for you at age 14! Thank God you got away from those creeps.
I know there is plenty of harassment of women in the US. In other countries the norm is that as soon as you step out from your home you get the *constant non-stop* commentaries, whistling, knocking on windows or whatever is there, the dirty looks and many times grabbing you as well. Those inappropriate behaviors are more geared to younger women in those countries so when they think of me as old I am more than happy to not get their disrespectful attention anymore.
Sometimes I get the comments here too but as bad as it is, it seems much less frequent than what women face in other countries.

7 years ago

Aziraphale

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This video was hilarious!

One thing I've got to say: I don't think I've ever been catcalled. In fact, I can't think of one single instance where I've ever been subject to any kind of sexual harassment. While I'm pleased that I haven't had to try to deflect unwanted attention, I'm also a little concerned. Am I really that unattractive? I can see three possibilities:

a) I live and move in circles where men don't do that

b) I'm really dense and I don't notice

c) I'm not very good looking (which may be the case now, but wasn't when I was younger and I never got harassed then either)

d) I look like I'd beat the crap out of anyone who tried it

I'm hoping for (a). Or possibly (d). ;-P

7 years ago

Joyce B

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Az, I think you are a lucky lady that you did not get harassed! When they said inappropriate things I mostly ignored them but there were times when I gave them a mouthful as well and some also got a slap. You can see that I got more practice than I would have wanted so just be happy that this was not the case for you.

7 years ago

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